Larry Michel - also known as “The Love Shepherd” is the founder of the School of Genetic Energetics, a Master ERP™ and host of The Larry Love Show.
He’s a breakthrough relationship coach, author, trainer, speaker and producer.
Larry came to southern California as a former partner of Tony Robbins, having designed and developed Robbin’s corporate training programs. As an operating partner, he also helped launch John Assaraf in his initial teachings toward Brain Entrapment and Nueroplasticity.
As the Founder and voice of TheFourAnswers.com he’s brought to the world the only scientifically proven online compatibility system that unlocks the mysteries and reveals the true motivations behind our actions, from devastating emotional upsets to our most joyous and blissful experiences.
Larry dedicates his life to creating possibility for all of us to live in courageous intimacy, in deep connectivity and in our full loving expression.
Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra
Relationships are not hard work. Great relationships flow.
The hard work is our ability to be honest and vulnerable and authentic and tapped into who we really are.
When You Tripped Up
Larry’s biggest trip up in relationships has been around Rational-lies. Describing or discussing something and making it OK.
He would try and solve difficulties by keeping them inside so no one else had to know. But they still knew.
His belief system that he had to work out things on his own all the time is what did the damage to his relationships. Until Larry stepped into courageous intimacy, he was always undermining the connection in his relationships.
Proudest moment in partnership
The woman in Larry’s life right now is the most exciting relationship he has ever had.
What makes it so special is that a lot of the things he needed to learn, he fully embraces now. Courageous Intimacy is a big part of it.
And the fact that they both are inspiring and inspired by each other creates magic in their life on a regular basis.
How can we be Courageously Intimate without being needy?
Neediness is relying on other people to assist us with our challenges and our issues. Almost like we are constantly taking from them to feed ourselves. This is not good balance.
When Larry is being Courageously Intimate he first asks himself if it is his issue or something else?
If something has it’s emotional grip on him, he asks “What do I have to believe to feel this way right now?” Then ask, “Is that my belief?”
If it is your belief ask “Why do I believe it?” Because we hang onto beliefs because we are getting some benefit from it. Then ask, “What is that benefit?”
Being curious will free you from being stuck.
We all do the best we can with the resources we have. If someone views you as needy it may be that they don’t have the resources right now to help you, and they have some work to do on themselves.
This does not make either person wrong. It is an observation of what is going on in the moment.
What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?
Look inward and go inquire about what you have to believe and are holding onto that is in the way of being able to show up fully for your partner.