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Hey everybody, welcome back to mini episode Monday
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on This Daring Adventure.
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I hope you had a good
weekend and a belated happy
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International Women's Day to you.
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So today I wanted to talk about change
and In particular, the price of change.
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And while most people will
say they want change, they say
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they want to feel confident.
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They want to stop second
guessing themselves.
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They want to finally take the action that
they say they want to take, or to create
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the life that they've been dreaming about.
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But, the moment it starts to feel
uncomfortable, they pull back, they
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wait, they tell themselves maybe
later, and then later turns into never.
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Does this sound familiar?
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I see this a lot.
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I see women in their 40s and 50s,
brilliant, capable, but feeling stuck.
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Stuck in a job that doesn't light them up.
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Stuck in a relationship
where they're shrinking.
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Stuck in maybe a cycle of overthinking,
people pleasing, not setting boundaries,
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and waiting for something to change.
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They're stuck in a cycle of looking
to others to validate them, to
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appreciate them, to respect them.
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But here's the thing.
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Waiting doesn't create change.
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We have to take action through discomfort.
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That's the only thing that's
going to make you move forward.
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Discomfort is not a problem.
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When you want to create something
new, when you want to go to the next
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level, when you want to make big
changes in your life, it's not going
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to feel like rainbows and daisies.
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It's gonna be uncomfortable
and that's okay.
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It doesn't mean anything's gone wrong.
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It's not a sign that you should stop.
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It's not proof that you're
doing anything wrong.
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It's just the cost of the
life you actually want.
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Discomfort is the cost of
the life you actually want.
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Think about it.
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Every transformation you've ever had
has started with discomfort, and it's
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included discomfort along the way.
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Learning to walk, discomfort.
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Learning to ride a bike, discomfort.
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Learning to drive a car, discomfort.
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Every new level in your life required
you to move through discomfort.
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Not avoid it.
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But somewhere along the way we
became adults and we thought, ooh,
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we shouldn't be feeling this way.
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And here's where most people get stuck.
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They think that discomfort
means something has gone wrong.
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They believe if it's hard, it must
not be meant for them, and they end
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up choosing comfort over change.
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let me ask you, Where in your life
are you choosing comfort over growth?
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you want real transformation, you have to
start seeing discomfort for what it is.
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It's a sign that you're on the right path.
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You don't get a stronger body
without pushing through the burn
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of exercise or lifting weights.
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You don't build confidence
without facing fear.
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And you don't get unstuck by
waiting until it feels easy.
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And this is the work that I
do with my clients in Unstuck.
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This is my three month signature coaching
program where I work one to one with
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you to rewire the way you think about
discomfort so that instead of running from
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it, you use it to fuel your next level.
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Because if you're feeling discomfort
right now, it means that you're
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on the edge of something big.
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You're going in the direction
that you want to go.
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And I don't want you to back down.
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I've worked with so many women who thought
they were just stuck, who thought they
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were just not confident, and who believed
that change wasn't possible for them.
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But I believe that it is possible for you.
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I believe that if you want
to change, you can do it.
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You just haven't learned the
right tools and skills yet.
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You haven't had the support
that you've needed yet.
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But I can help.
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And do you know what happens when you
finally stop waiting for the discomfort
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to go away and start moving through it?
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Everything shifts.
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Everything shifts.
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It's like my client, Diane, who
went from staying small in a job
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she hated to finally applying
for and landing her dream role.
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The fear didn't go away, but
she learned how to move with it.
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And it's like Sandra, who had
spent years doubting herself
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and relationships, constantly
worrying about what others thought.
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But after working together, she set
boundaries for the first time and
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reconnected with what she really wants.
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And is now feeling more in
control of her life than ever.
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So, if you take one thing from
this episode, let it be this.
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Discomfort is not the problem.
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It's the path.
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The life you want, the version
of you that feels confident,
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powerful, and fully alive?
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She's on the other side
of that discomfort.
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Everything you want is on the
other side of that discomfort.
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The question is, are you
willing to walk through it?
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Because if you're done waiting, if you're
done staying stuck, then now is the time.
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I work with women inside my Unstuck
program, my three month coaching program,
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where we take everything we talked about
today and actually apply it to your life.
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You learn the tools and the skills
you need to get unstuck for good.
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And you don't have to do it alone.
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You just need the right support.
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You need someone to teach
you the right tools.
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And someone who's been there
to walk you through it.
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And that's where I come in.
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So if you're ready to stop
spinning in self doubt, and
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finally create real momentum, book
a discovery call with me today.
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The link is in the show notes, or you
can DM me on Instagram, and let's talk.
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Because staying stuck, that's optional.
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But your next level,
that's waiting for you.
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So let's go.
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I'll see you on the call.
