Shownotes
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating.
She's the Amazon Best-Selling Author of “The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50” and a regular Huffington Post contributor.
Her passion is showing women around the world how to find love again with a good man after 50.
Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra
You can’t work out everything. Also, let the relationship be fun and playful.
When You Tripped Up
Lisa made the same trip-up in both her first and second marriage.
She would ignore the red flags until they got to be “serious.”
As a woman she had this tendency to settle thinking someone will change over time. But it doesn’t work that way.
Then in her second marriage they met and had unbelievable chemistry. And she thought it was the coolest thing.
What happened was they fell in lust not love. They had a heart connection and a sexual connection, but the friendship was missing.
Without the friendship component they could not deal with anything that came up, and it is why the marriage only lasted two years.
When the rose colored glasses came off, she could see the problems were there before they got married and they never had any business getting married.
They were having some issues before the wedding and her fiancee’ said “Do you think we should hold off on this?” But she was so caught up in having the wedding of her dreams and was not about to stop it.
This was a mistake.
The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever
Lisa “DUH” moment was when two different partners said as the relationship was ending, “Lisa, you don't know how to let a man be a man.”
She learned that men have much stronger emotions than most women give them credit for.
Lisa came from the generation of women liberation which was amazing for getting jobs, but really messed with the male and female roles and how to work them out.
Then she learned how much men want to make her happy and be her hero.
She learned how to let a man be her hero and how to receive, and now she doesn’t have to do it by herself anymore.
Proudest moment in partnership
When Lisa was sitting at a conference with her male friend, John, and she asked him to take a picture for her.
And John said, “Lisa I love it when a woman asks me for my help.’
In that moment she recognized what power that was. Because in the past she felt like she had to push to get her needs met.
This moment showed her the magic of relationships.
What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?
Allowing a man to be a man and as a woman receiving what a man is giving in the way he is giving it.
You’re power as a woman comes from letting a man be your hero versus ordering or demanding or controlling him to be what you want him to be.
Best Partnership Book or Resource
"Allison Armstrong helps women see who men are and who women are as well."
Making Sense of Men: A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men
Payoff of Partnership
By respecting her partner, Lisa’s partner feels more empowered. And in turn he cherishes her and adores her.
Which makes her cherish and adore him.
Which make him respect her.
This makes the relationship so much lighter and more fun.
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