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🌈#WLW: How to float - not sink - in the dating pool!
Barbara Rowland's Wit & Wisdom Episode 3422nd August 2025 • Coming Out + Beyond | LGBTQIA+ Stories • Anne-Marie Zanzal
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This week on Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories, host Anne-Marie Zanzal and fellow later-in-lifer Barbara Rowlandson talk about #wlw dating later in life. Barbara Rowlandson is a coach for women who come out later in life with a focus on catalyst relationship recovery and dating resilience, and a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) in Ontario, Canada. Dating later in life - whether you're new to dating women or a long-out person who just hasn't dated in a very long time - dating can feel daunting, complex, and disappointing. Anne-Marie and Barbara explore the unique challenges of dating women later in life, the importance of understanding personal values and doing self-work, how to uncover limiting beliefs about dating, cultivating psychological flexibility, dealing with dating disasters and more. This is a fantastic episode for any woman who is about to step into the dating pool, or for those who have been dating and struggling to meet the right person.

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❓ What to Expect in This Episode:

🌈Discussion about finding yourself and getting clear about values after a long term relationship, and why this is an important step before dating.

🌈Clues on how to recognize limiting beliefs - and how to counter them.

🌈Reflection on setting boundaries and how to hold them.

🌈Tips for mindfulness practices to beat dating anxiety.

🌈Thoughts on what to do when you encounter a 'dating disaster.'


 Why This Matters:

Taking the next step into dating represents a major shift for many women that can feel very uncomfortable. Dating requires a willingness to try and to fail, and failure can sometimes feel very personal or painful. By adjusting our mindset around dating, we can create a much better experience for ourselves, one where we can meet people without pressure of expectation and shrug off negative experiences without taking rejection personally.


💬 Join the Conversation:

What is your biggest dating concern? What challenges have you run into, either within yourself or interpersonally? Let's talk about it in the comments!


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