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Happy Friends, Happier You: How Your Friends Happiness Affects Yours
Episode 10220th July 2022 • This Shit Works • Julie Brown
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We’ve all heard the saying Happy Wife, Happy Life. But science and research actually shows that it may be more like Happy Friends, Happier You. 

Studies show that behavior is influenced three degrees out. Meaning, you are affected by the whims of friends of friends of friends — and similarly, they by you.


Political views, weight gain, smoking and even that very very important thing, happiness, are all influenced by strangers. And having happy friends and relatives appears to be a more effective predictor of happiness than earning more money.


Listen in as I dig deeper into the research on how the happiness of not just our friends, but strangers affects our happiness. 


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We've all heard the saying happy wife, happy life.

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But science and research actually shows that it may be more

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like happy friends, happier.

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You.

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Welcome to episode 1 0 2 of this shit works a podcast dedicated to

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all things, networking, business development, and relationship building.

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I'm your host, Julie Brown.

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And today I am discussing how your friends' happiness affects you.

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I recently read an article and then times magazine titled the science of karma

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three steps to making it work for you.

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I was originally looking at this When I was doing research for episode

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99 of this podcast, but I found the research so interesting that instead

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of rolling it into the karma episode, I decided to dedicate this episode.

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To the findings in the article.

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The article discussed research that has been done on social networks.

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And this research shows that karma might be quite real, but

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not in the way we think about.

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About it, not in the traditional sense of we do good.

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We get good.

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It's more like the six degrees of separation idea.

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Because studies showed that the people who surround us dramatically affect our

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behavior without us even realizing it Like really not realizing it because we

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often don't think about our connections past the first connection as being able

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to influence us but the study shows that behavior our behavior is influenced three

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degrees out So you are affected by the whims of friends of friends of friends

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And similarly they buy you The article goes on to say that political views

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weight gain smoking and even that very very very important thing happiness Are

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all influenced by strangers Like how can this be Here is a direct quote from the

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researchers Our own research has shown that the spread of influence and social

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networks obeys what we call the three degrees of influence rule Everything we

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do or say tends to ripple through our network Having an impact on our friends

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one degree our friends friends two degrees and even our friends friends friends

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Three degrees The three degrees rule applies to a broad range of attitudes

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feelings and behaviors and it applies to the spread of phenomena as diverse as

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political views weight gain And happiness

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When it comes to the direction of happiness.

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The article goes on to say Nath, medical.

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Analyses of the networks.

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It suggests that a person.

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It is about 15% more likely to be happy.

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If a directly connected person.

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At one degree of separation is happy.

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And the spread of happiness.

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Doesn't stop.

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There the happiness.

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Eunice effect for people at two degrees of separation, the friend's friend is 10%.

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And for people at three degrees of separation, the friend

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of a friend, Have a friend.

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It is about six.

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6%.

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So the happiness of people.

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You have never met and may never meet.

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Can and will still affect.

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Affect you.

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It's a little.

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Fucked up.

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Right?

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Like now I'm like, okay, everyone get fucking happy.

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Cause you're all affecting my shit.

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Three degrees out.

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When we think about happiness, we all think money will make

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us happy, but it's not true.

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We'd be better off investing in the happiness of our friends, then working

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our asses off to make more money.

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An excerpt from the study says an extra $5,000 in 1980 $4, which corresponds to

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about $10,000 in $2,009 was associated with only a 2% increased chance of a

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person being happy So going back to that happiness effect having happy friends and

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relatives appears to be a more effective predictor of happiness than earning more

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money And the amazing thing is that even people who are three degrees removed

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from you whom you may never meet can have a stronger impact on your personal

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happiness than a water of hundreds in your pockets so spending time making friends

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has a higher happiness roi than time spent Making money Go back to this If the

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higher amount of money It's associated with a 2% increase and then we know that

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first degrees make us 15% more happy and secondaries make us 10% more happy and

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third degrees make a 6% more happy All of those affect us more than more money

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So we need friends around us that are happy and if you're not sure how to make

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new friends go back and listen to episode 38, where i interviewed dr marissa franco

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about how to make friends as an adult And then relisten to episode 99, about the

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10 ways to put good karma out into your network remember with happiness affects

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spanning three degrees of separation there's a good chance making knows people

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in your daily life happy will flow back to you So introduce your friends to

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other friends so they can help make new friends Make introductions in your network

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so you can have people in your network making new friends by strengthening your

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network and overall happiness of it you can reap the benefits three degrees out

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you can selfishly increase your chance of being consistently happy by making other

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people in your life Happy It's fucking great All right Onto the drink of the

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week which is appropriately named the happy bastard It's a turn on an older

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cocktail called the suffering bastard but because we're all going to be three

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degrees of happy going forward we're going to be happy bastards here's what

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you're going to need One ounce of gin.

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Three fourths hours.

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Of brandy a quarter ounce of st germain A Half ounce of ginger syrup a half ounce

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of fresh squeezed lemon juice and one and a half ounces Uh, fever tree cucumber

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tonic Combine all ingredients except the tonic and a cocktail shaker with ice and

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shake shake shake shake shake shake shake and then strain into a collins glass

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over ice and top the tonic and garnish with a lemon wheel All right friends

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that's it for this week thanks so much for being here now go out and make your

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