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Tips & Talk 94 – Ignore the “What If’s”
21st December 2022 • Gift Biz Unwrapped • Sue Monhait
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I have a story for you about a friend I met years ago through the Chamber of Commerce. You’ll be as surprised as I was when I tell you. After this event I'm going to share with you, Alan could have kept looking back and wondering what his life would have been like if he’d made a different choice. Did he? Nope! Alan demonstrates 3 solid life lessons based on his experience and where he is today. Good things for us all to reflect on and learning to take into our futures.

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Hi there,

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it's Sue and thanks for joining me for Tips and Talk

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and things that I'm observing in the world of handmade small

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Prompted by all the questions on how I do this,

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I went about finding a way to help you perform at

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It's story time.

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I wanna introduce you to a friend of mine who I

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met through my local Chamber of Commerce.

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We've known each other for years now and have shared many

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personal and business stories throughout this time.

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To me,

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it's always so fascinating how interesting people's pasts can be,

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but these stories only come out when you get to a

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certain level of friendship and are in the right environment.

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At one of our chamber,

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after our events whine in hand,

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one conversation led to another with my friend Alan and his

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late wife Jeanie.

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We got into reminiscing about surprising stories from our past.

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All three of us were trying to one up each other

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by sharing things you'd never expect based on who we are

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today. It was such a fun conversation and full of amazing

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revelations. I talked about being known as the Sunday Night prankster

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in college,

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my venture into cow tipping and being an NFL cheerleader.

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You can hear all about this last one back in tips

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and talk episode 78 if you're curious.

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But Alan,

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hands down had the best story of the night.

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He shared how when he was younger,

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he was a full on hippie and played in a rock

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band. He even pulled out his phone and showed me a

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picture as confirmation.

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Oh my gosh,

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my friend Alan,

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this buttoned down,

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highly professional guy,

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transformed from what I saw in this photo.

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Unbelievable and worth more than a few laughs and teasing,

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of course.

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Anyway, the best part of this story is yet to come.

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Obviously, I wanna know more about the band and what happened

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to him from there,

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and this is the really crazy part.

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We talked about his life in the band.

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I've forgotten now what it was called at that time,

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but as you can imagine,

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there were dynamics with the band members investing a lot of

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time without making much money,

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and he was losing interest and questioning whether he wanted to

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continue down this path.

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The breaking point was when the lead band member told them

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about the next song that they were going to add to

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their playlist.

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It was called,

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does anybody really Know what Time it is?

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Yes, this song,

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does anybody really know what time it is?

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Alan was like,

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this is the stupidest sounding title I ever heard,

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and that was the last straw for him.

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He left the group.

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Now, for those of you where this doesn't ring a bell,

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the song,

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does anybody really know what time it is,

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was the song that put the band Chicago in the spotlight

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and on the map of stardom,

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record deals,

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tours, the whole works,

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but not including Alan.

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He had already left the band and went on to have

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a very successful law career,

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so I asked,

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do you ever reflect back on what could have been if

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you didn't leave the band?

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Honestly, I've forgotten now what his answer was to that question,

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but I do remember his follow up.

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He said,

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if I had stayed in that band,

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I may not have ever married Genie the love of my

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life or had a family or a stable life here in

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the suburbs or built my legal career.

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I have no regrets,

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and I know this to be true.

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To know Alan is to see his passion for the life

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he leads and all the good and joy he extends to

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those around him.

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Now, why did I take this whole podcast episode to tell

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you this story?

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Because there are some valuable lessons to take away.

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First, if you're questioning your current situation because it's not fulfilling

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anymore, it's okay and you should make a change.

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Maybe it's making adjustments or completely switching it up.

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Making a decision is always better than in decision,

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even if your decision is to revisit the issue in a

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few months.

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Second, once a decision is made,

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an action taken,

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keep your eyes moving forward.

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Looking back is great for learning and being wiser as you

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continue on,

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but looking back and wishing things could have been different is

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defeatist. We can't change the past.

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Focusing unproductive energy on what could have been isn't helpful,

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and as I see it is a waste of time when

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you could be creating an even more beautiful future and finally

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live without regrets.

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Just like Alan says,

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if we're lucky we get many days on this earth,

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of course we're going to make choices during this time that

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hindsight were mistakes or a different choice might have led to

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a really great outcome.

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Don't you wish you had the wisdom you have today when

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you were in your early twenties?

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I know I do,

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but that's not how life works.

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And now when it comes to business,

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I've observed in myself and others that it has a way

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of taking over our lives.

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We all need to remember that our business doesn't define who

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we are and is only one part of our life.

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We tend to stay in unfulfilling spaces too long.

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We often fear the risk of change.

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Sometimes the known is more comfortable,

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even if it's not making us happy because change is too

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scary. As a new year approaches and it naturally feels like

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a time for analysis and adjustment,

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I urge you to reflect on where you are and be

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bold in moving forward in a new way.

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You already intuitively know if there's an area of your life

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that calls for improvement,

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no regrets and no more waiting.

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It's time to make the change.

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That's a wrap.

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I'm a get to the point kind of girl,

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and this is what you can expect from these quick midweek

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sessions. Now it's your turn.

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Go out and fulfill that dream of yours.

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