Susan Ortolano was once a little girl dreaming about love, weddings, white picket fences, and a handsome guy on the white horse. After years of bad, painful relationships and a failed marriage, she discovered the real reason she hadn’t yet found true love. Through much personal growth work, she's now a happily remarried lady!
Her personal experiences along with a devastating illness inspired her to transition from award winning School Teacher to Intuitive Relationship Coach and Educator.
Susan skillfully combines her finely tuned clairvoyant skills with her coaching to teach people to master the art of successful relationships.
She is also the author of the recently released book- Remarrying Right How to create everlasting love with your true soul mate.
Personally, Susan admits to being a a hopeless romantic. She loves humor, helping others, studying spirituality and astrology.
Your outer reflection is a direct result of your inner reality.
So whatever stories, whatever programs, whatever thoughts and feelings that we carry with us, get projected outwards towards us.
When You Tripped Up
Susan’s early romantic life was not pretty. She felt like she was stuck in pattern after pattern.
Her first marriage was her trip up moment. She really learned how her outward reality was a direct reflection of her inner reality.
She married a man that did everything she was afraid a man would do to her.
Susan did not love or value herself enough and she didn’t hold good boundaries. And ended up marrying a man who cheated and lied and took money and came and went as he pleased.
This brought up so much anguish and pain for her.
She left that marriage with the realization that she had done that to herself.
The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever
After Susan’s first marriage ended, she met another guy who said “You are the greatest gal I’ve ever met, but I really don’t think I’m in love with you.”
But she convinced him to stay in the relationship. She even convinced him to propose to her.
Susan’s “Duh” moment was when she was in grad school doing a visioning exercise where they were instructed to envision their relationship with no one specific in mind. Instead just envision what she wanted.
When she created her vision of her ideal relationship she realized it did not include the guy she was with.
It was like “Duh, I created the same pattern as I had with my first husband. Just with a nicer guy.”
In that moment she decided she would rather be single the rest of her life than ever settle again. And she meant it!
This commitment opened up the world to her, and within a month she got together with her current husband. And they have been married over 15 years now.
Proudest moment in partnership
Marrying her husband is one of Susan’s proudest moments. Because it came from such a deep knowingness.
She has never felt more loved, more cherished, more cared for or more accepted in her life.
To see his eyes light up when she walks into the room is beyond words. It is the energetics that happen between the two of them.
There is what she calls an “is-ness” between them.
Rick is what she had dreamed of in a relationship. It is as good as it looks, even better.
What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?
Take ownership for every thought, feeling and experience you have.
Everything that you experience comes from something that lives within you. And you are the only one who can clear, release or heal it.
When you take ownership of your thoughts, feelings, point of view, your history, your story about a partner or about yourself you can actually heal yourself and make partnership amazing.