In episode 62 of This Daring Adventure podcast, I emphasize the importance of intentional thinking to bridge the gap between current reality and future aspirations. I explain how our thoughts create our feelings, which in turn drive our actions and lead to the results we experience.

Unconscious or default thinking leads to repetition of the past and hinders progress. I discuss overcoming limiting beliefs by choosing and reinforcing new, empowering thoughts, using practical examples and client stories. I offer tips on awareness, journaling, and thought management to break free from old patterns and achieve desired life changes. You have to manage your mind, or it will manage you.

00:31 The Power of Intentional Thinking

01:53 Breaking the Cycle of Default Thinking

04:09 The Trap of Believing Negative Thoughts

05:46 Choosing New, Empowering Thoughts

07:21 Practical Steps to Shift Your Mindset

08:24 Client Success Story: Overcoming Overwhelm

12:41 The Continuous Journey of Mind Management

17:24 My Personal Thought Practices

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Welcome to This Daring Adventure podcast,

where we work on bridging the gap between

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where we are and where we want to be in

order to live a bigger and bolder life.

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In this podcast, we will provide

inspiration, tips, and skills

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you need to make your life the

adventure you want it to be.

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Here's your host, mindset mentor

and life coach Trista Guertin.

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Trista: Hey everybody.

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Welcome to episode 62.

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Today I wanted to talk about your

thoughts and thinking thoughts on purpose.

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This is one of the most important things

I think we can do for ourselves because

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when we think on purpose, when we think

intentionally and consciously, this is

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when we start the process of creating

the results that we want, creating our

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lives, creating ourselves intentionally

on purpose and the way that we want to.

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These thoughts, the thoughts

that run through your brain every

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single day will drive your life.

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They will ultimately create Your

life yourself and whatever goal

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or result you want to achieve.

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And you've probably heard me talk before

about our thoughts, create our feelings.

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our feelings, then drive our

actions and our actions ultimately

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create the results for ourselves.

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And if you are not consciously choosing

those thoughts that create your feelings,

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that drive your actions, that create your

results, You are doing it unconsciously

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and you are doing it on default and

you are probably repeating patterns and

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you are probably repeating your past.

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Our brain loves to take the easy way

out and the easiest way out in this case

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is to repeat thoughts to take what's

happened in the past and continue to think

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about it to create experiences similar

to it, to draw conclusions based on what

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happened in the past, because it's the

easiest, the neural pathways in our brain

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already exist, so it happens very quickly

without you having to exert any energy.

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if you don't intentionally take

time to understand what thoughts are

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going through your mind on a daily

basis, and then consciously deciding

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whether you want to keep them or

whether you want to choose new ones,

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Then you are just living by default

and you are pushing the easy button.

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You're exerting low energy and

you're living based on your past.

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Instead of intentionally deciding

where you want to go, what you want to

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create, it starts with your thinking.

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It creates a feeling.

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Then it drives your action

and what we land up doing is

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creating more of the same.

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You land up living the same

day over and over again.

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You're not achieving anything new.

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You're not going to the next level.

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You're not creating a new

adventure for yourself.

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What we have to do is become

aware of those thoughts that

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are running through your mind.

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And most of the time, when I talk to

clients, they state their thoughts as if

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they are a fact, as if they are the truth.

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and that there's no debate.

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It's just a fact.

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And some of these thoughts could

be, I'm exhausted, it's too

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much, I'm not meant for this.

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There's not enough time.

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I'm stuck.

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There's nothing I can do about it.

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This is just the way I am.

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It's too late.

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I'm not good enough.

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There's too much to do.

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I'll never get it done.

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And we'll just keep repeating those.

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And we believe them.

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We believe that they are facts.

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We believe they are just the truth.

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This is the situation.

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But in fact, all of those sentences,

those thoughts that I just read out

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are just that, they're just thoughts.

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And when you think them, they will

generate an emotion in you and

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probably if you're thinking I'm

exhausted or it's too much or there's

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not enough time, it's not going to

create a very good feeling in you.

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And if you're not feeling great or good

or well, then you can imagine that the

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action that you're taking from that place

is not going to either create anything

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new or anything that is really serving you

and helping you to move to the next level.

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But the good news is that

those thoughts are optional.

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They may not feel optional, but they are.

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And it's truly one of the most

amazing revelations that we can

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have is to understand that we can

literally choose to have any thought

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we want and we can believe it.

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There are no thought police there.

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There's no limit to what

we can think and believe.

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We can choose anything.

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We can choose the thoughts that we

want to think in order to generate that

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emotion that will drive us to take the

action that we need to take in order to

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create that new results in our lives.

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And when you choose a new

thought, of course you don't have

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to go to Rainbows and daisies.

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You, you want to start with something

that feels somewhat believable that

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you can identify with, that you can

resonate with that maybe it's just a

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bit of a stretch, so you practice and

you rehearse it and you intentionally.

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It could be something like, I'm

figuring this out bit by bit, it's

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possible that I have enough time.

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It's possible that I am worthy of success.

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It's likely that if others can achieve

this goal, I can achieve it too.

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So gaining that awareness of what's

going on in your mind, it's always

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the first step you want to be

conscious of what's going through

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your mind on a regular basis.

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Journaling is always a great option,

writing down, taking five minutes,

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10 minutes, Everything that's running

through your mind, especially if

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there's a certain situation or certain

event that tends to trigger you.

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And let's say it's about

starting a business.

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You cannot get yourself to sit down and do

the work to follow through and create that

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business that you truly want for yourself.

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And so then you want to

spend a few minutes writing

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out, okay, what's coming up?

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What are the thoughts?

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What is it that is on my mind?

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That's playing on repeat day after day.

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For one of my clients recently, she

wanted to create this business for

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herself, but as a single mother with kids.

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She had two small children and the sole

breadwinner, she was having difficulty

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sitting down and doing the work.

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And through our discussions, it came out

that the main thought running through her

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mind is that the work never gets done.

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And there was a lot of pressure and a

lot of preoccupation about taking care

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of the dog and doing the laundry and

taking care of the kids and picking

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this up and doing the groceries and

cooking it and doing all of these things.

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And then she's constantly telling herself.

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That, she couldn't get all the

work done and it couldn't be done.

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It was too much.

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And every time she then thought

about sitting down to do work on

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her business, it became a default

setting for her brain just to offer

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up it's there's too much else to do.

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There's not enough time.

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It's, there's too much.

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It never gets done.

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And this was a habit in her brain.

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And then every time she didn't sit

down to work on her business, her

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brain got a little hit of dopamine

and thinking that thought that,

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there's, it's never getting done.

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There's too much work to do created this

sense of panic and sort of anxiety in her.

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So then of course she was running

around taking care of these

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things, but not actually creating

anything in her life for herself.

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That was.

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That was important for her, not just

herself, but for the future of her family.

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And so we had to take a look at that and

see, what is it that's in her mind and

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what is it that's that soundtrack that

she's listening to on a regular basis

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that is not helping to move her forward.

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And we had to select new

thoughts that she could practice.

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And what you can basically do is

I have a thought menu looking for

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thoughts that help you to move out

of that place of panic and anxiety.

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And move you towards taking the

action that you want to take.

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As I said, the first step is always,

what's going through your mind currently?

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What are the current thoughts?

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Spend some time.

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Taking a look, digging around,

contemplating what are those reoccurring

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thoughts that are going through your

mind, and then you want to spend some

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time, what do you want them to be?

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If you are clear about what

you want, as my client was, she

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wanted to create that business.

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So she needed to change her thoughts

to something that would serve her and

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to create that feeling of her in her,

of, excuse me, to create that feeling

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in her of determination of focus of

empowered and, start by picking one

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thought, one thought that resonates with

you that seems somewhat believable that

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you can latch on to and then practice.

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Put it on a sticky note,

put it on your phone.

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I usually put sticky notes

on my mirror, on my laptop.

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I have had thoughts on my phone and

it helps to get out in front of it

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and to practice set, time again,

this could be during your journaling

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practice to intentionally write this

out, think about it, focus your brain

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on what it is you want it to focus on,

but then also take the opportunity.

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When your brain offers you the

old thought of, it's too much.

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I'll never get it done.

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The work never gets done.

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You have to refocus it onto the

new thought that you've chosen.

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I told my client.

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That she had to manage her

mind or it would manage her.

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And in the same way that you would

talk to your children telling them,

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for instance, if it's bedtime or time

to brush their teeth or to take a

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bath, that it's non negotiable that it

is time for you to brush your teeth.

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And with that same focus and that same

resolve, you focus your brain on those new

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thoughts it's the same management style,

if you will, that you need to focus your

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brain on what you want it to focus on.

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So then you want to continue

to choose these thoughts

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consciously and intentionally.

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Once you have a good handle

on that first thought.

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You can move to another.

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So if you're thinking it's possible

that I could, I, if you're thinking

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it's possible that I could create

the business that I want, then maybe

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in a month or two, you want to start

thinking it's probable that I can start

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this business that I want to create.

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It's likely that I can

start this business.

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I am starting this business.

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I have a business.

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I am creating a successful business.

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You walk yourself through these

over time to move yourself closer

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to what it is you want to create.

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And each of these thoughts have the

power to help you change your life.

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It's truly one of the most powerful

exercises that you can do for

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yourself to take yourself to the

next level, to start creating.

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The life it is that you want to

get yourself unstuck and moving

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forward, deleting those old patterns,

deleting those old thought habits

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that are just automatically cycling

through your brain on a daily basis.

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And getting rid of them and consciously

choosing new thoughts that do serve

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you and consciously creating that

feeling that you need in order

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to take the action that you want.

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And that's how you create

the results that you want.

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Think about how you need to

feel to take that action.

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Choose thoughts that help

you to create that feeling.

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Imagine how you would then show

up differently if you are feeling

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focused and determined and empowered,

you're going to be sitting down

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and working on your business.

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You're not going to allow yourself to

be distracted by the laundry, right?

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The laundry can wait.

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You are focused on creating that business

that you want for your new life and

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you keep practicing those thoughts.

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I know that when I don't intentionally

sit and practice my think my thoughts in

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my journal practice on a daily, if not,

several times a week, my brain literally

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goes off into the gutter and I feel the

doubt and the fear and the overwhelm

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and the scarcity start to creep back in.

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And that's a very normal process.

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This is our brains default setting.

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It's trying to protect us.

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It's trying to keep us safe.

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It's trying to take the easy way

out, but I need to manage my mind

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and not allow it to manage me.

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And I need to get out ahead of it.

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I need to practice those thoughts

and I always need to refocus my

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brain if it comes up during the day.

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This is a practice that you will have

to do as long as you have a human brain.

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For as long as you are alive.

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Your brain will need to be managed.

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You will need to overcome yourself in

order to create the life that you want.

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And if you want to create the life

you want, you need to be intentional.

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You need to be intentional

with your thinking.

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And if you don't clean it up, and if

you're not aware of what's going on,

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then you will easily go off track.

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Some of the thoughts that I choose on a

regular basis I cycle through different

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ones, obviously, depending on the

goal that I want to create for myself.

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But there are certain ones that I use

on a regular basis, just to name a few.

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I live in the totality

of all possibilities.

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I am figuring this out bit by

bit that comes in very handy when

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you're working on your business.

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I am capable of big things.

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I have plenty of time.

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I have plenty of resources.

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Everything is happening for me, not to me.

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It's always working out for me.

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And I am open to new and

exciting possibilities.

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I am open and ready for new

and exciting opportunities.

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I am ready and open to new

and exciting adventures.

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So those are just a few that really

resonate with me and that I use

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on a regular basis Oh, and the

other one is big things are coming.

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Let's see how good it can get I love

that one that really focuses me on and

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just the possibility of Life and the

opportunities that could come along

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and just believing that good things

and big things are coming All right.

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If you need help gaining that awareness

of what's going on in your brain and how

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you can choose thoughts intentionally, I

offer a free 45 minute coaching session.

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The link to my calendar

will be in the show notes.

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You can find a date and time that

works for you and come and get

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coached on any issue that you wish.

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I also have a three month coaching program

that helps to take you from stuck to

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creating the life that you truly want.

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It's a 12 week program and I go

through four different pillars that

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help to move you from spinning your

wheels, living the same day over

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and over again, to consciously and

intentionally moving towards the future

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that you want to create for yourself

and the you that you want to become.

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And I teach you tools and skills

that you will be able to use

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for the rest of your life.

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It's powerful work.

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It's changed my life.

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And I am really excited to share

this with you and help you to

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make changes in your own life.

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So if you're interested in learning

more about that, also click

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the link in the show notes, get

on my calendar and let's talk.

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Thank you everybody for joining me.

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I will talk to you next week.

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Take care.

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Bye bye.

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Thank you for listening to

This Daring Adventure podcast

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with your host Trista Guertin.

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We hope you enjoyed the tips

and conversations on how to

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get excited about life again.

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As always, you can head to

tristaguertin.com for additional resources

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