There's a particular kind of shame that shows up after you've reacted badly — the loud voice, the pushing, the moment you didn't recognise yourself. And underneath it, a question that's easy to ask and hard to answer: what is wrong with me?

This week, Sandra looks at that question differently — at fight, freeze, flight and fawn, and why the response you're most ashamed of might be the one you understand the least.

In this episode:

• Why fight is the response we talk about the least — and the shame that comes from looking like the problem instead of someone who is scared
• What's happening underneath the reaction, long before you've had a chance to think
• The difference between understanding a response and excusing it
• A question that might sit better than "what's wrong with me"

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Journey Beyond the Chaos is a podcast for mothers loving an adult child with addiction. Each week, Sandra shares honest conversations, personal stories and practical insights to help you stay connected to your child without losing yourself in the process. Because there is another way.