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Speaker:This here is your host gift biz gal,
Speaker:Sue Mon height.
Speaker:Hey there,
Speaker:it's Sue and thank you so much for joining me today
Speaker:before we get started.
Speaker:I want to make mention of something that I don't think
Speaker:I've ever talked about before on the show.
Speaker:And that is,
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Speaker:I represent a quote or some type of important nugget that
Speaker:a guest for the current week's show has brought up in
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Speaker:It's a business tip,
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Speaker:that will be useful for your business and possibly even right
Speaker:in time for something that you're encountering that day,
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Speaker:And now let's get onto the show today.
Speaker:I am thrilled to introduce you to Jill Fleming.
Speaker:Jill is a sought after speaker best-selling author and trusted advisor
Speaker:while living on a cattle ranch in a tiny town,
Speaker:somewhere in the middle of nowhere,
Speaker:Nebraska, Jill didn't have the luxury of calling for help when
Speaker:something didn't work.
Speaker:Instead, she learned to tap into her intuition so she could
Speaker:rapidly create solutions and get right back to business.
Speaker:That explains why she has such a keen eye for seeing
Speaker:things from a different perspective and is especially gifted at helping
Speaker:her clients uncover the next best steps to take in order
Speaker:to create their lives at their highest potential as an intuitive
Speaker:business strategist and facilitator of freedom,
Speaker:Jill guides,
Speaker:entrepreneurs, and professionals,
Speaker:through the process of clarifying their vision and creating step-by-step fulfillment
Speaker:plans. So they can live their best life starting now.
Speaker:Oh my gosh.
Speaker:I love just the action that's involved with that last sentence.
Speaker:And we are going to start now with you,
Speaker:Jill. Thank you for coming on the show.
Speaker:Oh, thank you so much for having me.
Speaker:We're going to start off in what is probably an untraditional
Speaker:way for you and you've had interviews before,
Speaker:and that is by having you describe yourself through a motivational
Speaker:candle. So if you were to tell us a color that
Speaker:really resonates with you and a quote or type of saying
Speaker:that you live by tell us what your motivational candle would
Speaker:be. Look like I say,
Speaker:my motivational candle would be purple and it's purple for wisdom.
Speaker:As I feel like in this life I gained and always
Speaker:love soaking up lots of wisdom and the quote that I
Speaker:always go back to is whether you think you can,
Speaker:or you think you can't you're right.
Speaker:And that's by Henry Ford.
Speaker:Oh my gosh.
Speaker:It's all about mindset.
Speaker:Isn't it?
Speaker:It is.
Speaker:It is amazing how people can get in their way just
Speaker:by thinking negative.
Speaker:Like it can't be me or it can't happen to me.
Speaker:It's always somebody else,
Speaker:but it could never be me.
Speaker:Right? Absolutely.
Speaker:And if that's your thought process,
Speaker:then guess what you get to be,
Speaker:right? That's when I'm working with my clients,
Speaker:if that's what they think,
Speaker:I'm like,
Speaker:well, you can either choose to change that and choose to
Speaker:think differently and put that as a process for yourself,
Speaker:or guess what?
Speaker:You can be negative and you can be pessimistic and the
Speaker:universe or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker:It gives you what you ask for.
Speaker:And if that's what you're thinking about it,
Speaker:that's what you get.
Speaker:Yeah. And you know,
Speaker:the good thing for us though,
Speaker:really about being an entrepreneur is we are in charge of
Speaker:our destiny.
Speaker:I look at myself in the mirror in the morning and
Speaker:say, you're in charge of whether you're going to be a
Speaker:success today,
Speaker:or you have things you need to change.
Speaker:It is all up to you.
Speaker:No matter what things get thrown in front of you,
Speaker:you still are the one to decide how to deal with
Speaker:them. Absolutely.
Speaker:And that's the biggest thing is I was working with a
Speaker:client recently and he was stressed out and I told him,
Speaker:I was like,
Speaker:you're choosing to be stressed out.
Speaker:He's like,
Speaker:no, these things are happening.
Speaker:I was like,
Speaker:you are choosing how to react to them.
Speaker:Right. You can't change the fact that it happened.
Speaker:The only thing you can change is how you react to
Speaker:it and then how you choose to move forward.
Speaker:So you can do that in a stressful manner or you
Speaker:can be like,
Speaker:okay, this happened,
Speaker:okay, what am I going to choose now?
Speaker:Or what do I need to do to fix this?
Speaker:Or what can I do to shift this?
Speaker:Right. I agree With you entirely.
Speaker:So I want to go back to when you were growing
Speaker:up. And the reason I want to do that,
Speaker:Jill is I think that we do have a lot of
Speaker:listeners who aren't from New York or Los Angeles or these
Speaker:big cities.
Speaker:And I think there's a tendency to think that they have
Speaker:some type of an advantage over everybody else just by sheer
Speaker:population. And I disagree with that.
Speaker:And you're a perfect example.
Speaker:So will you take us back a little bit and share
Speaker:how things were in your head Hometown?
Speaker:So back when I was growing up,
Speaker:we didn't have the power of the internet.
Speaker:And so there was a little bit more of a challenge
Speaker:of reaching more clients,
Speaker:reaching more customers,
Speaker:those kinds of things with the power of the internet.
Speaker:Now you have just as great of advantage being in New
Speaker:York city,
Speaker:as you do in my hometown,
Speaker:which is Valentine Nebraska in a small town,
Speaker:right? It was small.
Speaker:Valentine is about 2,500
Speaker:people. It's the only incorporated town in the County of cherry
Speaker:County, Nebraska and cherry County is bigger than the state of
Speaker:Rhode Island.
Speaker:So it's still three hours to drive to the nearest Walmart
Speaker:where I grew up and where my family still lives.
Speaker:That's crazy.
Speaker:It's so interesting.
Speaker:But tell us how you decided to go from there.
Speaker:I mean,
Speaker:college got you out of the town,
Speaker:right? But give us a little bit of that evolution.
Speaker:So I'm actually the first person in my family to graduate
Speaker:from a four-year college.
Speaker:And I was following the process,
Speaker:right. Of you go to college,
Speaker:you get a great job,
Speaker:you get engaged,
Speaker:you get married,
Speaker:you have 2.5
Speaker:kids. Like I was following that process of like that societal
Speaker:programming of what we're supposed to do.
Speaker:And it was funny cause I completed college in about three
Speaker:and a half years and then got a great job working
Speaker:for a fortune 500 company in Des Moines,
Speaker:Iowa and moved there and started doing that.
Speaker:I had a guy and we got engaged and bought a
Speaker:house. And I got there at the pinnacle of what we're
Speaker:supposed to reach by like age 25.
Speaker:And I got there and I was like,
Speaker:this is it.
Speaker:Like, I thought this was supposed to be like,
Speaker:the angels are supposed to come out and everything's supposed to
Speaker:be like,
Speaker:Oh, I made it.
Speaker:And I got there and I just wasn't happy.
Speaker:And I was like,
Speaker:okay, what is this?
Speaker:I ended up calling off the engagement,
Speaker:selling the house.
Speaker:I stayed working at my corporate job a while longer,
Speaker:but at the time I was doing photography on the side.
Speaker:And as I started to build that side business while I
Speaker:was still working my corporate job,
Speaker:that was what kept me saying I was absolutely miserable at
Speaker:my corporate job and continued to do more and more photography
Speaker:and teach myself more and more skills through going to workshops
Speaker:and trainings and finding all of the mentors.
Speaker:And I got to,
Speaker:it was funny.
Speaker:I got to age 30 and I was sitting at my
Speaker:desk one day and I had the thought that if I'm
Speaker:sitting here,
Speaker:when I'm 40,
Speaker:I'm going to want to shoot myself.
Speaker:That was a pretty heavy thought.
Speaker:And it really made me like stop and take note and
Speaker:really look at that of like,
Speaker:Whoa, I really need to do something different.
Speaker:So you would just built up and you'd had this feeling,
Speaker:but in side,
Speaker:you already that this just wasn't enough.
Speaker:And then it became that moment at your desk where you're
Speaker:like realization hits.
Speaker:I've got to change it.
Speaker:Yes. And that was when the fear set in of I
Speaker:was doing what I was supposed to be doing.
Speaker:Right. Of what we're told,
Speaker:we're supposed to do,
Speaker:go to college,
Speaker:get a good job.
Speaker:And I was working for a fortune 500 company,
Speaker:like one of the top companies in the country and had
Speaker:great benefits and a pretty decent pay.
Speaker:But I was just absolutely miserable.
Speaker:And it was funny when I made the decision to go
Speaker:full-time photography.
Speaker:It was after a fund of mine who I consider him,
Speaker:my first coach,
Speaker:he kind of gave me that Swift kick in the butt
Speaker:I needed of he's like,
Speaker:why don't you do it?
Speaker:And I was like,
Speaker:I'm scared I will fail.
Speaker:And he's like,
Speaker:okay, so you fail then what?
Speaker:It was really interesting that nobody had ever asked me then
Speaker:what? Right.
Speaker:It's like usually fear of failure is such this big,
Speaker:scary thing that we're so scared to even look at of
Speaker:happening that we just don't even want to look at it.
Speaker:And it was like,
Speaker:Oh, then what?
Speaker:He's like,
Speaker:what is the absolute worst case scenario?
Speaker:So you take this leap of faith.
Speaker:You go full-time with your photography business.
Speaker:What is the absolute worst case scenario?
Speaker:And my answer was I could fail and he's like,
Speaker:okay, so you fail then what?
Speaker:And I was like,
Speaker:Oh, there's an after.
Speaker:Because usually it's like,
Speaker:Oh, that's the end life will not continue to go on.
Speaker:And he's like,
Speaker:if you fail,
Speaker:will they take away your birthday?
Speaker:And I'm like,
Speaker:well, no,
Speaker:That's cute.
Speaker:Right. Well,
Speaker:and I think that we also should define fail because you
Speaker:fail means your whole business.
Speaker:Isn't working.
Speaker:Maybe just something that you're doing as you're getting up and
Speaker:getting started and getting the first client isn't the right way
Speaker:to do it.
Speaker:So you might be failing.
Speaker:I hate to use those words,
Speaker:but at just the way you're trying to capture clients,
Speaker:it's not,
Speaker:you're failing at your whole photography business.
Speaker:Right. Well,
Speaker:and since then I have done a lot of personal development
Speaker:and leadership work.
Speaker:And I now turn failure.
Speaker:Like I don't even see anything as failure.
Speaker:It's only a failure.
Speaker:If you didn't learn something and you always learn something from
Speaker:mistakes that happen or things that happen,
Speaker:you always learn something.
Speaker:Yeah. Or it's a failure.
Speaker:If you allow that to stop you.
Speaker:But then again,
Speaker:you've been in control and you've allowed that to happen.
Speaker:Jill, I'd be curious about how you'd feel about this.
Speaker:If your friend was not a major supporter for you at
Speaker:that time,
Speaker:do you think you would've made a change?
Speaker:Absolutely. It would have just taken me longer.
Speaker:Okay. It would have happened.
Speaker:It would've just taken me longer of getting there myself.
Speaker:I consider him my first coach.
Speaker:That's why I love doing coaching now is just helping people
Speaker:get there faster and be able to see the possibilities quicker
Speaker:than on their own,
Speaker:especially from somebody who's already been there.
Speaker:So he had been in business for himself for over five
Speaker:years. So he had already walked that path and he knew
Speaker:what I then did not know.
Speaker:And that's one of the reasons I love coaching too,
Speaker:is I know now things that people that are starting their
Speaker:business or a few years in business,
Speaker:they haven't experienced yet so that it can be like,
Speaker:Hey, be prepared for this.
Speaker:And he said the same thing.
Speaker:He's like be prepared that people aren't going to understand your
Speaker:choice. And that was another thing.
Speaker:There's a book out there called the dream giver that I
Speaker:highly recommend.
Speaker:And in that book,
Speaker:it talks about leaving the land of familiar to go towards
Speaker:your dream.
Speaker:And as you leave the land of familiar,
Speaker:you run into what they call border bullies and border bullies
Speaker:are often the people that,
Speaker:you know,
Speaker:love and trust.
Speaker:And that often you feel like they have your best interest
Speaker:at heart,
Speaker:but oftentimes it's actually in their best interest to keep you
Speaker:in your land of familiar so that they can stay comfortable.
Speaker:And they don't have to try to redefine you.
Speaker:Right. I've run into a few of those myself.
Speaker:I know exactly what you're talking.
Speaker:And it was interesting that my mom was actually my biggest
Speaker:border bully.
Speaker:And every time that I would talk about leaving my corporate
Speaker:job, she's like,
Speaker:well, you get paid great.
Speaker:You have amazing benefits for her.
Speaker:That was the Holy grail.
Speaker:But for me,
Speaker:I wasn't happy.
Speaker:And it was interesting when I finally got to that point,
Speaker:I told my mom,
Speaker:I'm like,
Speaker:Hey, I'm going to quit my corporate job.
Speaker:And I'm going to take my part-time photography business full time.
Speaker:She was like,
Speaker:Oh my gosh,
Speaker:you can't do that.
Speaker:And like,
Speaker:that's a really bad decision.
Speaker:That's a bad choice.
Speaker:And I was like,
Speaker:mom, I love you.
Speaker:And I just need you to either get on board or
Speaker:be quiet.
Speaker:Can't almost fault that generation though,
Speaker:because that's what they knew.
Speaker:And that's what they always strive for that job and the
Speaker:security and the insurance and all of that was security.
Speaker:We all know that jobs aren't secure anymore.
Speaker:Right. So you can't almost fault them for not totally understanding
Speaker:the view.
Speaker:Okay. So you're gel kind of a specialist on clarity.
Speaker:And as I listened to your story,
Speaker:you got very clear that your corporate job wasn't going to
Speaker:be where you're going to be happy.
Speaker:So you branched up your photography business.
Speaker:And then at some point,
Speaker:I guess you became very clear that there was more,
Speaker:you could offer the world too,
Speaker:because of what you're doing now,
Speaker:what would you say to somebody who's listening?
Speaker:Who's like,
Speaker:what does clarity even mean?
Speaker:And does it just come and show its face to me
Speaker:one day?
Speaker:Or how does that all happen when you really have that
Speaker:confidence that you're going to make the changes?
Speaker:I would say clarity comes when you get really focused in,
Speaker:on what you'd love.
Speaker:Because so often what happens is we spend our lives doing
Speaker:what other people think is in our best interest,
Speaker:as opposed to really dialing in and really tuning into our
Speaker:inner wisdom to figure out what is it that I would
Speaker:really love?
Speaker:Like what would bring me joy?
Speaker:What would bring me happiness?
Speaker:What would I love to do?
Speaker:And how would I like my life to look like?
Speaker:And I think that that clarity comes there.
Speaker:And a lot of times the biggest barrier to clarity is
Speaker:that we don't want to disappoint others.
Speaker:There's oftentimes we know what we know what we know.
Speaker:And that's what I love working with my clients about is
Speaker:often my clients know,
Speaker:they just,
Speaker:oftentimes aren't willing to choose it.
Speaker:And so I like being what I call a wing woman.
Speaker:So I like to fly with them so that I'm flying
Speaker:with you so that you're like,
Speaker:okay, we're going to fly around this Hill.
Speaker:We're going to Dodge this thing.
Speaker:And to be able to fly with someone as they're taking
Speaker:that journey into really leaving behind that old programming and that
Speaker:old, those old mindsets,
Speaker:while they're stepping into and choosing what they really want in
Speaker:their life.
Speaker:I love the concept of the wing woman.
Speaker:That's perfect because although whoever your client is,
Speaker:who, whoever that person is,
Speaker:is front and center in the business,
Speaker:then they don't feel like they're allowed.
Speaker:Which of course is what a lot of coaches will do.
Speaker:And so you focus on the clarity comes from really,
Speaker:really focusing on what you love.
Speaker:Do you think that people can turn anything that they into
Speaker:a business?
Speaker:I would say no.
Speaker:There still is a matter of what does the market desire.
Speaker:So something that you love,
Speaker:like there has to be a marketability for a business.
Speaker:There has to be a need that you're filling or desire
Speaker:that you're filling.
Speaker:So I wouldn't say anything,
Speaker:but probably an offshoot of what you want.
Speaker:There's a possibility.
Speaker:Does that make sense?
Speaker:Yeah. So maybe let's say someone tests,
Speaker:something that they love,
Speaker:let's call it a product or whatever it is,
Speaker:and it doesn't work,
Speaker:maybe some adjustments or something.
Speaker:So they're still in the vein of what they love.
Speaker:It just presented to the market in a different way.
Speaker:Correct? Yeah.
Speaker:And so that's where I would say,
Speaker:I wouldn't say anything,
Speaker:but oftentimes that thing that you love doing,
Speaker:if you modify it or you come at it from a
Speaker:different perspective or you market it in a different way,
Speaker:or you go out to your market or the people that
Speaker:you would love to serve and ask them what they desire
Speaker:or what is something in their life that they would really
Speaker:want to help them make their life easier or something that
Speaker:they would enjoy having or those kinds of things,
Speaker:and find a market that you love to serve and then
Speaker:create products or create things that you love to do that
Speaker:serves that market.
Speaker:Perfect. Really smart.
Speaker:Okay. So you dive in to a topic that a lot
Speaker:of us cringe at,
Speaker:and that is money.
Speaker:And when we talk about business,
Speaker:obviously people go into business to make money.
Speaker:I always tell people if that's your number one goal,
Speaker:don't start.
Speaker:Cause you're going to fail.
Speaker:You've got to love what you're doing first.
Speaker:And then the money comes afterwards.
Speaker:But I know we all have the negative word that comes
Speaker:to mind is hanging up.
Speaker:And that's not really what I mean to say,
Speaker:but we all have emotions wrapped around money.
Speaker:Maybe that's the better way for me to say that.
Speaker:Talk to us a little bit about that.
Speaker:The blocks that come up and what do we do about
Speaker:this whole money topic?
Speaker:Oh yes.
Speaker:Money. And that's the interesting thing is that money is really
Speaker:just energy.
Speaker:Money is an exchange of energy.
Speaker:If you provide a service and you give energy and money
Speaker:as an energy back,
Speaker:and when you can get to that understanding is that money
Speaker:is just energy.
Speaker:It can allow to move past a lot of that programming.
Speaker:It's just getting to that point.
Speaker:And I think that you said that you had gone on
Speaker:to my website and did my sacred money archetypes assessment.
Speaker:I did.
Speaker:And I want everyone to do it.
Speaker:So why don't you mention that right now?
Speaker:And then we'll go through what you're talking about.
Speaker:If you go and sign up on my website,
Speaker:there's a free assessment you can take and it's called the
Speaker:sacred money archetypes.
Speaker:And what's great about that.
Speaker:Is it kind of dials in who you are and more
Speaker:than likely where your struggles are with money.
Speaker:And then when you know where your struggles are with money
Speaker:there's procedures and there's things that you can do to help
Speaker:overcome that,
Speaker:to be like,
Speaker:totally move past your money blocks and like really start making
Speaker:a profit in your business.
Speaker:I was Jill in the pre chat That it was such
Speaker:a fun assessment to take.
Speaker:And it's free you guys.
Speaker:So just go ahead and go and do the assessment.
Speaker:I haven't done all of my analysis.
Speaker:We talked about that too,
Speaker:cause I wanted to do it before we got on and
Speaker:recorded this interview.
Speaker:So I had had the experience.
Speaker:So I could share that with all of you guys,
Speaker:but it's a different type of quiz or assessment that you'd
Speaker:normally take just by structure and how it all comes together
Speaker:at the end,
Speaker:super fun and a little bit different,
Speaker:which makes it really interesting.
Speaker:So again,
Speaker:I encourage everybody to go over and do that.
Speaker:And that's over on your website,
Speaker:Jill, which is living beyond logic.
Speaker:So live and beyond logic.com.
Speaker:Okay. So let's get back into the money thing.
Speaker:This was a nice,
Speaker:like little path up into this major topic.
Speaker:Now let's really talk about money and fears.
Speaker:And the fact is you need to invest in your business
Speaker:too, but that's scary because that means you're giving away money
Speaker:with possibly no return,
Speaker:Right? And it's a matter of when you're starting your business
Speaker:of what are you doing to make money.
Speaker:And oftentimes when there's money blocks,
Speaker:we do all the other little things that we think we're
Speaker:supposed to do instead of make money.
Speaker:That's kind of self-defeating,
Speaker:isn't it.
Speaker:Because if you're not doing,
Speaker:I call them money,
Speaker:generating tasks.
Speaker:If you're not doing money,
Speaker:generating tasks,
Speaker:you're not going to make money.
Speaker:Which was your fear in the first place.
Speaker:Yes. I call them revenue generating tasks.
Speaker:So we're pretty close.
Speaker:And what percentage of your day are you devoting to those
Speaker:money? Generating tasks?
Speaker:Are you only devoting 10% of your day or are you
Speaker:devoting 80% of your day and to continue to focus on
Speaker:what those revenue generating tasks are that bring money into your
Speaker:business as opposed to,
Speaker:Oh, I need to,
Speaker:is writing a blog going to make you more money versus
Speaker:making five sales calls.
Speaker:Yeah, but the sales call part is way scarier for most
Speaker:people, Right?
Speaker:It's way scary.
Speaker:It's way easier to do a blog and hope somebody sees
Speaker:it and calls you as opposed to actually getting on the
Speaker:phone and calling somebody and say,
Speaker:Hey, I thought of you,
Speaker:this is something that I have.
Speaker:And I'd like you to invite you to take a look
Speaker:at it.
Speaker:Is this something you might be interested in,
Speaker:right. Of making a request or making an invitation.
Speaker:And so where are those things that you're doing?
Speaker:Where do they fall on that money?
Speaker:Generating tasks scale?
Speaker:Is it at the bottom end of the scale of absolutely
Speaker:doing blog posts and doing podcasts and doing all those things
Speaker:are great and they can generate income over a longer term.
Speaker:But usually when you're just starting a business,
Speaker:you want to really focus on those things that get money
Speaker:into your business quickly.
Speaker:So then once you have money in your business,
Speaker:then you can reinvest in your business.
Speaker:So how do you do that in your day?
Speaker:How would somebody who's listening right now?
Speaker:Figure out how to stay focused on revenue generating.
Speaker:I think it's different for everyone.
Speaker:I like to work with what comes naturally to people and
Speaker:then make some modifications of,
Speaker:okay, are you a morning person?
Speaker:Are you a night person?
Speaker:If you're a night person,
Speaker:I have some tips and tricks for people that if they're
Speaker:the most productive in the evening,
Speaker:I have some tips and tricks that they can use that
Speaker:make them look like they're a morning person,
Speaker:right? Sometimes you just have to be right.
Speaker:Sometimes you just have to be in,
Speaker:unfortunately as much as when we're creating our own business.
Speaker:And as entrepreneurs we work at all hours of the day,
Speaker:the main Workday is still eight to five.
Speaker:And that is when the majority of people are doing business.
Speaker:And so we still kind of have to conform to that
Speaker:at some level.
Speaker:And so depending on where your clients are,
Speaker:so if your clients are moms,
Speaker:then maybe the time of day that you're really doing calls
Speaker:or doing things is from one to two or from 10
Speaker:to noon.
Speaker:When most kids are in school,
Speaker:it's like really dialing in on who your target market is
Speaker:and your ideal client is.
Speaker:And what is their schedule when they're accessible and when are
Speaker:they accessible and how can you reach them if you're working,
Speaker:if you're consulting with corporations and companies,
Speaker:it's Monday through Friday eight to five.
Speaker:And the trick with that one is if you're wanting to
Speaker:reach like a CEO or someone at a higher level,
Speaker:you call at seven 30 before their secretary gets in.
Speaker:There's a great tip for you.
Speaker:I've actually done that in my corporate day.
Speaker:I landed one of my largest accounts by doing that.
Speaker:Absolutely. It works call before the gatekeeper shows up.
Speaker:Yeah, Absolutely.
Speaker:And what would you say this little sales idea just came
Speaker:up to me if you're looking at working with people who
Speaker:are corporate,
Speaker:how do you think it looks sending an email at 8:00
Speaker:PM? I don't think that in this day and age,
Speaker:that that looks does it matter anymore?
Speaker:I would say yes and no.
Speaker:I would say,
Speaker:I always notice when somebody sends that,
Speaker:one of the tools I use is that you can schedule
Speaker:your emails.
Speaker:So even if I'm working at 11 or midnight,
Speaker:I send my emails so that they show up at eight
Speaker:15, I using boomerang or something like that.
Speaker:Yeah. That's one of the tools I use.
Speaker:So like sending them.
Speaker:So they show up at like eight,
Speaker:15. So it looks like I'm up and I'm working early
Speaker:in the morning,
Speaker:cause I am not a morning person,
Speaker:but that's the beauty of being an entrepreneur is I get
Speaker:to set my own schedule.
Speaker:And so I work late the night sometimes and I set
Speaker:all my emails to go out in the morning.
Speaker:And so that when I am up at,
Speaker:I am working,
Speaker:I often have responses from them and then I can respond
Speaker:to them and keep on moving.
Speaker:Oh, that's a good point.
Speaker:That goes back to who your customer is.
Speaker:And I think especially for corporate sending something so that it
Speaker:lands in the inbox early in the morning,
Speaker:it means it's also more at the top of the list
Speaker:when they enter into their inbox.
Speaker:Jill, I have a question for you about the assessment because
Speaker:you were making the comment that everyone has a little bit
Speaker:of a different approach.
Speaker:Everyone's comfortable and uncomfortable different things.
Speaker:Is this somewhat what the assessment gets too?
Speaker:Yes. It looks at your different blocks and the different things
Speaker:that you are both strengths of your different types of archetypes
Speaker:and the challenges.
Speaker:And so when you know what your strengths are and you
Speaker:know, what your challenges are,
Speaker:then you can work to those.
Speaker:I always say,
Speaker:work to your strengths and hire for your challenges if you
Speaker:can. And then if it is a challenge,
Speaker:once you know that that's a challenge,
Speaker:you can put some things in place to make those things
Speaker:easier for you got it.
Speaker:My friends and my clients,
Speaker:they joke that I'm a hacker because they look at things
Speaker:and they're like,
Speaker:I can't do this.
Speaker:I'm like,
Speaker:yes, you can.
Speaker:You just debt at it.
Speaker:They're like,
Speaker:Oh, I hate getting up in the morning.
Speaker:And I have to be up in to send these emails.
Speaker:I was like,
Speaker:well, then just use this.
Speaker:They used to use like a program like boomerang.
Speaker:And do you always your emails at night?
Speaker:And they showed that they were like,
Speaker:you can do that.
Speaker:And I'm like,
Speaker:absolutely Wonderful.
Speaker:Perfect. Could you give us maybe either a real or fictitious
Speaker:example without naming names or anything of how that all works?
Speaker:So we can put a little more depth to the conversation.
Speaker:So if someone finds out that they're a certain type,
Speaker:what do they do and what do they not do?
Speaker:Can you give us some type of example,
Speaker:An example is I worked with one client and she found
Speaker:out what her archetypes were and just knowing what her architects
Speaker:were, was a big awareness for her,
Speaker:of areas that she had been struggling in.
Speaker:And then I worked with her one-on-one to kind of dive
Speaker:in deeper with what her top archetypes were.
Speaker:And then we actually did some work together to actually shift
Speaker:that there's a,
Speaker:I call it kind of a money meditation that I worked
Speaker:through with someone to try to get into that subconscious of
Speaker:where a lot of that programming is.
Speaker:And then we work one-on-one of putting a plan in place
Speaker:to really help them use those archetypes to their advantage.
Speaker:You had mentioned that when you took your assessment that you
Speaker:thought nurturer would have been higher,
Speaker:that was second to last.
Speaker:Jill, I know.
Speaker:I don't know what it means yet.
Speaker:That's actually kind of a good thing just from you mentioning
Speaker:that it tells me that you've learned how to have better
Speaker:boundaries because oftentimes that's what the nurturer struggles the most with
Speaker:is that they give everything away and they have really poor
Speaker:boundaries. Okay.
Speaker:Well, I think that is important.
Speaker:So I will agree with you there.
Speaker:I'm curious to know,
Speaker:like I said,
Speaker:I haven't seen now that I've taken it,
Speaker:I haven't been able to dive into what everything means,
Speaker:but I'm excited to do so.
Speaker:I think that might be some weekend analysis for me,
Speaker:baby. I also offer a free,
Speaker:like 30 to 45 minute consultation.
Speaker:So if you get through your assessment and you still have
Speaker:questions, I'm happy to jump on the phone and talk with
Speaker:you further about it and kind of dive into that deeper
Speaker:and see how you can use that to really move your
Speaker:business forward and shift your money stories.
Speaker:Awesome. That's a huge offer,
Speaker:Jill. Thank you.
Speaker:You're welcome.
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Speaker:Okay. So your company is called beyond logic.
Speaker:What does that mean?
Speaker:It's one of my favorite things.
Speaker:And if you look at my page,
Speaker:my logo is actually a Knight chest piece with wings on
Speaker:it. Well,
Speaker:because you're the wing woman,
Speaker:right? I am the wing woman and in chess,
Speaker:the Knight can only move in an L pattern,
Speaker:but when you give it wings,
Speaker:it can move wherever it wants To.
Speaker:Ooh. Yeah.
Speaker:So I love that.
Speaker:And so beyond logic is logic is actually just an illusion.
Speaker:And oftentimes in our society,
Speaker:there's so much weight given to logic.
Speaker:That logic is really just an accumulation of our past experiences
Speaker:and belief systems telling us what's possible.
Speaker:And so if you have a faulty logic programmed in,
Speaker:it's often telling you what you can't do.
Speaker:And so when you go beyond logic,
Speaker:you can actually get where you want to go of like
Speaker:reprogramming what that logic is.
Speaker:Does that make sense?
Speaker:Yeah. I mean,
Speaker:why do we always gravitate to what we think is going
Speaker:to be the worst for us?
Speaker:I guess it's the fear thing,
Speaker:instead of saying with logic,
Speaker:all of this is possible.
Speaker:All of us,
Speaker:imposter syndrome,
Speaker:whatever we want to say is internally,
Speaker:we bring up all the reasons why it couldn't possibly be
Speaker:true for us.
Speaker:Right? And I look at that to you is like we
Speaker:have our right brain and our left brain.
Speaker:And it actually kind of tunes into our brain is our
Speaker:left brain is very logical and very analytical.
Speaker:And our right brain is very creative.
Speaker:And I say that our right brain is more heart-centered as
Speaker:well. And oftentimes what I see happen is that our left
Speaker:brain and our right brains,
Speaker:our logic and our heart are actually supposed to be working
Speaker:as a team logic isn't bad.
Speaker:So it's actually supposed to work together of logic is like,
Speaker:okay, I want to quit my job and travel the world.
Speaker:So logic comes in and goes,
Speaker:if that's what your heart says and your logic comes in,
Speaker:it's like,
Speaker:we can't do that.
Speaker:Right. Right.
Speaker:If logic was on your team,
Speaker:it would be like,
Speaker:we can't do that now,
Speaker:but how could we do That?
Speaker:How can we plan for it?
Speaker:How could we plan for it?
Speaker:How could we make that happen?
Speaker:And that's where logic kind of what I say is our
Speaker:left brain often becomes a bully and kind of likes to
Speaker:be in control.
Speaker:And so when our heart comes up and says,
Speaker:Oh, I'd love to de our logic comes in and comes
Speaker:is like,
Speaker:no, we can't do that because this,
Speaker:this, and this happened in our past.
Speaker:And like,
Speaker:we can't make that happen because of XYZ.
Speaker:Whereas if we allow our heart and our left brain and
Speaker:our right brain to be in balance,
Speaker:we can create so much more and have so more fulfillment
Speaker:That makes so much sense.
Speaker:And I've never heard anyone really describe it in that way
Speaker:before. That is really good.
Speaker:So I know also you have techniques to get people to
Speaker:just get back in control.
Speaker:Now, whether they're stressed out or they're super frustrated and you
Speaker:know how it is,
Speaker:our thoughts build on itself and it grows bigger and bigger
Speaker:and bigger and bigger,
Speaker:and we are super stressed out and you have some special
Speaker:ideas of how to deal with these situations.
Speaker:Yes. There's a couple of different things that I use.
Speaker:One of them is if you think of like thoughts being
Speaker:energy, I don't know if you've ever been around people and
Speaker:they're just,
Speaker:I call them like energy vampires.
Speaker:They kind of just suck you dry being around them.
Speaker:And what I always say is like,
Speaker:when you're in that space to really focus on of like,
Speaker:okay, am I 100% me?
Speaker:Because oftentimes people,
Speaker:project thoughts and ideas at you.
Speaker:And we take them on as if they're our own,
Speaker:when they're actually not.
Speaker:When it's someone else's perception,
Speaker:Somebody else's point of view,
Speaker:it's somebody else's thought process and it's actually not our own,
Speaker:but we take it on as if it's our own,
Speaker:Because we validate ourselves by reactions of others.
Speaker:Right? Exactly.
Speaker:Reactions and comments of others that might not be right.
Speaker:Yes. And so one of those things is I asked myself,
Speaker:okay, am I 100% me?
Speaker:And I'm very intuitive and I've done a lot of work.
Speaker:I started out doing this with muscle testing.
Speaker:It's called applied kinesiology.
Speaker:And I started doing it with muscle testing.
Speaker:But as I've developed it for myself,
Speaker:I naturally intuitively hear a yes or a no now.
Speaker:And so when I'm sitting in,
Speaker:I'm getting ready to do something.
Speaker:I always go,
Speaker:okay, am I 100% me today?
Speaker:And if I get a no,
Speaker:I'm like,
Speaker:okay, anything that is not me,
Speaker:not mine and an energy,
Speaker:any emotions,
Speaker:any point of views that are not mine,
Speaker:I return them to sender with consciousness.
Speaker:So I returned that and I'm like,
Speaker:okay, now am I a hundred percent me?
Speaker:And I usually get a yes.
Speaker:And then I'm like,
Speaker:okay, that now.
Speaker:And usually it creates a lightness.
Speaker:And another tool I use is light and heavy lightness is
Speaker:when something is true for you,
Speaker:it'll feel really light and expansive.
Speaker:And when something isn't true for you it'll feel really heavy
Speaker:and contractive.
Speaker:And so really tuning into the energy of something of when
Speaker:you're thinking about doing it,
Speaker:does it light you up?
Speaker:Does it feel really expansive?
Speaker:Like, Oh,
Speaker:this would be amazing.
Speaker:Or when you think about it,
Speaker:is it like,
Speaker:Oh gosh,
Speaker:like, Ooh,
Speaker:it feels really heavy and contractive.
Speaker:And these are tools that I've actually learned through a process
Speaker:or a group called access consciousness.
Speaker:And these tools are really amazing to really help you tune
Speaker:into something,
Speaker:to know what's true for you and to also to be
Speaker:able to choose for you as well.
Speaker:So how is that different?
Speaker:Because I could see someone liking to use this as an
Speaker:excuse. So let's go back to picking a revenue generating tasks.
Speaker:Like you need to those five sales calls today,
Speaker:instead of perfecting some artwork on your website or whatever it
Speaker:is, but those tasks are scary.
Speaker:They're out of your comfort zone.
Speaker:So they would feel heavy,
Speaker:right? Because they're not comfortable for you.
Speaker:Yeah. That is the trick of resistance.
Speaker:Oftentimes feels heavy as well.
Speaker:And so when we're resistant to do something that we know
Speaker:we need to do,
Speaker:like that inner wisdom says,
Speaker:Hey, if I call Mary,
Speaker:like I have an inner wisdom hit and intuitive hit that
Speaker:Mary May want what I have.
Speaker:And then we don't listen to that.
Speaker:We don't take action.
Speaker:It's like 10 of trusting your awareness,
Speaker:but then you have to take action to make things happen.
Speaker:And sometimes there's a difference between heaviness and being uncomfortable,
Speaker:expanding your comfort zone and doing some of those things to
Speaker:grow your knowledge and your wisdom.
Speaker:There's a difference there.
Speaker:Does that make sense?
Speaker:I wanted to bring it up only because I could see
Speaker:people saying,
Speaker:okay, well then I'm out.
Speaker:I get a pass because it's heavy.
Speaker:So when you're in a situation like that,
Speaker:where you're anxious or nervous or stressed,
Speaker:then you also need to kind of analyze,
Speaker:okay, is it something that's heavy or is it something where
Speaker:I'm just uncomfortable?
Speaker:And in that case you just want to push through,
Speaker:Right? Yeah.
Speaker:Is it something that's really heavy?
Speaker:And I don't feel like it's for me,
Speaker:I feel it in my gut.
Speaker:Right? I'm like,
Speaker:Ooh, this almost makes me feel sick.
Speaker:And then,
Speaker:but resistance feels different of,
Speaker:Oh, I really don't want to do that.
Speaker:But it's something that I know that if I take those
Speaker:steps and take action,
Speaker:that it will create something for me.
Speaker:Right. I would say,
Speaker:when you do something that you're uncomfortable with one time and
Speaker:it works,
Speaker:then you can use that as a model.
Speaker:So if you go back and you're in a situation once
Speaker:again, where you have to push through,
Speaker:you can say,
Speaker:well, look,
Speaker:I did it last time and look what happened.
Speaker:And those start to build on themselves then too.
Speaker:I think,
Speaker:Yes, definitely.
Speaker:Well, you create taking those steps,
Speaker:right? You create a pattern for yourself of breaking through those
Speaker:things that are uncomfortable.
Speaker:And there's an example.
Speaker:I usually draw it out,
Speaker:but I'll try to paint a picture of it.
Speaker:Of, we all talk about being in a box,
Speaker:right? And our box is usually our comfort zone and our
Speaker:hopes, goals and dreams are outside of our comfort zone.
Speaker:Otherwise, if they weren't,
Speaker:they would already be in the box.
Speaker:So what happens is,
Speaker:as we go to leave the box and I'll reference that
Speaker:book, the dream giver of leaving that land of familiar,
Speaker:leaving that comfort zone,
Speaker:and we start taking those steps towards our hopes,
Speaker:goals, and dreams,
Speaker:it's going to get uncomfortable.
Speaker:But what happens is,
Speaker:as you get outside of your box and you're out there
Speaker:and unfamiliar,
Speaker:what happens is fear and excitement are the exact same emotion.
Speaker:We just label it differently.
Speaker:Your palms get sweaty.
Speaker:You can kind of short of breath.
Speaker:And you're like,
Speaker:Oh, what am I doing?
Speaker:And so if you really look at that fear and excitement
Speaker:are the exact same.
Speaker:It's just choosing what to label it.
Speaker:So as you get out into unfamiliar,
Speaker:and if you label that emotion,
Speaker:excitement, and you stay there and you make the choices to
Speaker:stay there and to expand your comfort zone,
Speaker:that comfort zone will expand.
Speaker:I love it.
Speaker:What happens is our brain is actually really lazy.
Speaker:And if it can talk you out of doing something new,
Speaker:so it doesn't have to learn something new and run back
Speaker:into your comfort zone,
Speaker:then it's succeeded.
Speaker:That's where we come back to mindset.
Speaker:Then you stagnate because if you don't do anything,
Speaker:that's different.
Speaker:You're not going to grow.
Speaker:Yeah. And you're not going to achieve those hopes,
Speaker:goals, and dreams,
Speaker:because as you continue to get comfortable being uncomfortable and keep
Speaker:growing that comfort zone,
Speaker:pretty soon that comfort zone is going to encompass all those
Speaker:hopes, goals,
Speaker:and dreams.
Speaker:Yup. Because your box is expanded.
Speaker:Exactly. Wonderful.
Speaker:Love that.
Speaker:That's a great example.
Speaker:And you described it so well,
Speaker:what would you say,
Speaker:Jill? Kind of as a final piece of advice to someone
Speaker:who's listening to all of this,
Speaker:maybe as back when you were just switching out and thinking
Speaker:you were going to do photography full-time so they're right back
Speaker:there. You know,
Speaker:so much now you've had a lot of success you've continued
Speaker:to grow and expand your box.
Speaker:What words of wisdom would you have for someone who's just
Speaker:thinking, okay,
Speaker:well maybe Jill has something to this.
Speaker:What's your advice to them?
Speaker:Advice to you is be selective on who you receive advice
Speaker:from. So when I was leaving my corporate job to go
Speaker:full-time with my photography business,
Speaker:people that had a job and who worked in my office,
Speaker:they tried to intervention me.
Speaker:They tried to talk me out of it.
Speaker:Oh my gosh.
Speaker:Five people pull me into a room and try to be
Speaker:like, what are you doing?
Speaker:This won't work for you.
Speaker:I can't believe you're making this choice.
Speaker:And then I had friends that were entrepreneurs who had been
Speaker:out doing business for themselves for several years.
Speaker:And they were,
Speaker:Oh my God,
Speaker:it's going to be amazing.
Speaker:You're going to go awesome.
Speaker:It's going to be fantastic.
Speaker:You're going to love it.
Speaker:You're going to do great.
Speaker:And so with that,
Speaker:I would say,
Speaker:be very selective on who you receive advice from,
Speaker:as you're stepping into that,
Speaker:and you're making that choice,
Speaker:take advice from people who are doing it and who have
Speaker:done it.
Speaker:And oftentimes those are not your friends and family.
Speaker:And when we're thinking about making a big change or making
Speaker:a big step,
Speaker:we often run it by our friends and family and they
Speaker:can't see it.
Speaker:They can only see us for who we are in our
Speaker:box, not for who we want to be outside of our
Speaker:box. Right.
Speaker:And they genuinely want to protect you too.
Speaker:And they generally want to protect you.
Speaker:Yes. And they don't want you to stumble or have a
Speaker:possibility of failure.
Speaker:And oftentimes it's selfish for them too,
Speaker:because when you grow,
Speaker:oftentimes it makes them grow too and see you in a
Speaker:different way.
Speaker:And so when you're making those choices of be very selective
Speaker:on who you receive feedback from and who you receive advice
Speaker:from, especially if doing anything creative,
Speaker:especially like photography,
Speaker:creative fields are so subjective.
Speaker:And I remember when I was a budding photographer,
Speaker:I had another photographer that I looked up to that gave
Speaker:me a really,
Speaker:really harsh critique.
Speaker:What I'm really grateful for is I had another friend and
Speaker:mentor come alongside me.
Speaker:And she's like,
Speaker:this person was critiquing your style,
Speaker:not how you do it.
Speaker:For me of like photography wise,
Speaker:I love bright and vibrant photographs.
Speaker:And the person who gave me the really harsh critique,
Speaker:like subdued and dark and like black and white photographs.
Speaker:And she gave me a really hard critique saying that,
Speaker:Oh, your photos are too bright.
Speaker:I was like,
Speaker:well, that's my style.
Speaker:And so that's really something to look at too,
Speaker:is in the creative field,
Speaker:everything is subjective.
Speaker:So one person may not like what you create,
Speaker:but you know what?
Speaker:It might be the thing that another person has always been
Speaker:looking for.
Speaker:Well, and then it becomes the thing that you're known for
Speaker:too. Yes.
Speaker:So the people who really love that style are going to
Speaker:love you even more because that's what you're all about.
Speaker:That's what you represent.
Speaker:And another piece of advice I would say is you are
Speaker:not your ideal client.
Speaker:Oh, good one.
Speaker:So just because you wouldn't pay for that,
Speaker:or you wouldn't do it that way,
Speaker:or you wouldn't pay this much for this thing,
Speaker:never means somebody else would not Very good.
Speaker:Wonderful, great,
Speaker:great comments all the way through here.
Speaker:Jill, you have given us so much to consider change of
Speaker:mindset, taking that assessment,
Speaker:all of that.
Speaker:So now I want to give you a gift.
Speaker:I want to invite you to dare to dream.
Speaker:I'd like to present you with a virtual gift.
Speaker:It's a magical box containing unlimited possibilities for your future.
Speaker:So this would be your dream or your goal.
Speaker:That's almost unreachable that you would wish to obtain.
Speaker:Please accept this gift and open it here in front of
Speaker:all of us.
Speaker:What is inside your box?
Speaker:I would say that I feel like it's unattainable,
Speaker:but it's definitely a stretch goal for me of inside my
Speaker:box would be teaching and training on stage at my own
Speaker:event here in San Diego.
Speaker:In that event,
Speaker:I'd be supporting women entrepreneurs to breakthrough their mindset,
Speaker:their money,
Speaker:and their visibility blocks that are keeping them from really launching
Speaker:and flying in their business so that they could enjoy the
Speaker:possibilities, the purpose and the profits that they desire.
Speaker:Beautiful. So you're really taking your coaching and then just upleveling
Speaker:it into a live experience with multiple people there.
Speaker:Yes. Who I see that as totally attainable.
Speaker:And we're going to cheer you on for you to get
Speaker:there. Thank you.
Speaker:That's perfect.
Speaker:So, Jill,
Speaker:I think you have something exciting happening at the end of
Speaker:this month.
Speaker:This happens to be January.
Speaker:So when our listeners hear this,
Speaker:it's going to be up and going already.
Speaker:What is going on At the end of February,
Speaker:I'm actually launching my book and the title is called the
Speaker:freedom to fly.
Speaker:And it is for visionary entrepreneurs.
Speaker:And it's a guide to really activating your inner wisdom to
Speaker:confidently create more possibility,
Speaker:purpose and profit in your life and business.
Speaker:Oh my gosh.
Speaker:That sounds fabulous.
Speaker:I am already going to purchase one.
Speaker:Where do we find it?
Speaker:Yeah, it's on Amazon.
Speaker:And if you just go to amazon.com
Speaker:and either do a search for freedom to fly,
Speaker:or for my name,
Speaker:Jill Fleming,
Speaker:then you should be able to find it.
Speaker:Perfect. Perfect.
Speaker:And give biz listeners,
Speaker:as you know,
Speaker:there'll be a show notes page,
Speaker:all the links for Jill connected up there as well.
Speaker:The link to her brand new book.
Speaker:So exciting.
Speaker:Yeah. I'm really super excited to get that out there.
Speaker:How should our listeners reach out to you again?
Speaker:They'll go on your website and take the assessment.
Speaker:And your website is again,
Speaker:Living beyond logic.com.
Speaker:Perfect. You offered up a one-on-one free call.
Speaker:If anyone wants to go further after they've taken that assessment.
Speaker:Any other comments in terms of how to get in touch
Speaker:with you?
Speaker:Any final words for our audience here?
Speaker:No, I don't think so.
Speaker:I think that just going through my website,
Speaker:my, all of my contact information is on my website.
Speaker:I always do a complimentary consultation just to see if working
Speaker:with someone is going to be a good fit.
Speaker:And so if there's anyone out there that feels like I
Speaker:might be able to support them,
Speaker:I'm always happy to have a conversation with them.
Speaker:Well, thank you so much for taking your time out of
Speaker:the day to share all your wisdom with us gel and
Speaker:may your candle always burn bright.
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