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Crushing Internal Blocks: How Past Influences Can Hinder Your Ability to Be Seen
Episode Introduction
Welcome to another episode of GET SEEN with Leilani Wells! In today's episode, Leilani dives deep into the internal blocks that prevent us from being seen at our maximum capacity. She explores why, as business owners, we often hesitate to share our accomplishments and expertise. Leilani delves into old sayings that have influenced our mindset and offers insights into how they can hold us back from truly showcasing our skills. Additionally, she discusses the ramifications of not being seen and the missed opportunities that result from not putting ourselves out there. Throughout the episode, Leilani encourages listeners to identify their internal blocks and to start taking steps towards being seen and sharing their unique offerings. So, get ready to break through those internal barriers and get ready to be seen! It's time to dive into today's episode of GET SEEN with Leilani Wells.
"Self-Belief in Business: Because are we going to ever believe someone that doesn't believe in themselves? Are we ever going to want a product that is not in our faces? No, we're not. We're not going to want that."
— Leilani Wells
Timestamped Overview
00:00 The struggle to be seen and heard.
05:02 Fewer touch points; missed collaborative opportunities; unnoticed audience.
07:00 Trauma shapes our instinct to hide. It's changing. Be seen, share your gifts.
Main Topics
1. The internal blocks that prevent us from being seen
- The subconscious nature of these blocks stemming from our past
- The influence of societal sayings and beliefs on our visibility
- Feeling not good enough or lacking value
- Imposter syndrome and questioning our expertise
- The fear of showing off and bragging
- The impact of not being seen on our business
2. The importance of overcoming internal blocks for visibility
- Building relationships and collaborative opportunities
- Reaching the people who need our offerings
- Thriving and maximizing our business potential
3. Addressing trauma and survival mode as an internal block
- The belief that not being seen is safer
- The importance of recognizing and overcoming this block
- Encouragement to be seen and let people see our special offerings
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Transcripts
Hey there. Welcome to another episode of Get Seen with Leilani Wells diving right
Speaker:in. Excited to share about my thoughts on
Speaker:being seen and visibility what the root cause of that is of us not
Speaker:being seen at our maximum capacity of why it is
Speaker:when we are business owners and we're choosing a life where
Speaker:we are pouring into a passion, something that's near and dear to us,
Speaker:something that we know that people need to see why we're not sharing it and
Speaker:screaming off rooftop. Rooftops, right. Why we're not doing
Speaker:everything to be seen to market it, do all the things at all times. And
Speaker:I'm not speaking about the part that is actually exhausting, right?
Speaker:Like the part that we are tired, we are doing a lot of things
Speaker:and yet another post has to get up and it's time consuming. I'm speaking to
Speaker:when we do have the time and we do have the energy and we are
Speaker:excited about it. Those times when your finger is ready to press send on an
Speaker:important post and you're holding yourself back because there's stuff coming
Speaker:up inside. That's the part of it that I'm speaking to today. And so what
Speaker:I wanted to address is there's a lot of internal blocks that cause this and
Speaker:they're internal blocks that stem from typically our past,
Speaker:as with any internal blocks, right. Anything that comes up that
Speaker:we're hesitant and we don't know how to place it, we
Speaker:don't know what to put a name on, we don't know where to go. We
Speaker:don't know how to fix something that's coming up because we really don't
Speaker:know how to name it. Right? And it's because a lot of that stuff is
Speaker:subconscious from our past. And so I'm going to just kind of go
Speaker:through some random sayings so it kind of starts to connect. So
Speaker:don't toot your own horn, okay? That was a saying
Speaker:back in the day, don't toot your own horns horn. So it's telling
Speaker:you don't share your accomplishments. So we're
Speaker:literally being told not to share our accomplishments. And then as a
Speaker:business owner, now we have to do what? Turn around and share
Speaker:our accomplishments so people can see that we're confident in ourselves,
Speaker:we know what we're doing, and then they can in turn be
Speaker:impacted positively by our offerings. So
Speaker:we have to get past that block sometimes. And then there's another saying.
Speaker:Oh, no one knows it all. So that's implying your
Speaker:expertise is like arrogant or annoying or quit showing
Speaker:off. Right? That's another saying. Or who do you think you are?
Speaker:Or how about this one? Children should be seen and not
Speaker:heard. Children should be seen and not heard. It's so interesting
Speaker:about this. We're grown now, so what does that mean? We should be heard? Yes,
Speaker:but also, business is playful. You can
Speaker:be very childlike in business, right? You can really explore the dreams
Speaker:you had as a child. So there's kind of like that tug, push, pull
Speaker:there, right? And then if you don't have anything nice to
Speaker:say, don't say anything at all. So now you're like, I'm not being
Speaker:mean, but maybe I should not
Speaker:say this because it's going to rock the boat. Certain things
Speaker:like that don't get a big head. So there's so many things we're
Speaker:being told throughout the years telling us
Speaker:to zip it, to zip it. And I mean, I can go on
Speaker:and on, but I think we get the picture now.
Speaker:Okay, so what is going to cause
Speaker:what's going to be happening when this stuff comes
Speaker:up, literally? What should we be looking for?
Speaker:And when we're looking at ourselves, we're
Speaker:thinking maybe we're not good enough.
Speaker:We maybe don't have anything valuable to share.
Speaker:Who am I to teach others? Am I really an
Speaker:expert? Really? The biggest thing I see
Speaker:people grappling with is the showing off part,
Speaker:the bragging. They feel like when they share something, it
Speaker:is bragging. Okay? It is bragging
Speaker:and it is not bragging. So think about it this way. When you
Speaker:go and you decide on something you want to
Speaker:buy or someone you want to spend your hard earned money with, or some
Speaker:product you want to spend your hard earned money with, are you going to buy
Speaker:it from something or someone or some company that's not
Speaker:making noise. They're going to look like they're lacking in
Speaker:confidence, that they don't believe in themselves. They are not really waiving. It
Speaker:like, here, you need this. They're not being
Speaker:boastful. And then, so why would you buy it? Because
Speaker:are we going to ever believe someone that doesn't believe in themselves? Are we ever
Speaker:going to want a product that is not
Speaker:in our faces? No, we're not. We're not going to want that.
Speaker:Okay? So I want you guys to be left
Speaker:with another thought here. I have on some
Speaker:certain ways that if we're not out
Speaker:there, what does that mean? What are the ramifications
Speaker:of that? Like? What then in turn happens?
Speaker:And it's not something that is
Speaker:necessarily going to mean that you're going to go
Speaker:out of business. Okay? You're not going to go out of business from that.
Speaker:However, your business is going to thrive less than
Speaker:it would have. That is for certain. Because you're not going to have more
Speaker:touch points. You're going to have less relationships that you could have
Speaker:built along the way because people would have been attracted to
Speaker:you and what you had to offer and wanted to get to know you more
Speaker:and then more collaborative opportunities would have opened up. You're
Speaker:going to not be, and this is in my
Speaker:opinion, the most important aspect of all of it is
Speaker:you are not going to be in front of people that actually need you.
Speaker:Those people that needed you to show up and show
Speaker:out and tell them what you had and brag about it and make it
Speaker:known so that they can know for sure
Speaker:for certain in their bones that you can help them.
Speaker:They're going to not be helped with your
Speaker:exact solution that you had because you were holding back.
Speaker:So I encourage you to just obviously you want to
Speaker:follow my stuff and dive deep and go to the Holiday
Speaker:Entrepreneur Summit and do all the things so you can start
Speaker:working through anything that you start noticing happening. I'm going to be
Speaker:talking more about this at the Holiday Entrepreneur Summit. However,
Speaker:I would say for today, when you're listening to this,
Speaker:don't give yourself a hard time, but think of something that
Speaker:resonated for you here where you were like, maybe I
Speaker:am playing this recording that was that maybe
Speaker:I recognize that one sentence that she said. Or maybe it's something
Speaker:else, or maybe it's actually you
Speaker:were trying to and this is a little bit deep. This is a little bit
Speaker:different than what we've been talking about. But this is another thing that's an internal
Speaker:block for a lot of us. And it's important to talk about this
Speaker:right now before I end this podcast because I can't believe I
Speaker:almost missed this one. This is very big. This is a lot of us.
Speaker:We had something traumatic or something that
Speaker:was something that put you in survival mode at some point in
Speaker:your life and you realized, oh,
Speaker:it's better to not be seen because it's safer. And
Speaker:if that is you listening to this, I definitely
Speaker:want you to understand that that is something that's not happening
Speaker:anymore. No one can get to you as far as, like
Speaker:in a common thread anywhere. Get out there, be
Speaker:seen. Start taking note when you know what
Speaker:things are and you recognize them now. And if you have something
Speaker:really important and special to offer, let people see it. Let's get out there
Speaker:and let's get seen, guys.
