Chelli Pumphrey is a licensed professional counselor and a dating coach from Denver, Colorado. 

She is devoted to helping others live and love passionately by gaining the confidence to be authentic in their relationships.

Chelli offers retreats, therapy, and coaching for those looking for guidance on how to keep their minds calm and their hearts strong on their quest for love.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Be brave. Be you. And be loved.

Tripped Up in a Partnership

She was married for 10 years and most of the time was unfulfilled and unhappy.  She did not know how to be brave, assert her needs and be loved and it ended up in divorce.

Chelli entered the dating world again and eventually realized she was doing exactly what she did in her marriage and it was not working. Just kept repeating the same relationship over and over.

Then started a huge effort to take a risk and it paid off big time…

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Chelli was in a relationship that fed her belief that “she wasn’t good enough.” Then she started to learn about attachment theory and realized that her “attachment stuff” was getting in the way of a healthy relationship. 

Applying what she learned allowed her to transform her relationships and find partners who were a better match for her.

Proudest moment in partnership

Her most recent relationship is her one of her proudest moments in partnership because it is crystal clear that she has changed many of her old patterns. To feel respected and cared for in this new way, makes her light up.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

The relationships where she is authentic and vulnerable. Where her and her partner take those risks with each other. It is a two way street.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Take the risk to be yourself and be authentic. If something isn’t working for you, it’s probably time to take a risk and try something different.

Best Partnership Book

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love

Payoff of Partnership -

A good partnership is like a foundation. And when you have that foundation, you can build the rest of your life on top of it with confidence.

Interview Links -

www.AuthenticDate.com

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