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Life advice from a Divorce Attorney: Red Flags During Process Selection
Episode 114th June 2022 • Divorce, Healthy! • Attorney/Author Ashley-Nicole Russell
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This season of Divorce, Healthy! is going to look a little different than the last two seasons. Host Ashley-Nicole Russell is calling the theme, “Life Advice from a Divorce Attorney.” In this third season of the podcast, Ashley-Nicole will be flying solo to give out her top tips gained from her time as a child of divorce, a divorcee herself, and a divorce attorney. 

In this episode, Ashley-Nicole gives a thorough overview of how the divorce process developed in the United States, as well as the different paths that divorce can take. Fortunately, collaborative family law and shared parenting allow for a much smoother process today than in the past. Aside from extreme situations, she believes those tools can be instrumental in a successful divorce. 

“It is still possible for every situation to reach a resolution outside of court if both parties are committed to it,” Ashley-Nicole says. 

She emphasizes that attorneys are public servants to advise and guide, but ultimately, the big decisions should be made by the client — that extends to what kind of attorney is hired. Fierce litigators should be hired for harder custody battles, while more collaborative attorneys are great for settlements outside of court. 

“In your case, you are the decision-maker. You are still captaining the ship. You have hired an attorney so that they can advise you on the law and the process options that are available to you, but you are still the person making the decisions,” she says. 

Tune in to this episode of Divorce, Healthy! with Ashley-Nicole Russell, Collaborative Attorney serving Beaufort, Raleigh, Greenville, and Wilmington, NC.

💡 About the Host 💡

Name: Ashley-Nicole Russell

What she does: Ashley-Nicole is a celebrated divorce attorney, working to change how divorce is perceived around the world.  She serves clients in the Beaufort, Raleigh, Greenville, and Wilmington, NC areas. 

Words of wisdom: “I want to be clear that a divorce does not have to destroy you. It is possible to do that with dignity.” 

Connect: Website | LinkedIn | Instagram 

🗝️ Key Points 🗝️ 

Top takeaways from this Divorce, Healthy! episode 

  • Always check with your local attorney. Each state handles custody upon divorce filing differently, with options ranging from assumed 100% custody of both parents to 50/50 assumed at the time of filing. Ashley-Nicole’s goal is to have shared parenting or collaborative family law be the standard across the country.
  • Choose your attorney based on your strategy. If you don’t want a long court custody battle, don’t choose an aggressive litigator. Look for attorneys who share your values.
  • Keep communication civil. Unless communication turns sour, it’s in the interest of both parties and children to maintain a level of decency. It’s healthy for children to see their parents communicating with respect even through difficult times. 


Connect with ANR Law

To inquire about speaking engagements, purchase your copy of Ashley-Nicole’s book “The Cure for Divorce Culture,” or to schedule your private orientation meeting, head to

You can also find us on social media @ANRLaw. 

⭐ Divorce Lawyer Ashely-Nicole Russell has law offices serving clients in Greenville, Raleigh, Beaufort, and Wilmington North Carolina.

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