Do it for Them, Not You: How to Undergo a Performance Makeover w/ Pastor Tim Conkling
"If you help enough people get what they want, you'll get what you want." --Zig Ziglar
That quote came to my mind as I was listening to my friend, pastor and mentor Tim Conkling share his experience w/ performance anxiety and how he overcame some of his own struggles with it in his younger years.
Tim is an ordained Presbyterian pastor. But he has an extensive history and interest in the trumpet community. He is a graduate of the Eastman School of Music, receiving his performer's certificate before entering full-time ministry.
He also gave Yours Truly some valuable encouragement and coaching when I decided to make music my full-time craft in 2007. Well, he reached out to me a couple of weeks ago and said he wanted to do a podcast on performance anxiety, and I readily agreed.
Here's what he shared:
Tim's Performance Makeover...11:13
Never practice, always perform
Practice vs. performance mentality
Kill the ego when you perform
Perform any chance you get
Break the physiological and psychological cycle...19:40
Dry mouth, sweaty palms
Inderol inhibits the sympathetic nervous system
Gradually wean off the beta blockers
Identity is tied up with your performance
"Identity is not tied to my playing"
Enjoy the moment, even your mistakes
What's at the root of performance anxiety?...27:05
We don't understand the ego
Our identity gets tied into our playing
A big ego can give you lots of courage or lots of fear
Quit being selfish; become selfless and self-forgetful