Crushing Internal Blocks: How Past Influences Can Hinder Your Ability to Be Seen

Episode Introduction

Welcome to another episode of GET SEEN with Leilani Wells! In today's episode, Leilani dives deep into the internal blocks that prevent us from being seen at our maximum capacity. She explores why, as business owners, we often hesitate to share our accomplishments and expertise. Leilani delves into old sayings that have influenced our mindset and offers insights into how they can hold us back from truly showcasing our skills. Additionally, she discusses the ramifications of not being seen and the missed opportunities that result from not putting ourselves out there. Throughout the episode, Leilani encourages listeners to identify their internal blocks and to start taking steps towards being seen and sharing their unique offerings. So, get ready to break through those internal barriers and get ready to be seen! It's time to dive into today's episode of GET SEEN with Leilani Wells.

"Self-Belief in Business: Because are we going to ever believe someone that doesn't believe in themselves? Are we ever going to want a product that is not in our faces? No, we're not. We're not going to want that."

— Leilani Wells

Timestamped Overview

00:00 The struggle to be seen and heard.

05:02 Fewer touch points; missed collaborative opportunities; unnoticed audience.

07:00 Trauma shapes our instinct to hide. It's changing. Be seen, share your gifts.

Main Topics

1. The internal blocks that prevent us from being seen

- The subconscious nature of these blocks stemming from our past

- The influence of societal sayings and beliefs on our visibility

- Feeling not good enough or lacking value

- Imposter syndrome and questioning our expertise

- The fear of showing off and bragging

- The impact of not being seen on our business

2. The importance of overcoming internal blocks for visibility

- Building relationships and collaborative opportunities

- Reaching the people who need our offerings

- Thriving and maximizing our business potential

3. Addressing trauma and survival mode as an internal block

- The belief that not being seen is safer

- The importance of recognizing and overcoming this block

- Encouragement to be seen and let people see our special offerings

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Leilani is a Visibility and Marketing Strategist specializing in social media marketing, video content experiences, and getting you SEEN (both online + offline).

Using her signature visibility process (GET SEEN), she helps Innovators and Entrepreneurs amplify their visibility and become known as the go-to expert so that they can grow their impact + income.

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Hey there. Welcome to another episode of Get Seen with Leilani Wells diving right

in. Excited to share about my thoughts on

being seen and visibility what the root cause of that is of us not

being seen at our maximum capacity of why it is

when we are business owners and we're choosing a life where

we are pouring into a passion, something that's near and dear to us,

something that we know that people need to see why we're not sharing it and

screaming off rooftop. Rooftops, right. Why we're not doing

everything to be seen to market it, do all the things at all times. And

I'm not speaking about the part that is actually exhausting, right?

Like the part that we are tired, we are doing a lot of things

and yet another post has to get up and it's time consuming. I'm speaking to

when we do have the time and we do have the energy and we are

excited about it. Those times when your finger is ready to press send on an

important post and you're holding yourself back because there's stuff coming

up inside. That's the part of it that I'm speaking to today. And so what

I wanted to address is there's a lot of internal blocks that cause this and

they're internal blocks that stem from typically our past,

as with any internal blocks, right. Anything that comes up that

we're hesitant and we don't know how to place it, we

don't know what to put a name on, we don't know where to go. We

don't know how to fix something that's coming up because we really don't

know how to name it. Right? And it's because a lot of that stuff is

subconscious from our past. And so I'm going to just kind of go

through some random sayings so it kind of starts to connect. So

don't toot your own horn, okay? That was a saying

back in the day, don't toot your own horns horn. So it's telling

you don't share your accomplishments. So we're

literally being told not to share our accomplishments. And then as a

business owner, now we have to do what? Turn around and share

our accomplishments so people can see that we're confident in ourselves,

we know what we're doing, and then they can in turn be

impacted positively by our offerings. So

we have to get past that block sometimes. And then there's another saying.

Oh, no one knows it all. So that's implying your

expertise is like arrogant or annoying or quit showing

off. Right? That's another saying. Or who do you think you are?

Or how about this one? Children should be seen and not

heard. Children should be seen and not heard. It's so interesting

about this. We're grown now, so what does that mean? We should be heard? Yes,

but also, business is playful. You can

be very childlike in business, right? You can really explore the dreams

you had as a child. So there's kind of like that tug, push, pull

there, right? And then if you don't have anything nice to

say, don't say anything at all. So now you're like, I'm not being

mean, but maybe I should not

say this because it's going to rock the boat. Certain things

like that don't get a big head. So there's so many things we're

being told throughout the years telling us

to zip it, to zip it. And I mean, I can go on

and on, but I think we get the picture now.

Okay, so what is going to cause

what's going to be happening when this stuff comes

up, literally? What should we be looking for?

And when we're looking at ourselves, we're

thinking maybe we're not good enough.

We maybe don't have anything valuable to share.

Who am I to teach others? Am I really an

expert? Really? The biggest thing I see

people grappling with is the showing off part,

the bragging. They feel like when they share something, it

is bragging. Okay? It is bragging

and it is not bragging. So think about it this way. When you

go and you decide on something you want to

buy or someone you want to spend your hard earned money with, or some

product you want to spend your hard earned money with, are you going to buy

it from something or someone or some company that's not

making noise. They're going to look like they're lacking in

confidence, that they don't believe in themselves. They are not really waiving. It

like, here, you need this. They're not being

boastful. And then, so why would you buy it? Because

are we going to ever believe someone that doesn't believe in themselves? Are we ever

going to want a product that is not

in our faces? No, we're not. We're not going to want that.

Okay? So I want you guys to be left

with another thought here. I have on some

certain ways that if we're not out

there, what does that mean? What are the ramifications

of that? Like? What then in turn happens?

And it's not something that is

necessarily going to mean that you're going to go

out of business. Okay? You're not going to go out of business from that.

However, your business is going to thrive less than

it would have. That is for certain. Because you're not going to have more

touch points. You're going to have less relationships that you could have

built along the way because people would have been attracted to

you and what you had to offer and wanted to get to know you more

and then more collaborative opportunities would have opened up. You're

going to not be, and this is in my

opinion, the most important aspect of all of it is

you are not going to be in front of people that actually need you.

Those people that needed you to show up and show

out and tell them what you had and brag about it and make it

known so that they can know for sure

for certain in their bones that you can help them.

They're going to not be helped with your

exact solution that you had because you were holding back.

So I encourage you to just obviously you want to

follow my stuff and dive deep and go to the Holiday

Entrepreneur Summit and do all the things so you can start

working through anything that you start noticing happening. I'm going to be

talking more about this at the Holiday Entrepreneur Summit. However,

I would say for today, when you're listening to this,

don't give yourself a hard time, but think of something that

resonated for you here where you were like, maybe I

am playing this recording that was that maybe

I recognize that one sentence that she said. Or maybe it's something

else, or maybe it's actually you

were trying to and this is a little bit deep. This is a little bit

different than what we've been talking about. But this is another thing that's an internal

block for a lot of us. And it's important to talk about this

right now before I end this podcast because I can't believe I

almost missed this one. This is very big. This is a lot of us.

We had something traumatic or something that

was something that put you in survival mode at some point in

your life and you realized, oh,

it's better to not be seen because it's safer. And

if that is you listening to this, I definitely

want you to understand that that is something that's not happening

anymore. No one can get to you as far as, like

in a common thread anywhere. Get out there, be

seen. Start taking note when you know what

things are and you recognize them now. And if you have something

really important and special to offer, let people see it. Let's get out there

and let's get seen, guys.