169: How to be a Body-Positive Parent // Zoë Bisbing of The Full Bloom Project
February is National Eating Disorder Awareness Month, and I am thrilled to bring a true expert on this topic to the podcast today, as I know we all want to raise kids with healthy self-image and body-image.
Zoë Bisbing is a licensed psychotherapist with specialties in eating disorders, body-image concerns, and perinatal mental health. She holds a Master of Social Work from New York University and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She has also completed additional training in CBT-E through the Centre for Research on Eating Disorders at Oxford.
Zoe is also the co-founder of The Full Bloom Project, a body-positive parenting resource through which she co-hosts the Full Bloom Podcast and speaks to groups of parents and professionals about how to help young people develop positive relationships with their bodies.
- 3 Takeaways to be a Body-Positive Parent-
Health and weight are not one in the same. It is perfectly fine to value health as a family, but we need to teach our kids that you can’t tell how healthy someone is by looking at them. Many people in larger bodies are very healthy, and it’s important to point out examples of that to our kids and to ourselves to challenge our biases.
Stay in your lane with regard to feeding. Body-positive parents strive to take the morality out of food and believe that all foods -- candy and carrots alike -- can fit into a healthy diet. Remember Ellyn Satter’s division of responsibility: Parents are in charge of when, where, and what food is served...but kids are in charge of whether or not they eat it and how much they eat.
It’s never too early or too late to create a body-positive home. For parents of kids of all ages, your work is really to focus on looking inward, at your own relationship with food, your body and diet culture. You have an opportunity to think about your own biases, particularly your anti-fat bias, and start to challenge some of those. Don’t be afraid to talk to your older kids about this work you are doing within yourself and telling them that you want to change the way you’ve done things in the past to be more body-positive.
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