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Episode 7112th December 2021 • She Coaches Coaches • Candy Motzek
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We all know that we should practice gratitude, (big emphasis on the should) but if you're anything like me sometimes I just get busy and then I forget even though I know how important it is.

This episode shares a fast, practical and down-to-earth way to increase your appreciation and intentionally build an easy gratitude practice.

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Welcome to she coaches coaches. I'm your host,

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Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the clarity,

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confidence and courage to become the coach that you are meant to

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be. If you're a new coach, or if you've always wanted to be a

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life coach, then this is the place for you. We're going to

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talk all about mindset and strategies and how to, because

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step by step only works when you have the clarity, courage and

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confidence to take action. Let's get started. Hi, there, and

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welcome to this episode. I'm so glad you're here. Today, we're

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gonna talk about gratitude. Now, I know, you probably hear a lot

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about gratitude. And sometimes we get kind of hardened about it

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might even sound something like this. Yeah, yeah, I know, I

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should be more grateful. But gratitude is truthfully, one of

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the biggest and most powerful emotions that you can Kindle to

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make a positive impact on yourself. And on the world

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around us. Here are three quotes. The first, gratitude is

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a powerful catalyst for happiness. It's the spark that

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lights of fire of joy in your soul. And that's by Amy

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Collette. The second quote, gratitude makes sense of our

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pasts brings peace for today, and creates a vision for

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tomorrow. Melody Beatty. And the third, when I started counting

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my blessings, my whole life turned around is by Willie

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Nelson. And I think that last one, I think that's my favorite

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quote, let me read it to you again. When I started counting

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my blessings, my whole life turned around. So lots of times

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when you start or have a gratitude practice, you might do

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something like this, every night, write three things that

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you're grateful for. And it starts off well enough. But

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then, after a while, you kind of go on automatic pilot, and

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you're sort of like a robot. And you repeat essentially the same

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things over and over every night. It met, it sounds

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something like this. I'm grateful for my house, my family

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and my home, you're kind of check in the box. I'm grateful

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for x, y, z. And there is a way to easily make your gratitude

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practice more meaningful, less robot like and more intentional.

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And, in fact, this way, intentionally increases how

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grateful you feel. Now, before we dive in, I don't want to run

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away without telling you how thankful I am for you. You take

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the time to listen to these episodes. And I'm grateful that

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you tune in each and every week, and listen to my voice. Listen

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to my words. And I want you to know, each time I record an

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episode, I send up a little prayer that my words help you.

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And so thanks, I created some free screensavers. And they're

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available for you right now, when you sign up for my free

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coaches Online Business Academy. It's the vault that stores all

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kinds of great resources to help coaches. And in there, those

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graphics, I made them in Canva, you can put them on your phone

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for your homescreen they are a super helpful way to remind

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yourself of some powerful thoughts and quotes that really

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resonate with you. And they're going to improve your day. I

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know that every time I look at my phone, it's that reminder of

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who I am becoming and the difference that I'm making. So

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now let me go back to this gratitude practice. So this is

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specifically how I recommend you fine tune your gratitude. Take a

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few minutes right now. And think of those things that you're

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grateful for. Pause the audio if you need to, and come back to me

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when you're done. All right. Did you do it great. Now if you're

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like many of us, you voiced thoughts, something like this. I

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am thankful for my family, my kids, my partner, my home my

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job. And while these are all important things, these are what

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I would call like top level or more of like a surface level

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form of gratitude. And what I'd encourage you to do is take one

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of those things and narrow it down down, take it down to

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something super specific. And then to begin to list all the

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small reasons that you are grateful. Here's what I mean.

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And I wanted to give you an example. So when I think I'm

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grateful for my kids, there's no specificity, specificity, sorry,

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it's a tongue twister. There's no specificity. Obviously, I

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can't get that one. But that's okay.

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It's a global statement. And I don't really connect at the

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heart level, because I have more than one child, and they're sort

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of blended together. But when I think this instead, and I get

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specific, I think I am thankful for my son. He is such a kind

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man, he is always willing to help others. The environment is

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important to him. And he shows it in the way he grows

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vegetables, and 10s the earth to reduce his impact on the

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climate. He is smart, and he's always learning and sharing what

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he learns with me. He is a loving person. And I love seeing

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him relate to his wife. Do you see how I've added so much

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detail? And I bet you can hear it in my voice to the depth of

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emotion, and love and gratitude that I created in just 10

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seconds. Now you try it. Take one of those top level things

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that you listed the first time you pause the audio. And I want

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you to go deep and specific, instead of going wide instead of

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my kids or my home, go deep and specific with one thing. What

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exactly are you grateful in relationship to that one person,

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keep adding those fine details. And you'll notice how fast your

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appreciation grows. This is the way to grow your feeling of

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gratitude and appreciation. Go specific and go deep. Now,

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because I like to speak with coaches, let me ask you to

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consider this. Well, when you're looking at your coaching

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business, do you find that you see all the places where it's

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just not quite enough? Either you don't have enough clients,

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you're not creating enough sample sessions, you aren't

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making enough money? Or even maybe you feel like you're not

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making enough impact. Realize that the more you focus on the

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not enoughness. Yeah, I know that's not really a word. But

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you understand what I'm saying here. When you focus on not

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having enough, it creates more of the same. For example, if any

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of these are common thoughts for you, I just don't have enough

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clients, or I've only got three clients, or it's not fair. Jane

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has 10 clients and I only have four, you are unintentionally

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reminding yourself that you feel insufficient, you probably feel

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disappointed and discouraged. And what do you do when you feel

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discouraged? Well, if you're like me, you probably compare

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what you have with what others have. And you think about how

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you should have more and how it's not fair. You obsess about

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the people that said no thanks. I'm not interested in coaching.

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You look on social media at people who you think are doing

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better than you. And you feel even worse. You might even force

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yourself to go out and do something like cold calls or

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something like that. And here's what you probably don't do when

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you're feeling discouraged. I bet you don't pick up the phone

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and text someone and just wish them well. You don't create more

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really helpful resources to help your current clients. Any of

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these sound familiar? Yeah, I thought so. So what's the result

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of that? You've spent all this time comparing instead of

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creating value for more clients. So guess what, you still don't

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have enough clients. Now since this episode is about gratitude,

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I want to circle back to this. And if this sounds like you, try

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this instead, write the names of the clients that you do have on

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a piece of paper and think of each of them individually.

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Remember, go deep and specific, not wide. Think about how

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interesting and amazing they are. And think of how they've

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grown and how much you enjoy speaking with them, how much you

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enjoy laughing with them, and how thankful you are to be part

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of their life. Now, you might be in the position where you don't

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have any clients just yet. Don't worry, they are coming. You

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could modify by this activity by writing down thoughts about how

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much you enjoy coaching, places where you've grown as a coach,

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and as an individual, how much learning about coaching and

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practicing coaching has improved your life, essentially giving

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thanks for this pass that you are on. Do this regularly. And

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you'll notice how much more you are enjoying the clients that

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you have those ones that you're already talking to. And you will

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naturally create more. When you feel better, more grateful, more

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on purpose, it's only natural for you to show up in new ways,

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in a way that looks like a smile, like an open, welcoming

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attitude. A way that means that it's easy to offer to help

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people and perhaps even invite them from that happy and genuine

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place to try coaching. And when you show up from a place of

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appreciation and gratitude, people want to spend more time

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with you. You know what that's like, if you go to a get

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together. And there is one person that is just a happy, joy

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filled, loving human, we all want to be close to them. You

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practice your gratitude, and you are going to become more and

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more like that person, but with your own vibe, your own flavor

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more unique to you. So no matter what area we're talking about,

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if you're focused on having not enough, you will always create

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more not enough. And when you focus on appreciation for what

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you do have, you will create even more clients to fill your

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calendar. So let's wrap it up. Here's your takeaway from this

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episode, cultivate a little bit of gratitude every day, spend

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five minutes each evening, and you're gonna find that your life

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is transformed from the inside out. And remember the secret, go

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deep and specific, not wide and surface. And you're going to

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find that the gratitude is so much more intense. So let me

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find tell you a couple more things. I want you to know, like

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I said earlier how much I appreciate that you come and

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listen to these episodes. And I would so appreciate it if you

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would share it with your friends and family to thank you for

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helping me to share these concepts so we can create a

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lasting positive impact. I'm honored to invite you to be part

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of my community too. And if you're ready to get started,

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come sign up for the coaches Online Business Academy. That is

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my free resource library. It's there waiting for you 24/7. And

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you get to download the download those free screensavers too. And

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if you're ready for even more help, maybe you've had enough of

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doing yourself trial and error, feeling discouraged, and you

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want to work more closely with me. Click the link in the

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Episode Notes to find out how to apply to work with me.

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I'll be back and speak with you again. Next. Thanks again for

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