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Winning the Battle Against Hardships
Episode 1610th March 2023 • The Daily Podcast with Jonathan Doyle • Jonathan Doyle
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Are you struggling with hardships at the moment? Do you need support and motivation to navigate through this challenging phase in your life? In this episode, we delve into a straightforward viewpoint of David Goggins and turn those hardships into something magnificent in your life.

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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.

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My friends, we are going to talk.

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About a quote from one of my, uh, Someone that's influenced me a great deal.

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I got to say.

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Uh, in this space because I produce a lot of content.

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And I don't know if people think maybe.

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That I'm some kind of source for this stuff.

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And, you know, I think it was a.

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I think it was Isaac Newton.

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Who said, who said, if I have seen further, it is because I have

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stood upon the shoulders of giants.

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So, so much of what I get to share with you guys has been through years

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of listening and reading some of the great men and women that have

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forged a path of growth, personal development, mental toughness,

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resilience, stoicism, all the kinds of things that get me up in the morning.

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I want to share with you today, a great quote from David Goggins.

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I'm a massive fan.

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If you're not familiar with David Goggins, he's a former us Navy seal.

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Uh, African-American guy, who's just got this incredible history of, you know,

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coming from trauma and difficulty and abandonment and just operating at the

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very highest levels of his capacity.

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Both as in the military and then afterwards as an ultra

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marathon runner, author, speaker.

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And all around.

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Amazing.

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Human.

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Like, you know, if you know much of your stuff, you've read his books or.

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Is it kind of guy that when he dies, there will be not being much left in the tank.

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So I want to give you a quote from yesterday that really jumped out

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at me because I think what I like about him is, is he walks the talk.

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He really does.

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He's somebody who lives, the messages that he shares.

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So let me give you this quote today.

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Let's unpack it together a little bit.

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He says this.

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Most of us are not defeated in one decisive battle.

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We are defeated one tiny insignificant surrender at a time that chips

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away at who we should really be.

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Most of us are not defeated in one decisive battle.

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We are defeated one tiny insignificant surrender at a time.

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That chips away at who we really should be.

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There's a lot to this.

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I want to start at the end, actually, this concept of who we really

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should be, this human potentiality.

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All of us are born with remarkable human potential.

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We are human.

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Becomings not human beings as such.

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We can always become an actualized more of this remarkable potential for

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years, I've been saying to people in conversation and speaking on stage.

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You know, a lot of my postgraduate formation was in Aristotelian sort of,

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um, I guess, philosophical anthropology.

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Right?

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So it's kind of how Aristotle and, and classical Greek thought.

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Discussed and articulated what it meant to be human.

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You know, why would they bother?

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Right.

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Well, before that time, before the Greeks, really most of human

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civilization up to that point,

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Was about nothing more than survival.

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It was really about nothing more than food and not getting killed

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by other people and reproduction.

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Right.

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So there's basic human things, food survival reproduction.

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And it's really in classical Greece that we begin to see the first societies

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as such the had enough stability.

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And safety that a certain group of people had time to actually think to really think

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about the nature of existence itself.

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Because before that it was just like, You know, you can imagine the tribe,

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but when guys like, Hey, I don't, I don't, I don't want to fight.

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I just want to think about the nature of existence and they're like,

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sorry, that's not going to happen.

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I pick up this spear.

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Hurry up.

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So Aristotle of course in the Greeks had this first.

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There was.

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Philosophy before them, but they're really around.

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I guess around 500 BC.

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A bit earlier.

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We get the first philosophical schools and the Greeks had this

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idea of what they called eudemonia.

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They believed that each of us carried inside of ourselves,

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something called a Damon.

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Oh, I said, peoples on a demon and Damon and a Damon was kind of like source

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code was like software code inside us.

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That was kind of like the blueprint of what we could achieve now.

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It'd be different for all of us.

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Right.

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So all of us had different.

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Abilities and capacities and goddess credit all this differently,

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but this code was kind of like.

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That if we fully lived, if we really lived up to our potential, then

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that code would be fully actualized and made manifest in the world.

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So they began to realize that the way we do that is through our

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conscious choices and our actions.

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Right.

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So the classic of course, for Aristotle was when they asked him.

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Be, you know, was the courageous person born courageous or how

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did they become courageous?

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Because the Greeks were interested in where the people just born

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with an innate abilities.

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Whether they sort of changed over time and in a strange

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way, it's kind of both, right?

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Because Aristotle will say, well, the capacity is always there,

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but the way that it comes out,

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Is by doing particular things by acting in congruence with

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those capacities inside us.

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So what you get, and that's why I started the end of this quote, where Goggins David

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Goggins says it's about, you know, Chip chipping away who we really should be.

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So let's start from there.

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Let's start from this truth that.

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Within you is this remarkable capacity of all that you can be of

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all of who you are and it's there.

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And then he goes, he starts by saying the most of us are not

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defeated in one decisive battle.

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That's true.

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Right?

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Like we all have setbacks.

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We all have difficult times.

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We all have.

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Seasons where things are just hard and bleak and it's like, you

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know, This is a really hard time.

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But nobody in life tends to be.

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It's pretty rare that people are truly utterly, completely crushed.

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Bye.

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One single event.

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You know, I've known people that have been through the most awful

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tragic events, the loss of children.

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You know, and their life is forever changed.

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But, you know, I definitely know people who've been through things as severe

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as that and have still found a way.

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To come back in life to still find joy, to still have relationships,

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to still find meaning.

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Now it doesn't mean that their life isn't changed because it is.

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But do you see what I mean?

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That even with those terrible losses, no one is it's rare that people

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are utterly wiped out for life.

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So what Goggins is saying here is that what actually happens is that

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our defeat in life comes from.

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A whole bunch of almost incremental, insignificant surrenders.

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And, and then he says these insignificant syringes chip

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away at who we really should be.

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So, I guess this comes down.

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Uh, questions around character and virtue and decision-making right.

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That we are actually shaping our futures, shaping our destiny,

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shaping our outcomes, not.

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It really in one great moment.

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But in a whole bunch of smaller ones.

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So for better or worse, we're either growing or going backwards

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based on these tiny little moments.

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I mean, I can remember the first time I did.

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A live event with 10,000 people.

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Right.

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It's really cool.

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And it was just a mega event.

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But that step moment yeah.

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Changed me and it was memorable, but my entire life wasn't

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shaped by that one experience.

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There's been so many other experiences and daily experiences

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that are no doubt shaping me more.

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So, what I want you to start thinking about is.

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Where are the surrender points in your life at the moment?

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Where are the seemingly insignificant surrender points?

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That may be really shaping your long-term future and who you could become.

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And the obvious examples could be something like how we eat, right?

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Like,

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It's not one single cookie.

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That destroys your health and wellbeing.

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It's not.

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It's the daily or hourly cookies, right?

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It's.

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It's the, it's the insignificant surrender.

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It's like, I just have this one, one little cookie.

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It's a, it's a little surrender, but it's not a big one.

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And Jonathan won't even know.

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Some of you are probably sitting there.

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Driving somewhere eating a cookie right now.

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I go, oh gosh, why did he have to bring that up?

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But you see what I mean?

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It's like, Getting great physical health is about.

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Doing these little things, when we don't feel like doing them, not

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giving into the surrender points.

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I feel that a lot because.

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You know, most days at the moment I get up at 4:00 AM.

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And I worked for a couple of hours and I trained for a couple of hours and

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then I've got school runs and into the office in the studio and working all day.

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And there are many invitations to what Goggins would call here.

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Insignificant surrenders.

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Like the number of times my brain is like, ah, I don't train today

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or you don't need to do this.

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Or why do you keep doing this?

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It's too cold.

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It's too hot.

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It's too loud.

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It's too quiet.

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Just, just.

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It's this weird thing because our brain is always trying to keep us safe.

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It is always trying to keep us safe or what it thinks is safe.

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Right.

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Always trying to take us backwards.

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So.

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I want you to get sensitized to these insignificant surrenders.

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I want you to get clear that it's never one moment positive or negative

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that changes your life per se.

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It's the decision points the small ones that are going to shape who you really

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could be so as you go through this next day i want you to start looking for them

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And i want you to start thinking about your potential I need to keep being

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reminded of myself i'm turning 50 this year And as i said in the recent episode

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for the first time i'm like man 55.

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what is that how did that happen So i'm aware that my time to pursue

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my potential is not indefinite it's the first time i love i've

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really gone out hang on You're not.

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It's not in kansas anymore Dorothy, you know 20.

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It's like better straighten up You.

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You better get on with what it is you're trying to do here So Let us not waste

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time huh let's not waste time Let's be switched onto these decision points

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