In this episode, Miriam talks about shame, silence and secrets and how they affect us. She explores what shame is and how it affects our mental health. Shame and silence are linked and it creates isolation. She shares her own journey and adds in there the idea of secrets that we don't share and they eat us up from the inside.
Shame can affect our mental health, it thrives on secrets we believe we have to protect
Secrets can be harmful for our mental and physical health and also our relationships
Miriam explores her relationship with shame, isolation and silence. She craved connection but shame kept her isolated from the people around her.
She shares how she finally released herself from shame
How the secrets we keep have power over us and sometimes we keep them longer than necessary
She suggests some ways you can release shame and become less isolated. She is available to do this work with you as a trauma recovery coach.
"They say Time heals all wounds. But in the case of trauma, that's now not how it goes."
“Many things happen to you, but the gem that you are still in there in you. So it's a matter of giving voice to those feelings of shame. naming them out”
“Sometimes we have secrets that we we're so scared that we come and destroy everything. And then we don't even realize when the secret has no power anymore. And we keep it and sometimes people keep secrets with a lifetime that they could actually read themselves of and find freedom.”
Miriam is a Trauma Informed Coach, an African, a mom of three daughters, a blogger and writer. After graduating from the London School of Economics, she built her international career in the fields of banking and international development, working for organisations such as the World Economic Forum, Lombard Odier Private Bank, JP Morgan, the Mastercard Foundation and the United Nations. She now uses her passion for psychology and dedicates her time to coaching others to free themselves from the burden of childhood trauma. Her wish to help other women connect to their inner wisdom, love themselves and follow their passion. In her effort to destigmatize mental health and normalize mental health conversations in black communities, she wrote her memoir about surviving childhood and finding her worth.