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169. Live Your Best Life by Aligning Your Body, Mind and Spirit Through an Holistic Approach with Angel Hiles
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Angel Hiles is Dr. Brad Miller's guest on Episode 169 of "The Beyond Adversity Podcast."

Angel is a self-employed relational therapist who is dedicated to assisting you in discovering your actual self so that you can feel a genuine connection, joy, serenity, and love — from the inside out. Her integrated, holistic approach is based on the concept that having an authentic and honest relationship is the foundation for connecting with others.

In this episode, Angel talks about her personal experience dealing with trauma as a child and how it influenced her decision to pursue a career in assisting others with their issues.

She has been through a variety of traumas, but she concentrates on a specific sort of trauma that often goes unnoticed: attachment traumas, relational traumas, and developmental traumas, in which our physical and emotional needs aren't satisfied as children. We also lack the secure attachment that allows us to experience ourselves and connect with others, which generates a great deal of distress.

Her parents divorced three times during their marriage; therefore, she grew up in a tumultuous environment. While her mother battled depression, her father struggled to maintain a relationship. She saw how her mother's mental health deteriorated due to it all, and she grew up knowing that her family struggles with mental health and substance misuse.

We may not realize that trauma is affecting our ability to cope and operate in the first place. Maybe we can take a step back and look at where you are in life and ask, "Am I in pain?" Or does my life appear to be out of hand? Some level of awareness is essential. All people experience pain, and it can manifest in a variety of ways. Angel appeared in relationships as well as in emotions.

Faith is a universal quality everyone needs to go through in life, even when the odds are stacked against them. It gave Angel hope that all she had gone through was for a reason and that she wasn't alone. She met other people who assisted her as a result of this. Have faith in oneself to look for someone who wouldn't judge her. Everyone's support system is critical at all times.

 Episode 169 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast serves as a reminder for everyone suffering from any depression, trauma, or childhood experiences that impacted your life as you grow older to always look for the brighter things in life. It speaks about how devastating these negative emotions are and how it sets limiting beliefs on individuals who choose to be on the safe side rather than to take risks.

“The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is published weekly with the mission of helping people “Grow Through What They Go Through” as they navigate adversity and discover their promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose. 

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Dr. Brad Miller:

Welcome to Beyond adversity Angel Hiles.

Angel Hiles:

Thank you very much. I'm happy to be here.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Well, it's awesome to have you with us here today

Dr. Brad Miller:

on beyond adversity Angel,

Dr. Brad Miller:

you have a have a, your clinical counselor

Dr. Brad Miller:

where you are helpful to people,

Dr. Brad Miller:

children and adults who have had their own traumas and situations

Dr. Brad Miller:

to go through in life. I have a feeling, though,

Dr. Brad Miller:

that some of this stems from your own experiences

Dr. Brad Miller:

with some own your own challenges,

Dr. Brad Miller:

or perhaps traumas in your life.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Can you maybe tell us a little bit about some situation in your life

Dr. Brad Miller:

that was traumatic or dramatic?

Dr. Brad Miller:

And was a part of your process of leading you to the life of a clinical health counselor?

Angel Hiles:

Sure, that's a great question.

Angel Hiles:

I would definitely, you are correct. On the background.

Angel Hiles:

So my traumas started in childhood.

Angel Hiles:

So there's several different traumas.

Angel Hiles:

The main one I want to talk about though,

Angel Hiles:

is more of ones that go beneath the radar,

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which are more attachment traumas,

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and relational traumas, and developmental traumas,

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where our needs aren't met as children or our emotional needs.

Angel Hiles:

And we don't have that secure attachment

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where we feel safe to experience ourselves and to connect with others,

Angel Hiles:

which causes a lot of distress.

Angel Hiles:

So I was raised in a home

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where my parents ended up divorcing each other three times.

Angel Hiles:

And my mom struggled with depression,

Angel Hiles:

my dad, he, he struggles in relationships.

Angel Hiles:

And so he went on to marry two more times after my mom.

Angel Hiles:

But my mom's mental health and self esteem was very poor growing up,

Angel Hiles:

oftentimes, she shared information

Angel Hiles:

that was not age appropriate for me at that time.

Angel Hiles:

So that caused a lot of distress in my life.

Angel Hiles:

Dad was pretty rigid, also growing up.

Angel Hiles:

So mom over compensated doubt,

Angel Hiles:

could be very rigid, he was aggressive with my brother a lot.

Angel Hiles:

And my dad, was an alcoholic,

Angel Hiles:

my dad never drank, but he had like the behaviors of somebody that would be an alcoholic.

Angel Hiles:

And so as I grew up, I realized that there was mental health

Angel Hiles:

and substance use, you know, on both sides of my family,

Angel Hiles:

and each parent did the best they could

Angel Hiles:

with how they were raised. And my dad has a lot of traumas,

Angel Hiles:

which I don't know if he knows, but he, from what I know

Angel Hiles:

about his childhood that significantly impacted him.

Angel Hiles:

And my mom, I can't, she has not shared anything with me that I know about her childhood.

Angel Hiles:

But nonetheless, I know what my childhood was like in that environment.

Angel Hiles:

So that was a lot of uncertainty,

Angel Hiles:

lots of change, lots of you know,

Angel Hiles:

not feeling okay to express myself.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Their behavior left clues, and especially with your education,

Dr. Brad Miller:

and so on, you've kind of pieced it together

Dr. Brad Miller:

a little bit of your family dynamics, which impacted you is.

Angel Hiles:

and then in addition to all of that,

Angel Hiles:

I did experience childhood sexual trauma.

Angel Hiles:

So I had complex trauma growing up

Dr. Brad Miller:

Other people, when that happens to them,

Dr. Brad Miller:

they get stuck, they stay there,

Dr. Brad Miller:

or they descend into similar patterns,

Dr. Brad Miller:

or destructive patterns themselves and adulthood, and so on

Dr. Brad Miller:

and have made some choices, some very deliberate choices,

Dr. Brad Miller:

to take some actions to not follow those patterns that you grew up in.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Tell us a little bit about some of the actions that you took,

Angel Hiles:

You know, sometimes we're not aware that trauma

Angel Hiles:

is negatively impacting our ability to cope and function

Angel Hiles:

the first place we can maybe just pause and take a look

Angel Hiles:

to see where in my life Am I experiencing pain?

Angel Hiles:

Or does my life look out of control where we,

Angel Hiles:

there has to be some kind of awareness, we're experiencing pain, right?

Angel Hiles:

And it could be in different areas. Mine showed up in relationships,

Angel Hiles:

and of course, in emotions, but it was definitely my relational

Angel Hiles:

and emotional functioning is that faith,

Angel Hiles:

for one is what helped me like believing

Angel Hiles:

that this was going to be used for a bigger purpose.

Angel Hiles:

Right, and that I was not alone. So in doing that,

Angel Hiles:

I met other people that helped me Have faith in myself

Angel Hiles:

to seek out that didn't judge.

Angel Hiles:

So a support system is always very important for one.

Angel Hiles:

Faith, I believe, just so, you know, creating safety is, is number one.

Angel Hiles:

And, you know, when a person makes the first step,

Angel Hiles:

just to say, I think I need to change or something needs to change,

Angel Hiles:

that in itself can create more stress, right?

Angel Hiles:

And fear because this is, whatever the environment is,

Angel Hiles:

that's what the person is used to.

Angel Hiles:

So to even think about something different, is scary.

Angel Hiles:

So we, we truly want to just work on how to feel safe in our bodies.

Angel Hiles:

And trust that even though this is terrifying,

Angel Hiles:

and to feel emotions, that we have not felt that have got pushed away,

Angel Hiles:

that takes courage, and then skills

Angel Hiles:

to know how to help yourself soothe while you're working through it.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Well, you mentioned it a little bit there already

Dr. Brad Miller:

and about having a faith element has been helpful to you.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And, and I know that's a part of what you teach others.

Dr. Brad Miller:

But tell me a little bit about your experience

Dr. Brad Miller:

in terms of that in terms of how connection to a higher power,

Dr. Brad Miller:

or something greater than yourself,

Dr. Brad Miller:

or spiritual practices may play a part in helping someone

Dr. Brad Miller:

to cope with and deal with the adversity of trauma,

Dr. Brad Miller:

and to get better to come up to a better place.

Angel Hiles:

Face element, you know, it just brings hope, right?

Angel Hiles:

The message of love and acceptance, and encouragement.

Angel Hiles:

And hope. Truly, it's, I'm not alone in this,

Angel Hiles:

there's something bigger than me out there.

Angel Hiles:

And just in that action of letting go of control,

Angel Hiles:

the person can feel instant relief,

Angel Hiles:

when that is a conscious decision of I am ready to let this go.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And so that gives one sense of I believe

Dr. Brad Miller:

when you have that connection to something greater yourself,

Dr. Brad Miller:

you said to hope that also brings a little calmness,

Dr. Brad Miller:

a little peace in a when trauma by its nature,

Dr. Brad Miller:

is a disturbing upsetting experience, and is too disruptive.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Having a faith basis gives us a sense of direction.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And that and I believe that's a factor here as well. You know,

Dr. Brad Miller:

part of what I teach is what I'm about

Dr. Brad Miller:

is helping to overcome adversity and you just cannot be so self absorbed.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Because that just leads you to spiral into some directions

Dr. Brad Miller:

that are not, you know, not gonna be helpful.

Angel Hiles:

Yes, and to build on that. It's also creating trust,

Angel Hiles:

trusting a god or a higher power of some sort

Angel Hiles:

against something bigger than yourself.

Angel Hiles:

And in doing that, that is helping create that safety.

Angel Hiles:

And you're right, absolutely have a direction, right.

Angel Hiles:

But when trauma happens, our sense of security or

Angel Hiles:

sense of safety, you know, our ability to trust is fractured.

Angel Hiles:

So that's a great starting place because it is learning how to repair that.

Dr. Brad Miller:

you've met, you mentioned trust, there are a couple of times,

Dr. Brad Miller:

and Angel and that is such an important thing.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Because you trust in the higher power,

Dr. Brad Miller:

that's one thing, but it's also about repairing or rebuilding trust with other people.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And sometimes that's hard to do

Dr. Brad Miller:

if Trust has been broken by some traumatic experience.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And you mentioned some pretty, you know, pretty awful stuff there that you went through,

Dr. Brad Miller:

let's talk about the importance of healthy relationships

Dr. Brad Miller:

or relationships that are helpful and what I mean by helpful,

Dr. Brad Miller:

healthy can be you know, it could be a romantic relationship

Dr. Brad Miller:

or with your kids or with your friends or whatever.

Dr. Brad Miller:

A help full relationship may be an accountability

Dr. Brad Miller:

or a tough love or any number of things like that.

Dr. Brad Miller:

But that's what you taught me a little bit about the importance

Dr. Brad Miller:

and the power of productive relationships and

Dr. Brad Miller:

helping people to deal with with trauma.

Angel Hiles:

So wonderful question because connection is so important.

Angel Hiles:

helpful, healthy relationships, genuine

Angel Hiles:

we're you know we are designed to be connected,

Angel Hiles:

you're created to be in community with one another.

Angel Hiles:

And without that we experienced extreme loneliness

Angel Hiles:

for psychological wellness, right?

Angel Hiles:

And relational when we are connected and being able to be vulnerable with one another

Angel Hiles:

encouraging supportive. We then are learning how to experience trust and safety

Angel Hiles:

and so that helps our mental health, our emotional health.

Angel Hiles:

And now we're starting to, you know, have a fullness

Angel Hiles:

and getting back to wholeness.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Do you have any examples maybe in your personal life

Dr. Brad Miller:

or in folks that you've worked with where you've seen been a part of a healing

Dr. Brad Miller:

part of the healing for people to get through trauma

Dr. Brad Miller:

and come through different things,

Dr. Brad Miller:

tell us about some experiences you may have had with productive and helpful people.

Angel Hiles:

So definitely family, that can be a tricky one.

Angel Hiles:

So if family can be supportive and accepting,

Angel Hiles:

we really want to avoid judgment, right?

Angel Hiles:

Even if we don't understand, we want to use encouraging loving words.

Angel Hiles:

And sometimes we don't even have to say anything,

Angel Hiles:

we just need to be there and identify the feelings that they may be experiencing,

Angel Hiles:

and give them that hope, like, I'm here with you,

Angel Hiles:

you're going to get better and a family can do that, that's great.

Angel Hiles:

But sometimes people are in families that aren't healthy or helpful.

Angel Hiles:

And so creating healthy boundaries with that

Angel Hiles:

is going to be helpful to the individual to let that go,

Angel Hiles:

to love them as they are and where they are,

Angel Hiles:

but to nurture themselves, while they create that boundary,

Angel Hiles:

and then look for that support in their friendships.

Angel Hiles:

Or maybe that is going to be in a support group,

Dr. Brad Miller:

that part yours mentioned their Angel

Dr. Brad Miller:

about being non judgmental, and that's hard to do sometimes,

Dr. Brad Miller:

especially family relationships, because you know,

Dr. Brad Miller:

people are kind of used to doing that.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And when somebody has a position of power, you know,

Dr. Brad Miller:

like a, a transition happens when a between a parent and a child

Dr. Brad Miller:

does transition, when that child grows up,

Dr. Brad Miller:

my three children are all adults, and I have grandchildren.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And so then you have a transition,

Dr. Brad Miller:

you still have to trust, the trust is still important.

Dr. Brad Miller:

But the judgmental part has to try to avoid that if at all can

Dr. Brad Miller:

in order to maintain that the trust and to help to build you through those things.

Dr. Brad Miller:

That's you just rather have some great insights there.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And I appreciate what you're what you're saying there.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Let's talk about the let's talk about the cognitive for a minute.

Dr. Brad Miller:

What I mean by that is, what do we have to implement

Dr. Brad Miller:

and think and do in order to deal with adversity in life,

Dr. Brad Miller:

trauma, and so on. And I'm thinking about habits,

Dr. Brad Miller:

practices, processes, routines, things of this nature,

Dr. Brad Miller:

is there anything that you do and this nature that is helpful to you,

Dr. Brad Miller:

or any things that you teach or help lead your your clients in

Dr. Brad Miller:

about habits or processes or practices that you may have to help people.

Dr. Brad Miller:

more and more people are learning about trauma

Dr. Brad Miller:

and how it lives in the body.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So the first step is to be more focused on releasing the trauma out of the body.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So getting the mind body connection.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So you can do that by I use a mindfulness practice called the wheel of awareness,

Dr. Brad Miller:

where it walks a person through different segments of attention.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So the first segment, and so you imagine,

Dr. Brad Miller:

so it's a wheel of awareness. So the middle is the hub of awareness

Dr. Brad Miller:

of the experience of knowing, and you have a spoke that goes out to the rim.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And that is where the knowns are.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So the first ram goes out in the first segment is the five senses, right?

Dr. Brad Miller:

So we bring awareness to what is outside of us.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Then the second segment,

Dr. Brad Miller:

we ask them to focus their awareness on their internal experience.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Then the third segment is their mental activities.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So that's thoughts, memories, hopes,

Dr. Brad Miller:

3dreams, ideas, anything

Dr. Brad Miller:

we're just focusing on bringing their awareness to what flows through their mind,

Dr. Brad Miller:

what's there, what's not there.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And then also, the last segment will be the inter connectedness.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So it just bringing awareness to perhaps the space in between two people

Dr. Brad Miller:

or just their connection to nature, and just feeling the connectedness.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So that really helps bring them back into their,

Dr. Brad Miller:

into the present moment and into their bodies.

Dr. Brad Miller:

how do you help people that you work with,

Dr. Brad Miller:

for instance, to begin to identify and connect up

Dr. Brad Miller:

.with the various aspects of the model that you described

Dr. Brad Miller:

and other modalities that you have?

Dr. Brad Miller:

Do you have exercises Do you have,

Dr. Brad Miller:

I don't know role playing or what what do you do to help people

Dr. Brad Miller:

to come to get an awareness of the processes

Dr. Brad Miller:

that you're finding helpful to people?

Angel Hiles:

so when they come in

Angel Hiles:

I walk them through that, you know,

Angel Hiles:

I guide them through that exercise and a breathing or grounding.

Angel Hiles:

So that's always first and foremost.

Angel Hiles:

And really building the relationship,

Angel Hiles:

creating safety, providing choice so they can exercise, you know, autonomy

Angel Hiles:

and something that makes them feel safe that they're in control.

Angel Hiles:

So that part can take a while until they're feeling safe.

Angel Hiles:

You know, it's not really let's just dive in

Angel Hiles:

and start talking about your traumas.

Angel Hiles:

And a lot of the time some people with

Angel Hiles:

that are body based or somatic experiencing, you know, and they just focus on what the body's feeling.

Angel Hiles:

So I integrate all of that. So it's building up their coping skills,

Angel Hiles:

their ability to recognize when they're in the stress response, right,

Angel Hiles:

because that's where trauma lives, right in our nervous system.

Angel Hiles:

And so when they're activated,

Angel Hiles:

they need the goal is to bring awareness to that.

Angel Hiles:

So with that Mind, Body practice,

Angel Hiles:

it gives them more of that ability to recognize

Angel Hiles:

when they're in that state, and then how to deactivate it.

Angel Hiles:

So when they're back in a calmer state.

Angel Hiles:

And, now you're telling your body

Angel Hiles:

that you're safe in this present moment,

Dr. Brad Miller:

but it sounds like it's important

Dr. Brad Miller:

to make other people get through adversity

Dr. Brad Miller:

is to understand you're going to have ups and downs and

Angel Hiles:

so it's essentially relational. Right?

Angel Hiles:

I consider myself a relational trauma therapist.

Angel Hiles:

So you know, through the relationship

Angel Hiles:

that helps co regulate, calm the nervous system,

Angel Hiles:

and then we can start, you know,

Angel Hiles:

looking at things and exploring what they're telling themselves

Angel Hiles:

and how to create a new narrative.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Well, part of the word

Dr. Brad Miller:

part of the nature of the word trauma itself

Dr. Brad Miller:

means you know, injury, you know, it means something's broken,

Dr. Brad Miller:

you know, trauma centers, just another medical side of things,

Dr. Brad Miller:

deal with people with whatever you know, car crashes

Dr. Brad Miller:

or broken bones or any number of trauma to the body

Dr. Brad Miller:

and what we're talking about here as trauma to your emotions

Dr. Brad Miller:

into your relationships into your psychological health

Dr. Brad Miller:

and mental health and it's hard to heal hard to get through that

Dr. Brad Miller:

unless you calm down a little bit, you have to do that

Dr. Brad Miller:

and that that's a great thing.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Tell us about Angel about some situation or person or group

Dr. Brad Miller:

that that you've seen a transformation

Dr. Brad Miller:

or transition from, you know, to get through adversity

Dr. Brad Miller:

really means to not stay stuck

Dr. Brad Miller:

and that trauma or bad, bad place to get through to a better place.

Dr. Brad Miller:

That place is peaceful, more helpful with purpose.

Dr. Brad Miller:

Can you just give us an example

Dr. Brad Miller:

you don't obviously don't give names like that,

Dr. Brad Miller:

but just to a person or situation

Dr. Brad Miller:

would you've seen something really cool happened,

Dr. Brad Miller:

what transformation is taking place.

Angel Hiles:

So a couple of clients come to mind,

Angel Hiles:

but another couple does too.

Angel Hiles:

So all in which they had trouble with relationships, right?

Angel Hiles:

And feeling safe in their bodies,

Angel Hiles:

lots of anxiety, lots of patterns of choosing the same unhealthy partner

Angel Hiles:

over and over again, and and having trouble separating from that.

Angel Hiles:

So anxiety was very present self

Angel Hiles:

to self deprecating thoughts, you know, just very critical of themselves.

Angel Hiles:

And so the power of boundaries,

Angel Hiles:

I would say, for both females,

Angel Hiles:

and they were both in their, you know, early 20s

Angel Hiles:

so they started asking themselves right

Angel Hiles:

there's they started the quest of getting to know themselves

Angel Hiles:

because in addition to trauma, you know,

Angel Hiles:

the things we're talking about here is it's a separation for himself.

Angel Hiles:

Lots of times people don't know who they are, right?

Angel Hiles:

and they're feeling a lot of things that aren't truly there's

Angel Hiles:

also and that's a whole another topic

Angel Hiles:

but you know, the trauma can really distort our emotions,

Angel Hiles:

our views everything. So when they are paying attention to them,

Angel Hiles:

and asking themselves what do I like,

Angel Hiles:

What don't I like, you know, what does this person bring to my life

Angel Hiles:

rather than Am I good enough You know,

Angel Hiles:

so they they've started shifting their focus

Angel Hiles:

to what they started making different choices, right?

Angel Hiles:

And then they played with boundaries and saying,

Angel Hiles:

No, you know, when somebody expected them

Angel Hiles:

to always say yes, or you know,

Angel Hiles:

they started sharing their actual thoughts and feelings

Angel Hiles:

rather than not, you know, that avoidant behavior

Angel Hiles:

that can show up in you know, people pleasing tendencies

Angel Hiles:

where I don't want to rock the boat,

Angel Hiles:

so I'm just going to do this but then I'm going to be angry that I did it

Angel Hiles:

and resentful because I'm only doing it

Angel Hiles:

to please you kind of, so

Angel Hiles:

when they start honoring their thoughts and feelings,

Angel Hiles:

then they start feeling more confident

Angel Hiles:

and feeling better and anxiety goes down,

Angel Hiles:

the anger goes down.

Dr. Brad Miller:

transition that can take place with people

Dr. Brad Miller:

when they do transition to seeing their value

Dr. Brad Miller:

based on an out to hear and maybe a new meaning

Dr. Brad Miller:

from outside forces, whether it's their family

Dr. Brad Miller:

of origin or a partner, you mentioned about choosing, you know,

Dr. Brad Miller:

you know, the same type of partner and this type of thing,

Dr. Brad Miller:

when their values shift to their have their own,

Dr. Brad Miller:

you know, self worth, that there are a child of God,

Dr. Brad Miller:

they are a value in and of themselves.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And then they can even enhance that through healthy relationships,

Dr. Brad Miller:

for instance, but not be dependent

Dr. Brad Miller:

or codependent on anything else,

Dr. Brad Miller:

then that's a, that's a really cool thing to see when that happens and

Angel Hiles:

it's a beautiful thing,

Angel Hiles:

when they make their connections within themselves,

Angel Hiles:

and when they start feeling their worth

Angel Hiles:

and believing in their worth.

Angel Hiles:

And I'm really glad you use those words,

Angel Hiles:

because that's exactly right.

Angel Hiles:

And I do teach that also of self worth, right,

Angel Hiles:

self compassion, and nothing separates them

Angel Hiles:

from their self worth, right,

Angel Hiles:

it doesn't matter how many negative behaviors

Angel Hiles:

or mistakes one has made, you can still turn from that.

Angel Hiles:

And it doesn't mean you're bad person.

Angel Hiles:

And I think, you know, when people engage in behaviors

Angel Hiles:

that aren't effective and get helpful to get needs met.

Angel Hiles:

And then quite often those behaviors

Angel Hiles:

lead to more, you know, negative feelings,

Angel Hiles:

guilt and shame, and then reinforces perhaps the negative beliefs

Angel Hiles:

that I'm unlovable or, you know, I'm worthy, or

Dr. Brad Miller:

just to kind of take our conversation full circle,

Dr. Brad Miller:

when you're a part of the process

Dr. Brad Miller:

of being helpful for people to find their self worth

Dr. Brad Miller:

and their value and to not be dependent or independent

Dr. Brad Miller:

or codependent on others that kind of kind of takes you back

Dr. Brad Miller:

that helps you then to process

Dr. Brad Miller:

and deal with some of the things that you had to deal with

Dr. Brad Miller:

growing up and so on some of the decisions that you made

Dr. Brad Miller:

and help you to have you affirmation of your own

Dr. Brad Miller:

of your own self. And I think ultimately, that's what a lot of us want.

Dr. Brad Miller:

A lot of folks are just kind of lonely or kind of disconnected.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And in a tough world. And, you know,

Dr. Brad Miller:

certainly last couple of years with COVID.

Dr. Brad Miller:

It's been more isolated and things like that.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And folks need to have a process

Dr. Brad Miller:

to deal with the trauma and the drama in their life.

Dr. Brad Miller:

And you're in you're providing that.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So I just commend you on that.

Dr. Brad Miller:

So If folks want to find out more about you, Angel,

Dr. Brad Miller:

how can folks be connected with you?

Angel Hiles:

sure, they can check out my website at angelhiles.com,

Angel Hiles:

and so I do provide counseling and coaching services.

Angel Hiles:

And I do have lots of great things in the works.

Angel Hiles:

I too, am working on a book

Angel Hiles:

and I'm working on trainings and courses

Angel Hiles:

and live events because I just love teaching

Angel Hiles:

and encouraging people, modalities to help them

Angel Hiles:

release their trauma stored in their bodies

Angel Hiles:

and to connect with each other.

Angel Hiles:

Because life is so short,

Angel Hiles:

and it's meant to be lived peacefully,

Angel Hiles:

in connection with one another and have fun. Y

Angel Hiles:

ou can have fun, there's not enough fun,

Angel Hiles:

there's so many distractions

Angel Hiles:

and hustle and bustle.

Angel Hiles:

And really it's encouraging people to slow down

Angel Hiles:

and to be present and to enjoy what is

Angel Hiles:

rather than what we don't have

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or getting caught up in all these external factors.

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And you know, start moving the body more,

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start your painting, creating you know,

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all these playful things that we forget

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that we once were as children right

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and the innocence and we lose that when we grow

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and get you know bogged down by other people's beliefs

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or maybe we've absorbed other people's energies

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and beliefs, right like so that we lost our joy.

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So I just want to encourage people to be themselves

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and let the light in and to do more fun things

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and things that help them feel happy and true to themselves.

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