In this episode I discuss the challenges of dealing with self-doubt and how to build belief in oneself. Drawing from personal experiences and client interactions, I elaborate on the brain's tendency to resist change and default to negativity.

Daily practices like journaling and intentional thinking to manage emotions and build self-trust are key to help us overcome ourselves and create whatever it is we truly want.

The doubt will always be there. We have to learn the tools and skills to manage our mind.

The only thing between you and what you want is your mind.

01:31 The Challenge of Building Belief

02:06 Understanding the Human Brain

04:23 Daily Practices for Overcoming Doubt

06:34 Taking Action and Building Self-Trust

08:42 Managing Negativity and Comparison

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Welcome to This Daring Adventure podcast,

where we work on bridging the gap between

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where we are and where we want to be in

order to live a bigger and bolder life.

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In this podcast, we will provide

inspiration, tips, and skills

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you need to make your life the

adventure you want it to be.

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Here's your host mindset mentor,

and life coach Trista Guertin.

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Trista: Hey everybody, welcome

back to This Daring Adventure.

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I'm your host Trista Guertin,

master certified coach, and I have

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to say it's been a rough week.

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I had a cold, I was in bed for a couple of

days, and then I've had a migraine for a

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couple of days, so I'm at the tail end of.

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Thursday now the day that the podcast is

supposed to come out and I really haven't

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had a chance To do this before but at

least i'm feeling a bit better tonight.

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So this will get out And i'm looking

forward to having a Nice weekend

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now that I've survived the week.

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I'm looking forward also to going back

to Canada in July for a visit, so I'm

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just in the process of planning that.

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And then moving back to

Canada at the end of the year.

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I'm quite excited about that too.

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Anyway, today is going to be a short but

sweet video or it's going to be short and

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sweet on the topic of building belief.

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I had a client call last week and she

asked me, when does this, the doubt

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and like, when do we get over this?

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When do we end it basically, and

I said never, ever goes away.

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As long as you have a human brain, you

have that primitive part of your brain

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that is seeking pleasure, avoiding

pain, and trying to be as efficient

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as possible and it hates to do work.

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It hates to learn anything new.

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It hates change.

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It's trying to protect you.

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It's going to use fear.

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It's going to be scanning for problems.

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It's going to default to the negative.

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And when you set out to go after a

new goal, your dreams, A new project,

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to learn anything new, to start a

new job, find a new relationship,

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it doesn't matter what it is.

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Your brain is going to tell you no,

it's a bad idea, no, you can't do

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this, no, it's too late, no, it's

too hard, I don't have what it takes.

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So these are all things that go through

my mind regularly, especially when

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you're first starting out, starting,

like when I was starting out as a new

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coach, when I was starting my business,

when I was starting my podcast, when I

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was starting on social media it really

didn't matter what it was all the time.

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I thought what I was doing was terrible.

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It wasn't helpful.

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Nobody was going to listen to it.

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Nobody was going to buy it.

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Nobody, was going to like it, it was

just crap and I had to work through

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that and there was a lot of discomfort,

a lot of discomfort and it's something

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that you just have to be aware of

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first of all, that this is

how your brain operates.

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This is what it offers you.

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Nothing has gone wrong.

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It's completely normal and in

fact it should be expected.

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And that you have to spend the time

and the cognitive energy to overcome

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it and to manage yourself through it.

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And this is truly a daily practice.

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And what I do is journal and write

down what I'm thinking and understand

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if there are any emotions like strong

emotions attached to it, allowing and

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processing some of those emotions.

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then consciously and intentionally

choosing thoughts that change that emotion

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to certainty and determination and belief.

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And it's not something

that happens overnight.

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You don't go from I don't have what

it takes to rainbows and daisies,

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and I'm slaying this and that's okay.

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it's a process, but it does work.

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And every day, bit by bit, you keep

doing the work and it makes a difference.

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It's like learning any other skill.

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It's like building new muscle.

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You don't go to the gym one time

and say, that's it, I'm done.

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I've got the muscles that I want.

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And you don't brush your

teeth once and say, that's it.

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My teeth are clean.

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I don't have to do it again.

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you don't weed your garden once and

say, that's it, the weeds are gone,

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so I never have to do that again.

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It's the same sort of idea.

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And I think we need to get over that idea

that we should be better at this, that it

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shouldn't be happening, that, we should

know better that we shouldn't have to

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deal with this because it's just a fact.

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It's just the way our brain is.

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And as long as you have a human brain,

that's what it's going to offer you.

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Now, there's going to be some discomfort,

especially at the beginning, especially

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when you're first starting out, when

you're doing the work, when you are

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consciously paying attention to your

thinking, getting clear on what's

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not serving you, what's not helpful.

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And then being intentional,

choosing new thoughts.

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it will become easier and you

will start to build that belief.

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And when you start to have those thoughts

that create a feeling of certainty and

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determination, then you start to take

the action that you need to take in

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order to create the result that you want.

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your brain will hate this.

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your brain will rebel and your

brain will keep saying no.

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And you know what I've had to do,

if I put, if I produce a podcast

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episode and I keep thinking it's

crap, I don't want to put it out.

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I have to take a step back

and try and be objective.

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Okay, are there things that

really need to be fixed?

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Or is it B plus work that can

be released into the world?

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Because I have to overcome that

tendency to hold myself back and play

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it safe and just put it out there

because I know putting it out there

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is what moves me forward towards my

goal towards creating what I want.

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over time, as I do this, the more I

do it, the more work I do, the more

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I show up, the more I keep taking

the action, and we talk about massive

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action, which is just continuing to

take action until you reach your goal.

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Then I start to develop self trust and I

believe that I'm going to be able to do it

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when all that negativity and

doubt and discomfort comes up.

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When you start a new goal, when

you go after your dreams, when you.

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Create a new life for yourself

when you start a new job or

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go after a new relationship.

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You're doing it right.

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What happens is all that stuff comes

up for us and we think that we're,

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something's gone wrong, that we're

doing it wrong, but that's not the case.

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You're right on track if that's what's

happening for you, and then you just

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have to do the work to clean it up.

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And oftentimes what we do

is we compare and despair.

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We look at others and we believe that

they don't experience those thoughts

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that they didn't have to deal with this,

that they've somehow figured it out.

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But it's not true.

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They are experiencing the same

doubts, the same thinking, the

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same fear and have overcome it.

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the work that we do in coaching

teaches you those tools.

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It teaches you those skills of

overcoming yourself, managing your

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mind, managing your emotions, in

order to create what it is you want.

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And the more you work on that

belief, the more cognitive energy

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you invest and time that you invest

in building that belief in yourself,

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the greater your self trust becomes.

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think about that thing

that you want to do.

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Why don't you trust yourself to do it?

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What comes up for you?

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What's the thoughts?

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What is your brain offering you?

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And that's the work that you need to do.

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That's what you need to work on.

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You need to clean up your thinking

every single day, just like you brush

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your teeth, just like you weed your

garden, just like you go to the gym.

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You have a human brain and you

will never be done cleaning it up.

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So do the work, build that

belief step by step, bit by bit.

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You're never one and done.

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journal, write it out.

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Take a look at what is actually a fact.

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what's all the drama that your brain is

adding a fact has to be something you can

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prove in a court of law it's so if it's a

podcast episode for me the facts would be

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I've recorded a podcast episode that is

seven minutes long The rest is all drama.

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The rest is all drama that my brain

is adding whether I sound good

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whether it makes sense whether it's

Enough time, whether it's interesting

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enough, whether it's helpful, all

of that stuff is just in my head.

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So you cannot listen to the drama.

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You cannot listen to everything that your

brain tells you and take it on board.

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You have to choose what is helpful,

what is not, what do you want to

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think intentionally that's going

to help you to move you forward.

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Do the work every single day.

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And if you miss a day or two,

it's okay to start again.

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Start where you are and begin again and

you will become better at that as well.

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That's something that I've learned.

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I've noticed that I think, once we

miss a few days, we tend to think

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there's no point in starting again.

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And you have to, and it takes too

much energy to get back to it and

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why bother, but I promise you, you

have to get back to it and it's okay.

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You haven't lost anything.

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Just start again.

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The only thing between you and

what you want is your mind.

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And if you can learn how to overcome

yourself, overcome that doubt,

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overcome all of the drama that

your brain offers you, that's how

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you create the life that you want.

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If you want to learn more, there's

a link to my calendar in the show

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notes, join me for a consultation.

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Learn about my new six week

jumpstart program to building a

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better relationship with yourself.

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I also offer a three

month get unstuck program.

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I teach you all of the skills and tools

that you need to approach problems

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differently in your life and to create

whatever it is you truly want and become

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the person that you want to become.

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It's life changing.

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Coaching changes lives.

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I hope to see you soon.

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Take care everybody.

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Bye bye.

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Thank you for listening to

This Daring Adventure podcast

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with your host Trista Guertin.

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We hope you enjoyed the tips

and conversations on how to

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get excited about life again.

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As always, you can head to

tristaguertin.com for additional resources

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and to book a one on one coaching session.

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