When you might be about to crash into a wall the last thing you should do is look at the wall. It's counterintuitive but looking away from what concerns you is the best way to avoid it. The more we pay attention to what we dont want, then the more likely we are to get it. In today's episode I want to talk with you about why we need tp far more attention to what we do want rather than what we dont.

Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan, with you once again for the daily message,

I don't know what to call this anymore.

There it's a daily podcast.

Uh, putting it out here now on YouTube.

It's on the website as well.

So just want to, every single day brings some blessing to everybody.

That's listening.

Want to bring you some encouragement or just want to bring you one little idea?

Why?

Because my entire life I've had to battle most of this stuff myself,

and I've got to work so hard every day, just to keep a positive,

productive forward facing mindset.

So I teach this stuff, not because.

I've mastered it because I need to hear it every single day.

So I've maybe if it's only just me watching a listing,

I'd still keep doing it.

But, uh, I hope this is a blessing to you now, today.

I want to talk a little bit about focus.

I want to talk a bit about where we place our cognitive mental

energy, our imaginative focus.

I just read a few things yesterday that really resonated with.

I think when I looked in my own life over years, you know, for

a long time in my life, I was kind of not where I wanted to be.

I mean, we never get there.

Right.

We're always approximating and heaven is home.

So this is a journey.

None of us are going to have some point where we suddenly go, yes, I've made it.

This is everything I ever could have wanted right here.

Perfect.

So we're on this journey, but I realized that for many years I was writing

goals and, and I felt that I had class.

But I wasn't getting where I wanted to be.

And I want to tell you how I sort of began to get a shift in life.

I want to offer this to you today.

I realized that I was falling into the classic trap that you do hear a lot about

in personal development thinking, which is the focusing in, on what you don't want.

Now we can write goals and we can say, you know, Jonathan,

I write goals and I go, yeah.

So do I, or so.

But what we often tend to focus on is what's not working well.

We often tend to find focused on is the scarcity and the lack

and the things that are missing.

There's a reason we do that.

We've actually got evolved to do it.

You see positivity and optimism and not our default settings, you know, regular

listeners just know are always, I'm talking about this because this aspect of

evolutionary psychology is so crucial and we can change our thinking, but we have

to do it from the basis of knowing the kind of hard genetic wiring that nature

has put into us as a school species.

And that wiring is all about survival and.

You know, back in caveman times, the people that survived were

not really the optimist, right?

The ones that launched the boats out to discover new places, usually drowned and

got killed in storms right now, a couple of them made it, but most of them didn't

the ones that explored new territories usually, uh, got eaten or shot or killed.

I read this great quote, recent, I can't quite remember the exact phrasing, but

it was like, you know, uh, pioneers get killed, settlers, get rich.

I think it was, you know, the explorers that go out there and open up new

territory usually end up dead eventually.

But the ones that come after them and settle in those spaces that they've

discovered tend to do really well.

So there's this evolutionary bias against optimism and against

daring and against positive.

Sounds crazy.

Doesn't it often like to say that, uh, you know, do we always

want to be positive all the time?

And I say, well, not quite because you don't want an

optimistic airline pilot, right?

You want your airline pilot to be a pessimist.

You want them to assume that the worst might happen.

So as we go through life, You know, we, we find that there's this subtle balancing

act between recognizing the difficult, hard things in life while also looking

towards the future, what we do want.

But I think what I did for many years was I'd be wanting to change something, but

I'd be focusing on what wasn't working.

I'd be focusing on the lack on the scarcity, on the thing that I didn't have.

And that of course, leads to worry and anxiety.

I think that I'm really at the position now where you don't get the

breakthrough, you don't get the growth.

If you're focused hard on what you don't have.

So there's this kind of ability that we have a suspension of belief.

We need to look away from the reality sometimes and look very clearly

towards what we do want now to do that.

I want to give you a quote.

So let's go, it's a quote from Tony Robbins.

I really like it.

So let me share that with you.

He says one reason.

So few of us achieve what we really want is that we never direct our focus.

We never concentrate our power.

Most people dabble their way through life.

Never deciding to master anything in particular.

All right.

I love some of the keywords in that people dabbling their way through life.

You know, a little bit of effort here, a little bit of effort there,

and maybe they look into this.

Maybe they're looking at that.

They drift along, right?

So many of us can do that.

We drift, he's telling us that if you want something different, if

I want something different, what's necessary, extraordinary focus, focus.

So earlier today I was reading some, uh, some stuff on.

Macro finance again, and the concentration that I need to bring to it.

And even being here in the studio, the desire to just be focused, to

be present, to be trying to bring you something energetic and useful.

We got to become masters, not dabblers.

We need to use our focus in ways that service, not in ways that

pull us away from things, right.

We want to be focusing on what we do.

So Karen and I got a whole bunch of goals we're working on at the moment and

you got to become a different person.

You actually have to become somebody that just goes, you know what?

I'm not looking at the present reality I'm done with that.

I'm not looking at all the bad stuff from the past.

I am genuinely focused now on what's in front of me.

I'm going after the future.

And there seems to be this inexorable law of the universe, that the

more that you stay energized and focused on what you do want.

I don't ever think I'd say these words, but, but the more that it tends to come

towards you, I know some of you are going to go, Jonathan, you're sounding a lot.

Like you just read the secret.

I don't know what to tell you.

I just don't know.

Here's the question.

How do you.

Do you want to leave life focused on all the bad stuff that's happened?

Do you want to live your life focused on everything that's

missing in your life right now?

Or do you want to live your life focused on what you want?

I mean, you've got to make that choice.

So even if I don't.

I'm just going to take the shot.

You see, after I get out of the studio here got a three hour training ride

because on October 3rd, I've got a 255 kilometer race with 5,000 meters

of vertical climbing on the bike.

Right.

So now when I do that race, it'll be the toughest race I've ever done.

And I'm pretty sure I'll finish it.

Right.

My fitness is good and I've got the history for it.

But even if I did it, would it be worth having the shot?

Absolutely.

You know, where's my focus, my focus right now.

Isn't alcohol.

Gosh, I hope I can make it.

My focus is on the training.

My focus is on the outcome, so whatever you want to be different.

Same thing.

Don't focus on what could go wrong.

I mean, you make practical, uh, you practically look at issues.

You go, well, you know, what about this?

What about that?

What if this goes wrong?

Should it be practical, reasonably practical, but practical people don't tend

to get all that they want out of life.

Practical people tend to do there.

It's important to be practical to a degree.

But, uh, I remember Christine Kane talking about this idea of, um,

holy discontent, holy discontent.

Cause some people like we should just be satisfied with your life.

You know, God's given you life.

You'd just be happy with whoever you've got.

Sure.

I'm happy with what I got, but that doesn't mean that I have to

be completely comfortable with it that I can't want something else.

All right.

So let's wrap up folks.

You got to focus on what you do want, not what you don't want and when

that part of your brain starts to go.

Yeah.

But, but, but, but, but, but, but you don't listen to that part.

If I've developed one skill in the last decade, it's the ability

to stop listening to myself.

I should do a whole message on that.

A lot of the time, you don't want to listen to yourself a lot of the time,

your brain and your psyche is not helping.

It's just like, thank you enough.

We're good.

I'm just going to keep thinking this.

I'm going to keep going this way.

All right.

So focus in on what you do.

One stop focusing on what you do.

Hope that's useful.

I'm going to keep doing that.

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