If you're feeling stuck, avoiding the difficult challenges that could lead to personal growth and transformation, then you are not alone!

Many women find themselves taking the path of least resistance, settling for mediocrity instead of pushing themselves to embrace the hard things.

Instead of experiencing the resilience and growth they desire, they are left feeling stagnant and unfulfilled.

A key step in navigating through hardships involves embracing your emotions. Avoiding or numbing feelings only extends their stay; instead, allow yourself to feel, understand, and process these emotions. Through this practice, you pave the way towards healing, relief, and better emotional management in future tough experiences.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Embrace the Hard: Understand that doing hard things is essential for growth and transformation. Let go of resistance and accept that life will be challenging at times.
• Allow Your Feelings: Recognize and process your emotions instead of resisting, reacting, or numbing them. Allow yourself to feel and sit with the discomfort.
• Don't Play the Victim: Remember that you have the power to choose how you respond to any situation. Avoid falling into a victim mindset and take control of your thoughts and actions.
• Take Time for Self-Care: Prioritize self-care activities such as proper nutrition, exercise, journaling, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
• Seek Support: Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, therapist, or coach

Doing hard things can be a catalyst for your personal growth and transformation.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Unearth the transformative value of accepting challenges in your journey towards personal development.
• Realize the healing potential in openly dealing with emotions.
• Absorb the impact of thoughtfully responding to adverse circumstances.
• Understand the role of self-care in overcoming difficult periods in life.
• Delve into the process of resilience creation through the combination of receiving support and making consistent steps forward.

If you have any comments or questions, you can email me at trista@tristaguertin.com.

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Welcome to This Daring Adventure podcast,

where we work on bridging the gap between

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where we are and where we want to be in

order to live a bigger and bolder life.

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In this podcast, we will provide

inspiration, tips, and skills

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you need to make your life the

adventure you want it to be.

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Here's your host, mindset mentor

and life coach, Trista Guertin.

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Trista: Hey, everybody.

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Welcome back to This Daring Adventure.

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This is episode 48.

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Today.

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I wanted to, first of all, invite

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So this is my opportunity to give back

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All right, so let's dive into the episode.

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This is all about doing hard things.

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I love the idea of doing hard things.

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I think this is the way that we grow.

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This is how we transform and change and

really create big things in our lives.

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We think that hard means bad.

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We think it means that it

shouldn't be this way and that

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something has gone wrong, but in

actuality, that's not true at all.

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And I want to dive in a little bit about

what you can do to embrace the hard.

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Do the hard things because

it's going to change your life.

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So the key is letting it be hard.

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Things will be hard.

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Life can be hard.

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We face all sorts of events and

issues as we go through our lives.

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We will never be able to escape it.

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It could be a diagnosis.

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It could be a divorce.

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It could be a job loss.

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It could be death.

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It could be breakup.

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It could setting a goal for yourself,

running a marathon, or trying

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to learn something new, starting

a business, finding a new job,

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whatever it is, it will be hard.

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And that's going to be a

part of our experience.

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And if we can let it be

hard, drop the resistance.

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Stop fighting against it.

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Know that the hard is going to be there

and arguing with reality adds an extra

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layer of suffering about the situation

and creates physical suffering for you.

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So the most important thing you

can do is just drop the resistance.

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Stop arguing that it shouldn't

be this way and that it's not

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fair and allow it to be hard.

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It's hard.

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It's okay.

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It's supposed to be hard.

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Life is going to be hard at times.

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Not all of the time,

but a lot of the time.

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Then, you want to move into acceptance.

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This is what we've got.

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This is what we're facing.

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It may be a phase, it may be a week,

it may be a day, it may be a season.

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It can be hard.

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And just accepting that, that this

is your time, and this is going to

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be hard, and nothing has gone wrong.

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So you've dropped the resistance,

and now you just accept

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that this is the way it is.

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Next, you want to allow your feelings

now that you've dropped the resistance,

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you've moved into acceptance,

tap into how you are feeling.

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Can you become aware of

what's going on in your body?

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Can you name that emotion?

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Can you identify it and sit with

it and allow it to be there?

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Typically, we can experience

our emotions in four ways.

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We resist it, which is basically

trying to keep it from, from happening.

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and trying to change it.

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We react to it, which means sometimes

that we are yelling, screaming, not

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talking to the person, slamming doors.

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Usually a big reaction, similar

to, to what your toddler might do.

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You might buffer or numb.

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So instead of feeling the emotion, you

try to Distract yourself and numb it

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with cookies or ice cream or Netflix or

shopping over exercising overworking.

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Some of these things that just keep us

busy from feeling what we need to be

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feeling what we're actually feeling and

we put over top something that gives

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our brain a little bit of dopamine

and gives us that Positive feeling

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emotion or a lack of emotion sometimes

in order to, to cope and to manage.

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But if we can allow it and just allow

ourselves to be there, feel it and process

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it, which is something that I do a lot in

my coaching work because processing is the

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greatest way to free yourself of it and

to move yourself forward, to let it go.

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Just allowing it to be there and carrying

it around with you sometimes during your

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day if you don't have time to process

it Knowing that you can feel it and

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it is just a vibration in your body.

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It's not going to hurt you it's gonna

feel uncomfortable if you're feeling

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sadness if you're feeling grief if

you're feeling disappointment or

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Frustrated it's not going to be pleasant

but It won't harm you, and if you can

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allow it, it will start to dissipate.

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It will start to lessen eventually, and

you will be able to, to move through it.

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What we do when we react, or we resist,

or we numb and buffer our feelings, then

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it tends to stay with us that much longer.

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We carry that emotional charge with

us for a longer time instead of

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just allowing it to move through us.

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So really just focusing on

allowing yourself to feel the

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emotion can be freeing and will

help you to move through some

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of this emotion quicker.

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Don't make yourself out to be the victim.

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You are not powerless.

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You always have the power as to how

you want to respond to any situation.

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Life is not happening to you.

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You are not a victim of your circumstance.

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Life is not unfair to you personally.

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Don't allow yourself to go down that

rabbit hole and that thought pattern

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that somehow this has been created

to punish you or that unfair to you

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personally and that you have no power

and no control over the situation.

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You always have the power.

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to choose how you want to respond, how

you want to think about the situation,

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how you want to feel about the

situation, and how you want to show up.

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Know that nothing has gone wrong.

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Whatever you are experiencing,

Whether it is in this circumstance

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or a feeling that you're

experiencing, nothing has gone wrong.

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It is all a part of our human experience.

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And knowing that this is just a part

of being human, will help to move

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you out of that victim mode as well.

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Know that we're not

always going to be happy.

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Life will have negative emotion.

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Life will have circumstances

that are hard and challenging.

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There will be death, there will

be loss, there will be grief.

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You're not supposed to

be happy all of the time.

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And if you are in a season, if you are

in a period where you are experiencing

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the hard, and it seems like there is

more negative emotion than positive,

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happy, joy, know that that is just a part

of what we are supposed to experience.

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And you are not supposed to be happy

all the time, but it doesn't mean like

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it's going to always be like this.

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And in fact, once you allow yourself

to gain that awareness of how you're

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feeling, you can start to generate

some of the emotions that you desire.

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Maybe not in that moment.

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If you've experienced a major life

event, you're not going to want to

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go to joy and happiness right away.

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But eventually, You can, and you

will be able to move through this.

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Nothing has gone wrong.

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Take time for self care.

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Make sure you're doing things like

eating properly, exercising, journaling,

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whatever it is that helps you to calm

and to feel better, whatever it is that

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helps you to feel calmer and more relaxed.

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Do that, especially in

times when things are hard.

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Make sure you get enough sleep, drink

lots of water, watch funny movies,

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read something uplifting and enjoyable.

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Take the time to do the things

that you enjoy most and that will

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take care of your overall mental

and physical and emotional health.

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Don't complain.

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Nobody wants to hear complaining.

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Get some support, somebody that you can

talk to, whether it's a good friend or a

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family member or a therapist or a coach.

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Get the support you need.

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Don't go around complaining to everybody

about your situation and the way things

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are, that only really reinforces it

in your mind, that there's negativity,

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there's a problem, and it keeps you

fixated on the problem and not a

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solution and not moving yourself forward.

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So the less you complain

about it, the better.

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And then keep going,

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keep showing up, keep putting

one foot ahead of the other.

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Ask yourself, what's the next best

thing I can do in this situation?

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How can I take care of myself?

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How can I build my resilience?

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How can I move myself forward?

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How can I process some of this emotion?

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How do I want to show

up in this situation?

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All of these are really great

questions to ask your brain and

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give it something to focus on.

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This goes back to not complaining,

because complaining is your brain on

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autopilot, and it will become a habit,

and it will become a thought loop, and

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you will just repeat, repeat, repeat.

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Most of the thoughts you have during the

course of the day will be repeats of the

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thoughts you had the day before, and the

day before that, and the day before that.

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So consciously and deliberately

asking your brain questions and giving

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it something to think about and to

focus on will serve you the best and

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will help to move you forward and

to process and Allow yourself this

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experience Whatever the hard thing is.

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Know that you can do this.

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You just have to keep going.

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Keep putting one foot in front of the

other and ask yourself these great

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questions to move yourself forward

bit by bit, step by step, doing

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hard things Experiencing the hard

in life is a part of our experience.

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Nothing has gone wrong.

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And it is these hard things, even though

in the moment they're uncomfortable

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and they're challenging, they are the

things that make us the strongest.

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And...

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Build our resilience and help us to

learn and to grow and make a stronger for

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whatever comes next Whether it's something

that happens to you or it's something that

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you choose to do and if you can see this

in that way That's what will serve you.

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It's not like you have to love it but you

want to understand that this is happening

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for you, not to you and believe that

ultimately This will make you stronger

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and that there will be lessons in this

that you can take and that will help

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you to move yourself forward and grow.

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Alright, that's what I have for you today.

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As I mentioned before, I would love to

do a private coaching call with you.

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The link to the calendar

is in the show notes.

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Let's chat.

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Let's talk about what

hard things you're facing.

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You can bring any issue that you wish.

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Thanks everybody.

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Have a great week.

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Bye bye.

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Thank you for listening to

This Daring Adventure podcast

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We hope you enjoyed the tips

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