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TSW Short: How to Use Nostalgia to Better Connect with Others
Episode 15816th August 2023 • This Shit Works • Julie Brown
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By definition nostalgia is a sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past, typically for a period or place with happy personal associations.

But nostalgia is also a highly social emotion that helps connect us to other people. Listen in to learn how nostalgia can give us more confidence and help us build better relationships.



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Some people are calling this the summer of nostalgia with Barbie adult happy

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meals, Indiana Jones, and even the transformers, all making a comeback.

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Some might also argue that it's actually the summer of no one having

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an original idea, but that's a different podcast for a different time.

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Welcome to episode 1 58 of this shit works.

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A podcast dedicated to all things, networking, relationship

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building and business development.

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I'm your host, Julie Brown.

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Speaker author and networking coach.

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And today I am discussing.

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What nostalgia is why we love it.

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And how we can use it to better connect with others.

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By definition, nostalgia is a sentimental, longing, or wistful affection for the

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past, typically for a , period, or place with happy personal associations.

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According to various studies and research conducted by Christine.

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Bacho a professor of psychology at Le Moyne college, a licensed

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psychologist and a nostalgia expert.

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Nostalgia serves a number of functions.

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In a recent interview with the American psychological association, dr.

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Bacho describes nostalgia as an emotional experience that unifies.

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She goes on to say that nostalgia by motivating us to remember the past

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in our own life helps to unite us to that authentic self and remind us of

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who we have been, and then compare that to who we feel we are today.

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Hmm.

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So that gives us a sense of who we want to be down the road in the future.

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The other way that nostalgia serves as an essential psychological function

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is that it is a highly social emotion.

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It connects us to other people.

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Ah, now we're getting somewhere.

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According to the Institute for family studies, nostalgia focuses the mind

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on what is most important for the good life family, close friends, community,

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and the rituals and traditions that help preserve a social and cultural fabric.

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Additionally across a number of studies.

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The Institute observed that after engaging in nostalgic reflection, people feel

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more socially valued, loved socially confident and optimistic about being able

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to form and maintain close relationships.

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Listen, I'm up for anything that helps people feel more socially

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confident and optimistic about building and maintaining relationships.

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And there is no better time than the summer for nostalgia.

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According to a survey done by one poll.

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The average person feels like a kid, again, four times a week in the summer

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with 54% agreeing that summer is the most nostalgic time of the year.

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I feel like that's interesting that it beats out the holidays, but anyways,

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The top reasons for summer sentimentality include a clearer, more relaxed mind

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as a result of increased time outdoors.

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Family vacations, reminding people of their own childhood trips.

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Getting to share summertime for traditions with their own family.

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And activities that help bring out people's inner child, including

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eating ice cream, going on road trips, blowing bubbles and riding a bike.

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So.

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For what precious little time we have left in the summer.

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Why not spend some of it doing these things with the people in your network

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to help you get closer, arrange a trip to a local ice cream stand, man.

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Do we have some amazing family run stands here in the Northeast, and I'm

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sure you have them where you live.

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Or rent some bikes and get out there in the fresh air with some of your

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networking friends, invite friends over to cannon ball in your pool.

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If you have one or plan and movie night, there are.

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Plenty of throwback movies to choose from.

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As a note, the day of this recording of this podcast recording

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me and my neighborhood girls.

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Are all going to the Barbie movie.

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All in pink get-ups and all ready to drink anything pink that they're serving.

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So, what do you say, can you start bringing back the nostalgia and

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start getting even more connected to the people in your network?

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I think you can.

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I think we can think about nostalgia as a way to connect better with people and

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then all that will help us think of.

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You know, more fun and interesting ways to network and reconnect.

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Okay.

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So since this is a, the church.

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I almost didn't say it right.

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This shit works short episode.

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There isn't a drink of the week.

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So just like I say, pour yourself a beer, a glass of wine, a cocktail, a

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seltzer, a mocktail, and just reach out to someone today and plan to

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put a little nostalgia in their day.

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All right, friends.

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That's all for this week.

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