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56. Epic Mum Fails That Will Have You Roaring With Laughter with Shantelle Poynter.
Episode 5620th February 2024 • ADHD Mums • Jane McFadden
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On this episode of The ADHD Mums Podcast, Jane is joined by Shantelle Poynter! Jane and Shantelle explore the popularity of Shantelle’s previous episodes, touching on topics like self-hatred, ADHD, and relationships. The engaging banter between Jane and Shantelle sets the tone for a candid and relatable conversation about the challenges and triumphs of being an ADHD mom.

Jane and Shantelle delve into the theme of "mum experiences," reflecting on the concept of "mum fails" and how the term may not accurately capture the essence of parenting mishaps. They share personal anecdotes, highlighting the humorous side of neurodivergent experiences, including an amusing yet potentially serious incident involving Shantelle leaving her car running for four hours in a busy shopping centre.

If you'd like to hear Shantelle's other episodes here they are:

Self Hatred and ADHD

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5aI7T0w0WtdrbZjYn0S1Az?si=ff1074f491684d72

Relationships and ADHD

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1sP3yrwjEDE3SYlTYhmQrA?si=xmIISazqRfGhl9DEQc_FKg

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Jane:

Hello and welcome to the next episode of ADHD Mums.

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Today we have Chantelle Poynter back.

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I feel like everyone out there

is going, Wow, Chantelle's back.

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Chantelle will probably not

want me to say this, but her

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episodes are incredibly popular.

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Self hatred with, self hatred and ADHD,

and relationships and ADHD, are always

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trending at, I think, number two and

three on the episode popularity list.

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Haven't told Chantel that, so

she's like just taking that in.

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So congrats Chantel, why don't you

just remind everybody who you are, in

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case you haven't listened to the other

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Shantelle: episodes.

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Sure.

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Thanks so much, Jane.

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What a beautiful way to

start our podcast today.

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I am a mum of two ND kids,

and I am a nurse, and I work

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in the disability sector.

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And here I am.

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I feel like this is such a great

space to be able to share my

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experiences with ADHD for myself as

a late diagnosed, but also for my

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children and, and just as an ADHD mum.

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So thanks again for creating such

an amazing place for us to be

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able to share this information.

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Jane: Beautiful, beautiful.

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Well, this episode, we are

talking all about Um, experiences.

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So Chantel and I have been having

a chat about the word mum fail, and

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it's sounding like it's a choice,

like you failed on purpose, and we

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were talking about the positives and

negatives of ADHD, and how sometimes

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there can be mistakes that happen.

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Maybe it's an ADHD mum mistake.

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Chantelle, not a fail, but then

Chantelle's positively used the

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word experience, which I think is

also really good word to use as

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Shantelle: well.

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I think in life we have positive

and negative experiences and it

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was just such a great way to.

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Sum up those events that happen that

are very driven by our neurodivergence,

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and they can be wonderfully fabulous,

or they can be wonderfully terrible,

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but nonetheless, it wasn't a choice

to, in inverted commas, fail, but

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yet definitely might feel like a

highlight reel on Funniest Home Videos.

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Jane: Yeah, absolutely.

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I still remember meeting one of my

best friends ever, and we were at a

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mother's group with our first child.

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And she told me this story about

how she left her breast pump

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behind and she had a newborn baby.

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She'd driven to Brisbane to the day.

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She's quite high level and a non profit.

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And they were all males and she was

trying to like hand express into a sink.

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And she told it how ADHD

people, they're very expressive.

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They're really funny.

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And we actually still laugh about

it because all the neurotypical

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people I reckon all backed away,

like there was people just leaving

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the area as she's telling the story.

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And I'm there laughing and

laughing and laughing, and

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we absolutely lost our minds.

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And I remember thinking,

that's my person right there.

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Chantelle, I thought we would

share one about ourselves first.

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So as, as we discussed offline, didn't

sound like we were like bagging people

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out that had written in their stories

and we were sitting back high and mighty,

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like we've never done anything ourselves.

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So.

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Chantelle, why don't you tell us something

that you've done that's worth of a laugh.

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Well, the

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Shantelle: list is a mile along, but the

one that really, I thought, wow, this

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is probably my Most intense that also

probably had quite serious ramifications

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that I just hadn't thought of.

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And I was really, it was a busy week as

always, and I had to go to the shops.

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which I never look forward to.

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And it was like a Westfield that

I had to go to and we moved areas.

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So I don't know where to park

to get to the best shops and

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all of those sorts of things.

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So there's quite a lot that went

into this decision of, was this

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the right day and the right time?

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And I'd got all my ducks in a row.

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I'd made sure I'd eaten.

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I had a water bottle with me.

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I had snacks with me just

in case things took longer.

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I was really like high fiving myself.

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I couldn't have prepped any better for

this trip, had my list of the things

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I needed to buy, and the name of the

shop, and I had a photo of the item,

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so, with the code, so if there was an

issue and I couldn't find it, I could

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give them the literal code for them to

look up, so I was I was fully prepared

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because I had to get back for a meeting.

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So I had like a solid three hours.

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I was like, yeah, that's great.

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The shops is 10 minutes up the road

and we do that over planning thing.

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So I had really made sure

there was nothing around this.

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So I make it into the car with

my snacks and my drink bottle.

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And I'm like feeling great.

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Driving to the shops, I've got Google

Maps on and I get there, no wrong

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turns, find a park, and I'm literally

just on cloud nine by this point.

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I cannot believe that I'm

just like smooth sailing.

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So I get out of the car

and I go into the shops.

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And lo and behold, it takes the

three hours and a bit more because

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I was enjoying myself and was

scrolling all around Westfield.

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I got the things I needed

that took maybe 40 minutes.

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And then I was just having the time of

my life because now I had all this time.

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that I could use however I

wanted because I'd allocated that

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amount of time to do those jobs.

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So I was just feeling great.

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I think I even grabbed a drink

and just was looking in all

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shops of things I didn't need.

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And I come out and I think,

yep, great on the clock.

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I've got to get back for a meeting.

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I'm walking to my car in the car park.

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The car park is full.

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I'm parked in this busy part of the

section where Coles and Audi are.

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This pedestrian crossing

holds up heaps of cars.

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for ages.

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Sometimes you can be sitting there

for legitimately like 15 minutes.

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The foot traffic in this section

of the car park is insane.

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And I'm walking to my car and I

think, Oh gosh, it's a real hot day.

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Like there must be, I'm hearing all

noises and I think, Oh gosh, you know,

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someone's waiting in their car and they've

got their car running the aircon on.

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It's hot.

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I might have a drink and

I get closer to my car.

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I'm going.

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Oh, that's not someone sitting in their

car with their aircon on, that's my car.

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I have left my car running for four hours.

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So I had got to the shops.

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No.

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Opened the door and just.

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Got out of my car, shut the door,

and walked off in all my excitement

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of, I've got my drinks, I've got

my snacks, I've got my leaves,

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and I'm walking around thinking,

I'm surprised it was still there.

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That is what I couldn't believe, in the

section of the car park that I was in,

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no one had stolen my car, and then I

was like, looking around, thinking, have

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people, Have they tried to open the door?

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Have people sat in my car?

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Were they thinking this

is like surely a joke?

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Who's leaving their car running?

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What about the trolley guys?

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There was a trolley bay

like just next to it.

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Hadn't they been walking?

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Had they been calling my number plate

over the speaker and I hadn't heard it?

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Like I just, a million

questions straight away.

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And I was like, someone legitimately

could have stolen my car.

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And I think there's

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Jane: a lot of, that is crazy.

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But how do people go into someone's

house, right, and steal their keys

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and everything, right, to get a car?

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And then you've got

your car there running.

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It doesn't

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Shantelle: get stolen.

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Just rock up to Westfield,

some poor ADHDists might

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have left their car running.

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But this is, like, that whole function

and habit for me, really, it made

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me think about this, because I don't

have to use my key to start my car.

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Or to turn it off.

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So I literally put my keys in my bag and

just hopped out of my car and carried on.

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There was no thought process of,

Oh, turn the car off, pull the

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key out, put them in your bag.

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That kind of old habit, I

guess, that I was so reliant on.

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Jane: So, did you not run out of petrol?

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Shantelle: No, I did not

run out of petrol, right?

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And I had a meeting to go to.

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It was like getting to that

school pickup time as well.

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So I was like, Oh my gosh.

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So I turn off the car and

I'm like, you know what?

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I'll turn it off and then restart it again

because I was worried about the battery.

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So then I'll turn it off, restart

it again and then see if it works.

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And then if it works, like if

it just turns back on, I don't

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have to tell anybody about this.

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This will be my dirty

little secret forever.

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So I turn the car back on.

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Great.

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Awesome.

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I look at the time and I

realize, okay, I now have to

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do this zoom meeting in my car.

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Otherwise I'm not going to, I'm not

going to make it home, but that's okay.

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I can do it in my car.

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So I do it in the car.

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Don't mention anything

about it, obviously.

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And then about 10 minutes before the call

ended, my, it got really hot in the car.

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So I turned the air con

on and finished the call.

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And I think, oh, just restart

the car just to double check.

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And I go to restart the car

and it's flat as a tack.

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And I was like, what's going on?

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It like started, it had been going

for four hours and now it's fine.

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I only turned it on for 10 minutes.

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Like how can it run for

four hours and be fine?

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And then 10 minutes is not.

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So I call RACQ.

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And again, I've still got probably a

decent amount of time to get this sorted.

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If RACQ come to the rescue.

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In a decent amount of time,

which they've never let me down.

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And I reckon when you get your

diagnosis, as a neurodivergent, it

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needs to come with a welcome pack.

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And one of those things

should be an RACQ membership.

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Because they have saved

my bacon so many times.

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100%.

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So, they, I call them, they're

like, Yep, no worries, we'll

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be there in like 15 minutes.

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Awesome.

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Half an hour later,

they're still not there.

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I'm like, I have to ring someone

now to help me and then I'm going

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to have to explain what's happened.

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So I just ring them and say my

battery's dead, need some help.

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They arrive, RACQ arrive at the same time.

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So now I have a crowd.

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Of course.

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So they all go, Oh, what's happened?

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So I say, Oh, I was just sitting

in the car and, you know, I walked

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inside, left the car running for

four hours, like, sorry, but like,

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legitimately, that's what happened.

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And they both looked at

me really confused, like.

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Oh, well, that shouldn't

have been a problem.

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It shouldn't flatten your battery.

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And I was really confused.

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I was like, four hours.

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Do you not understand?

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Like it was running for four hours

and they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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They said anything else, like how

old's the battery and all of that,

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and they still couldn't figure it out.

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And then I said, Oh yeah, and I was

on a call and I turned the car on,

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my aircon on for like 10 minutes.

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And they, you know, Oh,

well, that's what it is.

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And I literally spat out my coffee and

I was like, sorry, are you telling me

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that that 10 minutes of the air con

on did more damage to the battery than

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four hours sitting in the car park?

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And they were like, yep, 100%.

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And it really just affirmed to me

that I have zero interest in cars

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because that makes no sense in my mind.

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I know mechanically it does to someone,

but yeah, that was probably the

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grandest file that or experience, I

should say the negative ADHD experience

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that I've had, that the potential

consequences someone's stealing my car.

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And like, I would not have known,

I kept thinking that if someone had

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stolen my car, I would have just walked

out and not been able to find my car.

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But then I also don't know

what I would have done.

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Like, do you ring the police?

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Do you go inside to Westfield?

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Like, do I really, am I thinking at that

point, someone's actually stolen my car?

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Because more weird and wonderful

things have happened in my life.

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So I'm not sure that that

would be my first go to.

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So I've brought along with it a whole lot

of stuff that I'd never thought about.

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You would have just

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Jane: walked around for a long time.

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You would have just walked

around going, well, where is it?

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It's, I mean, it's Westfield.

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I've clearly, I thought I

parked it on level three.

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I, I haven't.

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You're probably still walking

around for hours trying to find it.

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I mean, I've done that, like.

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Especially before iPhones.

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You didn't have a piece of

paper and pen to write it down.

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You just had to remember.

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Now you, you can do things

like take a photo of it.

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You can video, you can.

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But before that, like, I'd

never know where I was.

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But iPhones have made

that a little bit better.

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Shantelle: Yeah, and the tiles, because

you can get a tile sticker and just

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put it on the inside of your car.

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They're another thing I think you

should get when you get your diagnosis.

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Jane: I didn't even know you could

do that and I actually just came

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back from a specialist appointment,

the one that I always run late to.

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I was actually there 20 minutes early

because you're never there at the time.

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And I still went through the wrong lift.

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I think that's my third time there and

then came back out and then went down

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to the wrong level, walked around and

thought, jeez, I thought I parked here.

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I'm still doing this.

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And then I was on the wrong level.

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Right.

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I mean, that's just, but I suppose

that was fine because I was by myself.

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But if you do that with two

kids, neurodiverse or a baby,

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like that can be out there.

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Shantelle: Or you have a

time critical appointment.

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One for me.

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Jane: Oh, totally, totally.

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And you, you've had everything lined up a

hundred percent correctly you've planned.

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And then you do something silly,

Chantelle, like leave your

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car running the whole time.

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That's a good one.

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I'm surprised it didn't get stolen.

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And also you can see how people leave

their kids in the back of the car, right?

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Like, and they forget to drop

them off if they're asleep or

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reverse facing, you can see it.

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Anyway, one from me, which is gonna

be controversial because it is not a

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mum fail, and we are about to get into

the why and we're about to talk about

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cumulative stress and how that impacts.

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So I'm gonna talk about something

I did when I was 21, which is

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going to really disprove what we

are about to say, which is funny.

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But anyway, I've chaired a lot of my

mum fails over the time of this podcast.

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I wanted to share a new

one, not an old one.

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So when I was 21, a lot of

people don't know this about me.

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I was a flight attendant and me being me.

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Didn't want to just work for Qantas or

Virgin because I lived in Hobart and I

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had quite a sheltered upbringing I thought

I'm just gonna move internationally

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and go international straight up

because that's what people do Which

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was a completely bizarre thing to do

because I was actually living at home

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and I was quite reliant on my parents

for most things so that was very silly

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decision back in the day, but it was very

impulsive and my neurodiverse themselves

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So that was a lovely idea, which

Might have not been the best decision.

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Anyway, arrived there, it was a

baptism of fire to, because there

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was no real internet there either.

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So, I mean, sorry, back then.

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So when I was 21, there

wasn't a lot of internet.

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So there wasn't the

accessibility of information.

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So a lot of the things that you

figure out when you move somewhere,

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you would know in advance now.

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But back then that, that didn't happen.

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So there was lots of things which

I won't go into with culture

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that I made a mistake with.

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Oh, here's actually, you know what?

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This is a small side note.

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For example, Halal.

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I didn't know anything about

Halal, and it's a Muslim country.

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So, my friends and I went to the

beach all day, and we couldn't

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find anywhere to eat because it

was Halal, and McDonald's was open.

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And so we went and bought all of this

McDonald's food, and then after we bought

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it, which I think was controversial.

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They then told us when we were

starving that we couldn't eat

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or drink anything in public.

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So then we had to go and find a

disabled toilet outside, which

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I don't know if anyone's ever

been to a public toilet in Dubai.

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It's like, I don't want to like

name names, but there's some

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rougher parts of Australia.

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I would say it'd be one of those.

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Wasn't really a nice

place to eat and drink.

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Didn't know what halal was.

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Really no further

research into most things.

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Anyway, so I'm working at

Emirates and I was a horrible

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flight attendant, let me know.

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My attention to detail, my

care, my basic hospitality.

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Giving out serviettes.

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Asking people what they'd like, reading

the menu to people, I didn't give a fuck.

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I think I really failed

hospitality, I was woeful at it.

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Oh, woeful.

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And they were like, come this way ma'am

and sir, I just couldn't be bothered.

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Like, I'm sorry.

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Anyway, I was terrible at hospitality,

so much so they used to tell me,

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can you please remember to smile?

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And I was either smiling or talk,

like I couldn't just, I couldn't.

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It was not a natural skill.

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My husband now sees me in food

prep and hospitality is like, I

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don't know how you ever did that.

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And it was a high class airline too.

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So they paid a lot of money.

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They're expecting this thing.

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They were not expecting Aussie Jane

throwing out some can of Cokes.

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And if I felt people took too

long, cause I was so impatient,

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I just give them whatever.

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Anyway, so basically we were on there.

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We were flying from Dubai to India.

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I think we were flying to Calcutta and.

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There was a lot of people on the plane

that hadn't been on a plane before, there

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was not a lot of English that was spoken,

so there was a lot of, they really gave

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us a big briefing in advance about we

need to be really quite leading these

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people because a lot of them aren't going

to be speaking English, there was only

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one flight attendant that spoke Indian,

so, or, sorry not Indian, but an Indian

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language, whatever the languages are,

sorry, I'm sorry, I don't know what the

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Indian languages are, anyway, Alright.

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Language barrier, and we're doing food

service, which was my most hated thing

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because I just didn't give a shit

and I really struggled with detail.

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Like, people say to me, have

you put sugar in my coffee?

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I don't know, that's just how I am.

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Even if I love and care about you

deeply, and I'm not in a hurry.

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I just can't do it.

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Anyway, so we're there and

we're doing the food service and

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they always had yellow and red.

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So yellow was chicken and red was beef.

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And then if you had a special vegetarian

meal, that was all written on it.

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And it was like, I want to say

silver or blue, different color.

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Wasn't many of them.

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Anyway, we're flying to Calcutta and

I'm only a few months in on the job and

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I'm like, yeah, I've got food service.

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And they gave us the brief and I just

couldn't be bothered listening because I

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thought, This job is so fucking boring.

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I'm going to lose my mind.

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That's not interesting at all.

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There's nothing more boring to me than

food service, and I thought it would

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be really exciting with the culture,

but you don't really talk to people.

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All you do is just hand out shit.

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And people treat you like crap.

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And it's really stinky to be honest,

the planes were smelly, wherever you

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went, it's just, it's not a nice place.

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It's always people coughing

and babies, I hate kids, it's

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controversial, I know, I don't like

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:

children.

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:

Shantelle: I think there'd be

lots of people out there who love

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their own children, yeah, but

they don't love other people.

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That's okay.

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:

I love my own children.

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:

Jane: Yeah.

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:

And I have to build love for people.

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:

Children that I know well and

kids I've known for a long time, I

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definitely can build love towards them.

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:

It's not a natural thing.

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:

I don't see kids at the park and want to

help them get up and dust their knee off.

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I generally go, where's that kid's mom?

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:

I'll go grab that person.

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:

We knew that most of the people

going to Calcutta were going to be

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vegetarian for religious reasons.

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:

I had chicken in my

mind was the yellow one.

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:

They swapped it around because

there was no beef option and

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:

they put the vegetables as red.

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:

Oh.

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:

So I thought.

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:

In my mind, all I have is

that chicken is yellow.

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:

Chicken is yellow.

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:

Don't give out chicken,

because these people are vegos.

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:

Actually, I handed out all the reds,

and when we got to the end, the air

400

:

hostess said, this is really weird,

because we were all stressed we weren't

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:

going to have enough vegetarian.

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:

We've got heaps of them left.

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:

I don't, I don't know how this has worked.

404

:

And then she pulled me

up, she went white, right?

405

:

The first thing was, she looked at

me, and I think she was, I want to say

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:

Malaysian or Filipino, like really lovely.

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:

You know, those like really good

hearted, honest people, they will just

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:

own up to it because they are so kind

hearted and they feel so bad right now.

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:

If I'm honest, I was 21 and I was like,

we're going to cover this shit up.

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:

That's what we're going to do.

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:

Yeah.

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:

Because I was thinking if we go, we don't

have enough food on this aircraft, right?

413

:

Like I remember, I did remember that we

didn't have enough food and they were

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:

saying, crew, you have to eat at the end.

415

:

We might not have enough.

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:

There's some bread over here.

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You might eat that.

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:

There wasn't going to be enough food.

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:

And I thought we've opened all them.

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:

They've already started.

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:

We're going like cover it up.

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:

Yeah.

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:

And I just said to her, it

was just complete confidence.

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:

And she was more of a subservient

confident personality.

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:

Don't worry, it's all good.

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:

We've got it handled.

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:

I knew what I was doing.

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:

It's not a big deal.

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:

She looked at me, knew, and I think

she thought I'm not going to cross her.

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:

I'm just going to leave it.

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:

And so I was like, look, we've done this.

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:

We can't undo this at this point.

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:

We don't have enough food.

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:

I'm going to be in so much trouble.

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:

Um, if I could, if I was doing it now, I

would handle this situation differently.

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:

Okay.

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:

I didn't.

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:

So basically we covered

it up or I covered it up.

439

:

And the part that got me in trouble

was that when we kept walking

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:

through my section, these Indian

people in very broken English

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:

kept saying, What is that food?

442

:

So good.

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:

So good.

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:

Is that tofu?

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:

They didn't know what it was.

446

:

And they kept asking the purser and

everybody in charge, what was that food?

447

:

Because they liked it and

they'd never had it before.

448

:

It was very bad, very, very, very bad.

449

:

Shantelle: So

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:

Jane: yeah, they broke

their, um, religious pact

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:

or whatever it was that day.

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:

I didn't feel the need to let them know.

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:

I just thought why they're enjoying it.

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:

It's happened.

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:

They don't know, the chicken's

already dead, it's cooked,

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:

what, like, what can we do?

457

:

Anyway, um, so that is a good

one, but that is Pre Kids.

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:

Wow,

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:

Shantelle: I love that they loved it

though, like, it's so annoying for you

460

:

because if they didn't enjoy it, they

wouldn't have eaten it, no one would

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:

have cared, but they actually loved it.

462

:

And I kept telling

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:

Jane: people and wanting to know

what the ingredients and the

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:

recipes were and I was dying inside.

465

:

Actually, on this note, right,

I've done so many cooking fails.

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:

I'm just going to share another

one while we're running.

467

:

So, I had this ex partner and

he's, I hope he never, oh, he's

468

:

not going to listen to this.

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:

He was Italian and he had the

most beautiful Italian family,

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right, like really into cooking.

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:

Lovely people.

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:

And his mum loved me, like loved me.

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:

And my parents were not, my mum was not

great at cooking, I was not a great cook.

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:

I had undiagnosed ADHD, so I'd take

the quick way forward all the time.

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:

She'd always cook for me, and she had

this whole thing around women are in

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:

the kitchen, and so anyway, I was only

young, I was probably 18, 19, and I

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:

thought I'll, I'll cook her some biscuits.

478

:

I think she wasn't feeling

well or something happened.

479

:

So anyway, I cooked her these biscuits.

480

:

Now if you go through the packet biscuit

aisle, you will see Dream Cookies.

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:

This is White Chocolate Dream Cookies.

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:

This was when they came out.

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:

Right.

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:

So this is a long time ago.

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:

I was probably 18, 19.

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:

Right.

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:

I came out brand new, bought the

packet, made them, and I've made them.

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:

I've handed them out.

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:

And she loved them.

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:

And she said to me, I love

those cookies so much.

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:

Do you think you can make another

batch when I have my friends

492

:

come around for this book club

or whatever they were doing?

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:

I felt so like, Yes, of course, right?

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:

Um,

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:

Shantelle: on it.

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:

Yes.

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:

You can have more food.

498

:

Jane: This is bad but I

can't be sharing this.

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:

So I cook them again and I bring

them back the next time and I'm like

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:

really chuffed with myself, right?

501

:

Like, look at me, perfect daughter in law.

502

:

I was pretty into him and I kind of

thought we're going to get married.

503

:

First love.

504

:

Anyway, so I'm there and I'm starting

to hand her out these cookies and

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:

my mother in law, not mother in

law, but dating mother in law said

506

:

to me, announced it to everybody.

507

:

So, Jane has made these cookies

and she goes to church because I

508

:

was Catholic and she's friends with

Father Chris and she was just raving

509

:

about me right and I'm just there

like swatting around like I felt

510

:

Shantelle: so good about myself.

511

:

Check

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:

Jane: my, yeah.

513

:

And this, this other mother, the friend.

514

:

Check my my cookies out said oh just

wondering does this have nuts in it

515

:

now I don't fucking know if I've got

nuts in it And I I don't know can I

516

:

admit to my to anybody here that I make

packet biscuits Can I so what do I say?

517

:

No, no nuts.

518

:

No nuts Do you think there

was nuts in there, Chantel?

519

:

Shantelle: I'm gonna

go with a definite yes.

520

:

All of the nuts.

521

:

Jane: Did she go to hospital?

522

:

Yes, she did.

523

:

Did I ever admit to it?

524

:

No.

525

:

No, I did not.

526

:

It's

527

:

Shantelle: like the shame is so The

associated shame is so enormous that

528

:

it is not worth the consequence.

529

:

So In some crazy way, it was like,

you knew that when she was in

530

:

hospital, she was getting treatment.

531

:

So then what was the, like, the

shame would have been systemic

532

:

and like them outwardly out there.

533

:

And then everybody's got a

perception of you because of that.

534

:

So if she's in hospital and getting

treatment, then that's okay.

535

:

That is better than having to live

through that shame and that admission.

536

:

Isn't it crazy?

537

:

I'm going to.

538

:

Jane: Oh, look, I'm going to

make two excuses for myself.

539

:

First one, both examples,

I was very young.

540

:

The second one, if I could reflect back,

and I even remember after she ate it, I

541

:

thought, I bloody wish she had have said

to me, I might have one of those later.

542

:

Does it have nuts in it?

543

:

The problem was, was

she had it in her hand.

544

:

She had it partway to her mouth.

545

:

And it was so quick, I don't want to make

546

:

Shantelle: excuses, but I

would have actually, especially

547

:

Jane: when you're young, I would have

just gone, taken a breath, probably

548

:

gone to the bathroom and thought, I

actually am going to have to admit to

549

:

this and I would have come back out.

550

:

The fact that it was so on the spot,

I honestly froze and just went,

551

:

no, no, no, it doesn't make sense.

552

:

I can't believe I did that now.

553

:

Shantelle: That is like horrible.

554

:

And almost like you respond, and again

because you're young, you respond with

555

:

what you think they want to hear, even

though what they want to hear is yes

556

:

or no, but because she was right there

with the biscuit, like there's the time

557

:

pressure and there's the stress, and

like, oh then she's going to miss out.

558

:

Oh, all of that.

559

:

You poor thing.

560

:

Jane: Anyway, it was one of the good ones.

561

:

Well, I'm sure that there's

lots of others out there.

562

:

So there's some doozies.

563

:

Yes, there are.

564

:

Okay, so, I'm, I also want to point

out, as I said to Chantel, I am

565

:

insanely disorganized for this episode.

566

:

And I'm also, this, I really sound like a

blamer in this episode because I put out

567

:

on the stories a number of times and I

did get some responses that I did prepare.

568

:

However, the doozies that I got

were all pretty much last night.

569

:

So I woke up this morning with all

these DMs going, yeah, I know you're

570

:

going to do this episode with Chantel.

571

:

I just thought I'd let this one.

572

:

And I'm like reading it going,

where was this last week

573

:

when I was doing preparation?

574

:

Because now I can't unsee

575

:

Shantelle: this.

576

:

The urgency wasn't there for

anybody else in the community.

577

:

So maybe what you need to do

is just push the dates back

578

:

one week or forward one week.

579

:

So last week, I've said that

that was, we were recording on

580

:

Jane: Friday.

581

:

Oh yeah.

582

:

And you know what though, you get

caught doing that because I do that

583

:

with my husband and I always say

to him, we have to be there at nine

584

:

o'clock, like, and I make it life or

death and it's actually quarter past.

585

:

But if I forget and I tell him the other

time he assumes he's got 15 minutes on

586

:

it and he doesn't and then it's like

the boy that called wolf he doesn't

587

:

believe me anymore what the times are.

588

:

Anyway, so the reasons why the

mum experience has happened,

589

:

Chantel and I were talking offline.

590

:

I'm going to throw, actually I'm

going to throw to you Chantel because

591

:

I've done a lot of the talking.

592

:

Yeah,

593

:

Shantelle: sure.

594

:

So in my personal experience and somewhat

to a degree in my professional experience

595

:

as well, I have experienced the level

of negative experiences increases when

596

:

there is a significant amount of stress.

597

:

For a prolonged period of time.

598

:

So that's that cumulative stress.

599

:

So what is actually going on?

600

:

And when I have not implemented those

things that give me brain space, and

601

:

that is not necessarily physical time.

602

:

So that can be tricky for me to navigate.

603

:

Definitely experience more positive

things that happen because of my

604

:

neurodivergence when the cumulative stress

is not there and it's just general life

605

:

every day to day as a neurodivergent,

because they are 2 very different

606

:

things, but that that cumulative stress.

607

:

Cumulative stress definitely

creates more negative experiences,

608

:

and when I think back now to that

day where I left my car running,

609

:

there was some big stuff going on.

610

:

Family, kids, new school, this year

we've moved to a new area, like I was

611

:

saying with the Westfields, so we're,

I wasn't even just up against where

612

:

do I park my car, it's that I don't

actually have the information of how

613

:

long does it get me to get to this

place, so even small things like that.

614

:

That is what builds up into that

cumulative stress and you leave

615

:

your car running for four hours.

616

:

So managing the stress is so critical

for me in then having more positive

617

:

experiences of my neurodivergence.

618

:

And they, they are

definitely there as well.

619

:

There might be.

620

:

Something that my brain has deemed

not important that somebody else wants

621

:

that night, but I'll be like, nah,

I'm going to do my skincare routine.

622

:

Cause I can manage the

fallout of not doing that.

623

:

So that five minutes is actually

so much more valuable for me.

624

:

And I'm okay with dealing with that

fallout because I'm not bothered.

625

:

It's a matter of process.

626

:

It's easy.

627

:

It's fine.

628

:

I'm okay with that.

629

:

So there's those positive things to

all my children had their friends

630

:

over for a sleepover on Friday

night, and it was nine o'clock.

631

:

I was already in my pajamas.

632

:

They're in their pajamas.

633

:

I was like, when I get in the car

and go to Maccas and get a McFlurry

634

:

because they're sort of having to.

635

:

Organize dessert, clean up from dessert.

636

:

All of that was too much.

637

:

I didn't have that amount of energy.

638

:

And they just thought it

was the best thing ever.

639

:

And I really enjoyed it too.

640

:

So, there's definitely more of those

positive experiences when that happens.

641

:

Cumulative stress is not there,

and I do think there's all

642

:

the science behind it, but.

643

:

Those things happen and those brain

farts in advertent commas happen

644

:

because we're having to put so much

energy into particular situations or

645

:

certain things are taking so much of

our energy that the actual process

646

:

that we need to go through to not

leave our car running is too, too hard.

647

:

Jane: Yeah, absolutely.

648

:

Absolutely.

649

:

And I think that's where a lot of

us end up getting diagnosed because.

650

:

The amount of things that you have

to do just keep layering and layering

651

:

and layering and then your little legs

Underneath the water if you're the swan

652

:

or the duck on top Just keep going harder

and harder and harder and harder and

653

:

then you end up with depression stress

anxiety You end up at GP Psychologist and

654

:

if you're lucky someone might recognize

it then or you get diagnosed and then

655

:

it's thrust upon you with let's say

For example, all of your kids therapy

656

:

appointments and you've got that as

well And then you get more and more

657

:

and more stressed, and for me, the more

stressed I am, the more chaos I create.

658

:

So it's like, there's so much going on.

659

:

I don't want to do any of those fires.

660

:

So I'm just going to go create

some more that I like the look

661

:

of, and then I'll do those ones.

662

:

And that's exactly where some

of this stuff has come from.

663

:

Yes.

664

:

I know what you're saying.

665

:

Like for you to leave your car on for four

hours, geez, you must have been fucking

666

:

sidetracked somewhere else in your brain.

667

:

There was so many other things, because

if you were present in that moment.

668

:

Yeah, you wouldn't have,

you wouldn't have done that.

669

:

Anyway, let's read out

some of the mum fails.

670

:

So not fails, experiences.

671

:

So I'm going to read out a couple

of small ones and I reckon, you know

672

:

what, Chantel, let's play a game.

673

:

How about I read you out some

small ones and you have to say yes

674

:

or no, if you've done it or not.

675

:

Okay.

676

:

And Chantel's like, I did not

sign up for this chain, but okay.

677

:

Shantelle: I'm so excited.

678

:

I'm also, I'm just going

to throw this out there.

679

:

I reckon I would have done

most likely all of them.

680

:

Jane: Yeah, I've actually done

a lot of these to be honest.

681

:

I'm going to read out some of the

small ones and then I'll read out

682

:

some of the longer ones later.

683

:

So I threw it out on the stories

and we just got a heap of responses.

684

:

So we had a lot of people that

said ordering lunch orders through

685

:

the online system, but then not

actually doing it and getting called

686

:

multiple times through the week.

687

:

To go and bring my kids lunch.

688

:

Yeah.

689

:

Shantelle: Yes.

690

:

Yeah.

691

:

Chantel's nodding.

692

:

That's a definite yes.

693

:

From me.

694

:

Yep.

695

:

Or I order it two weeks in advance because

like, look at me, go being organized.

696

:

And then on the third week, I think

I already did it so I don't order it.

697

:

And then I get the call, yeah.

698

:

Jane: Mate, Chantelle, that's

how I reckon it happens.

699

:

There's a surprising amount of

people that wrote the same one here.

700

:

Forgot to put handbrake on car.

701

:

Rolled down the hill with kids inside.

702

:

Thank God no one was hurt.

703

:

There's a lot of people that did

that, and I've done that too.

704

:

Shantelle: Do you know what, this is

crazy, I don't know how this has happened.

705

:

I have never done that, but I equally, I

have left my car running for four hours.

706

:

So I'm not sitting over here

thinking, wow, look at me go

707

:

having not put my handbrake on.

708

:

But yeah, interesting that

so many people have done it.

709

:

There's a lot of

710

:

Jane: handbrake stories and then also

a lot of kids birthday party stories.

711

:

So forgot the day, didn't get

the invite, forgot to RSVP.

712

:

My personal favorite was from Anna,

obviously we won't say last names.

713

:

She arrived a week early with her

kid, dropped her child off with a

714

:

present, kicked them out of the car,

basically said, go up to the door.

715

:

The kid went up to the door.

716

:

She left, the child was six, right?

717

:

She got a call.

718

:

Thank God they were home.

719

:

She got a call from this, for

the birthday party, the mum, who

720

:

wasn't actually the party day.

721

:

And said, Hi, I've got your

child, Samantha, let's say, here.

722

:

Can you come back and get her?

723

:

This isn't convenient.

724

:

Shantelle: This isn't convenient.

725

:

I love it.

726

:

Oh, Anna.

727

:

Oh, Anna.

728

:

That, that's fabulous.

729

:

That is fabulous.

730

:

I'm just, I read that,

731

:

Jane: I read that one.

732

:

I actually couldn't sleep

because I just felt it was just

733

:

Shantelle: so funny.

734

:

Can you imagine being that other parent?

735

:

Like, what do you say?

736

:

It's not just about enjoying your life.

737

:

Hello.

738

:

Like, what?

739

:

Wow.

740

:

Oh, Anna.

741

:

I love that.

742

:

And

743

:

Jane: it's like, what

if they weren't home?

744

:

Shantelle: Wow.

745

:

Yeah.

746

:

What if they weren't home?

747

:

Okay.

748

:

So here's the thing, and we've

spoken about this before, but I feel

749

:

like I have to mention this now.

750

:

There are the Darwin Awards, Harley

Breen has an amazing podcast and

751

:

they have the Golden Knob Awards.

752

:

And I feel like we need a name for this

because whatever that award is, Anna.

753

:

You have just won that.

754

:

That's yours, but we

don't have a name for it.

755

:

Mate, there's

756

:

Jane: better ones coming, Chantel.

757

:

Shantelle: Oh, I'm excited.

758

:

I feel like Can the

people submit some names?

759

:

I think that, that would be great.

760

:

I

761

:

Jane: think we should, I think we should

do a poll at the end of this episode

762

:

and put what is the name of the award?

763

:

Yeah, like we should do one once

a month because yes, there's a

764

:

couple of crackers coming up.

765

:

Oh Okay, here we go

Dropped my child at school.

766

:

Thought it was the first

day after school holidays.

767

:

It was actually still for school

holidays, and I dropped them in a

768

:

full uniform, the drop off, and left.

769

:

It didn't occur to me to wonder

why there was no one there.

770

:

I do like that one.

771

:

Shantelle: I've been that child.

772

:

Have

773

:

Jane: you been that

774

:

Shantelle: child?

775

:

I've been that child.

776

:

I haven't done that as a mum,

but I've been that child.

777

:

Jane: What about this one?

778

:

There's so many people.

779

:

There's just like heaps.

780

:

It's probably one of the most common.

781

:

People that said, we go to

swimming lessons every week.

782

:

Not once have I remembered.

783

:

All of my children's

swimming caps, bathers,

784

:

Shantelle: towels.

785

:

Mate, I reckon I have spent so

much money on goggles in the

786

:

last 10 years, it's ridiculous.

787

:

Because if I can ever find a pair

of goggles when they need them.

788

:

We just went through this

with both of my kids doing an

789

:

intensive swimming week at school.

790

:

And I had to go out and buy new bathers,

new rashi, new swim caps, new goggles.

791

:

Because like, it's 12, Millie's 12 now.

792

:

And yeah, I've still I still

don't have a handle on that.

793

:

This other

794

:

Jane: mum, I actually, I don't

know why I like this one.

795

:

This, this mum, Kate, says here,

I forgot my son was at prep and

796

:

I thought he was at daycare.

797

:

So it must have been the

start of the school year.

798

:

So I just picked him up at 5pm.

799

:

So she arrived at school, she was

supposed to be there at like 3 o'clock, 2.

800

:

30.

801

:

She just, she just thought it was

daycare and just got there at 5 o'clock.

802

:

Oh

803

:

Shantelle: Kate, bless you.

804

:

If only school hours was daycare hours.

805

:

Wow, we'd get a lot more done.

806

:

But, oh, oh.

807

:

Jane: This one here, this is actually

another Kate, and Kate listens to this.

808

:

She's actually a friend of mine.

809

:

I fucking love Kate.

810

:

Kate said, I don't know if Kate has ADHD.

811

:

I think she might.

812

:

We, we love each other.

813

:

So she probably does.

814

:

Kate sent me a message and she said,

and I know her son, she said, I told

815

:

my ASD child, he is five or six.

816

:

that he was fine because he doesn't

display pain symptoms like everyone

817

:

else and I was sidetracked.

818

:

By the time I took him to ER,

he'd been complaining his foot

819

:

was sore for three days, his foot

was black and totally broken.

820

:

Child Protective was called.

821

:

Oh,

822

:

Shantelle: great.

823

:

Bless you.

824

:

I know, Kate.

825

:

She's awesome.

826

:

To go through the CPI orders.

827

:

But my daughter did have a broken

an eye because she displays pain.

828

:

Evidently very similar to Kate's.

829

:

Sun, and so I said, ice pack, have

some Panadol, have a lay on the

830

:

couch, and the mum instinct, this

was interesting because my logical

831

:

brain was like, pain, medication,

ice pack, rest, you'll be good.

832

:

But the mum instinct in me

was like, hmm, not sure.

833

:

And still, even when the doctor opened

the doors, she opened the doors and she

834

:

said, Millie, you have, Received your

first broken bone welcome to the club.

835

:

I was still not convinced.

836

:

I was like, shit, like actually,

so Kate, I feel you just

837

:

minus the child protection.

838

:

Oh my God.

839

:

Yeah.

840

:

Jane: This one here, I got a

little bit confused with the story.

841

:

I'm pretty sure what she's saying is that

her daughter was supposed to start prep

842

:

the next day and she'd taken her daughter

to the playground and it sounds like her

843

:

daughter was on one end of the seesaw.

844

:

And she sat down on one end, but

didn't realize the weight imbalance.

845

:

Maybe she just wasn't paying attention.

846

:

Her daughter has shot off

and actually broken her jaw.

847

:

The day before prep.

848

:

Shantelle: Oh.

849

:

I'm almost so devastated for the mum,

because that prep day, like, there's so

850

:

much of, like, work you have to do on

yourself, of like, first day of prep,

851

:

your child's on their way with you, all

of that, and then straight into the chaos.

852

:

That is worst case.

853

:

Jane: There is another handbrake one

here, and this woman here says, I

854

:

forgot to put the handbrake in park.

855

:

I parked in the shopping center,

but I left it on drive and I

856

:

actually ran into the post office.

857

:

You

858

:

Shantelle: know why I

like that one so much?

859

:

Oh my gosh, I feel like.

860

:

And sometimes that may be the only way to

get the line moving in the post office.

861

:

Jane: There is another one

here from someone who I have

862

:

had as a guest on this show.

863

:

I won't name names, but

she is a good, good laugh.

864

:

She probably wouldn't mind, but I'm not,

I'm not going to do it just in case.

865

:

So basically she wrote

me a bit of a long story.

866

:

It's pretty funny, but I won't

read the whole thing out, but

867

:

basically someone in Bunnings cut

her off and she probably had PMS.

868

:

And she got pretty angry, and

anyway, she got out of the car,

869

:

she's obviously flown off the handle.

870

:

She's impulsively gotten out of the

car, and with her two year old in

871

:

the backseat, she got out and started

yelling abuse at the guy that cut

872

:

her off in the Bunnings car park.

873

:

She got into a full blown

argument with this random guy.

874

:

The Bunnings staff came out

to break up the argument, it

875

:

must have been pretty intense.

876

:

Then as it's ending, she looks over.

877

:

And someone walking over to check

on her was actually the wife of

878

:

one of her husband's new employees

in their business that they own.

879

:

And they saw her fly off her

handle in front of her own child.

880

:

And I don't think she was planning

on anyone that she knew singing that.

881

:

Shantelle: I like that one.

882

:

I mean, eww.

883

:

Oh.

884

:

I like that.

885

:

But I feel so deeply for her because

that, like, in that moment, all

886

:

of those feelings were so real.

887

:

But then to look over and see

them would be just like, total

888

:

devastation straight away.

889

:

Okay,

890

:

Jane: this one here is a funny one.

891

:

This woman wrote in, this is from Kathy.

892

:

She said that I threw my

husband a surprise 40th.

893

:

It was incredible.

894

:

It was one of the best nights.

895

:

At the end of it, he took

me aside to let me know.

896

:

That he was actually 39.

897

:

Oh!

898

:

Shantelle: Oh!

899

:

Wow!

900

:

Why did no one tell her?

901

:

I was going to say, was

everybody else confused as well?

902

:

Because they probably thought,

surely she's all over this.

903

:

So they're all second guessing themselves.

904

:

Oh my God.

905

:

They clearly didn't have family there.

906

:

Like who, what,

907

:

Jane: did everyone just let her do it?

908

:

Like some of these ones I

just want to write back.

909

:

Like, can you tell me more?

910

:

Cause I don't

911

:

Shantelle: get it.

912

:

Oh, I think they need to just send in a

voice clip that tells us what happened.

913

:

Tell us more.

914

:

I've got a couple of really

good ones to finish up with.

915

:

It's just, I wrote down a couple on

916

:

Jane: notes because they're just so funny.

917

:

These are the ones that were

like sent in, I couldn't prepare

918

:

because it just came in overnight.

919

:

It says here, I accidentally

sent my husband's lunch, so she

920

:

must make her husband's lunch.

921

:

Power to you lady.

922

:

I accidentally sent my husband's lunch.

923

:

Into daycare instead of, so she

swapped the daycare lunchbox

924

:

with her husband's lunchbox.

925

:

Oh.

926

:

And she sent in like peanut butter

or whatever it was to an anaphylactic

927

:

nut child allergy daycare.

928

:

Shantelle: At least it

wasn't like a sexy love note.

929

:

Dangerous.

930

:

Yeah, it is dangerous.

931

:

Yeah, it is.

932

:

I do feel like you'd still

be more embarrassed if it

933

:

was sex in that note though.

934

:

Jane: Oh, totally.

935

:

Oh, no, you would be.

936

:

Although the daycare workers

are pretty cool these days.

937

:

I have one from my bestie who she didn't

send in, but I'm going to dob her in.

938

:

Jade, you know who you are.

939

:

Jade actually put two

tampons in accidentally.

940

:

So she put one in, she forgot it was

in there, she put a second one in, took

941

:

the other one out, continued to insert

more and then lost one inside herself.

942

:

Shantelle: Jade.

943

:

Bad.

944

:

I feel for you.

945

:

Wow.

946

:

Jane: That may be expressing

into this sink hand lady

947

:

that we spoke about earlier.

948

:

This one here is out there.

949

:

I want you to get ready.

950

:

Shouldn't tell.

951

:

This one's a ride.

952

:

Shantelle: Okay, I'm buckling up.

953

:

Let's go.

954

:

Jane: This woman we're going to,

we are gonna name her Rebecca.

955

:

Rebecca arrived home.

956

:

She had a newborn baby and she

really needed to go to the toilet.

957

:

It was a number two.

958

:

She couldn't find her car keys.

959

:

And she didn't know what to do.

960

:

She looked and looked.

961

:

Her baby was crying.

962

:

She went out to her back garden.

963

:

She dug a hole and she

did a poo in the garden.

964

:

And she covered it up in

front of her toddler or baby.

965

:

Shantelle: And then

966

:

Jane: as she was coming, figuring out

how to wipe, she realized that her

967

:

car keys had been in her bra the whole

968

:

Shantelle: time.

969

:

Oh, Rebecca!

970

:

See, this is why people

should get a child.

971

:

Um, this one here, this one here,

Chantel, this is just a good one.

972

:

Okay, get ready.

973

:

This is every woman.

974

:

Jane: This woman here, her name is Brooke.

975

:

She didn't want her daughter

to get a particular teacher.

976

:

One year, very hardcore, did not want it.

977

:

Send in a note to the principal.

978

:

And said, I do not want Mrs.

979

:

Smith.

980

:

Mrs.

981

:

Smith.

982

:

Do not give me Mrs.

983

:

Smith.

984

:

She got eight weeks in to the school

year and realized that the teacher

985

:

that her daughter had was horrific.

986

:

And she was very unhappy.

987

:

She went in to complain with

a list of problems for Mrs.

988

:

Smith.

989

:

The principal said, you requested Mrs.

990

:

Smith.

991

:

In this very aggressive email to me, I've

just given you what you've asked for.

992

:

No, you can't move classes.

993

:

She denied it, and denied it,

and denied it, and he pulled

994

:

up the email and showed her.

995

:

And she's obviously gotten confused with

not wanting and wanting all the names.

996

:

It was completely her fault.

997

:

I've got someone else who said a child

came to my child's birthday party and the

998

:

mum really intensely told her that she was

dairy free and gave her a special cupcake.

999

:

to give that child, their mum, I, um,

can't remember the name, I haven't

:

00:45:17,505 --> 00:45:21,155

written it down, gave the dairy free

cupcake to another kid that she thought

:

00:45:21,155 --> 00:45:25,325

looked the same, and then gave the

other kid one with dairy, and then

:

00:45:25,335 --> 00:45:27,134

that child had diarrhoea everywhere.

:

00:45:27,135 --> 00:45:28,154

I

:

00:45:28,634 --> 00:45:34,335

Shantelle: just feel like allergies,

it's so hard for the kids,

:

00:45:34,495 --> 00:45:36,755

for the parents, it's so hard.

:

00:45:37,085 --> 00:45:39,835

It's even harder for the people

who don't live it every day.

:

00:45:39,835 --> 00:45:44,715

So please, any parents out there, if

you're thinking it's rude to deliver your

:

00:45:44,715 --> 00:45:47,385

child with a bag of snacks, it's not.

:

00:45:47,625 --> 00:45:48,505

Yes, please.

:

00:45:49,775 --> 00:45:53,195

And maybe a little photo on the bag

as well, so we've got somewhere to

:

00:45:53,195 --> 00:45:54,865

check, like that would be helpful.

:

00:45:55,155 --> 00:45:57,995

Because far out, I've probably

done that and not even known.

:

00:45:58,255 --> 00:45:59,485

I hope not, but maybe.

:

00:45:59,875 --> 00:45:59,935

I don't know.

:

00:46:00,605 --> 00:46:00,735

I

:

00:46:00,735 --> 00:46:01,845

Jane: have got so many more.

:

00:46:01,875 --> 00:46:05,055

I'm going to try and wrap this up because

I have to go to pick up, but I'm going

:

00:46:05,055 --> 00:46:06,884

to just read out a couple more doozies.

:

00:46:07,225 --> 00:46:12,634

We have a lady called Piper and

she said that she had, I don't

:

00:46:12,634 --> 00:46:15,555

know what was wrong with her child,

but she was on telehealth doctor.

:

00:46:16,115 --> 00:46:19,325

The doctor said, how, what

kilogram weight is your child?

:

00:46:19,775 --> 00:46:23,895

She got confused with the weight,

said the wrong weight, he prescribed

:

00:46:23,895 --> 00:46:25,735

a medication at the wrong level.

:

00:46:26,665 --> 00:46:31,035

She had to take her child to the ER

because there was some reaction and

:

00:46:31,035 --> 00:46:34,974

then she showed them and said no, I gave

exactly what was on the bottle, right?

:

00:46:34,975 --> 00:46:36,725

Defended it, couldn't

figure out what's happening.

:

00:46:37,135 --> 00:46:40,965

They start, they talked about

investigating the telehealth doctor

:

00:46:40,985 --> 00:46:45,865

because they were so angered by the proof

that was the prescription and she had to

:

00:46:45,865 --> 00:46:50,770

say actually I actually got the numbers

mixed up and it was completely my fault.

:

00:46:51,050 --> 00:46:52,740

Oh.

:

00:46:52,740 --> 00:46:53,949

Shantelle: That there is embarrassing.

:

00:46:53,949 --> 00:46:54,252

Wow.

:

00:46:54,252 --> 00:46:57,920

And so catastrophic, like imagine

if those nurses or people there

:

00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:01,970

didn't do the due diligence and

just took it at its face value.

:

00:47:01,970 --> 00:47:07,169

That would be like the right of

reporting is that process, but far out.

:

00:47:07,289 --> 00:47:07,869

Wow.

:

00:47:08,090 --> 00:47:09,700

Yeah, that's crazy.

:

00:47:09,970 --> 00:47:10,440

Good one.

:

00:47:10,700 --> 00:47:11,230

I'm going to do

:

00:47:11,350 --> 00:47:13,950

Jane: four more quick ones, but

know that there's many more.

:

00:47:14,340 --> 00:47:15,380

I have Shelly.

:

00:47:15,390 --> 00:47:19,990

She said she locked her kids inside

the car, and then she's obviously

:

00:47:19,990 --> 00:47:22,440

locked her keys inside somehow.

:

00:47:22,460 --> 00:47:23,700

She said I did it twice.

:

00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:27,650

It was summer in Queensland,

and the same RACQ guy came.

:

00:47:27,650 --> 00:47:29,389

I know

:

00:47:29,389 --> 00:47:33,960

Shantelle: mine on a

personal basis, so far out.

:

00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:35,740

No bloody judgment there from me.

:

00:47:35,810 --> 00:47:36,680

I hear ya.

:

00:47:37,570 --> 00:47:38,850

I just looked at that, I was like,

:

00:47:38,850 --> 00:47:39,600

Jane: that's a good one.

:

00:47:39,970 --> 00:47:44,540

Also multiple people said, I changed

to a diesel car and I put petrol in.

:

00:47:44,930 --> 00:47:48,600

I had a diesel car, I changed to petrol

or I was driving my husband's car.

:

00:47:49,029 --> 00:47:51,380

Diesel petrol seems to be a common theme.

:

00:47:52,159 --> 00:47:55,650

Although one person said they drove off

with the handle of the petrol still in

:

00:47:55,759 --> 00:47:57,400

their car, which was a good one clue.

:

00:47:58,620 --> 00:48:03,020

Two of my favorites that are just

cool and they're just fucking awesome.

:

00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:06,370

This said here, waited a year

for a pediatrician appointment.

:

00:48:06,725 --> 00:48:08,165

Took the wrong kid there.

:

00:48:10,815 --> 00:48:13,595

Shantelle: Oh, yeah.

:

00:48:13,755 --> 00:48:17,164

And anyone else is like, if you got

that wrong, then you're like, I know.

:

00:48:17,835 --> 00:48:19,345

It's like, I just, I knew.

:

00:48:19,835 --> 00:48:20,974

Jane: And then, so she's arrived.

:

00:48:20,974 --> 00:48:23,925

Imagine being at the pediatrician for a

year, and they call out your kid's name

:

00:48:23,925 --> 00:48:24,955

and be like, Oh, I've got the wrong one.

:

00:48:29,620 --> 00:48:30,070

Shantelle: I think if they

:

00:48:30,290 --> 00:48:33,510

Jane: were the same gender, I'd

probably say just pretend to the other

:

00:48:33,510 --> 00:48:33,660

Shantelle: one.

:

00:48:33,660 --> 00:48:34,200

Right?

:

00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:34,740

Seriously?

:

00:48:34,740 --> 00:48:36,899

Because it doesn't matter.

:

00:48:36,899 --> 00:48:40,289

That's the pivot that you need to

make if they were the same gender.

:

00:48:40,540 --> 00:48:41,409

Oh, far out.

:

00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:47,155

Anyway, the last one.

:

00:48:47,155 --> 00:48:48,550

I love so many more of these.

:

00:48:48,770 --> 00:48:49,160

There's so

:

00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:49,450

Jane: many.

:

00:48:49,460 --> 00:48:50,320

This is the last one.

:

00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:52,110

This is a simple one, but I just love it.

:

00:48:52,390 --> 00:48:56,250

It said, made an appointment to

the vet, didn't take the dog.

:

00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:02,020

Shantelle: So she's arrived to the

vet and they've gone, where's your

:

00:49:02,020 --> 00:49:05,117

dog and she's gone, it's at home.

:

00:49:05,117 --> 00:49:10,920

I feel like, like, I, I feel like

I've almost been there, like I think

:

00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:15,049

I have realized before I've left the

house and that's why I'm like, well,

:

00:49:15,059 --> 00:49:17,470

it's really funny, but so relatable.

:

00:49:17,470 --> 00:49:19,219

I think I've nearly done that.

:

00:49:23,650 --> 00:49:27,790

We're such capable human beings,

and this is the bit that is so

:

00:49:28,089 --> 00:49:29,680

related to cumulative stress.

:

00:49:29,690 --> 00:49:33,109

There are so many amazing things

that I do in my life, but equally

:

00:49:33,110 --> 00:49:37,600

I can leave my car running for four

hours or not take my dog with me.

:

00:49:37,610 --> 00:49:37,850

Oh my God.

:

00:49:37,929 --> 00:49:40,230

Jane: But like, I mean, there's

so much brain power with like

:

00:49:40,230 --> 00:49:43,080

remembering all the days and the

Halloween and the white t shirt and

:

00:49:43,130 --> 00:49:44,350

everything you've got to remember.

:

00:49:44,350 --> 00:49:44,820

It's like.

:

00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:46,830

But not, not everything can

:

00:49:46,860 --> 00:49:51,020

Shantelle: stick and there's just,

no, um, the dog, the appointment,

:

00:49:51,030 --> 00:49:54,790

she was at the appointment, probably

on time, high five, just no dog.

:

00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:56,260

She's probably,

:

00:49:56,670 --> 00:49:59,040

Jane: it's like you, when you

said, Oh, I arrived to the shopping

:

00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:02,089

center and I had all of my prep

and I had done all of my thing.

:

00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:05,500

And then it was like, but I

left the car running for hours.

:

00:50:06,540 --> 00:50:08,430

Shantelle: Like four solid hours.

:

00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:12,240

Yeah, this has to be a regular

event because there, I think there's

:

00:50:12,240 --> 00:50:16,410

just going to be so many that just,

yeah, keep bringing the goods.

:

00:50:17,620 --> 00:50:20,169

Jane: Next time what I'm going to do is

I'm going to tell everybody I interviewed

:

00:50:20,170 --> 00:50:23,400

the week before and then I'm going to

grab them all and then I'm going to

:

00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:27,420

send them to you and we can read one

each but the, uh, yeah, they blew me

:

00:50:27,420 --> 00:50:29,520

away to be honest, like the funniness.

:

00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:33,190

And I think it's all about this

podcast about being relative to other

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people and being relatable and no one

talks about it or not many people do.

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But it's really normal and so many

people were writing the same stories.

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Shantelle: I think that's so

important for people to know that

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this is a massive thing for them.

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But there's 57 other people out there

also leaving their handbrakes on.

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So if anyone has left their car running

for four hours and they get to go to

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the shops, I'd love to hear from you.

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Jane: Absolutely, so continue

to write them in because we will

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catch up and read some more.

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Thank you so much for your time Chantelle.

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It's always a pleasure.

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Shantelle: It has been

so wonderful as always.

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Jane: That has to be one of my favorite.

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This is the first time we've done

this episode, so please send me

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a DM if you thought it was funny

as well or whether Chantal and

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I were just laughing on our own.

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Leave me a review and give me a five

star on Spotify if you feel the vibe.

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If you'd like us to come back

and do another one, let me know.

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Other than that, thank you so much

time for your, thank you so much for

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your time, Chantel, is what I meant

to say, and we will finish this up,

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Shantelle: I think.

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Thanks so much, Jane.

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