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Squirting and Female Ejaculation--What Men Should Know
Episode 14th July 2023 • Real Dude Radio • Paul Joannides, Psy.D.
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One of the world's top researchers on female sexual fluids gave this episode a big thumbs up. You'll learn what squirting and female ejaculation really are as opposed to what porn wants us to think they are.

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Here's a slideshow that answers the question "Do Women Pee Thru Their Vagina?" https://realduderadio.com/women-pee-vagina/

REFERENCES

"Female ejaculation and squirting as similar but completely different phenomena: A narrative review of current research," Pastor and Chmel, Clinical Anatomy, 2022;35:616–625.

"Enhanced visualization of female squirting," Inoue, et al, International Journal of Urology (2022)1368-1370.

Transcripts

00:00

Hi I’m Dr Paul and welcome to the Real Dude Radio podcast, which is a free weekly podcast for men that’s about women, sex, psychology, and medicine.

00:11

Randy is confused. His girlfriend says that the sex they have is really satisfying, but Randy can’t understand why, if the sex is good, that she doesn’t squirt or have a female ejaculation, not that he’d know the difference between the two. He wants to know what he can do to make her squirt.

Poor Randy—I’d be willing to bet that what he’s learned about squirting and female ejaculation has come from watching porn, which, when it comes to learning about women’s bodies, is like teaching a teenager how to drive by having him watch the Fast and Furious.

00:48

Squirting and female ejaculation are two entirely different fluids that have entirely different sources, and they are not nearly as common in real life as they are in porn. Women have been amazing orgasms since the beginning of time without squirting or ejaculating fluids.

Let’s start with female ejaculation which you probably wouldn’t know if it happened given how little fluid is actually produced. If you want to know how little, grab a set of measuring spoons from your kitchen and look at the smallest one that says “one-eighth of a teaspoon,” and the second smallest one that says “One-Quarter of a Teaspoon.” And there you go. The total amount of female ejaculation is between one-eighth of a teaspoon and one-quarter of a teaspoon.

01:37

Female ejaculation is produced by The Skene’s glands, which are tiny glands that line part of the urethra in about two-thirds of women. The urethra is the tube that women and men pee through. And while all women have a urethra, researchers have found that about one-third of women do not have Skene’s glands, so approximately one-third of women could not ejaculate if they wanted to, yet they can have orgasms that are every bit as intense as the orgasms of women who have enough Skene’s glands to fill a stadium.

And in the two-thirds of women who do have Skene’s glands, some have very few glands, and others have more, so the amount they might ejaculate will vary from just a drop or two, to about a milliliter, which is actually one-fifth of a teaspoon, which is why you’d probably never know if your partner had a female ejaculation.

02:33

Also, female ejaculate does not squirt out because there is no mechanism to make that happen. And if a woman does ejaculate, it might go backward, into her bladder, so she may not even know she’s produced it.

02:47

Now, let’s talk about squirting as opposed to female ejaculation. Very few women squirt. The famous sex researchers Masters and Johnson said they believed that less than 5% of women squirt during sex. And in an extensive summary of studies that have been done on squirting that was published last year in a highly respected professional journal, the authors described squirting in real life as “a rare occurrence.” Also, of the women who do squirt, some have a condition called coital incontinence.

03:20

As for the actual volume of fluid that comes out when a woman squirts, the amount can range from an ounce or two, to what comes out when you pee after you’ve had a 32 ouncer at McDonalds. This makes perfectly good sense, because the liquid that comes out when a woman squirts is urine. This was proven beyond any doubt by a study that was done in Japan and published last summer in the International Journal of Urology.

But women who do squirt usually don’t think it’s urine because the fluid is sometimes less concentrated than their urine usually is, and men who are squirted on might not think it smells like urine when they compare it to the smell of their own urine, because men’s urine is more concentrated than women’s urine is.

Also, some women who squirt might have peed or emptied their bladder just before having sex, so they assume the liquid can’t possibly be urine. But there is residual urine in a women’s kidneys and ureters that can get squeezed into their bladder during sexual arousal. Also, the increase in blood pressure as a woman is becoming sexually aroused can cause a rapid influx of urine into her bladder, but the urine that is produced during sexual arousal is likely to be more dilute than the urine a woman produces when she pees after doing her taxes or texting her mom.

04:41

You might wonder, if most women don’t squirt, why do so many porn actresses squirt? One of the reasons is they get paid more for scenes where they squirt. That’s why a porn actress might drink a ton of water before doing a scene so she can pee on demand and force urine out of her bladder. Some porn actresses will fill their vagina with water and use their pelvic muscles to shoot the water out when the director yells “squirt!”

Following porn’s lead, some magazines and sex bloggers have been running click bait articles about squirting that claim to teach women how to squirt, because I guess they’ve decided that Mother Nature apparently didn’t know what she was doing during the past 300,000 years when she gave human females the capacity to have incredible orgasms without needing to pee on their partner.

05:34

I have a female colleague who is concerned about articles that tell women to push down when they have orgasms in order to squirt. She is concerned this could cause the women to have premature bladder leakage, which means a woman who does this should first ask herself how her jeans and dresses are going to look when she’s wearing Depends under them. There’s also concern that pushing down to force urine out during intercourse could possibly cause a woman to have a prolapsed bladder which could eventually require surgery to repair.

06:08

While there is nothing wrong with a woman squirting during sex, what I hope listeners like Randy will understand is that your partner does not need to squirt in order to have sex that’s incredibly satisfying. But if any of you still think it’s important that a partner squirts, it would probably be easier just to have her pee on you, and get it over with.

And if your partner does squirt during sex and likes how it feels, you learn to put down towels on the bed before you have sex.

06:40

Earlier in this podcast, I mentioned the urethra, and how female ejaculate and squirting both come out of a woman’s urethra and not her vagina. As for the difference between a woman’s urethra and her vagina, I created a slideshow to help answer a question that a teenager had about this on a Discord gammer chat. His question was “Do women pee through their vagina?” And believe it or not, more than half of the adult males in that Discord got the answer wrong. To see that slideshow, go to RealDudeRadio.com and enter the word urine, pee, or, urethra in the search box at, but be forewarned, it contains highly explicit images that leave nothing to the imagination.

07:28

And if you are interested in making sure a woman has the greatest amount of pleasure, instead of trying to get her to squirt or pee during sex, why not ask her two simple questions?

The first question is “What are some of the things I do that you’d like me to do more of?”And the second question which is just as important is “What are some of the things I do that you’d rather I do less of?”

07:56

And last but not least, some women worry that they are going to pee if they totally relax when the back part of the roof of their vagina is being stimulated. But if a woman can allow herself to relax and let an orgasm happen, very few women will actually pee or squirt, although it’s no problem if they do.

Also, some women find that their orgasms are more intense when they have sex when their bladder is partly or mostly full, but they still don’t squirt. We’ll look at what that’s all about we tackle the latest research on the G-spot area in a podcast I’ll be doing in three or four more weeks. The G-Spot area is located on the roof of the vagina in the back third of it. Some women definitely enjoy having that area stimulated, while others don’t, and I’ll be explaining why in that upcoming podcast.

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08:50

Thanks for listening. And as usual, I should warn you that nothing I say in these podcasts should be taken as medical or psychological advice, even though a number of people who practice medicine would have no clue how to answer even the most basic questions about squirting and female ejaculation.