Healing does not follow a timeline, and it's completely okay if you're still grappling with feelings that you thought would be long gone by now. In this episode, we dive into the reality that emotions don’t come with expiration dates or neat finish lines. Whether it’s grief, a breakup, or any kind of lingering regret, it's important to acknowledge that these feelings are part of being human. We can often be our harshest critics, thinking we should be "over it" by now, but the truth is, some experiences are meant to be carried differently as we grow. So, if you’re feeling stuck, remember that you’re allowed to be exactly where you are in your healing process, and I encourage you to give yourself permission to still be healing.
Takeaways:
Healing is a personal journey, and it doesn’t follow a strict timeline or schedule.
It's perfectly okay to still be processing emotions that don’t seem to go away.
We should allow ourselves to feel our emotions without the pressure to move on quickly.
Sometimes, we need to carry our experiences differently as we grow, rather than getting over them.
Transcripts
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It's okay if bite size permission slips.
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I'm Matt Gilhooley, and today's permission.
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It's okay if you thought you'd be over it by now.
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Whether it's grief, a breakup, a failure, a mistake you can't seem to shake, there comes a point when you start telling yourself, this shouldn't still be bothering me.
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I should be further along.
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Other people would be over by now.
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But here's what I've learned.
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Healing does not follow a timeline.
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There's no expiration date on emotions, no neat and tidy finish line where you magically just get over it.
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I've had things stay with me for years.
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Losses, regrets, wounds that get quieter, sure, but never fully disappear.
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And that's not failure to me.
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That's just being me.
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That's being human.
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The truth is, some things aren't meant to be gotten over.
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They're meant to be carried differently as you grow.
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So if today you're frustrated with yourself for feeling it, for still being in process, for still not being over it, that's okay.
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You're allowed to be exactly where you are.
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If you're up for it, tell yourself, I give myself permission to still be healing.
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I don't have to be over it by now.
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That's your permission slip, friend.
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Tuck it in your pocket and I'll see you next time.
