In this episode of 'This Daring Adventure' podcast, we explore the crucial aspects of decision-making to lead a more empowered and intentional life. I discuss overcoming common decision-making struggles and offer practical tips to build confidence, save time, and accelerate growth.

By making deliberate decisions, you empower yourself to lead a life by design. Listen in to learn how to overcome the pitfalls of indecision, break free from past commitments, and approach life's choices with confidence.

02:30 The Power of Decision Making

03:53 Overcoming Indecision

07:46 Key Reasons to Start Making Decisions Today

11:04 Building Confidence Through Decisions

12:10 Guidelines for Confident Decision Making

13:30 Imagining Successful Outcomes

15:14 Consulting Your Future Self

16:09 Final Thoughts on Decision Making

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Welcome to This Daring Adventure podcast,

where we work on bridging the gap between

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where we are and where we want to be in

order to live a bigger and bolder life.

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In this podcast, we will provide

inspiration, tips, and skills

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you need to make your life the

adventure you want it to be.

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Here's your host, mindset

mentor and life coach Trista G

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Trista: Hey everybody.

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Welcome back to This Daring Advenure.

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It's been a few weeks.

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I took an unplanned break.

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I have been working in Lebanon for the

past several years and was transitioning

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out of the country and got caught

up in a bit of the war in Beirut.

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So I.

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I had to take a bit of a break

just because it became a lot,

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and now I am back in Canada.

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I am coaching full time, so I am thrilled,

absolutely thrilled to be coaching full

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time, and I am back at and one of the

things that I love about coaching is

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that you learn where your power is and

how to grab it and how to make it work

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so you have control over your life.

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and you're just not reacting to what's

going on, but you are driving it.

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You are living intentionally.

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You are living by design, not

default and making decisions.

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And many of you, and I know I've been

there, get stuck in indecision, where

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you're constantly second guessing

yourself and getting lost in confusion.

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And today I want to talk a

little bit about breaking

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free of that and how to do it.

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I'll also cover why it's so important,

and I'll give you a couple of examples to

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make these ideas really, come alive and

help you to apply it in your own life.

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So why is decision making so powerful?

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Making decisions is one of

our privileges of being human.

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Unlike animals, we can

look into the future.

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We can plan for it.

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We can make choices ahead of time.

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We can decide how we will act today,

tomorrow, Next month and next year.

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And when we make a decision and honor

it, we're tapping into the highest part

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of our brain, the prefrontal cortex.

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But how often do we avoid doing this?

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I know for myself, I have put off

many decisions about relationships,

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about money, about work.

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And we indulge in confusion

saying, I don't know.

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I don't know what to do.

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I don't know what I want.

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And we allow ourselves

to sit in indecision.

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We think that it's necessary when in

fact it's a choice and it holds us back.

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It keeps us playing small.

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It keeps us stuck.

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And we basically just indulge in

indecision, inaction, and confusion.

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Now, I have had a client who was looking

at whether to stay in her current job.

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Or transitioned into something that she's

always wanted to do and something that

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was more meaningful for her, something

that gave her more energy, but the

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thought of leaving behind stability

and the comfort is scary and she was

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waffling back and forth, not knowing

if it was the right move for her.

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And that thought alone, that

you don't know if it's the right

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move, kept her stuck for years.

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But here's the truth.

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There is no wrong decision.

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My client can choose whether to stay

in the job Or to go, but what matters

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the most is that she has her own back.

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She makes a decision.

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She likes her reasons.

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And then she commits to following through.

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If we allow ourselves to indulge in

confusion, thinking that there is a right

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answer, or there's a wrong answer, we

might fail that we might make a mistake.

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We are only postponing our own growth.

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And it keeps us in limbo.

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People talk a lot about making the wrong

decision, especially when it comes to

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big life decisions like relationships,

career changes, where to live.

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You might hear people say, my first

marriage was a mistake, or taking

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that job was the wrong decision.

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I really want to challenge that.

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What if there are no wrong decisions?

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What if every choice you've made has

brought you to where you are today?

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It happened for you.

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It's a part of your path.

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And the only thing that makes a decision

wrong is if you decide that it was wrong.

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Think about that.

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If you could shift your mindset and

believe that every decision is the

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right one because it led you to learn

and grow, how much more confidently

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would you approach your choices?

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How would you show up differently?

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I had a client who was in her 50s

and reflecting on her career she

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pursued for decades and she was

thinking it might have been a waste.

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She shouldn't have done it.

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She should have left a long time ago.

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She should have chosen something else.

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But I encouraged her, instead of dwelling

on whether it was the right or wrong path,

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to honor it as a part of her journey.

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It happened exactly as it

should have because it did.

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And now she's free to make a

new decision with confidence and

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knowing that whatever she chooses

next, she will back herself up.

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She's not beating herself up

for the decisions that she made

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or the actions that she took.

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She made that decision decades ago

based on the information that she

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had, based on who she was at the time.

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And if you can look back at

that now and say, you know what?

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I made the best decision that I could.

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It made sense at the time.

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I had my reasons.

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I liked my reasons.

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And you do the same thing

for yourself in the future.

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And you know that you don't allow yourself

to judge yourself and beat yourself up.

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then you will be much more confident

in making those decisions and

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those choices in the future.

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Now, let me give you four key reasons

why you should start making decisions

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and being more decisive starting today.

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The first reason is that it saves time.

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When you stay in, I don't know

mode, you waste valuable time.

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How many times have you put off

decisions spending weeks, months, Or

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even years agonizing over what to do?

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Think about decisions like

whether to have children, change

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jobs, or end a relationship.

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The longer you indulge in

indecision, the more time you burn.

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In reality, not making a

decision is a decision in itself.

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Let me repeat that.

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Not making a decision

is a decision in itself.

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But when you decide quickly and

intentionally you move forward, you free

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up all of that energy, all that emotional

and mental energy and give yourself space

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to focus on what you want to come next.

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Second, it increases action.

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Once you make a decision, you can

start taking action right away.

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If you're stuck in indecision, whether

it's starting over in a business or

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ending a relationship, You're not moving

forward, but once you decide, you can

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begin to take steps towards that goal.

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And that action creates momentum.

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For example, I had a client who

finally decided to leave a toxic job.

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She wasn't happy.

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It was sucking up her energy and

she decided to pursue her passion of

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becoming a yoga instructor instead

and building her own business.

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Instead of.

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indulging in more self doubt.

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Once she made that decision, things

started to change quickly for her

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and she started to feel a lot better.

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She had a lot more energy.

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The third reason making

decisions is important is

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because it accelerates growth.

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Growth will come from

experience and learning, and

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that comes from taking action.

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When you decide you will expand

your life, You're opening

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yourself up to the possibilities.

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You're opening yourself up to the

opportunities on the flip side,

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confusion will keep you small.

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For instance, if you are thinking about

returning to school for a new degree, you

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might get stuck in what if I fail, but

if you make the decision to go for it.

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Even when there's fear, because fear

doesn't mean stop, you start to grow

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because you're in new territory.

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You're having new experiences.

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You always benefit when you

learn and when you grow.

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The fourth reason is that

it builds confidence.

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Making decisions and following

through on them builds confidence.

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Think about how you feel when

you're stuck in confusion.

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You're doubting, you're second

guessing yourself, you're feeling

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insecure, but compare that to

how you feel when you decide.

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When you make a decision and you have

your own back, your confidence soars

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because you are believing in yourself.

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You're proving to yourself that

you trust your own judgment.

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You're listening to what it is you

truly want and you're following and

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going after what gives you energy.

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Confidence doesn't come

from avoiding decisions.

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It comes from making them.

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Even when you're not sure of the outcome.

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Even if you're not sure whether,

how things will work out.

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But you trust in yourself.

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You know you can handle it.

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You allow and process your emotions.

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And you keep going no matter what.

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So how do you make

decisions with confidence?

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How do you make a decision

when you're feeling stuck?

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Here are my guidelines.

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First, you need to consider all

your options without bias, ask

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yourself, if you were starting fresh,

would I choose this option again?

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Redecide.

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This is especially powerful when

deciding about something like

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staying in a relationship or a job.

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Would you marry this person again today?

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Would you take this job again?

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This helps you to break free from

the trap of sticking with something

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just because you've always done it.

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Consciously re deciding, re committing

or letting it go and choosing

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something else is where your power is.

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And it's okay if you wouldn't decide

again, if you wouldn't choose it again.

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There is power in that, and it

doesn't make you wrong for making

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that decision in the first place.

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It just means you've changed, you've

grown, your priorities are different,

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you want something different.

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You really don't need to explain

your reasons as long as you

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know them and you like them.

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But don't make yourself wrong

for the original decision, the

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original choice, if you're deciding

on something else in the future.

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Imagine that both

decisions turn out amazing.

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If you're trying to decide between

two options, imagine that both

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outcomes are equally successful.

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So for instance, if a woman is deciding

whether to stay in her marriage Or leave.

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What if both options

lead to an amazing life?

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Stay in that relationship

and it can be great.

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Or leave it and you can

have a great life too.

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Either way, you know it works out.

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So then what do you want?

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Oftentimes, we choose the option

that we feel is the safest.

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That we feel has a greater

chance of working out.

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But in reality, they both

have a chance of working out.

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Both can be great.

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Challenge your brain to

focus on how that could be.

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Don't let your brain go down the path

of doom and gloom and all the problems

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and everything that can go wrong.

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Which would you choose

if both would be great?

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This can remove the fear of failure and

allow you to focus on what you truly want.

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Now remember, there is no failure.

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There's only learning and if failure

weren't a big deal, what would you choose?

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When you take failure out of the

equation, you realize that every

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decision is a chance to learn and grow.

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It's not a big deal.

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How would you show up differently if

failure wasn't such a bad, horrible thing?

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You had your own back.

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You didn't beat yourself up.

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You didn't worry about

what other people thought.

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Next, you can ask your future self.

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Picture yourself 10 years from now and ask

her what decision she, you should make.

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Your future self is wiser and

more experienced, and you can

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tap into that and find out what

would she tell you to do today.

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If you imagine that, let's say right

now you're in your mid forties, deciding

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whether to start a new business or not,

you can consult your 55 year old self.

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What would she say to you?

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Would she encourage you to take the leap?

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Would she tell you that this

can work, that you can do this?

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That it's a success.

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Can you listen to her?

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Can you tap into that?

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It's very powerful.

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It's very helpful.

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Decisions are made in an instant.

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You don't need weeks or months to decide.

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And remember, when making a decision

and having your own back on that

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decision is the key to living with

confidence and moving forward in life.

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You don't have to do things

perfectly, You can think that

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both options can be amazing.

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Both options can turn out great.

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Know your reasons for what

you're choosing and like them.

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You don't have to explain them to anybody.

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Have your own back.

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Don't beat yourself up.

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Don't judge yourself.

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Make the best decision that you can

today, knowing that this will free

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you up, that this will give you power.

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This will give you energy and it

will free up space to start taking

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action and move yourself forward.

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I encourage you to make whatever

decision it is that you've been putting

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off, whether it's about your career,

relationships, or personal growth, decide,

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act, And watch your life transform.

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Thank you so much for joining me

today on This Daring Adventure

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I hope this helps you to step

out of confusion and into

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confident decision making.

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If you're ready to take action,

you can get on my calendar.

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Let's talk.

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I will tell you about my six week

jumpstart program to building a

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I truly believe this is a powerful Program

that will help you to build the foundation

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It helps you to stop reacting to external

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centered power that you have within you.

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And when you do that's when you start to

make those decisions, start taking action.

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Be intentional about what you are creating

for yourself and who are you are becoming.

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So get on the link in the show

notes, get on my calendar.

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Let's talk.

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I'd love to tell you all about it.

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All right, let's get you moving forward.

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You don't have to stay stuck.

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Thanks again, everybody.

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I'll talk to you next week.

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Bye bye.

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Thank you for listening to

This Daring Adventure podcast

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with your host Trista Guertin.

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We hope you enjoyed the tips

and conversations on how to

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get excited about life again.

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As always, you can head to

tristaguertin.com for additional resources

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and to book a one on one coaching session.

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