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Mastering Clear Communication- Use Less Filler Words And Speak With Impact
Episode 924th May 2023 • Speak In Flow • Melinda Lee
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We all strive to be effective communicators, but sometimes, those annoying filler words can get in the way. They sneak into our speech without us even realizing it. 

In this episode, we will cover a different approach for eliminating your fears and filler words. You will learn the power of pause. And how to practice your presentation for more lasting change. 

Consider, the more you pay attention and become mindful of where you are at in sentence structure, ask yourself, are you connecting to the feeling of your words, and of being confident?

Notice that when you are using filler words, you may be be feeling less confident. So shift your focus, and connect to your heart. The more connected you are with what you are sharing, the more naturally your words will flow.

Once you become comfortable, I encourage you to take the next step. Let go of the script, Conscious of that internal connection, knowing you have all the right words at your disposal. Trust your intuition and voice to allow you to be your most authentic you.

Speak from that place of heart, mind and soul and you truly are the master.

About Melinda:

Melinda Lee is a Presentation Skills Expert, Speaking Coach and nationally renowned Motivational Speaker. She holds an M.A. in Organizational Psychology, is an Insights Practitioner, and is a Certified Professional in Talent Development as well as Certified in Conflict Resolution. For over a decade, Melinda has researched and studied the state of “flow” and used it as a proven technique to help corporate leaders and business owners amplify their voices, access flow, and present their mission in a more powerful way to achieve results.

She has been the TEDx Berkeley Speaker Coach and worked with hundreds of executives and teams from Facebook, Google, Microsoft, Caltrans, Bay Area Rapid Transit System, and more. Currently, she lives in San Francisco, California, and is breaking the ancestral lineage of silence.

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Welcome to another episode of The Speak In Flow

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Podcast. Today we are going to delve into mastering your

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communication by eliminating filler words. So you can have

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more impact, we all strive to be an effective communicator. I

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mean, that's why we're here. And yet sometimes of filler words,

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they're pesky, they, they just come in, out of the blue, and

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sometimes we don't even realise it. It's the filler words such

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as you know, so I'm, like, Ah, so on so forth. They just come

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in. And what we don't realise is that it does diminish our

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message when we have too much. I mean, generally, they're

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relatively harmless. If you have a couple here and there is

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totally fine. It's more about connecting with your audience,

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with your heart, and with your passion. However, if you are,

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have too many of them, that means you're not as connected to

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your message, and you're just doubtful, and your message can

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become unclear. And then people start noticing the filler words

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more than your message. So how do we eliminate those filler

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words and speak with more confidence speak with more

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And so when you're talking, you can have key points. But then

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really just trusting your intuition trusting your voice.

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influence? The first step is we want to be aware, yes, you want

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And that will allow you to come in with more confidence to be

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the authentic you. Because what is happening is when you are

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talking from a script, and you're memorising it word for

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to be mindful of it? And no, I'm not going to have you count

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word, you're actually in your head, meaning you're thinking

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about what to say you're thinking about the next word.

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And when you're thinking and in your mind, you might also wander

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them. Sometimes there have been strategies, or sometimes people

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off to am I saying the right thing? Is that word Correct? Or

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what are they, you know, thinking about me? Am I being

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judged? So all of these thoughts are in your head. Great speakers

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will say, Hey, you, you want to count the filler words, and the

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come from a full embodiment. Mind, body, soul, your whole

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passion, you everything about you is in it's all in not just

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less words filler words that you use the treat, you know, treat

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your mind, right? So you want to come in with your heart, your

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mind, your soul, every part of you speak from that place.

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And when you're just speaking with us through a script that

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yourself, give yourself kudos. But you know, how many times

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doesn't feel like that you'll feel more robotic and so we want

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you to be natural. We want to to be okay with being in flow.

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Being in a flow state. When you're flowing, you're really

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have you paid attention to something, and then the more you

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not in your head. You're more in your heart. You're speaking from

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a more grounded place. You're trusting your voice, you're

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trusting that you know the stuff that whatever you say is going

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pay attention to something, the worse it gets, or you get real

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to be great. And that requires you to let go of the script. The

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script is a training wheel. And it's a crutch. So we want to let

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go of that idea that we have to be perfect. And just trusting

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frustrated? And and so my suggestion is actually

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that you can connect with that inner dial, inner strength of

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yourself. And that is when the filler words will leave. And

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contradictory of counting them. I do want you to be mindful. But

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when you're presenting, let's say you, you start to get

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nervous again, and the filler words start to happen.

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You go into a pause, that will allow you to gather yourself,

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I don't want you to be mindful of counting filler words, I want

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you will appear intentional to your audience. And that will

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slow your your voice down your pace down, and then the filler

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words disappear. When you're at a good pace, when you're

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you to be mindful of where you're at, like, where your

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comfortable with what you're saying. It feels thoughtful, and

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it feels like a good pace. And then the audience is able to

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centres at where your mind is that where your body's at? Are

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receive what you're saying the filler words just naturally

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disappear. They dissolve, they're gone, because you're

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just so confident and you feel confident you're in your body,

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you connected to your competence? Are you connected to

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in your intuition and using allowing the words just flow

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through you. And that is what a great speaker does. And that is

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the feeling of being confident inside, because what is

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when you can connect your words to your audience. That is when

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you can look at one person in the audience and truly connect

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happening, when you are using filler words, you're just

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to their eyes. And then look at another person in the audience

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and truly connect to the second person's eyes, and have a

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disconnected to that confidence, that internal dial of strength

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beautiful experience. When you're all connected. It's not

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about a performance. It's not about being perfect, and having

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all the specific beautiful, perfect language, because that's

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that everyone has, you have it, it's just a matter of

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not how we talk. We want people to speak, when you can feel

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connected to them, when you can keep feel connected to their

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remembering it again, and getting connected back to it.

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entire message because people will remember how you make them

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feel. And so when you are coming from your whole passion, every

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And so the more you practice, speaking from that place, and

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part of you trusting your words and trusting that you're

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connecting to the audience. That is what people feel, that is

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what people remember, your filler words will be either zero

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connecting to your heart connecting to with allowing the

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or limited or very few. And that is what it will take for you to

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speak with more confidence. So using the pauses using your

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words to flow, the less filler words will happen, they

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breath. And, and again, if you do want to continue being a

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powerful speaker, you should practice but not practising your

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naturally disappear because you are so dialled in with your

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script, practising connecting to your strength, practising

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speaking your presentation with just the key points and

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connecting to your strength connecting to the confidence

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message with the confident you. And one of the things that I

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that you feel inside and using your breath to take you there.

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So remember, having a clear communication requires that

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you're able to feel within yourself all the words and

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highly encourage you to do, to take a step forward in getting

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connecting with the audience. And that is going to help you

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skyrocket your presentations to be more compelling to make a

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connected to your strength is letting go of the script. That's

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more impact. Because you're able to connect with the audience

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captivate your audience, because you're free to be yourself.

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You're free to show your quirkiness to make a mistake.

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right, let go of the script. You don't want to go right out. You

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And that is okay. Because you're ultimately connected to the

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audience. And you can make a joke about it. You're flexible,

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can write it out word for word, but when you go to say it, I

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you're free. And that is what makes a great speaker. So if

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you've enjoyed this episode, subscribe to our podcast giving

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me a good rating. That would be so helpful for you for the

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want you to just let it go and know that you can do it know

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community. It would mean the world to us and let me know what

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content you would like. And until next time, let's eliminate

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that you can you have all the right words.

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the filler words so you can speak with your confidence. Make

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an impact, and let your voice be heard.

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