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How To Deal With Loss in Life
Episode 917th February 2023 • The Daily Podcast with Jonathan Doyle • Jonathan Doyle
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We all have times when things don't turn out the way we hope. How we deal with loss can make a huge difference in the journey of our lives. In this episode I explore a simple way we can think about loss and how to get ourselves moving forward.

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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.

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Once again, welcome friends to the daily podcast.

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It is good.

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It is very good that you are here, that you're listening.

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I hope I can bring you something useful today.

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Whatever has happening in your life.

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I'm just hoping I can bring you some insight.

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I am on this journey with you.

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Trust me.

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This is, uh, I'm in a challenging season.

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My kids are still young.

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I used to say to Karen that when they were really young, I thought this

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will be the hardest phase, right.

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This would be really hard because.

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They didn't sleep.

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There was so little, you just, you, you can never take a break and now

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they're pretty much all young teenagers.

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It's a whole new world.

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It's just like, man, you gotta be on.

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You gotta be on from the second you move.

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It's funny.

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We've got a little dog and uh, the second the dog, he has me moving.

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I was up this morning at 3:00 AM.

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As woke up really early.

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The second I move the dog hears me.

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Cause I got in this terrible habit.

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I give the, I give the animal, his dental, treat this little

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snack thing every morning.

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So it was like the second I move out the door, he hears me.

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I'm just like on I'm just like I am, I am on, I am present from

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3:00 AM and that's what it's like in this season of parenting too.

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It's like, I'm on.

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Oh the time.

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So trust me.

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I'm on this journey with you, this journey of trying to develop, trying

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to grow, trying to find new insights and new ways to keep moving forward.

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Keep developing.

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I heard a speaker recently, talk about earth school.

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I thought that was a great little metaphor earth school.

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We are at earth school.

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We have been sent to earth.

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Each of us are on this journey from birth towards physical death, and then beyond.

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We're at earth school.

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So we're all here to learn.

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And today I want to talk about.

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What do you do with loss?

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What do you do with loss?

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I heard someone the other day talking about the experience of COVID and for

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most of us, there was some form of loss.

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I know there's some people that really live, actually turned

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out pretty good for them.

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They got.

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Uh, they got, uh, you know, to stay on the same rate of pay.

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They got to sit around in their pajamas.

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And, uh, there are actually some people.

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Kind of thought it was all pretty good.

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I'm like, okay.

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But for many of us was a great deal of loss.

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I mean, remember back it was 2019.

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I was booked to speak in Baltimore.

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And I was really excited because we had 10,000 people coming to the event

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and I was going to be up there on stage and I was looking forward to it.

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So excited the family was coming.

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At a cost that ended.

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Right.

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And then all my us speaking obviously ended.

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And then my speaking here in Australia ended, and I'm a huge experience

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of loss re identifying, right?

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Like I basically spent two years.

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Homeschooling and helping out here.

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And, um, many of you can relate to this different forms of loss.

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I might have young listeners that lost educational time might have

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older listeners that lost access to.

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Family and friends and connections.

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So, you know, personally for what it's worth.

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I think the way it was handled was, um, somewhere north of truly abysmal and

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many of us suffered very needlessly, but, um, whenever you take is on

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that, we're dealing with loss, right?

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We're dealing with the experience of loss.

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What do you do?

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When you have loss in life and you might have loss in terms of that,

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maybe it's a relationship, right?

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You've lost somebody, a relationship didn't work out.

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Maybe it's a career thing, you know, all of us at some stage experience loss.

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And what do you do with that?

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And the insight that I came across recently was really helpful for me.

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Was that the opposite to loss.

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His creation is to create.

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And you lose something.

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There's a sense.

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Obvious something's being taken away.

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So the opposite of that is not to sort of guess, you know, internalize

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bitterness and disappointment, but the opposite in fact is to turn towards

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creation, to create again, to start again.

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Karen.

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And I write in the phase at the moment, really redirecting and rebuilding.

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Uh, global online business, our global media business, and it's a time

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of re creation and it's like hard.

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It's like so much work to be done.

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So many new tools and skills and things that we have to put together,

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but it's a creative phase for us.

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So we're responding to the loss of the last few years with a season of creating.

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And by no means, want to make this sound easy.

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It's not.

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But what are your options?

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Right?

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The options are to stay stationary, to basically stay stuck in life or worse, to

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turn inwards, to turn into bitterness and resentment and disappointment and blame.

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And.

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You know, self-rejection so I want us all to get on the same

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page with this issue of loss.

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We all have it right.

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We all have it.

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If you don't have it present in your life right now.

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You will, because it's always going to be there.

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It's part of this earth school, right.

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We're going to keep experiencing seasons of loss, seasons of

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setback, seasons of difficulty.

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But let's keep staying creative.

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Let's find creative ways.

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I mean,

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Of all the things about us as a species.

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One of the things you can really point to is our ability to

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innovate, create adapt to the most difficult, difficult circumstances.

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I'm just finishing off.

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Uh, Jenny Tufts books, solar, which I mentioned a few episodes ago where

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she runs on her own across pretty much every major mountain range in the world.

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And it's just an extraordinary story and her ability to enjoy,

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to adapt, to innovate, to survive, to, to keep moving forward.

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And maybe that's the thing I want to take you away from and

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take away from today's episode.

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Is this.

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Endless sense that I have, that what's most important is to keep moving forward.

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You only really lose in life.

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If you stay stationary, you only really lose in life.

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If you surrender, if you are breathing, if you are moving forward,

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there is life, there is tomorrow things can, and they do change.

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All of us have times and seasons of loss and difficulty and struggle and strain.

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But if we just keep moving forward,

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If we keep choosing to create rather than falling backwards.

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There is hope.

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One of my favorite quotes in the old Testament is from the proverb where

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it says it is better to be alive dog.

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Than a deadline.

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Right.

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As long as you got breath friends, there is always tomorrow.

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So press on, press on, press on.

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Let's get creative.

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Take all the difficulties that you've faced.

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And be a person who chooses to keep creating and building.

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All right.

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That's it for me today.

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God bless you everybody.

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Please make sure you've subscribed.

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Send this to somebody that needs a bit of encouragement, a bit of a bit of a

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pickup and go and check out all those links for coaching for free staff.

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To book me to speak it is all there.

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God bless you, everybody.

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My name's Jonathan Doyle.

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This.

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Has been the daily podcast and you and I are going to talk again tomorrow.

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