Prepare to be inspired to not only speak your truth but embrace it fully in all aspects of your life with Jennifer Urezzio, a personal development expert with over two decades of experience. Jennifer explains how speaking our truths and aligning with our authentic selves leads to healthier relationships, better boundaries, self-respect, and greater joy and success in business. Learn the strategies that will help you feel safe and supported while expressing your truths, and ways to overcome common barriers you might face. Tune in, grab some wisdom on speaking your truth for personal growth and increase your income!

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• Speaking truth as a soul calling and not an ego-driven action
• Importance of speaking truths to individuals who provide safety and support
• Addressing issues like childhood experiences and imposter syndrome which inhibit truth-telling
• The significance of trusting one's intuition in overcoming restrictive early beliefs
• The advantages of speaking unconventional truths in business settings
• Viewing vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness
• The positive impacts of seeking assistance
• The concept of Soul Language
• Emphasizing boundary-setting in both personal and professional relationships to maintain individuality and respect

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Jennifer Urezzio is a prominent figure in the field of personal development and spiritual growth. As a gifted master intuitive and healer, she has devoted her life to helping others discover their unique Soul Languages and embrace their true essence. Jennifer is also an author, speaker, business strategist, and coach. She has spent over two decades guiding individuals to tune into their Souls for success and to unleash the power of their voice through their business. Currently, she has trained over 30 practitioners worldwide and there are over 5,000 individuals connected to their Soul Languages.

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Hello, everyone, and welcome to this week's episode of the Marketing Media and Money Podcast. I'm excited to have you here, because we're going to talk about truth today, and specifically, how to speak your truth and get paid for it. So what is your truth? How can you feel safe speaking it? And how can you monetize it? So that's kind of exciting. So let me tell you a little bit about our guest. Jennifer regio is a prominent figure in the field of personal development and spiritual growth. As a gifted master, intuitive and healer. She has devoted her life to helping others discover their unique Soul Ring bridges, and embrace their true essence. Jennifer is also a author, speaker, business strategist, and coach, and she has spent over two decades in her field two decades, I mean, think about that, right, two decades. So currently, she has trained over 30 practitioners worldwide, has over 5000 individuals connected to their soul languages. I mean, that is phenomenal. She's going to tell us all about it today. And then again, how we can speak our truth and get paid for it. So Jennifer, thank you so much for being here with me today.

Thank you so much. It's such an honor. I'm really thrilled. I'm excited.

I'm excited to I think this is something that you know, we're hearing more and more about now, right? Everybody's talking about, oh, you got to speak your truth, you gotta speak your truth. I think sometimes people don't even know what their truth is, right now. And

I think that I don't even I think some people focus on the little tease, and not the big tease. And I think when people are starting to learn and understand what their truth is, they can go overboard and too extreme. And so it doesn't come out savvy, it comes out a little aggressive. So there's a lot to talk about when it comes to truth.

I really think so too. I feel like you know, authenticity is a huge word. Now I kind of really believe in authenticity and alignment. I really feel like it's important. But sometimes people don't know their truth. And maybe part of it is because they're lying to themselves, not realizing that they are, but you know, maybe not realizing that they are right. And maybe it's just that they've been telling themselves that for so long that they believe it. Right, you know, but I really think it is really important, and is really important to feel safe. Speaking it right, you know, and I love that we're going to talk about monetizing it. So let's just jump right in. So with your extensive experience in personal development and spiritual growth, what led you really to focus specifically on helping others discover and speak their truth?

I think because most of my life in corporate America, I had to stifle my truth, right. I was told you to aggressive if and when I was asking for a pen? No, it doesn't work that way. No, we can't really talk about the truth. No, that's not what the client want wants. And it read led to a very frustrating why for me, I was like, I don't understand why we all just can't be honest and tell the truth and being integrity. What wouldn't that be good business sense. So when I got out of corporate America, and I started working with clients, they would ask me, Well, what do you feel? What do you think? And I would speak my truth. And I realized about 15 years in Oh, wait, I'm getting paid to speak the truth. And I think it's a buzzword now, right? Or we're evolving our consciousness, to speak the truth, because the old ways aren't working. And I think, you know, because of the pandemic, we realized how much we were just silently suffering. And so people are really kind of diving in too deeply to understand discover, and then accept and then express their truth in a way that's not just safe for them, but safe and harmonious for other people. And a lot of people do it in a way where it's not safe and harmonious for them, or for others.

No, I think that's absolutely true. I think that there were some things that we think are our truth. And really, it's something that we got from somebody else, and we just speak it, thinking it's the truth. Now, I know that, you know, you and I have worked together and I've done some work with you. It actually really helped me to know some that I didn't really know what my truth was. But I do have to tell you, sometimes my mom did a little bit more talking than I. Yeah.

And you deal why not? Let's name and you wanted to.

Exactly And I have to tell you, I really learned a lot about what was my truth and what was what she was saying to me. And really being able to understand the difference not to make her wrong, right. It just wasn't my truth, right? It just wasn't my truth. So I think that is really important. So I know we talk a lot, we talk a lot when I was introducing you, and I talk a lot about you, right? You know, for those of you who don't know, I've actually known Jennifer for a while. She's actually written for my magazine, and has actually been our cover girl too. So I love that. But when we're talking about soul languages, could you explain the concept of soul language and how they relate to an individual's truth and essence?

Yeah, you know, human beings love words for things. And I think everyone wants to establish a very strong connection with themselves and with others, and whatever they call their higher power. And usually, we need kind of a system or a formula or structure of doing that. What soul language does is it puts words to the three core energies of your essential nature or your soul, your mission, how you feel that mission, and then your soulful personality. And so when you have them identified, and you understand them, that allows you to really, in the simplest of terms, look at your language definition sheet and go hmm, I'm really suffering today, oh, look, I'm utilizing my energy in a non sustainable or in a pattern way. And then you get to tune in with your soul, and whatever you call your higher power, to shift your energy, from pain and programming to consciousness. And when you put consciousness into anything, it grows. And so business is really about growing, right. And it's about evolution, it's about sustainability. So if you keep putting your pain and programming into your business, it's going to respond painfully. But if you put consciousness it's going to evolve. So So language is a way to put words to your essential nature. So people can accept it on a fundamental basis, and then have a deep conversation with themselves and with their higher power. So they can be guided in everything they do, and your soul, your essential nature is never going to guide you in the wrong direction. Right. And it's never gonna say something you don't resonate with, it will tell you something you're in resistance about. And then you get to sit down and have a conversation with you and shift your beliefs around that. So you're really speaking your truth, which is, in simplest terms, you're holding complete. And if I believe I'm holding complete that I have to treat everyone like their whole incomplete, whether they're acting it or not, and that to me is big truths, right. So when you take those big truths, then you can determine what your little truths are in regards to those big truths.

Now, when you really think about it, and you break it down in those terms, that doesn't sound quite so scary sight sound a lot safer, right, you know, so how do you guide your clients in identifying and embracing their unique truth? Right, especially when they've been maybe conditioned to suppress it?

Yeah. Well, first of all, we have to determine what their truth is, right? And then we have to kind of work backwards. So we have to understand their big truths, right? And their big, some truths correspond to values, and some are so innately in them that there's no way of getting them off of that. And so, how do you want to play a game? Sure. Okay. So close your eyes, let's tune into your heart. And I'm just going to ask you a question. Whatever pops up, you say aloud, what is something that you profoundly know about yourself? That no one can change your mind around.

That I profoundly know about myself. Right, that I believe in a higher power.

Great. So that's a big truth for you, right? And everything then can be measured to that big truth. Right? So for example, say you were having a bad day, or you felt not enough, right? You could go then go pause and go, Okay. When I tune into my higher power, is this really true? Or was I just off the mark today? Right, and then that begins to shift all of those little beliefs around that. And here's the thing. It's really about practice. And I think so often when people are starting to speak their truth, which in your case is at this point, they you believe in a higher power, right? Then they tend to start to speak with their truth with people that aren't safe to speak their truth to, right, because they're trying to go back to those people who have instilled in them programmings are beliefs in order to say, no, no, no, you're wrong. This is what I believe in. You can't hurt me anymore. And that doesn't work, because those people are never going to hear you. So I also provide space and suggest my clients speak to people that are safe to speak their truth. And then I also talked to tell them to activate that in their body. So your body doesn't have free will. It's your mind and heart that day. As. So when we use that divine intelligence to activate safety, even if you've never felt it before, your body will hum at a vibration of safety. So before they speak anything, I tell them activate the knowing that you're safe to speak your truth. And we keep doing that. And we keep building that up. And that allows people to feel safer, and to take bigger risks in speaking their truth.

So you talked a few seconds ago about people who feel resistance, right? So if they're resistant or hesitant or fearful, right or fearful, do you have any strategies that you would recommend that would help them to feel safe? And more than that, even to empower them to actually do so? Yeah.

So I think you have to take everything small, small and small steps, right, baby steps are huge. So the first thing I would tell them is okay, you're hesitant, you're in fear, let's do a little roleplay. Right, I want you to speak your truth to me, even if it comes out as a rambling kind of love. And I want you to feel how I'm going to be loving, I guess that day. And I have no skin in that game, right. So once they start to feel that love and acceptance from someone else, which is really activating the love and acceptance in themselves, then they can go to bigger truth game than me, I'd also suggest that they tune in and find someone within their support teams that are truly supportive. And then go and speak their truth there. I also tell them to look up nonviolent communication, which is a structure about how to communicate with people, so you feel safe, and basically is like, I need this. Do you think you are able to do this? If not, that's okay, knowing that you're gonna go somewhere else to get that need met. So you're approaching conversations, not by tit for tat, or by conflict or war, but you're covered, you're creating a conversation based on what you need, seeing if that person is able to do that. And if not, you can move on to another subject or another experience.

I think that's a powerful, yeah, that's really, really powerful. So do you find that there's some common, like barriers or obstacles that kind of get in the way really, from them really, like, say, fully expressing their truth?

Yeah, it usually happens to people who are highly intuitive, highly innovative, that they see things nobody else sees. And, you know, they kind of let that fly when they were little. And they would get back. Well, who do you think you are? What are you talking about? You know, now that right? Or, you know, my favorite one when I was a kid was children should be seen and not heard. And my other favorite word was, respect your elders. And I turned around to a 12 year old isn't said to my father, when they earn it, I will respect that. Right? Right. Well, you know, right, Bud Light. But you know, if you notice that your you get choked up a lot in your throat, if you notice, the first sign of getting sick is always in your throat. Right? Those are all signs that you're not speaking your truth in one shape form or another. And you might be speaking your truth in business, and have a hard time speaking your truth or relationships, right? This is not because you feel safe in one area you feel safe. And another. Another one is imposter syndrome is also a sign that you don't feel safe speaking your truth, or you're undervaluing yourself, I think not speaking your truth comes down to the unsustainable belief that you believe you're not worthy. And so also, if you tackle that belief, then that will also clear up your throat issues and your ability to express yourself freely.

When you really stop and take that in, right, like take that in really, right? Because I think it says a lot and you can like, feel it. Yeah. And I, I find that in the conversations that we've had. Once I learned to trust my intuition, which I have to tell you is so strong now. And I thought that in the beginning, you knew that, you know, I did like that. I did that. Like I was like, Why? Because I felt that my truth at that time was that when those things told me to do one or told me to do the other, you know, I also that was one of the things with my mom that I had to work on. And I used to hear those things, too. I mean, I remember when I was a kid, my parents telling me that they would pay me $5 If I could be quiet for 30 minutes like I could never die that

I was sit still and be quiet and I was like okay, I'm gonna lose this bet. I

never could do it. You know, they call me chatty patty. And I remember thinking that that meant like I heard other, you know, what I heard was, I'm not supposed to talk writing so, so be quiet and not have anything to say. And I will never forget when the first time that I was asked to speak. And then when I got my podcast, my mom was already passed away by the end. But I remember at the time, you know, thinking mom, like they're gonna pay me to speak, like, they want to hear what I have to say. And they're actually going to pay me to do it. And I was so like, that was like, so impactful for me, right? You know, because I felt like, I would share, and I cared, and I had the truth. And I knew in my gut that it was truth. But a lot of times, I think what happens if it's not the norm, right, if it's not what everybody else is saying? Right? But I think the thing is, that's the things that people want to hire. Right? Not the norm. Yeah.

And here's the thing, I think, you know, a lot of people who want to speak their truth or have that me to speak that truth, to have that need to have a forum for their voice, they have a spotlight in their soul, their soul is longing them to be in the spotlight, right? Because I have a message that the masses need to hear. And I think so often, we've been taught that, oh, that's so egocentric. Oh, who do you think you are, you get to be in the spotlight. But there is a soul calling. And it's a tribe. And I always tell people, if you're trying to fill a hole by being in the spotlight, then that's ego driven. If you are being polled, and know that that's your place. That's a soul calling. And the more that you have a willingness to accept that truth, because that's a truth, then the easier opportunities are going to fall into your lap. And the more you're going to be success, be able to succeed, the more you're going to be able to monetize it, and people will want to pay you for it. Because you're accepting it so profoundly because it is a calling because it's an evolution and a longing for you to provide people with information and messages, which I think

is so important. So what would you say about if somebody is speaking their truth? How would that contribute? I love that word, contribute to like personal fulfillment, both professionally, right, successfully, like how it is in their business, in their relationships in their personal life. So how to speaking one's truth because sometimes, when you're speaking your truth, other people don't really want to hear it, right? whether it's personal or business. So how can that contribute to your fulfillment and success in business?

And the key to that is understanding and accepting that as you speak your truth you receive, meaning that you are speaking your truth. And because you are there's an outlet for that normal situation. Sometimes when people speak their truth, they're speaking their truth, to their preaching to the choir. Those people don't want to hear it. Or they've been people pleasing for so long that now they've moved to speaking their truth. People are like, Well, what what? Right. So when you speak your truth, you have less codependent relationships, right, you have more boundaries, which lead to not over serve as elicit i over service clients, right you over service clients. But there comes a time where we over service to our detriment. When you're speaking your truth, you're gonna have boundaries, you're not going to over service your clients, right? You're really going to have value and respect for yourself, you're going to put some price tags and some money amounts to your services, those are all behind speaking your truth. And so all of that leads to better relationships, more income. You're also when you're speaking your truth, you're not gonna keep putting up with people who run all over you and never asked you how you are. And we've all been in those conversations. Right? I was walking with a friend of mine today. And she's like, Oh, my God, I've been talking for like 10 minutes. And I haven't asked yet who you are. And I was like, No, that's cool. I'm cool with hearing about your life right now. Like, I don't really want it like, I'm cool. I don't want to talk about myself don't need to write. But there has to be a give and take in relationships. And so if you're not willing to actually feel safe, being vulnerable, because that's what it is. Right? Then how are you going to have that give and take and in order to receive and receive big, you have to be shaping vulnerable? And one of the things I really love about you, Patti, is that you do you have this natural ability to feel safe being vulnerable, because you receive huge, right, thank you. You're welcome. And the more you receive, right, the more than you have to know that you're safe to say yes, no, that doesn't feel right. And that takes courage. So it's kind of all wrapped up into one. But I don't know any really successful business person who is not speaking their own truth and succeeding happily in business, meaning being fulfilled, not just with money.

But that makes a lot of sense. I really have found for me that one of the things when you first taught me this process and principle was that I get to choose, right, you know, I do know that I over serve, but sometimes I do it by choice, because I want to. And I think that that's where I learned to balance that and boundaries, right, I get to choose when I want to over serve, for lack of a better term. And when I'm going to set boundaries, like, you know, I'm very, very clear now weigh in as part of my onboarding process of what is okay and what's not, okay, like, I give all my clients my cell number, right? I tell them, feel free to call me if you're stuck. I don't want you to wait to our next call. But that doesn't mean I want you're calling me at 10 o'clock at night or four o'clock in the morning, right? These are the boundaries. I don't take calls on the weekends, unless it's an emergency. Right, you know, so, you know, but again, it's in marketing. And really, if there's not blood, it's probably not an agency. Right. So with that said, though, but I feel like, once I was able to do it, it felt so good, like speaking that truth, really, it was like, Oh, that's really wonderful. But I think it is for them true. Because when you speak your truth, and some receive it, then it enables them to be able and empowers them to know, oh, well, you know, I can't call Patti after this amount of time that you know, so that empowers me to either take the next step myself, because you know, or whatever the case may be, right. Yeah, that I guess that. For me, that has been huge.

And here's the thing, when you actually have those boundaries and speak your truth, you're going to have a more conscious group of clients, right? So I pick my clients through the Peanuts characters, I just tune in, and I go okay, so what Peanuts characters this person and why people are Linus isn't Sally's. Right? I don't take on a Charley bile because it's victim energy and I just want to eat them for breakfast. Like, I can't deal with that. Right. I don't take on Woodstock's cuz they tend to be crazy. But Patty I used to take on Lucy's, and Lucy always pulled the football always, like, I'm like, why am I surprise here it is again. Right? So when you understand and when you have the appropriate boundaries and speak your truth, you're gonna pick those clients that have less drama. Right? Let's victim energy. Let's codependent relationships, right. And who wants to actually do the work in whatever form that is, whether it's transformational work, whether it's actually, you know, actually coming up with their marketing story, or whatever that looks like that rather than someone goes, well, I didn't have time, or I just couldn't do it, you're gonna actually have people who actually are in the game with you. And those are clients that are fun. And those are clients that are enjoyable. And those are clients where you can enjoy your day and feel peaceful versus, you know, sitting at your desk or reading yourself because oh my god, I should have woulda coulda.

So true. I know, for me that one of the criteria for being that it's so clear now is that I only want to work with people that bring me joy and feed my soul. Right? You know, that's it, bring me joy and feed my soul. Like I got into business, right not to have another job, right? You know, I got into business, for the reasons that I want to serve and how I want to help people and what my mission is. And so I think that is really important to me. And sometimes we can get in our own way. Yeah, for that. And all of a sudden, it's like, Well, you're the CEO of your company bowtie, right. And so sometimes that means we're the ones that have to ship. And sometimes that means we have to learn about exactly and easily have to be responsible. It's, you know, we don't get to just say, No, I used to think one of the things that I really learned working with you is I always knew what my triggers were like, I've done some inner work. So I knew that because of some of the traumas that I'd had when I was younger. What would trigger that I thought this was my truth. It was not my right, right? I thought was if I knew what my triggers are, and I tell you what they are, and I say, Oh, just so you know, that this is something that really triggers me and I don't do well, with that. And I do better with this. I feel like I'm really helping the situation by saying, Oh, this triggers me and this, I react better to this, that once I've done that now it's your responsibility not to trigger me. That's what I thought, well, and I've lived through that a long time.

I Love that. I mean, I love it. I hate it both, were you right? Because, like, you're halfway there, you're like, I'm expressing my truth. And then the next part, which you've totally learned is like you keep a boundary. Okay, you've crossed that boundary. Yeah, no, we're not playing anymore. Right. And I think that, you know, that also comes from, in my experience of those parents or relationships that said, you know, my father was like, you know, kids should call their parents. I'm the kid. What are you talking about? Like, call me back? Right? And I think so often we're set up in those, oh, well, this seems normal, because I'm telling you what I want. And you're gonna give it to me, because that's the role we played in some of those parents or relationships, right? They told us what they wanted. And we gave it to them, which is kyllini, the reverse of what's supposed to be going on. And so it becomes this warped sense of little tea and stir the big tea. The big teas are the ones that don't make you feel achy and sticky. Inside. They're the ones that you go. Yeah, that feels good. That feels like sitting in warm water and, you know, comfy chair. And it takes a little bit of courage to keep stating your big tea tree teas, I live in your life by them. And when you do, people are gonna come around and go, How did you how did you do that? How did that happen? Can you teach me that? Can you talk to me about that? And I? And I think that's most of what our all of our careers are based on? Right? We we've hopped over those? Yes. And

felt like when I really got really clear on that, I realized that that sounded good. But ultimately, I was responsible, right? Which actually took me to the one thing I have to show you, I have six daughters. Sure. Everybody knows that about me. And there was like one thing that collectively, they did that literally drove me bananas. And no matter how much I told them that I didn't want them to do it. Like, it was like, like, I would say, I like for my birthday. I don't want you to text me, I want you to call me. Right, but they live in a world where they love to text and, and all this kind of stuff. And no matter how much I will say I really want you to call me. My husband actually even called up my daughter once and said, I want you to know that no matter what I do for mom, I think she could have the most amazing birthday. If you don't call her no matter what I do. It's never enough because she's waiting for you to call her. And it kind of happened like, and I would kind of be upset about it. And finally, I just literally wait to them and said like, I don't understand, like, I need you to tell me why this is a big thing for you. I'm not asking you to call me every day or every week or every month. I'm just saying on Mother's Day and my birthday. On those days. I would like have a phone call. And my daughters are like, okay, except for my older daughter who loves to speak truth. And she said, You want me to tell you why mom? And I'm like, yeah, she's like, because you kind of told me to do it. And I don't like it when you tell me to do things. And so she said you didn't ask me to do it. You told me to it. And because you were the mom and I was a daughter? And I was like no, I did. And she said No mom, really you did. And so that was kind of like a big thing. Right? You know, and once we actually talked about it, like now they always call me on my birthday and Mother's Day. And not to mention all all the other times that they call me too, though, but, but really they understand now that that was important. Yeah. And boring. But it was that was their truth. And once they actually told me and they said, Oh, well now we could come to a to a collaboration. Yeah, we collaborate and say, oh, okay, how about this, right? You know, this is this, and this is this right? You know, and so I have to tell you, if it like literally bothered me for a long time, before we actually got to that point, and I understood why she wouldn't do cat like why she wouldn't do it

Yeah. And I was like, why don't you just I think a lot of people don't express their truth and relationships. Because they think that they've done it and they're like, Okay, why are you following through? I've talked about this, instead of having that give and take in relationships and that conversation, right? Nobody, nobody likes to be told what to do. And so when you like know what I don't like to resell what to do? It's a joke around our house like, yep, why don't you tell me to do that? Because I'm not gonna do it right like, but if you ask me, I will do anything for you. And so it's really about giving people the forum, not just for yourself to speak the truth. But for each other. You do speak the truth and then for a kind of truth, collaboration to happen. And and remember, focus on the big truths, not the little truths, because the Those are based on belief systems versus the big trees which are to vine rights. Right? Exactly.

I didn't. And there was never a time that I weighed and said, Oh, why we're saying, Why move a lot, like, you know, whatever it was just like, I have to tell you, I remember the day I had that conversation. It did feel vulnerable and courageous at the same time. At the same time, I felt vulnerable and courageous. At the same time, and like, it wasn't an argument. It wasn't a I just said, This is what's important to me. She told me why she wouldn't do it. And then we came to, you know, a collaboration of what was okay. Now, literally, like, that was like two years ago. And now it's like such a, such a kind of a little thing, but it was a big three,

And look at all the goodness that came from it, right? Like, the the foundation of the relationship has changed. In a better way, you're closer, because you had that trustworthy, truthful conversation. And here's the thing, when we're having those, more speaking our truth, the charge has to be gone. Meaning way, you can't come to it all ready for battle, right? You have to know that your love is supported and provided for and that you're safe. And that's about activating divine intelligence is your body fill my body with the feeling and knowing that I'm safe? And if you have to do it 100 times during the conversation you do it 100 times during a conversation? Would you say that?

Really, I remember thinking like sometimes to be courageous and vulnerable. And there was a time when I was younger, where I really felt like not being authentic, being vulnerable. And to me, those were not the exact same thing. But I still feel like being vulnerable was a weakness. We're now I feel like it's a strength.

Yeah, I know, right? I love that. Because that's a very warrior like attitude. And I have warrior energy as well. You know, when when we realized that it is a strength, right, in order to receive you need to open up your arms, you're not going to be like this, like that's not going to get you anywhere, when we realize that the strength is really knowing that we are supported safe, no matter what how we're being vulnerable, then we can utilize it as a superpower. Instead of trying to, you know, kind of being a bull in a china shop and get what we want. Right? When we are honest. And when we are vulnerable. It gives people another opportunity to support us and help us and listen, here's what the truth is. Everyone, everybody wall really wants to be helpful, right? Every really want. Everybody wants to be of service to somebody else. We just don't give people a lot of chances. I remember remember being in the post office, and this woman had this three baby carriage, three baby carriages with the three babies in the carrot, and then boxes on top of the baby carriage. And she's trying to open that heavy post office door and I'm like, Do you need any help? She's like, No, I got it last like no, you don't have it. Like so often we especially for fiercely independent women, right? We had to be fiercely independent, we have to do it all. And that doesn't really allow a lot for the universe to come in and support us. We keep fist arming the universe. And that's really not our truth. That's a learned behavior. Right? So when you kind of open it up and go, you know, I mean, I've had some silly situations where I've had to ask for help. Right? I remember a couple years ago when I broke my ankle. You know, I had to walk the dog even though my landlord said he would walk the dog. Right? So I'm outside in November in the cold with the cast on minus the shoe on the other foot. And Marlins like Jennifer, I told you, I would walk the dog. Why didn't you call them like, I don't know, I couldn't ask her out, like they had this little fit, right? And then I was like, This is ridiculous like this is imagine what this is showing up in every aspect of my life. So I started asking for help. And my business grew because I was open to receive aid. And it doesn't make you weak. It makes you strong. And here's the thing, if anyone was to ask me for help, I'd be there in a second. Right. So exactly, kind of closing that giving and receiving cycle. You know, it had huge impact on my life and in my business. And it allows for something much more greater to happen, which is what you talk about a lot, which is collaboration between people.

I think it's really important too, because one of the things that I learned many, many years ago, which is I always love to surf and I love to helmet so I'm always like one of the first people is that oh no, I got that. I'll do that. I'll do that. And one time I remember, when it really became apparent to me, I realized that I had pretty much hit a wall. And I actually really didn't have the bandwidth or the capacity to do it. And I remember thinking, you know, why do I do everything? Like, I'm the one that, yeah, and I kind of ran into that little pit for a second. But actually, one of the things that I've learned early on for me is whenever I feel myself go there, I actually take my phone out, and I, and I put a timer on for 30 seconds. And I tell myself, you can say do feel whatever you want for 30 seconds, but when the 30 seconds is out, you're putting your big girl panties on, and like moving on. And that really does work for me to give myself that time. But in this moment, I remember it hit me. And I thought, well, you know what, Patti? Maybe? Because you're the first one. Not that that's not always a good thing. But am I actually stepping up and doing that, so maybe somebody else might want to do it? And maybe for them, it's more like, Well, I really like to help a patio is, you know, is the first one to step up. And then I don't really have the opportunity. And so sometimes asking for help, really, what you're doing is you're giving somebody else the opportunity to share their gift. Yeah. And to be able to help in a way that they want to that you don't have to be the person to do it. Maybe you've always done that. There's probably a reason if you actually kind of tapped into that and really realize, Oh, why is that like this? Do you really feel like that's the only way anything ever gets done is if you're the one that does it? Right? You know, I mean, I remember when I was raising my, my girls, and I started this thing where they would kind of hand off chores to each other. And there was always like a hassle it like it literally every single weekend became a hassle. And I finally literally said, Okay, here's what we're going to do, we're going to write down the critical area. And when it's done, and when you're handing them off, you're just going to beat the criteria, and you're either going to accept it. And if you do, and then you find out, something's done that's on you. But now we all have a criteria, there should be no reason we have drama, that actually super worked for us, right? You know, so I feel like, No, you just have to think about what those things are. So here's what I want to say. What I want to say is, in this methodology, this soul language methodology that you teach, and you don't just teach it, you live and breathe it to right. I mean, that is just who you are. How would you say that embracing that. And really understanding it can helps someone in their business to be more profitable, help them with like, maybe their coaching practice their speaker, you know, speaking like all of the things that everybody who's listening right now, like, whatever those things are, like, how would doing that? And really, within your soul language methodology, how does that help them to do that?

I think the least amount of things that it does is it allows you to understand not to take everything too personal. I think so often, we take things personal and business. Here's a perfect example. I sent an email to kind of a new friend and associate. And I sent it about a week ago, and I'm like, Why didn't she get it? Why isn't she answering? What's going on? Like, what did I do? And I was like, well, well, well, let's just take a deep breath. It's not about me, like, let's just tune in. Okay, let's go back. Let's connect. Today, she reaches out, she's like, I've been away for two weeks. Okay, right. So it takes it allows you not to take things personally. And when you're not taking things personally, or from pain and programming, you make a lot of clear decisions. It also allows you to understand that you are wholly complete, which means you're not living from a place of scarcity. And so often people like make a lot of bad decisions, especially business from scarcity. We take on wrong clients, we over service, we're afraid to say something. So when you're really deeply connected, it allows you to know you're supported and provided for that allows you to know that your clients aren't a source for you. They're just a resource. And it allows you to really to tune in and go what do I want to say to my community? What do they need to hear? And so that's just like the tip of the iceberg, but it really gives you a solid place of feeling home and connected and allowing for yourself to be in the flow because you're not operating from bad experiences, bad programming or painful episodes in your life.

Man that is really powerful. So Jennifer, this has been amazing. So I want to be able to say that I know everybody's going to want to connect with you. What is the easiest way where should they go? Where's the easiest way for them to connect with you to learn more about your methodology to connect with you because I just have to tell you guys want her in your life. Ah Dan on high, and she connects you to really amazing people to make you.

So you could go to Seoul language or us and hit the soul language section and sign up for a discovery session. That's the best way because that big gives people an experience of soul language. It's there's no agenda no attachment I love identify one purse, one people, so languages at least one during that session. So you can really get a taste and a flavor. My answer my own emails, I pick up my own phone, please don't call me at three o'clock in the morning, either. And I'm on all the social media at Jennifer's yo or so language founder.

Oh that's beautiful. And you came with a gift, which I really, really love. So tell everybody a little bit about that gift.

Yeah, so I really can see a business in my head and see where the energetic holes are, where their gaps are. So this free gift is about three easy tools that you could do right now to change your energetics. So you can have profound success. And it's it comes in a beautiful little diagram and you put it on your desk, keep it in your wallet. And when you're feeling achy, sticky or sad or struggling in your business, you take it out, you do one of the three tools. So you can shift the energetics of your business so you can receive more. Wow,

that's powerful. I love that you get and thank you so much. So this is the part of the show that I like to call hashtag open mic where you've shared so much that if we had to narrow that down to just one, you know, just one marketing media money strategy. What was that number one strategy? Yeah,

I tell all my clients to tune in and ask what's the one thing they're going to do today, tomorrow, this week, this month this year to grow their business? I think so often were kind of trying to jot down all of our techniques and oral are strategies. But if you tune in and you ask that question, you're going to be divinely guided to those strategies that are actually going to to generate results versus running around your chicken without a head just doing things.

Oh, that is a good piece of advice and a great strategy. So I love that. So Jennifer, thank you so much for being here with me and sheds your brilliance so generously. As usual. I really appreciate you being here. Thank you

It's my honor. I love seeing you.

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