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Constraint & Compelling Reasons
Episode 111 • 3rd April 2025 • This Daring Adventure • Trista Guertin
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In this episode of This Daring Adventure podcast, we dive deep into the essential concept of constraint in goal setting. I explain why having one big goal is crucial for success and how constraint helps to achieve focus and eliminate distractions. I also highlight the importance of having a compelling reason to stay committed through tough times.

Key Moments

03:15 The Power of Constraint in Goal Setting

04:06 Choosing and Committing to One Big Goal

09:07 The Importance of a Compelling Reason

10:38 Dealing with the Urge to Quit

12:39 Recap

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Welcome to This Daring Adventure podcast

where we work on bridging the gap between

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order to live a bigger and bolder life.

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In this podcast, we will provide

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you need to make your life the

adventure you want it to be.

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Here's your host, mindset

mentor, and life coach, Tri

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Trista: Hey everybody.

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Welcome back.

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So I wanna report because you need

to keep up with the weather here

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because I can barely keep up with it.

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It has been snowing and we've had

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which I've never experienced before,

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With a slight dusting of snow

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All right.

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It's okay getting through it.

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The worst is over, right?

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Except for the people up

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I'm so sorry.

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You're still getting it.

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Okay.

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So a couple of announcements

before we start.

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I am doing a Momentum Masterclass next

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It will be a limited series, so I might

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Alright, now, today I wanted to

talk about constraint, and this is

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constraint around setting goals.

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And it's one of the most underrated

and completely life-changing

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concepts that I teach my clients.

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If you've been feeling overwhelmed,

scattered, or like you're spinning

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your wheels but not getting

the results that you want, then

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this is the episode for you.

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Because it will change everything.

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I want to break down why having one big

goal is really the key to success and

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why constraint is essential to making

it happen, and why having a compelling

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reason behind that goal is what will

keep you moving forward when things get

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hard and you know they will get hard.

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So get ready.

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Let's dive in.

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let's start with the

purpose of a big goal.

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One of the biggest mistakes I

see people make is trying to

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do too many things at once.

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They have all these dreams, lots of

ideas, And they spread themselves

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so thin that they don't make

real progress on any of them.

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Now, is this sounding familiar because

here's what I tell my clients, you need

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one big goal, not 10, not five, just one.

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I have one big goal.

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My clients all have one big goal.

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Now, why is this important?

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Because when you choose one goal, you

create clarity, and clarity is one of

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the key results we work on achieving

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in my coaching.

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you wanna eliminate confusion.

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You want to eliminate scattering your

attention around not being focused.

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You want to know exactly where

to focus your energy, and that

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focus is what creates momentum.

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It's really important that a

big goal should challenge you.

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It should require you to become

a different version of yourself.

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It should be something that if you

achieve it, you'll look back and

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think, wow, I can't believe I did that.

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And that's the power of a big goal.

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It forces growth and that's what we want.

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It demands transformation, and if

you don't pick one, you miss out on

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that level of personal evolution.

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This is the whole point of

setting a goal, is the growth that

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comes with it in going after it.

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Now, I know you might be thinking: But I

have three big goals and how do I choose?

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But it doesn't matter really,

which one you start with.

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Let's just assume you're gonna go

after all three of them at some point.

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But if you have multiple goals,

just pick one and commit to it.

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The other goals will still be there

and you can tackle them later.

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There's no right answer here.

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Just pick one and let's go with it.

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But by choosing one now, you give yourself

the best chance at success instead of

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spreading yourself too thin or making

slow, or no progress on all of them.

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So there is no right answer.

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Just decide and go.

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Now I wanted to talk about

constraint because constraint

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is going to be your superpower.

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Constraint means making a

decision and sticking to it.

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It means saying no to distractions,

to other projects, to shiny new ideas.

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It means committing to your big goal

with total discipline and focus.

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And I have to say this is really what

I've done for myself in going after my.

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I have been almost wholly focused

on this business goal for this year.

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It's not ideal sometimes, but I have

said no to a lot of things and my

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evenings and my weekends in particular,

I am working on my goal instead.

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Or doing things that help me, take care of

myself, getting rest, making sure that I

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am able to continue to go after my goal,

and that I'm not draining my energy.

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And most people don't like constraint.

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It feels limiting, and it might feel like

you're missing out, but let me tell you

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that constraint is the path to freedom.

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And when you practice constraint,

you eliminate decision fatigue.

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You don't waste energy wondering

what to focus on or if you

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should be doing something else.

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You just do the thing and that's what

creates massive results for yourself.

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In my private coaching, I do tell my

students to pick one thing, to blow

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their minds or to pick something

that is an impossible goal for them.

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Something really big.

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One thing, and that's hard

because their brains wanna chase

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after multiple things at once.

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we do this, but the ones who really

embrace constraint are the ones

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who make the biggest breakthroughs.

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So think about your one thing.

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What's the thing you're going to

commit to fully no matter what?

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Now, this next part is really

critical because once you pick your

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big goal and commit to constraint,

your brain is going to freak out.

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It's gonna tell you it's too hard.

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That you should quit, that you

should pick something easier that

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you don't have what it takes.

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It will come up with a dozen more excuses.

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And this is why you need

a compelling reason.

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A compelling reason is

the fuel behind your goal.

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It will be the thing that will keep you

going when you don't feel like showing up.

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It's the reason you're willing to do all

the hard things and your compelling reason

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has to be stronger than your excuses.

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Let's say your goal is to lose 50 pounds.

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If your reason is I wanna look good

in a dress, that's nice, but it's

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not really strong enough because the

moment you're tired and the moment

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you don't feel like working out,

that reason's not gonna hold up.

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But if your reason is, I wanna be healthy

to be around my grandkids, I wanna

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break generational health patterns, I

want to live a long and healthy life.

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I wanna show myself that I'm capable

of transformation, then we're talking.

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That reason will pull you forward

when things get tough, and your job

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is to find that compelling reason.

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Really spend some time thinking about it.

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Make it deep, make it emotional.

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Make it something that truly matters

to you, and then write it down.

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Write it down every day or somewhere

that you will see it every day.

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Remind yourself of it constantly.

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Put it on a sticky note.

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Write it on the front page of your

journal, put it on your phone.

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Don't lose sight of this.

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Remind yourself constantly.

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Now, let's talk about the urge to quit

because this will come up and I want you

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to know that quitting slows you down.

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I.

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More than failure ever will, because

when you quit, you're not just stopping

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progress on your goal, you're also

training your brain that quitting is

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an option, and when quitting is an

option, your brain will default to it.

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Anytime things get tough,

it gets into this pattern.

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It gets into this habit.

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Quitting means you have to start over.

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It means you have to waste all the

effort that you've already put in

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and it will rob yourself of the

chance to figure out how to succeed.

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Failure on the other

hand, is just feedback.

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It just means things didn't

go as you thought they would.

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It's information, it's data.

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It teaches you what doesn't work,

so you can adjust and keep going.

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So when you feel like

quitting, here's what you do.

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Remember your compelling reason.

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Bring it back to the front of your mind.

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Keep it front and center.

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Why did you choose this

goal in the first place?

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Why is it important to you?

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Why does it matter?

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Second normalise discomfort.

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Discomfort's always going to be

there, and your brain will try and

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convince you that something has gone

wrong, but I promise you it hasn't.

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Discomfort is a part of the process.

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Expect it.

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Allow it to be there and keep going.

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And then third, you want

to commit ahead of time.

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Decide right now that

quitting is not an option.

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No matter how hard it gets.

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Promise yourself, you're gonna keep going.

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When you commit to constraint and

refuse to quit, you will create

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the most amazing results, period.

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You will blow your own mind.

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So let's recap.

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First, you want to pick one big goal, make

it something that will stretch you, push

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you think of it as an impossible goal.

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That it's really going to

challenge you and make you grow.

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And if you have more than one,

just pick one to start with.

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It doesn't matter which one it is.

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Just decide and then move forward.

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Second, commit to constraint.

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Say no to the distractions.

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Focus all of your energy

on this one thing.

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Constraint is what will

create success for you.

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Third, find your compelling reason.

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Make it powerful, powerful enough that

it keeps you in the game no matter how.

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No matter how hard things feel.

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Fourth.

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Refuse to quit quitting slows

you down way more than failure

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will instead of quitting.

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Use failure as feedback

and keep moving forward.

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Remember, failure is just means,

remember, failure just means that things

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didn't go as you had hoped or planned.

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That's it, and this is how

you create massive results.

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This is how you change your life.

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This is how you blow your own mind.

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So here's your challenge.

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Pick your one thing, decide what you're

committing to, and then go all in.

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Constraint is going to feel

uncomfortable at first, but I

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promise you it will change your life.

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If you want support with this, if you want

to learn how to apply these principles

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in your own life, then come work with me.

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I'll help you take this concept and

turn it into real tangible results.

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You can sign up for a discovery

call in the show notes.

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Let's talk.

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I.

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Let's set that big

impossible goal for yourself.

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Alright guys, that's what

I have for you today.

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Remember the Momentum Masterclass

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And yeah, I've got some exciting news

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days, so keep your eyes and ears open.

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Thank you for joining me.

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And I'll see you next week.

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Thank you for listening to

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with your host Trista Guertin.

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