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Living Authentically: Colby Wilk’s Guide to Self-Discovery
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Russell Newton:

alright, joining us today is Kolby Wilke.

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Welcome back listeners, and

thank you for joining us today.

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Rather than me try to introduce Colby and

get the facts wrong, I'm gonna ask him

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to take a few minutes here at the top of

the episode just to introduce himself,

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maybe explain a few key terms that we

might see on his social media sites such

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as Wayfinder is an interesting term to me.

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And we'll see where the

conversation leads from there.

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So Colby, if you would just tell

us about yourself and your work.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Sure.

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Uh, thanks for having me on.

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I, uh, work as a wayfinder, which

to me means I help people find their

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way to who they really are and to

the life that's been calling them.

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I believe that everyone has a life that's

calling them, that we tend to resist

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because it would involve change, shaking

things up outside of our comfort zone.

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Uh, I have an intuitive gift where I'm

able to sense, uh, what someone's soul

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is trying to lead them towards and

what is in their way, what's in their

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blind spot, causing them suffering.

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And with this gift, I'm able

to help somebody spot it.

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What they've been denying,

abandoning, stepping over so that

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way it finally can be resolved.

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'cause when we face off with

compassion, what's been in

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our way, it, it dissolves it.

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Um, people come to me with all

sorts of problems, procrastination,

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self-worth, anxiety, depression,

phobias, even physical problems.

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And many of them have read a

whole bunch of self-help books.

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Many of them have sat at the

feet of, gurus had had like a

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shaman or a healer work on them.

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Yet true wellbeing still eludes them,

even though they've made a lot of effort.

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The truth is you can't get

to wellbeing with effort.

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You just can't.

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That's not how it works.

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You can't get to wellbeing by trying

to bend yourself into some version

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of better true wellbeing comes from.

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Allowing yourself to be who you are.

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And then somebody might

say, Colby, well who's that?

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And I'll say, let's go Look, we're so in a

rush to get somewhere called satisfaction,

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but as you know, many listeners know

it's nowhere out there, it's in here.

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Um, and many of my people, my

clients, my students have been

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looking quite earnestly, right?

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Um, and they go to folks who will

show them what worked for them,

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like what's been their path, and

then they'll share their path.

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The benefit of going to an

intuitive, a psychic is to help, I

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help people sense their own path.

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Everyone has a particular path that

their soul is inviting them, and I'm

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able, able to sense it and then I'm

able to help somebody else sense it.

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And once you know what your

soul is inviting you to do.

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Life becomes a lot easier.

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Russell Newton: i, I think in my

experience when I speak with people,

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if you say you're an empath or

along those lines, they get all

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not defensive, but skeptical maybe.

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Can you define the term

empath as you see it?

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Sure.

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So empath or empathy is being

able to tune to somebody else.

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Usually empathy is both

a gift and a curse.

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Empathy for many people.

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Some people come in with it, other people.

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I came in with it and it got further

developed because I was raised in

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a rather dysfunctional home, so I

had to, I would be like, oh, is it

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okay to go down into the kitchen?

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And I would sense who's in the

kitchen and sense what their

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mood was by stretching my field.

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We have a jelly bean of energy around

us, above, below to the sides, and

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you can stretch it to include another

and sense their feelings, their

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state, what they're thinking about.

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It's a skillset.

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In large part, empathy means I'm

able to tune into you the problem

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with empathy or the challenges.

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I'm so good as an empath tuning into you,

but I may not be great at tuning into me.

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Or tuning into higher consciousness.

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Some people like to be around

empaths because, oh, this

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person understands me easy.

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Some people don't like being around

empaths because everyone wants to be seen,

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but not everyone wants to be seen through.

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Seen through means.

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I see your stuff and what you're

stepping over and your ego.

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A lot of people don't want that.

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Now.

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That's a helpful skill for

those people who want that

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and wanna work on themselves.

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But other people are like, get outta here.

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You know me better than I know me.

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That frightens me.

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An empath needs to learn how

to control their empathy.

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'cause an empath usually cares more

about the other than themselves.

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And therefore resents other

people not doing the same empaths

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generally want to live in Mr.

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Rogers neighborhood where

everyone is kind, everyone is

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compassionate, everyone like shares

like, oh yeah, that was my ego.

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I'm so sorry, but we don't live in Mr.

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Rogers neighborhood.

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And if you're an empath, you're

like, I want to, but I don't.

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And I'm mad about it because I'm kinder

and more compassionate than other

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people, and people aren't kind and

compassionate to me, it feels unfair.

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So an empath needs to learn to

control their empathy and to tune into

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themselves and higher consciousness.

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That's the path of an empath.

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Russell Newton: a skillset is always

placed for those that excel at something

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on top of a certain level of talent.

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You said you came in as an empath,

so is that, that's something, uh,

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correct me if I'm wrong, something

you feel you were born with.

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through work and sensing and

uh, consciousness, were able

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to extend that skillset.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Everyone could

do math, but not everyone's an Einstein,

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right?

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Empathy is a skill.

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Some have a lot of it and

develop it, and some not so much.

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So I came in rather open and

not very defined as a self.

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I, I, so I had very little

self-worth, self-esteem.

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I was kind of just open, right?

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And so, yes, I came in with it,

and I've developed it because I

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wanted to be safe in my family.

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One, two, my career

lends itself to empathy.

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People want to feel like

they're understood by me.

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Um, and people love empaths because

it's, they have, they don't have

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to work as hard to be understood.

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So somebody who has a difficult

time expressing themselves,

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finding the words, loves an

empath, because I'll do it for you.

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No, no problem.

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And then eventually it kind of

backfires in relationship because,

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wait a minute, get outta my head.

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Get outta my space.

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Empaths tend to bleed.

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Into people, which initially,

like in high school and middle

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school and college and in your

twenties, makes you rather popular.

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But by the time you leave your

thirties, you, you occur to somebody

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as too much or boundaryless.

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And so then becomes the process of, for

most empaths, okay, this is not working.

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How do I find myself?

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I can be empathic.

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That doesn't mean I'm present.

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And presence is the game, is

the winning in, in the old lotto

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commercials, something along the

lines of in order, uh, how does it go?

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You gotta be present to win.

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That was the.

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Russell Newton: To win.

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Yes.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Present to win.

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If you're not present to yourself,

you can't win in this game of life.

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See?

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Right.

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So I see a lot of couples and the

male, the person will say, my, my,

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my wife thinks I don't understand

her feelings and wants me to get it

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without her having to say something.

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And she'll be like,

yeah, like you do Colby.

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And I'm like, one, I'm a homosexual.

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One.

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Two, I'm not your husband.

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Two and three.

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That's not his job.

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Your job wife in this case is

to share what you're feeling

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eloquently enough for him to get it.

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Your associating wife, that he

doesn't care about you because

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he doesn't understand you.

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No.

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He doesn't understand you because

you are not using language affect

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to get him to understand you.

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And he needs to be open to like, I

don't get it and I want to get it.

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Help me to get it.

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Explain it in a different way,

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Russell Newton: Hmm.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: please.

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. Empathy usually comes

from the female essence.

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Doesn't mean you have to be, you

know, have the gonads of a female,

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but it's usually associated with

the feminine part of the being.

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It's receptive, right?

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So I am receptive to things that has its

pluses and it has its minuses, right?

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People who are not empathic tend to.

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Like, be self-focused, are able

to advocate for themselves.

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If you don't like me, that's okay.

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That's very non empathic, right?

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Very male.

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Very male.

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Empathic em, empathy.

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Very female.

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Not to say you need to

be in a female body.

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I'm not.

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Russell Newton: Mm-hmm.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: So I, I just

wanted to throw that in a little.

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Russell Newton: No, that's, that's great.

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Thank you.

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So kind of an aside, just definition

wise, a term I've run across, I've done,

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I have a particular author that deals

with self-development from more of the

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empathic or the empath side, I think.

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And he uses the term several times

in his books about highly sensitive.

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Is that something that.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: There's highly

sensitive people and there's empaths,

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two different groups, some overlap.

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Russell Newton: Some overlap.

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Okay, great.

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Can you expand on that a little

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

So highly sensitive.

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People are sensitive to, there's an

acronym that I don't remember off

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the top of my head, but sensitive

to noise, sensitive to environment,

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some sensitive to energies,

sensitive to their own emotions.

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Sensitive to deregulation, right?

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Sensitive.

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And there's many different

ways of being sensitive, right?

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Russell Newton: Okay.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Empaths are

sensitive to feelings and energy.

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You could be a highly

sensitive person, person.

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I'm sensitive to sound.

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I'm sensitive to environments

and have no empathy.

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None.

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Russell Newton: Very good.

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Very good.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: are highly

sensitive people who have empathy.

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There is a lot of overlap, but not

necessarily, I'm highly sensitive.

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Oh, I sensitive and I'm empathic.

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So double whack if you would.

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Russell Newton: Okay.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: At the end of

the day, and I use these terms, I'm not

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a big term person because I'm not big

on putting yourself in a bucket because

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there are all sorts of energies that

come with labeling yourself, right?

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All sorts of terms.

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So for instance, if I call upon

creator, there are associations

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with that term, other associations

with God or Lord or Yahweh or Allah.

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So you wanna make sure the term

you're calling yourself or calling on.

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Is the associations you want.

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So for instance, if

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Russell Newton: Tell me a little bit more

about the associations you want and how

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: as a gay

man, if I call on the Christian God

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and the Christian God has

overlays of homophobia, that's

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not gonna work so well for me.

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Russell Newton: Okay.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Even if I don't

know it, it's not gonna work so well.

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'cause I'm calling upon a form a, a form

of energy that has distaste for who I am.

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So you wanna be very careful

about labeling yourself.

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Like I wouldn't run around calling myself

a highly sensitive person or an empath.

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I say I have highly developed empathy,

which then I'm more in control.

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I.

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I say I'm highly sensitive to

energy, but I'm not gonna label

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myself highly sensitive people.

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'cause once you label yourself,

are you labeling yourself for

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why so people understand you?

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'cause you're identifying

because you're a victim.

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Why you're identifying that way.

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Just share what your experience is and

that way you let go of all of that stuff.

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Russell Newton: The, the very essence of

self-awareness that I am not this thing.

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I feel this thing or I can do this thing,

but that not, that doesn't identify me.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Right, right.

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Like I say to I, I would say

like I'm, I say I'm gay, but the

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truth is I fall in love with men.

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That's more descriptive.

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Now, if I have associations that

gay is bad from childhood, gay is

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wrong, then I'm loading that into

my consciousness unconsciously.

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So why don't I just

say what's true for me?

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I fall in love with men.

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Great.

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Now I have to deal with all

that rest of that stuff.

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Russell Newton: Right.

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Um,

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so another branch then, you were on the

border of spirituality versus religion.

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Possibly things that maybe in a

lot of people's minds might be

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very similar, but spirituality

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you mentioned shamanism.

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And all the deities that we might

identify with or speak to or communicate

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with a religion such as Catholicism or

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And you started to go into some of that.

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Maybe I cut you short.

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Did you complete your thought with the

deity or the power, the consciousness

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that you should be communicating with?

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Or did?

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Did I cut you off?

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: So, let's see.

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There is no right or wrong way.

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I.

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The benefit of religion in my

opinion is it's a tried path.

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Many people have walked it and there's

a lot of energy gathered around it.

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And so it, you can get somewhere

assuming there's a place to get faster.

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If you identify as a Christian, a

Jew, a Buddhist, whatever it is,

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I don't, and I was raised Jewish.

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I'm Jewish because of my culture,

but I don't exactly identify with.

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The religion never really took from me.

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So I am somebody who kind of

samples and kind of makes up my mind

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and feel into what works for me.

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And I think the benefit of that is

I'm finding my own path as opposed

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to being told what my path is.

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And it lends itself to me helping

people find their own path.

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Yet, if a religion calls to you

go, it's, there's huge benefit

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of participating in a religion.

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Huge benefit.

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And there's, you know, a

little bit of detriment.

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'cause you want to think for

yourself, you wanna make decisions.

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Um, there's a lot of hatred within

religion, some religion, right, that

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you want to be on the lookout for.

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We want to find our way, but we also

don't want to give away our power.

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And we want people to contribute to us.

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So there's this paradox

as spirituality is right.

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I want to be me and I want to allow God.

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Well, those seem like they're

in conflict, but they're not.

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It's a paradox.

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People want simplicity.

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And it's not simple.

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It's not simple at all.

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So many people in my industry.

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And I apologize on behalf of my industry

for engaging in spiritual materialism.

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Meaning that, hey, if you

meditate, think positive, expect

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the best, do appreciation,

good things will come to you.

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And if good things don't come to you,

the Maserati, the house, whatever

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the case may be, the job, the wife,

the boyfriend, whatever, then that's

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because you are doing something

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Russell Newton: Hmm.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: that's not

spirituality, that's materialism.

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Maing

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Russell Newton: Excellent,

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: right?

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Russell Newton: excellent.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Right.

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Spirituality in my not so humble opinion,

not so humble, is relinquishing the self.

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I.

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Now I am 58.

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Right?

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I'm 58.

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That's what, how old I am.

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Okay.

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Where you act surprised, please.

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No, I'm kidding.

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So I'm 58 and I'm not the same

man that I was five years ago,

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10 years ago, 15 years ago.

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I have shed cells, I have let go, right?

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I was a boy who couldn't

raise his hand in class.

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Now I talk very freely.

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I was a boy who couldn't, you

know, honor his sexuality.

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Now I am out and about, right?

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So you become different.

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Our society tends to reward

people who maintain a self

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and build a kingdom around it.

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Russell Newton: Hmm.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

That's not spirituality.

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Spirituality is the relinquishment

of self, which involves

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the relinquishment of ego.

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And the relinquishment of doubt

and giving in to the great mystery.

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We don't know how this

thing works called life.

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We don't know.

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And there are people in my industry

trying to tell you, yes, I do know these

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are the laws, this is how it works.

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And yes, there is a point to it.

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Absolutely.

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There's some sure evidence and yeah, sure.

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Absolutely.

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But it's not, it's not that.

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It's not that.

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So yeah, there you go.

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He didn't ask, but he's Roland.

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Russell Newton: that, that's great.

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Um, so let's, let's take a step

back from the in depth part there.

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You, you mentioned in the, in

the last several sentences,

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your industry quite a bit.

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What, uh, on a day-to-day.

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Process.

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What is your industry?

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This, these are things I probably could

have learned honestly by going in depth

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through some of your material, but I

wanted the conversation to be fresh.

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So rather than me try to

interpret what I'm seeing.

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You know, some of these questions

might have been obvious in your social

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media presence, but, uh, is you, you

mentioned industry, you mentioned

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your clients and your students.

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So tell us on a day-to-day basis,

what, what is, do you run a practice?

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Are you a, an educator

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Sure.

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Russell Newton: or you

do all those things?

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: I would

say my industry is along the lines

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of metaphysics, self-development,

personal development.

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Uh, I would be classified as

an intuitive guide or healer.

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I see clients, individuals, I see couples.

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I teach classes on how to find

your path, how to increase your

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intuition, how to let go of trauma.

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Um, I do interviews like this one.

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Um, I have a fair bit of social

media presence that I'm working on.

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And, uh, yeah, so my day is filled

with sessions, classes, and, uh,

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writing emails for the most part.

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Russell Newton: you're an entrepreneur

or, uh, maybe not entrepreneur, but

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basically you're, self-employed.

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Yeah, same.

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Same here as, uh, so many of

us, uh, seem to be now on this.

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Uh, and I understand the whole

kind of, the whole social

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media trying to build all that.

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It's a constant

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: my

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Russell Newton: and a

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: God.

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Right.

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Russell Newton: it?

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: It's really,

it's really tough because you don't,

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Russell Newton: It is.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: you want to be

true to who you are and so many people are

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screaming for attention and overpromising

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Russell Newton: Yes.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

on people's desperation.

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And so, you know, it's just really, it's

difficult to raise beyond the noise.

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It is

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Russell Newton: It, it

is very, yes, it is.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: really.

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Russell Newton: Um, notice when I look

at your YouTube page, which I, I have

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up here, and the, it's striking that

nothing um, thumbnails is all caps with

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three exclamation points at the end.

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Right?

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That's, I I see it, but I put a video

out I try to make a headline that is

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informative and accurate, but if you

don't claim I can fix you in three

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minutes, in two steps or less, you

know, there are other headlines and

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people seem to fall for those headlines.

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Uh, at, at least, you know, if you,

if you're just going by the numbers of

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views of a video they have hundreds of

thousands of views on this thing that,

405

:

you know, it can't be true really for

most people, it, it is discouraging.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: I am sure.

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:

Russell Newton: But it's gotten,

408

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: I'm sure

everyone's offering something.

409

:

There's, you want a more mature audience.

410

:

Like years ago I did more instant healing

where I used my gift to help people

411

:

heal of whatever disease or trauma I.

412

:

And what I found was that

people would come back the

413

:

next week with something else.

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:

Russell Newton: mm.

415

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Something

else, and something else.

416

:

But it really didn't elevate them.

417

:

It didn't elevate them to

be beyond circumstance.

418

:

It kept them trying to manufacture a life

of wellbeing without knowing wellbeing.

419

:

Right.

420

:

And it just is more materialism.

421

:

The answer is outside of yourself.

422

:

The answer is, and so much

social media, as you know, it

423

:

is like, look at my abs, right?

424

:

Or look how pretty my house is.

425

:

Look, I'm boarding this plane.

426

:

Look at my fancy car, and God bless.

427

:

You know, I, I like that stuff.

428

:

I, I'm not making it wrong.

429

:

You know, it is what it is you gotta be.

430

:

It doesn't feel authentic

to me to over promise.

431

:

And I guess on some level I'm

paying a price because I'm

432

:

not capturing those people.

433

:

But those people I really don't

wanna work with, to be honest,

434

:

Russell Newton: That's exactly right.

435

:

That's, that's the most valid

ending to that sentence is that.

436

:

What good are the 32nd clicks?

437

:

You know, I, we're not here on

social media to the, the goal is

438

:

not to build the huge following.

439

:

The goal is to help those,

that are willing to put the

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work in and, and that are

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:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: who you are.

442

:

A match,

443

:

Russell Newton: in being improve

whatever the right phrasing might be.

444

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: right?

445

:

Like what I ask clients a lot when

I first start working with them is,

446

:

what do you, well, what do you want?

447

:

Usually I want a boyfriend, I

want money, I want my pancreas

448

:

back, whatever the case may be.

449

:

Okay, great.

450

:

That's a great place to start.

451

:

Now what's your life about Now?

452

:

That's a very interesting question to me.

453

:

What is your life about?

454

:

Like if you were to be buried and

you had a little tombstone or a big

455

:

tombstone, what do you want it saying?

456

:

Not like I'm a father, son, brother,

but here lies Hubert or Christine.

457

:

She lived what?

458

:

She lived life fully.

459

:

She knew love, she knew belonging.

460

:

She was evolved.

461

:

She always had a con,

what is your life about?

462

:

And that will give us the framework

to make decisions moving forward.

463

:

But if you don't know what

your life is about, you're

464

:

kind of wandering in the dark.

465

:

You're just, you're just trying, you're

making it up as you go along and you're

466

:

make, and you, you're just like, I'm lost.

467

:

What's your life about?

468

:

And most people say, I don't know.

469

:

And.

470

:

I don't know, and that's

when I tune into their soul.

471

:

I'm like, have you ever thought Yes,

I think about that all the time.

472

:

Okay, there.

473

:

There it is.

474

:

There it is.

475

:

It's right there.

476

:

Yeah.

477

:

But yeah, there's a lot of reasons.

478

:

There's always a lot of reasons of,

of course, there's a lot of reasons.

479

:

I'm not saying you don't have evidence.

480

:

I'm not saying you don't have

reason to have pause, but is

481

:

that really what you want?

482

:

Yes.

483

:

That's my heartfelt desire.

484

:

I don't know how to get there.

485

:

Don't worry.

486

:

Let's just admit that you want that,

that that's your soul yearning.

487

:

Soul meaning from your soul,

and soul, meaning singular.

488

:

Russell Newton: Right, right.

489

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: You can

only monotheism has it right?

490

:

In some respects, some respects

you can only honor one God.

491

:

Not God, Lord, creator one God.

492

:

Meaning your life could

only be about one thing.

493

:

It is the umbrella.

494

:

Now your life might be about love.

495

:

Great, let's do that.

496

:

It might be life, be about beauty.

497

:

Great.

498

:

Your might.

499

:

Life might be about forgiveness.

500

:

Great, but you can't be

about forgiveness and beauty.

501

:

'cause those things sometimes compete.

502

:

One will rise to the top.

503

:

And that's where we

take our direction from.

504

:

One can consider that an angel.

505

:

And we're taking our direction from

that angel, the angel of whatever it is.

506

:

My life per se, is about evolution.

507

:

I am really curious, not what

God is, but what this is.

508

:

What is this, what is this?

509

:

And what is the apex of my evolution?

510

:

That's my interest.

511

:

And so all decisions followed from there.

512

:

My

513

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Russell Newton: Okay.

514

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: not about love.

515

:

I like, love my life's.

516

:

I like belonging.

517

:

I love that too.

518

:

I, I, I love, uh, love, uh, sex.

519

:

I love altered states of consciousness.

520

:

I love all that part of me.

521

:

He's up and about.

522

:

Uh, good.

523

:

Down you go.

524

:

Oh, wait, wait, wait.

525

:

Whoa.

526

:

Okay.

527

:

Sorry about that.

528

:

What's your life about?

529

:

So, I guess I'm asking, you're

inviting your listeners to

530

:

consider what's your life about?

531

:

What do you want written

on your tombstone?

532

:

What do you want said to said

about you at your eulogy?

533

:

And then we need to separate

what your spirit is saying

534

:

and what your ego is saying.

535

:

Well, I want people to tell that

I was a great businessman and that

536

:

I, you know, supported it well.

537

:

Is that your, your spirit

or is that your ego?

538

:

And we need to distinguish those

things and pull them apart.

539

:

Russell Newton: Wow.

540

:

So that's your first step

541

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: That's

542

:

Russell Newton: or a, even

your first step, but a person's

543

:

first step to self-realization.

544

:

Is that the right phrase?

545

:

Or, or, uh, what is

546

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

ization is exactly it.

547

:

Actually, you did a great job there.

548

:

Self-actualization.

549

:

Yeah, you did a great job.

550

:

Most people don't get that.

551

:

Mazel tough to you.

552

:

Self-actualization is, I

want to be my best self.

553

:

I want the body, the wealth, the whatever.

554

:

That's self-actualization.

555

:

Best life, best version of self.

556

:

Self-actualization.

557

:

Self-realization is there's no one here.

558

:

There's no one here I

am, I am the everything.

559

:

I realize the true self,

that there is no self.

560

:

That's self-realization.

561

:

I love self-realization all about it and.

562

:

People want it, but they're a

little frightened because they

563

:

think they have to disintegrate.

564

:

Like God is chasing them around with

a broom, like a mouse beating them up.

565

:

Right?

566

:

That you have to release yourself.

567

:

You have to stop being you.

568

:

The truth is you become the divine within.

569

:

You recognize your divinity within self.

570

:

The tech.

571

:

If people are looking for, if your

audience is looking for practitioners

572

:

and let's say I don't appeal to them,

that's fine, but I will, I wanna give

573

:

this tip, which is really important.

574

:

I think if you're gonna work

with anyone, coach, hypnotist,

575

:

therapist, whatever, healer.

576

:

The signs of awakening

577

:

is a sense of still the person has a sense

of stillness, meaning there's space in

578

:

between their thoughts, there's stillness.

579

:

You get more still when

you're around them.

580

:

You get less defended stillness.

581

:

There's a sense of calm and

there's a sense of embodied

582

:

love, calm, stillness, love.

583

:

Those are the signs of awakening.

584

:

If someone doesn't have

that, they're not there.

585

:

Now, there are many stages of

awakening, of enlightenment.

586

:

They're not there.

587

:

There are many people who are

into spiritual materialism.

588

:

Rah, rah, you can have what you want.

589

:

Go and get it.

590

:

Whatever it is, which is

fine if that's what you want.

591

:

That's important work.

592

:

Self-actualization is important work,

but it's, it's, it's not the work,

593

:

Russell Newton: Okay.

594

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: right?

595

:

It's not

596

:

Russell Newton: Right.

597

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Again, wellbeing

requires more than self-development.

598

:

It requires something

deeper, someone to go within.

599

:

That what or recall goes

600

:

Russell Newton: It's just these

are, these are eye-opening.

601

:

Yeah.

602

:

I, I'm almost, uh, there's, there's

so much to unpack from that that I

603

:

almost don't know what, where to go.

604

:

Um,

605

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: That's okay.

606

:

We can hang out in the unknown.

607

:

It's a great place to be.

608

:

Honestly.

609

:

Russell Newton: I think I now I, I,

I hear you and I think maybe I'm un

610

:

a little uncomfortable with that.

611

:

My background is very

analytical, very, concrete.

612

:

Right.

613

:

Uh, I, I a math and science

teacher, a, a computer engineer.

614

:

Um, I.

615

:

I have, uh, some background in, in

counseling, um, a little bit, but

616

:

it's just such a different approach

617

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

No, actually it isn't.

618

:

So can I just tell you what I just saw?

619

:

So may I,

620

:

Russell Newton: please.

621

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: so when

you're talking, don't get scared.

622

:

It's okay.

623

:

So don't.

624

:

Russell Newton: yes.

625

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: So when you're

talking about your engineering and your

626

:

math, right, there's a place that you

go and you, it's up towards your right.

627

:

Maybe you left, 'cause I'm

seeing you reversed up here.

628

:

Where you go where you

actually consider options.

629

:

Do you know what I'm talking about?

630

:

When you're thinking about a

problem and how to resolve it,

631

:

you go to this still place,

632

:

this place of possibility there.

633

:

Right there.

634

:

It's right there.

635

:

Boom.

636

:

That's it.

637

:

That's it.

638

:

Now I've just got that on steroids.

639

:

Right?

640

:

But you've

641

:

Russell Newton: Wow.

642

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: got it.

643

:

And the way to increase it is to put

more attention on it and to rec Well

644

:

Colby, I don't know when I'm doing it.

645

:

That's okay.

646

:

That's okay.

647

:

That's okay.

648

:

Just be become curious.

649

:

Oh, there it is again.

650

:

You just accessed it.

651

:

'cause I could feel it when you access it.

652

:

This is the benefit.

653

:

Russell Newton: like, yeah,

it's, it's, you know, the impact.

654

:

It's a little scary from my point of view.

655

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Oh yeah.

656

:

Russell Newton: almost like,

and, and you're doing this

657

:

over a, great distance somehow.

658

:

It, it is fascinating.

659

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

It's really creepy, right?

660

:

It's crazy.

661

:

Like I'll talk to a friend,

662

:

Russell Newton: creepy.

663

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: really creepy.

664

:

I'll talk to a friend and

like, I'm like, I lost you.

665

:

No, I'm right here.

666

:

No, no.

667

:

You're paying attention to something else.

668

:

Oh, how do you do that?

669

:

I'm like, I don't know.

670

:

I just, I, this is this empathy,

the sensitive thing, which is it.

671

:

Look, I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

672

:

It's a pain in the ass,

to be honest with you.

673

:

It's a pain in the ass and it's

what I got and I work with it.

674

:

So here's my point.

675

:

There is a place you go when you are

open to possibility and you, you are

676

:

there, you're in your body, and you're

also aware of the bridge you showed

677

:

me, like a bridge, like this horizon.

678

:

You're there now, right?

679

:

That's it.

680

:

You just start delineating, oh, I'm here.

681

:

Oh, and then you start being

able to get there at will.

682

:

Oh, I want to get there.

683

:

I'm, oh, I don't know what

you, what do I have for dinner?

684

:

I don't know.

685

:

And off you go, right?

686

:

And then you're like, that's it.

687

:

Now I just have that kind of in waking

688

:

state.

689

:

Um, now keep in mind, I wanna warn,

I wanna tell on myself a little bit.

690

:

Super easy to develop an ego about this.

691

:

And there was a time where I'm

like, look how special I am.

692

:

Look what I can do.

693

:

Right?

694

:

And that's a, you know, one of my teachers

would say, Kolby the paranormal, which

695

:

is what we just did, is really great.

696

:

But don't get stuck there.

697

:

I.

698

:

Keep going to the unified field.

699

:

Keep going.

700

:

These gifts occur and occur

as you move forward, but

701

:

don't think it's the end game.

702

:

Don't think it's even you.

703

:

Keep going to the unified field.

704

:

Keep going.

705

:

Don't get trapped in being psychic

or being intuitive or like talking

706

:

to dead people or keep going.

707

:

That's not the point.

708

:

It is part of the gift and it's

also, and it's also a distraction.

709

:

So yes, you're differently wired than me.

710

:

We need every, I'm not an engineer.

711

:

I can't do that stuff, right?

712

:

We need, we need you on the planet and

you can access the unified field your

713

:

purpose in a way that's specific to you.

714

:

You don't have to do, don't do it my way.

715

:

And one, you can't because, not because

it's so great, because you're not me.

716

:

Russell Newton: Right.

717

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: This is

the benefit of dealing with an

718

:

intuitive, like I can sense your path.

719

:

Other people can only give you

what they did, which is handy,

720

:

but you can't get where you want

to go from there, in my opinion.

721

:

Russell Newton: Um, one of the things that

722

:

really struck me early in our

conversation was you talk about the

723

:

ability to stretch out or to withdraw.

724

:

Tell me about that in

a regular conversation.

725

:

Do you, can you, you said you can

control that or withdraw it or

726

:

extend it, and I guess it's two

different things that I'm asking.

727

:

Can you draw that back into yourself so

that you can move through interactions

728

:

without sensing the things around you?

729

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Everyone

wants to be seen, right?

730

:

We all want to be seen, but very few

people want to be seen through, right?

731

:

And what you're describing is, holy

crap, this guy can see through me and

732

:

my bullshit and my skeletons, and that

scares the hell outta me when I don't

733

:

necessarily want to deal with that.

734

:

And I certainly don't

want other people to know.

735

:

The only way, there are three things I do.

736

:

As a wayfinder, I help dig, dig to the

bottom of a wound and help you release it.

737

:

I help you with energetic

practices to modulate your field

738

:

to enter greater wellbeing, right?

739

:

It's like a hack.

740

:

Like, okay, you're not, you're

here but you want to be here.

741

:

How do we reconfigure your

field so you feel greater joy

742

:

beyond your present capacity?

743

:

And three, I help you adjust.

744

:

Be aware of your ego and

how it's sabotaging you.

745

:

Okay?

746

:

What you're describing, the discomfort

is this guy's aware of my ego.

747

:

I'm scared.

748

:

Reasonable, totally reasonable,

totally reasonable, totally reasonable

749

:

for me.

750

:

My gift, I can turn on or off.

751

:

I.

752

:

As I think all gifts should

be able to turn on or off.

753

:

If when a client comes to me and

says, look, I can't control my gift.

754

:

Dead People are constantly talking to

me and it's getting really inconvenient,

755

:

that means you're not in control.

756

:

That's a problem, and

you need to gain control.

757

:

Okay?

758

:

This shouldn't be happening to

you outside of your willingness or

759

:

else something else is going on.

760

:

That means you might be being influenced

by something or you are, you know, you

761

:

have some competing needs or thoughts

and you look, look how special I am.

762

:

I'm so spiritual, I can't

control my evolution.

763

:

God wants, you know,

some craziness, right?

764

:

God bless you.

765

:

I've got my own craziness, okay?

766

:

So I have control.

767

:

I can turn it on or turn it off.

768

:

Having said that, if

I'm at the barista, I.

769

:

And I'll give you an example.

770

:

So I went to the market, I don't

know, a couple years ago, and this,

771

:

uh, the cashier says, how are you?

772

:

I'm like, I'm not having a great day,

actually, it's really not a good day.

773

:

So like, okay, that'll be 1359 now.

774

:

I was like, holy crap.

775

:

How does she do that?

776

:

How does she do that?

777

:

Because if someone tells me in those

days they were having a bad day, I

778

:

would feel compelled to help them com.

779

:

Like I had no choice in the matter.

780

:

Like, I have to, but she doesn't

have the empathy that I have.

781

:

My empathy keeps me ethical

because I sense the other and what

782

:

it will do to the other, and I

sense the other as myself, right?

783

:

So people are, without empathy, you

are more, you are more not prone.

784

:

You can be more unethical

than somebody who has empathy.

785

:

Right.

786

:

So to answer your question, I'm

able to turn it on and turn it off.

787

:

I make choices like to

engage or not engage.

788

:

'cause not every day do I wanna sit

down with somebody because I send

789

:

something, you know, maybe I don't

and I have to choose, you know, let's,

790

:

there's a practice I have that one

of my other teachers would taught

791

:

me, Colby, if there's a lost dog in

the neighborhood, that doesn't mean

792

:

it's for you to go and get that dog.

793

:

What do you mean it's a lost dog?

794

:

It's running around.

795

:

It could be starving, it could be abused.

796

:

Of course I'm gonna go and save the dog.

797

:

No, Colby, you have to

ask, is that yours to do?

798

:

Because the boy down the street,

that might be his future pet, and you

799

:

stepping in will cause a rift in that

you have to ask, is this mine to do?

800

:

If, for instance, like for me, I have

this ability, one to find lost dogs.

801

:

Like if you want a dog, you

just tell me what you want.

802

:

It'll come within a week.

803

:

This boom shows up.

804

:

Or if you're an elderly

person lost, you find me.

805

:

Always.

806

:

I find an old person pretty much

every other day, every third

807

:

day, wandering around lost.

808

:

Now I live near a, like three

blocks From a senior center.

809

:

Yeah.

810

:

Okay.

811

:

Yeah, yeah.

812

:

But it's incr.

813

:

I ask other people,

does this happen to you?

814

:

Does this happen to you?

815

:

No.

816

:

Why?

817

:

I've never seen five old people lost.

818

:

I find them all the time.

819

:

So there's, and I ask each

time, is this mine to do?

820

:

And the times I'm like, okay, there's an

older man with a cane wandering around.

821

:

I get clearly not yours.

822

:

I'm like, well, can I stay here and watch?

823

:

Not yours.

824

:

Walk away.

825

:

Walk away, but, but walk away.

826

:

The gift has its pluses and the more

tuned in you are to yourself, the more

827

:

you know what your is yours to do.

828

:

The only thing when you get that like pull

away from me is you're trying to protect

829

:

what you don't even wanna protect anymore.

830

:

You don't want that self that you're

holding onto that you're embarrassed by.

831

:

You're like, look, in my opinion,

832

:

life is a perpetual

coming out of the closet,

833

:

right?

834

:

You just fly your freak flag higher

and higher and higher, because no

835

:

one part of me gives a shit anyway.

836

:

Russell Newton: That's

prob, that's probably true.

837

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

No one gives a shit.

838

:

It's you who gives a shit.

839

:

Because you think you've taken in their

voices or what you imagine their voices

840

:

have said, real or run real, whatever.

841

:

Who are you protecting

anyway from your freakiness?

842

:

Not Freakiness, criminal.

843

:

Freakiness.

844

:

Like you being you.

845

:

No one cares, cares.

846

:

My, uh, I have a transgender

friend and he was really afraid.

847

:

She, I apologize.

848

:

She is, was really afraid

to wear a dress, right?

849

:

And I said to her, no one cares.

850

:

In fact, everyone's so involved with

themselves, they may not even notice.

851

:

They might not even notice.

852

:

And she went out in her dress,

in her thing, felt so free.

853

:

No one cared.

854

:

Cared.

855

:

Hardly.

856

:

No one cared.

857

:

And.

858

:

I don't care.

859

:

Do what you're gonna do.

860

:

Now I live in Seattle.

861

:

Right, right.

862

:

It's very rather liberal here.

863

:

So you know, I may be speaking

from that paradigm, but your

864

:

listeners, please go and be you.

865

:

The journey of our lives

is not to be happy.

866

:

I'm sorry.

867

:

It's not what it's about.

868

:

It's not about finding happiness.

869

:

That's not what it's about.

870

:

Sorry.

871

:

Sorry.

872

:

It's not what it's about.

873

:

The journey of our lifetime

is to become ourselves.

874

:

That's the journey is to allow

yourself to become who you are.

875

:

Giving yourself permission every

moment, every step of the way

876

:

to be you, whoever that may be.

877

:

Now that's separating who you think

you are, who you think you need

878

:

to be, who you think will get your

approval from who you actually are.

879

:

That's the journey and my friend,

that is not always a happy process.

880

:

It's deeply satisfying, deeply

satisfying, but it's not happy.

881

:

'cause you gotta allow

yourself to become you

882

:

and let go of, oh, I need their approval,

I need, I need to make a living.

883

:

You know, whatever it is, I

gotta do this, I gotta do that.

884

:

Other people, Papa, I have this reason to.

885

:

Okay, see you next time.

886

:

Enjoy yourself.

887

:

Russell Newton: Does that disillusion some

of your clients coming in, do the, does

888

:

that turn them away or they realize enough

that, uh, what you're saying is true?

889

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: You

know, you want to be able to

890

:

speak the truth with compassion.

891

:

Just speaking the truth can

make you sound like an asshole.

892

:

I.

893

:

Russell Newton: Very

894

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Right.

895

:

So you

896

:

Russell Newton: Very

897

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: speak the truth

with compassion and with a sense that

898

:

they are getting it and able to digest it.

899

:

Having said that, I had a client last

week, new client, she gets on the

900

:

phone, she's just starts talking and

I'm like, what do you wanna work on?

901

:

She didn't answer the question.

902

:

I kept talking about her.

903

:

I don't know her cells

and they're in conflict.

904

:

I don't know.

905

:

And she keeps talking and then she

starts like, oh, this one's this.

906

:

And I'm feeling this now.

907

:

And I'm like feeling in.

908

:

I'm like, there's nothing happening.

909

:

She's all in her mind.

910

:

There's nothing happening.

911

:

She starts to cry.

912

:

There's nothing happening.

913

:

'cause she's on some sort of

mental trip, which happens, right?

914

:

That happens.

915

:

'cause she, her mind wants to convince

her that something's happening.

916

:

But really nothing is happening.

917

:

Another work is getting done.

918

:

And so I stop and I'm like, would you

like to know my opinion about you?

919

:

She keeps talking.

920

:

Russell Newton: Wow.

921

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: She keeps talking.

922

:

You're paying for the session.

923

:

Would you like to get my feedback?

924

:

I'm like, well, stop, stop, stop.

925

:

Do I have your attention?

926

:

Can I tell you what I sense?

927

:

Yes.

928

:

Okay, good.

929

:

You're not letting me contribute to you

and you don't let anyone contribute to

930

:

you because you're too afraid to allow

somebody to love you because your parents

931

:

love came with a whole bunch of stuff

and you grew up too fast, and now you

932

:

want love, but you can't let it in.

933

:

Now she starts crying Now real heaving.

934

:

I could sense it in her field.

935

:

Stuff is coming, right?

936

:

Stuff is coming.

937

:

Oh, I've known this, but I, but

you haven't been able to get to it.

938

:

Right?

939

:

Because we are damaged in

our relationship with people.

940

:

That's how we're damaged.

941

:

That requires another person

to help you resolve it.

942

:

You can't resolve it alone.

943

:

Not those kind of wounds.

944

:

You can go to Tibet live in a mountain.

945

:

You're not gonna touch this.

946

:

Okay?

947

:

You can touch other stuff, but you

can't touch interpersonal damage.

948

:

You can't.

949

:

Now, after that whole

series, she feels better.

950

:

She feels more open.

951

:

Okay.

952

:

She gets off, she makes another

appointment, and then she comes to con.

953

:

Then I get an email saying she doesn't

wanna work with me because she's

954

:

too terrified about what came out.

955

:

It's too difficult.

956

:

Okay.

957

:

Okay.

958

:

She's not ready to go

there again, you're scared.

959

:

And she may need some time to coalesce

because what happened was she had her

960

:

resolution, she felt good, and then

her ego stepped in after the fact

961

:

and said, enough of this,

I wanna stay where I am.

962

:

It's too scary out there.

963

:

And that's true for all of us.

964

:

We want what we want, but we would have

it if we didn't have competing desires.

965

:

We would.

966

:

We, we have a life we'll

allow ourselves to have.

967

:

That's just true.

968

:

We could say all day.

969

:

I had another client last week, a

young lady who wants to be married

970

:

in her thirties, can't meet a guy.

971

:

Very attractive, very

nice woman, yoga person.

972

:

She's talking about how she wants

to be in love and find a man.

973

:

And I'm like, well, the reason you can't

find that is 'cause you don't want love.

974

:

Do you want to be validated?

975

:

What?

976

:

You want to be validated?

977

:

You don't want love.

978

:

You don't wanna give love receiv love.

979

:

You want to be validated.

980

:

What are you talking about?

981

:

You want everyone to know you're okay

because you got this on your arm.

982

:

Took her a moment.

983

:

She's like, you're right.

984

:

Okay, let's work on getting you validated.

985

:

Let's work on you, validating you.

986

:

Then maybe, maybe love

will show up, maybe not.

987

:

It's a very outside in approach, right?

988

:

It's very much performative, right?

989

:

Again, it's masquerading as

somebody else and afraid that

990

:

people will see through it.

991

:

Right.

992

:

As opposed to, okay, you don't

value you, you're not valid to you.

993

:

And by the way, we all

are on that journey.

994

:

The only reason I'm able to see

anyone is 'cause I see me that

995

:

Russell Newton: Hmm.

996

:

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: I have a gift.

997

:

Sure.

998

:

But I've applied this gift to myself.

999

:

The only reason I could,

we're all not that different.

:

00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:24,619

We're all ice cream.

:

00:51:24,619 --> 00:51:26,299

We're just different flavors of ice cream.

:

00:51:26,809 --> 00:51:27,169

Right?

:

00:51:27,409 --> 00:51:29,779

So, no, I'm not beyond this.

:

00:51:29,779 --> 00:51:30,079

Right.

:

00:51:30,079 --> 00:51:31,309

I'm in it with you.

:

00:51:31,879 --> 00:51:32,359

Okay.

:

00:51:32,359 --> 00:51:35,269

So you want, you need

to validate yourself.

:

00:51:35,599 --> 00:51:36,049

Okay, great.

:

00:51:36,049 --> 00:51:36,769

Let's look at that.

:

00:51:37,189 --> 00:51:37,789

Let's go.

:

00:51:38,467 --> 00:51:39,077

Russell Newton: Fantastic.

:

00:51:39,379 --> 00:51:39,679

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Yeah.

:

00:51:39,679 --> 00:51:41,089

Maybe you don't want a val.

:

00:51:41,089 --> 00:51:45,049

You want someone to come in and pick

you up and tell you you're okay.

:

00:51:45,319 --> 00:51:45,949

Me too.

:

00:51:46,009 --> 00:51:46,609

I do too.

:

00:51:46,669 --> 00:51:47,059

I do too.

:

00:51:47,569 --> 00:51:48,379

Is that gonna happen?

:

00:51:48,409 --> 00:51:49,369

Mm, probably not.

:

00:51:49,699 --> 00:51:50,059

Okay.

:

00:51:50,149 --> 00:51:55,249

So let's honor those parts

of you that don't feel valid.

:

00:51:55,879 --> 00:51:56,839

And maybe the guy will come.

:

00:51:56,869 --> 00:51:58,069

Maybe the guy will not come.

:

00:52:00,319 --> 00:52:00,679

Right.

:

00:52:01,609 --> 00:52:03,739

The journey is to become ourselves.

:

00:52:04,279 --> 00:52:06,079

And sometimes we don't like ourselves.

:

00:52:07,637 --> 00:52:08,747

Russell Newton: Wow, that's, yeah.

:

00:52:09,349 --> 00:52:09,739

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Right?

:

00:52:10,339 --> 00:52:11,179

And that's okay.

:

00:52:11,689 --> 00:52:12,049

Okay.

:

00:52:12,049 --> 00:52:14,389

Let's allow ourselves to be us.

:

00:52:15,289 --> 00:52:16,459

Oh, well, I'm a bit of a bully.

:

00:52:16,489 --> 00:52:18,319

Okay, let's allow yourself to be a bully.

:

00:52:18,979 --> 00:52:19,969

Let's not judge it.

:

00:52:20,689 --> 00:52:21,799

Allow yourself to be a bully.

:

00:52:21,979 --> 00:52:25,369

'cause you're also a bully to you,

not only to your wife, your kids.

:

00:52:25,519 --> 00:52:26,389

You're also a bully to you.

:

00:52:26,444 --> 00:52:30,379

Let's, let's look at, let's

allow yourself to be a bully.

:

00:52:31,429 --> 00:52:32,479

Oh, I don't wanna be a bully.

:

00:52:33,139 --> 00:52:35,569

Okay, well, okay.

:

00:52:35,569 --> 00:52:36,079

Why not?

:

00:52:36,319 --> 00:52:36,859

Well, 'cause it's wrong.

:

00:52:36,859 --> 00:52:37,429

No, no, no, no.

:

00:52:37,489 --> 00:52:40,579

I want you to allow yourself

to enjoy being a bully.

:

00:52:40,579 --> 00:52:41,179

Go for it.

:

00:52:41,419 --> 00:52:41,899

Enjoy.

:

00:52:41,899 --> 00:52:43,789

Mm, I love it.

:

00:52:43,789 --> 00:52:44,359

I love it.

:

00:52:44,419 --> 00:52:45,409

I love the power.

:

00:52:45,529 --> 00:52:47,599

I love pushing somebody into the ground.

:

00:52:47,689 --> 00:52:48,199

I love it.

:

00:52:48,199 --> 00:52:51,739

I'm, I'm, um, I'm Colby, this

is not so satisfying anymore.

:

00:52:51,799 --> 00:52:53,239

Oh, it's not?

:

00:52:53,239 --> 00:52:54,829

I'm, oh, okay.

:

00:52:55,159 --> 00:52:56,059

What's satisfying?

:

00:52:56,659 --> 00:52:57,165

I don't know.

:

00:52:57,199 --> 00:52:58,159

I don't know what, okay.

:

00:52:58,159 --> 00:52:58,909

Let's hang out there.

:

00:53:00,184 --> 00:53:01,684

It goes very quickly.

:

00:53:01,714 --> 00:53:06,724

Like it's not, therapy is great and I've

had a lot, but it's quick because you're

:

00:53:06,724 --> 00:53:13,504

just allowing someone to unfold while I

stay here, right in my alignment while

:

00:53:13,504 --> 00:53:15,964

I'm holding or helping hold a container.

:

00:53:17,134 --> 00:53:22,724

A container is an energetic structure

supported by angelic forces guides

:

00:53:23,254 --> 00:53:26,074

that makes things go fast, right?

:

00:53:26,074 --> 00:53:30,784

It helps hold, just like you've been in

a container, if you've ever been to a

:

00:53:30,784 --> 00:53:35,974

service of some sort, a funeral, a bar

mitzvah, a wedding, you know, you could

:

00:53:35,974 --> 00:53:39,124

feel when you enter into a sacred place.

:

00:53:39,214 --> 00:53:43,354

That's a container, so I'm hoping

to establish it around somebody.

:

00:53:45,454 --> 00:53:48,282

It goes very, it goes pretty fast, and

:

00:53:48,582 --> 00:53:48,802

Russell Newton: Wow.

:

00:53:49,102 --> 00:53:50,254

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

there's also no place to go.

:

00:53:51,364 --> 00:53:52,684

We are here to become ourselves.

:

00:53:52,714 --> 00:53:54,304

That's a never ending process.

:

00:53:55,324 --> 00:53:58,414

I hear people kolby, how

long will it take me to?

:

00:53:59,554 --> 00:54:00,394

Heal this.

:

00:54:01,359 --> 00:54:05,434

I'm, I don't know how, how willing

are you to be with yourself?

:

00:54:07,384 --> 00:54:07,894

I'm willing.

:

00:54:07,924 --> 00:54:08,224

Okay.

:

00:54:08,224 --> 00:54:08,764

Let's go.

:

00:54:09,034 --> 00:54:10,804

Oh, this is, let's go.

:

00:54:11,014 --> 00:54:11,404

Great.

:

00:54:13,114 --> 00:54:17,164

I'm very blessed 'cause I get

to talk to people about what

:

00:54:17,164 --> 00:54:20,134

matters most to them themselves.

:

00:54:21,334 --> 00:54:24,334

I'm very blessed 'cause I get

to have really interesting

:

00:54:24,334 --> 00:54:25,474

conversations with people.

:

00:54:27,964 --> 00:54:28,324

Right.

:

00:54:28,714 --> 00:54:35,434

And sometimes I have to help somebody

because there is a place where people

:

00:54:35,434 --> 00:54:38,494

indulge in their victimization.

:

00:54:39,814 --> 00:54:47,674

Or me, I'm 65, my parents really screwed

me up and they, they indulge in it.

:

00:54:48,454 --> 00:54:52,684

There's a place for tapping, touching

in to the wound, and there's a

:

00:54:52,684 --> 00:54:54,634

place for saying, okay, enough,

:

00:54:56,644 --> 00:54:57,184

enough.

:

00:54:58,129 --> 00:54:59,149

I let this go.

:

00:54:59,359 --> 00:55:00,949

Let's do a process to let it go.

:

00:55:02,149 --> 00:55:04,069

I know so many people.

:

00:55:05,929 --> 00:55:12,649

I had a years ago I had a

call from my sister Love.

:

00:55:12,649 --> 00:55:16,969

My sister, love her, and

she was with my mother.

:

00:55:17,149 --> 00:55:17,869

Here's the accent.

:

00:55:17,869 --> 00:55:24,439

My mother, and she's like, Colby, my

sister said, when did you get rags?

:

00:55:24,439 --> 00:55:25,489

My dog from?

:

00:55:26,809 --> 00:55:28,099

I'm like, I got him in eighth grade.

:

00:55:28,099 --> 00:55:28,639

Tell mom.

:

00:55:28,699 --> 00:55:30,259

Tell mommy you got him in eighth grade.

:

00:55:30,619 --> 00:55:32,389

Pam, what's going on?

:

00:55:36,829 --> 00:55:38,569

Mommy thinks you got him in ninth grade.

:

00:55:38,569 --> 00:55:39,559

You got him in eighth grade.

:

00:55:40,999 --> 00:55:43,009

Why are you arguing

with the old woman, Pam?

:

00:55:43,639 --> 00:55:44,989

Let her have what she wants.

:

00:55:46,489 --> 00:55:47,599

Let her have what she wants.

:

00:55:47,869 --> 00:55:48,589

Why are you arguing?

:

00:55:48,589 --> 00:55:49,939

Why your sister is arguing with my mother?

:

00:55:49,969 --> 00:55:51,259

'cause she hasn't forgiven my mother.

:

00:55:51,769 --> 00:55:52,189

That's why.

:

00:55:53,929 --> 00:55:54,604

I don't care.

:

00:55:54,604 --> 00:55:56,254

Like, let her believe what she wants.

:

00:55:56,614 --> 00:55:57,634

Who cares?

:

00:56:00,274 --> 00:56:01,204

That's indulging.

:

00:56:02,704 --> 00:56:03,329

Just let it go.

:

00:56:04,659 --> 00:56:05,096

Let it go.

:

00:56:06,904 --> 00:56:07,474

Let it go.

:

00:56:07,744 --> 00:56:08,764

Forgive her, forgive you.

:

00:56:09,364 --> 00:56:13,204

And that process, it's not, when

people don't, I say, let go.

:

00:56:13,474 --> 00:56:16,144

But letting go is not

something that you decide.

:

00:56:16,144 --> 00:56:18,544

You decide to let go, and then

something moves through you.

:

00:56:19,624 --> 00:56:24,604

It's something happens,

you, it's like, Hey, relax.

:

00:56:24,754 --> 00:56:26,194

I can't, that's not helpful.

:

00:56:26,914 --> 00:56:27,664

That's not how, how?

:

00:56:27,664 --> 00:56:28,414

How do I relax?

:

00:56:28,444 --> 00:56:28,714

I don't.

:

00:56:29,164 --> 00:56:31,264

Okay, can, let's calm your breathing.

:

00:56:31,264 --> 00:56:32,674

Breathe in, breathe out.

:

00:56:32,674 --> 00:56:33,484

Bring your attention here.

:

00:56:33,724 --> 00:56:34,744

There's a process.

:

00:56:35,074 --> 00:56:36,364

There's a process to letting go.

:

00:56:39,167 --> 00:56:39,587

Russell Newton: Wow.

:

00:56:40,504 --> 00:56:44,674

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Everyone

wants change in their life, bigger

:

00:56:44,674 --> 00:56:47,254

house, better body, whatever.

:

00:56:47,764 --> 00:56:49,984

But few people are willing to change.

:

00:56:52,174 --> 00:56:53,194

That's just true.

:

00:56:55,744 --> 00:57:01,954

Most of my work, to be honest with

you, is I have this theory of tides.

:

00:57:02,284 --> 00:57:09,034

It's not my own, but I labeled that, that

we're all in the notion of consciousness.

:

00:57:09,754 --> 00:57:12,214

And at any one point

we're caught in a tide.

:

00:57:13,024 --> 00:57:16,804

And if you've ever been to the ocean, I'm

from Long Island, and you get caught in

:

00:57:16,804 --> 00:57:21,064

a tide, you don't try to swim out because

you're just gonna tire yourself out.

:

00:57:21,334 --> 00:57:25,054

You tread water, keep your eye on the

horizon so you know how far out you're

:

00:57:25,054 --> 00:57:29,524

going, and you wait for the tide to

spit you out, and then you swim out.

:

00:57:30,364 --> 00:57:33,964

Most of us who are going through a

difficult time are caught in a tide.

:

00:57:35,464 --> 00:57:38,824

You try to swim against the

tide, you are going to suffer.

:

00:57:39,844 --> 00:57:41,104

It's going to drag on.

:

00:57:41,374 --> 00:57:42,574

You cannot fight it.

:

00:57:44,824 --> 00:57:49,024

However you tread water with

somebody, you keep your eye

:

00:57:49,024 --> 00:57:50,764

on what you want, the horizon.

:

00:57:51,334 --> 00:57:54,934

You see how far you're getting

from the horizon, how far you are

:

00:57:54,934 --> 00:57:55,985

getting from the source of you.

:

00:57:58,114 --> 00:58:00,814

You'll survive the tide

until it spits you out.

:

00:58:01,864 --> 00:58:05,314

Most of us just need a

partner to get through,

:

00:58:07,744 --> 00:58:11,374

and while you're being pressured

by the tide, your stuff is coming

:

00:58:11,374 --> 00:58:13,474

up to be resolved, to be washed.

:

00:58:14,824 --> 00:58:20,644

So when you emerge out of the tide,

you're no longer the same self, and

:

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you get out, you shake yourself off and

you're fresh and ready for something new.

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Russell Newton: Wow.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Maybe there's some

fried chicken that sounds really good.

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Russell Newton: That sounds

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: The peach.

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Russell Newton: That sounds good.

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00:58:35,642 --> 00:58:36,512

that's fantastic.

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I, that's a, that's a great conclusion.

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00:58:39,932 --> 00:58:42,932

We're about, we've been going

quite a while, and I don't, I

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00:58:42,962 --> 00:58:44,252

really appreciate your time.

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00:58:44,552 --> 00:58:51,212

Um, I, I've got so much in my head from

this that I am, I need to come to an end

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00:58:51,212 --> 00:58:53,432

because I am, am having trouble processing

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Okay.

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00:58:53,972 --> 00:58:54,842

Russell Newton: a lot of this stuff

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Yeah.

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00:58:55,622 --> 00:58:58,682

Russell Newton: and the thoughts

are getting a bit jumbled.

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00:58:58,922 --> 00:59:04,772

Um, so let's wrap it up with

some business, uh, side of things

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for our listeners and then.

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Uh, maybe we can do it again

at some point in the future.

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If, uh, if the listener wants to

get in touch with you, uh, or they

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want to contact you, what would

you recommend for them to do?

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What's the best

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: So, uh,

my website is colby wilk.com,

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C-O-L-B-Y-W-I-L k.com.

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00:59:25,819 --> 00:59:28,219

And I have a newsletter there.

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00:59:28,759 --> 00:59:33,769

And I've got a ton of blog articles

and tips and practices as well as

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00:59:33,769 --> 00:59:37,969

I'm on most of the social media,

mostly on Facebook and on YouTube.

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00:59:38,839 --> 00:59:45,169

And, uh, I sent you a link for a free

gift, uh, which is, uh, helping people to

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find the first secret to finding your way.

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00:59:50,149 --> 00:59:53,839

It's really great and it's free

right, and it helps people to

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understand what may be in their way

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00:59:58,017 --> 00:59:58,307

Russell Newton: okay.

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00:59:58,607 --> 01:00:01,549

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: causing them

to feel lost, forgotten, stuck.

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Russell Newton: is there something

you wished I had asked I didn't?

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Is there some information you want

to provide, uh, as a, as a closing

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note that I should have broached the

subject on and I, I missed completely.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: the only

thing I'd like to say, there's a

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lot of stuff going on in the world.

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01:00:24,159 --> 01:00:28,209

There's a lot of conflict, a

lot of argument, a lot of doubt.

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01:00:29,769 --> 01:00:32,559

Doubt is the food of the ego.

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01:00:33,639 --> 01:00:38,349

Once your ego gets involved, you

get scared, and then you do dec.

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01:00:38,529 --> 01:00:40,419

You make your decisions based on fear.

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The reason, the opportunity here

with all this conflict with grocery

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01:00:49,239 --> 01:00:53,979

store shells being empty with

people unsure about their living

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01:00:56,019 --> 01:00:57,444

is to not give into doubt.

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01:00:59,634 --> 01:01:01,434

To know that all will be okay.

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We don't know what it's gonna look like.

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01:01:03,894 --> 01:01:05,394

You may be moved to a different job.

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01:01:06,114 --> 01:01:10,584

You may be compelled to move

to a smaller, more affordable

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01:01:10,584 --> 01:01:13,224

home, but all will be okay.

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01:01:14,454 --> 01:01:17,394

'cause what we value is

not really what we value.

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01:01:19,884 --> 01:01:20,934

All will be fine.

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01:01:21,054 --> 01:01:22,464

Do not give into fear.

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01:01:23,184 --> 01:01:25,224

Turn off the news more and more.

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01:01:25,524 --> 01:01:26,874

Don't stick your head in the sand.

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Russell Newton: Right.

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01:01:28,494 --> 01:01:31,614

Colby Wilk, Wayfinder: Don't be

afraid and don't give into paranoia.

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01:01:33,384 --> 01:01:38,244

There are forces supporting our planet

to go through this change and there are

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01:01:38,244 --> 01:01:43,164

forces that are against that process.

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01:01:43,974 --> 01:01:48,234

Do not feed them and you feed them

by feeding your ego with doubt.

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01:01:50,214 --> 01:01:50,814

Stay short.

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Okay.

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01:01:53,727 --> 01:01:54,337

Russell Newton: Fantastic.

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Col.

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Thank you very much.

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Colby Wilk, Wayfinder:

Oh, it's my pleasure.

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I had a wonderful time.

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