Today We Talk Empowerment To Help You, The Listener, Re-tool and Change Your Life:
After working to support his family as a struggling artist, Derek Stone chose to reevaluate his life and his way of thinking, and in three short years grew a small one-man show into a million-dollar company. This amazing transformation came about through a decision to forgive his father. Derek left
the path of blame and began traveling down a path of forgiveness which led him to start living his best life. He is now on a mission to help empower others to make the same transformation by helping them take charge of their own lives.
Quote: When you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war within. ~ Cheryl Richardson
For years Derek Stone had dreams of becoming a musician. This road didn’t lead him to success, however, it led him to Nashville, TN. Struggling to live as a starving artist with a family to feed, it was then he thought “there’s got to be a better way.” He went through an early life crisis, changing careers with the help of mentors and watching YouTube. He took his God-given talent of Creativity and transferred it from being something you hear to something that you can see. As it turned out, the construction industry was his road to success, the “better way” he had longed for. In three short years, he grew a small one-man show into a company with $1.2 million in gross revenue.
He credits his success to one decision as a senior in high school. He started looking back at his life to figure out what made him so different from his three siblings. The difference. . . he chose to forgive his dad and to take a different path than his parents. He blamed his dad for every bad thing he went through as a child: from being sexually abused and going hungry, to taking cold showers because the power got cut off. He was a bitter teenager and wanted a better life, so when the opportunity presented itself, he took it and chose forgiveness.
36 years since the beginning of his story and he is currently living his best life. He enjoys hunting, fishing, knife making, and hanging out with his family. He loves empowering people to re-tool and change their lives. He loves God, loves his family, and loves people.
Top 3 Hot Point Takeaways:
- Understanding Resentment, Bitterness, and Anger.
- Self-Realization on Family and Life Balance.
- For whatever is your why choose to forgive.
Today’s Resource Links from the Podcast:
Website - https://www.derekstone.online/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/derek-stone-b342ab125/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Derekstone28
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/derek_f_stone/
Watch us on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/edkeS-fhmPA
Timestamped Show Notes:
00:30 - Introduction
10:45 - I would say the anger, which is derived from the bitterness, and once the anger matures, it becomes in bitterness, and then once those two mature, they become resentment.
20:45 - So we were at this conference and this dude, Dave Park, was talking about bitterness versus forgiveness. He said, some of you need to forgive a parent or a sibling or aunt or uncle or grandparent and my blood pressure started going and all of a sudden, all these memories started flooding back through my head, like a time-lapse video, and I started getting angry. Then this voice came to me man and said, Derek, I want to use you, but I can't. Because you have this bitterness towards your dad.
31:00 - I had a conversation with my wife that was very, very humbling for me because my pride is always kind of my pride it always just like she really just doesn't know. But she in fact did. I don't know how she did. It's like your parents when you're a teenager, they always know you're running around screwing around doing something. How do they know that?
42:00 - That is a valid point, you know, not to look down on it now. But I'm just saying, it wasn't a necessity. I hated doing it. But I had to do what I had to do to get myself to a better place while I retooled, you know that's what was going on. Then the moment I stopped, the unemployment went right into a job doing construction, grunt work stuff, and bad stuff.
50:00 - I guess where we are is where we are in life. You know, people do that look at us and say some of those things sometimes. I missed the whole first year and my first month of my second child's life.
59:00 - Final Words Shown Below…
Our Final Words of the Show:
My wife wrote the last sentence in the book and it says "for whatever is your why choose to forgive." I think that sometimes you have to search in your heart for your why, what it is that you do, or maybe it's the why that you don't want to pass on something to your kids, or you don't want to pass stuff through to your wife. The people you love the most are next, they are the ones that are going to be hurt the most by your bitterness and your resentment. Yeah, for whatever is your why choose to forgive.
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