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Hi there, welcome back to the podcast.
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This is mini episode Monday.
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And if you've ever felt stuck,
you're spinning your wheels and
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not making progress, I want you
to consider something: you're
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not stuck, you're evolving.
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But your mindset might still be
operating from an old version of you.
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Today we're going to talk about how How
outdated beliefs and self concepts keep us
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feeling stuck, and how questioning those
narratives is the key to moving forward.
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So let's dive in.
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Let's start with this.
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Most of the beliefs that shape how you
see yourself were formed years ago.
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I would say probably mostly
in childhood, but definitely
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over the past several years.
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And that's totally normal.
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Think about it.
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When you were little, you absorbed
messages from your parents,
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teachers, culture, and experiences.
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But, some of those messages may have
served you well, but others, not so much.
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Maybe some of them were helpful
at the time, but today they
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just aren't helpful at all.
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Maybe you were told, you're not
creative, you're too sensitive, you're
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too shy, you always quit things.
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Over time, these words
became your internal script.
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You took them on, and you started to
see yourself through the lens of these
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old beliefs without even realizing it.
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They shaped how you show up in the world.
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Now here's the thing.
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No one ever teaches us to
ask, What are my beliefs?
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Do they still serve me?
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Are they true?
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Or is it just familiar?
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Who would I be without this story?
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A lot of these beliefs are just
thoughts that we've kept thinking
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over and over and over again.
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Because we thought them so many
times, they become beliefs.
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They feel true.
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They're just familiar,
they're just comfortable.
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Let's say you have a belief that
you're bad at making decisions.
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You hesitate, you overthink,
and you always feel like
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you need outside validation.
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But what if you really question that?
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Instead of saying, I'm just indecisive,
try, I'm learning to trust myself more.
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That tiny shift in language.
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Starts rewiring your brain.
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Because here's the truth, your
self concept influences everything.
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The chances you take, the
success you allow yourself, and
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the way you move through life.
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It will impact every relationship, and
it will impact every single result that
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you create in your life- good and bad.
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So how do we start to
shift those old narratives?
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Here's a simple but powerful exercise.
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Write down one belief you have
about yourself that feels limiting.
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For example, I'm not confident
enough to start my own business.
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Ask yourself.
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Where did this belief come from?
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Who told me this?
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Maybe it was a parent, a past
experience, a fear of failure.
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Listen, you don't need to spend
a lot of time here, right?
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There's no detective work, but generally
just try to understand where it came from.
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Now, you want to start to reframe it.
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What's a more empowering
belief you can try on?
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Maybe it's something like I'm
becoming more confident every day.
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It's possible that I
can figure things out.
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Your brain is always looking
for proof of what you believe.
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And when you start to shift the
story, you start to shift the
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evidence that the mind collects.
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It starts to look for new evidence.
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It's the same idea like if you told me
to or if I told you to start looking
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for red sweaters or red cars, you
would start to see them everywhere.
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You weren't paying attention to them
before your brain wasn't looking for them.
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It wasn't interested in them.
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But when you give it some
direction, that's when it starts
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to focus on that information.
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It always existed.
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It was always there.
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But you just didn't look for it.
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So,.
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remember this- you're not stuck.
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You're just holding on to those stories
that no longer fit who you're becoming.
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The good news is that
you get to rewrite them.
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And this is the work we do in coaching.
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We look at what we're thinking
and how it's holding us back.
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If it's not helpful, you can change it.
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Nobody can tell you what to think.
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And you can choose intentionally and
purposefully what it is you want your
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thoughts to be so that they then generate
the emotion you want in order to take
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the action that you need to take.
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This is how you create
powerful results in your life.
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So, here's my challenge for you.
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Pick one outdated belief.
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Get your journal out.
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Do some writing, think about it,
question this belief, and then choose
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a new one that serves you better.
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You can pick one area of your life
to start, say it's money or work.
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Business, relationships.
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If you need support on this
process, I'd love to help.
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You can reach out.
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You can send me a DM on Instagram, or you
can check out my new program, Unstuck,
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which is a three month, 12 session
signature program that helps you to learn
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and shift your self concept and identity,
learn the mindset mastery that you need.
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Grow your emotional resilience
so that you can be with your
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emotions and then generate the
ones that you need to take action.
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Build a better relationship with
yourself and create your future self.
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Who are you becoming?
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What do you want your life to look like?
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This is the powerful work that
we do in these coaching sessions.
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In the show notes, there's a
link to a Discovery Call session.
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You can schedule your session, come, ask
any questions you might have, learn more
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about the program, and get clear about
what's holding you back and what you can
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do to start moving yourself forward again.
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If this resonated with you, please take
a screenshot and share it on Instagram.
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You can tag me at tristavguertin.
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And if you haven't already, please
subscribe and leave a review.
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I would really appreciate it.
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Thanks for spending time with me today
and I'll see you in the next episode.
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Bye bye.
