In this inspiring episode of The Abundant Coach, Lauren Brollier Newton reveals the three most important life coaching skills that can drive deep transformation in clients’ lives. Lauren dives into the nuances of effective coaching, showing how these key skills can help clients see beyond their immediate circumstances, break through limiting beliefs, and embrace the vast potential that exists within them. 

Through relatable stories and practical insights, Lauren guides listeners on how to apply these skills in real-life coaching situations—from holding a supportive yet powerful space for clients to helping them reframe their challenges and encouraging them to ask questions that lead to growth and solutions. Whether you're a seasoned coach or just starting out, this episode provides invaluable insights to strengthen your coaching toolkit and boost your impact.

In this episode, Lauren unpacks each of these foundational skills:

1. Seeing Beyond Circumstances: Lauren discusses the importance of holding a clear and positive vision for clients, even when they can’t see it for themselves. She shares stories of clients facing tough life challenges and explains how a coach’s belief in their potential can be life-changing.

2. Listening for Limits: Lauren shares the importance of listening intently, not only to what clients say but also for underlying beliefs that may be holding them back. By catching these signals, coaches can help clients pivot to a more empowered mindset.

3. Teaching Powerful Questioning: Lauren explains the significance of teaching clients to ask the right questions—of themselves and others. She offers practical examples of how transformative questions can help clients shift their perspective and find solutions more easily.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Welcome to the abundant coach. I'm your host, Lauren Brollier Newton. This is a weekly podcast about creating full spectrum success with a thriving coaching business, while making a profound difference in the world. Each week, you'll discover insights, strategies, and inspiration to help you attract your ideal clients. Facilitate real transformation in their lives, and grow your coaching business while living your purpose with true freedom and fulfillment.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Welcome on back to the Abundance Coach. Super happy to be with you. And today we're going to talk about the three most important coaching skills. And I think these maybe aren't the ones that you would think they are. Okay, so why is this an important topic? Why did I bring this of all the different topics I could bring, why am I focusing here?

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I think that there is so much hype around and all the online stuff, this and that, but when you're really, really helping and supporting a client, whether it's in a 1 to 1 session or a group coaching session or a big masterclass or whatever it is, it's really important to have the coaching skills to actually help them transform the problem that they're having now.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

A lot of times we think about coaching skills. We think 1 to 1 sessions, and while that is a place you can use these skills, I think about, recently we had, a five day challenge here at Brighton Institute called the Life Coach Accelerator Challenge. People sign up, they come to zoom. I take them through five days of what it means to be a coach, how to up your skills, all that good stuff.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And we offer a VIP option for super cheap, by the way. And, I do laser coaching with the VIP after each day of the challenge or after several days of the challenge. And so I might have 3 or 400 people in a zoom room, and I've got a zero in a quick amount of time. Right in on what their problem is and help them overcome it right there on the spot.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I don't know them. I don't know their background. I don't know the circumstances they're under. I don't know a lot about them. And yet I'm able to help them transform form right there in the very moment. So that's the kind of coaching skill I want for you to have. Now, did I learn that day one parts of it, because of course I was trained and certified, but it's something that you learn through coaching.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Like you just get you get your feet wet, you get in there, you coach people and you get better and better in zeroing in. Right on what is the problem? Let's get them to the resolution. Let's get them to the solution. So the coaching skills that I've selected for today are the ones that I think I really think regardless of what modality of coaching you're doing, you want to be able to do these three things and do them well because you're going to see massive transformation in your clients through these coaching skills.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

But why would we want massive transformation for the client? Well, obviously for them to change their life for you, it's going to help you feel fulfilled. If your clients aren't ever transforming, you're not going to feel very fulfilled around that. But from a back end standpoint, in terms of your coaching business, the more you help people, the actually, the more your business will thrive.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

It's funny, it's like it could be tempting in a traditional sales model to think, if I solve all their problems, they'll never come back in order again. But the opposite is true with coaching. It's like when someone sees what their life is like, when they have coaching, when they have structure, they don't want to let go of the thing that is helping them move along and keep moving forward.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And so those clients will keep coming back and want more coaching with you, because they see the transformations that happen in their life. But also the referrals that they give to their friends and the referrals that they give to you to go and speak places and all of that. So like really, truly helping a client be able to transform is a win win, win, win, win all the way around, every way you look at it, if you're not really skilled at helping clients transform, you might be able to get new clients all the time, but those tried and true referrals no like trust factor clients has been with you forever.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Those those won't be as existent so your business will be harder. So your quote for today. I love this one so much. This is. This might be one of my top ten favorite quotes of all time. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is infinite. That's by William Blake. This is an infinite universe with infinite possibilities.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

There are no boundaries. There are no boundaries to what humans can create here. As spiritual beings having a human experience, this is an infinite universe. If only we could see how enchanted this universe is that we live in. And that's what William Blake says. If the doors of perception were cleansed, because our perception is oftentimes very based on safety, security, our nervous system, our past, and we can't see just how infinite with possibilities that this very universe is.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So I believe this is my personal belief. You try it on and see if it fits for you. But I believe that the whole purpose of coaching is to really help clients open that door to the infinite possibilities that lay in front of them. This is true for business coaching, health coaching, life coaching, spiritual coaching, whatever you're doing, don't you want your clients or future clients to have this realization and recognition of themselves as this infinite being, in this infinite universe, with unlimited potential?

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Lauren Brollier Newton

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Was the first time I actually invested in myself. So I'm getting trained to be a coach, which, by the way, is the best thing ever in terms of learning how results occur in your own life, because now you have to know it well enough to teach. This can of course, transform your own life. But I actually had my own coach.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I signed up with programs with Mary Morrissey. I signed up with coaching with her Master Coast, Kirsten Wells. I signed up for business coaching with, the executive director, Matt Boggs. I was always having and receiving coaching. And I will tell you that the number one thing that I am most grateful for about this coaching, of all the many, many things I could be grateful for, is that now I know if I lost everything, I could create it all again, because that's how confident I am in the universal laws and how they work, and how human results occurs and how success occurs.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

You could take it all from me. I'm not afraid of that. And I want every one of you listening to have that. And I want every one of your clients to have that. And that's why these coaching skills are so important. How do you impart that to someone in a way that's not just a fluffy sentence or philosophy, but how do you really get someone to know that they are this infinite spiritual being that can create anything?

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Lauren Brollier Newton

That's what I want for my clients. That's what I want for your clients. I don't know if that's what you want for your clients, but that's what I want for your clients. Let's go ahead. Now let's talk about these three top three coaching skills. And I've got some stories and some different examples to go along with it as well.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So the number one coaching skill that I believe you want to have and live with and live your daily life with, not just in your client sessions, is seeing beyond your client's circumstances the ability to hold state with someone no matter what they bring to you, they come to you. And they said, I've been 150 pounds overweight since I was 14 years old, and now I'm 50.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And that seems like a circumstance that, wow, they've they've been dealing with this for decades and they've tried everything. And there's a moment where you might doubt yourself or you might doubt them, or you might doubt your modality. Someone comes to you and says, I've just been diagnosed with stage four breast cancer. Someone comes to you and said, my husband left me after two months and my wedding gifts are still in the boxes.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

How do you then hold that person in your mind, in your energy? How do you let them know that they're more than that circumstance? But it's the most important step that you have as a coach is not when the client is sitting with you having that conversation, it's not how you respond to them, it's actually how you view circumstances outside of your sessions.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And I'm really, really going to invite you to practice this, that if we think the circumstance limits clients, quit right now. I know that sounds drastic, but seriously, because there's always going to be a circumstance in someone's life. Could be little, could be big. It totally is about your perception. The person gets fired, the person loses their house, the bank forecloses on it, their husband leaves them, their child dies.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

They get diagnosed with something seemingly very, very significant. They lose a spouse. If in that moment you look at them and think, that really sucks and I don't know how to help them. First of all, that's very human. But if you think that condition is bigger than them, then you just might as well be part of the part of the family or something like that.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So it's not that when clients come to us with some of these very harrowing, awful heartbreak, shocking circumstances, that we're not going to hold compassion with them internally, though, we're not going to say there's no solution to this. This is bad. I don't know how to help. We're going to hold state that this beautiful, living, breathing, spiritual being sitting in front of you, whether it's on the zoom or in person or wherever you're coaching, has a power within them.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So strong that they can overcome even this and that. This circumstance doesn't have to define the rest of their life. That's what you want that your mind to be doing. I'm showing compassion and I'm, empathizing. But internally, I know that there is something in them that's greater than this. At the Brave Thinking Institute, we have five core values.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

A lot of times a company will create a core value, and those core values will get typed up and put on the website, but it just goes in a drawer. And if you ask the employees what's your core values as a company, they'll be like, I don't know. And so when Mary Morrissey created the five core values of Brave Thinking Institute, she didn't want them to just go in a drawer, hang on a wall.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

She wanted them to be activated every day. So anytime we're in a meeting with three or more of us, we actually say our core values, not just say them like a rote repetition, but really to connect ourselves with am I living the principles of this company? Am I living what I teach? And so one of the core values is our first core value is we believe in people.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And then it goes on to say, we know that each one of us, not just this person over here, this person who has it better, or this person who studied personal development. We know that each one of us, every single human being, each one of us is far more powerful and contains more potential than any circumstance, situation or condition, any circumstance, situation or condition.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So when I'm sitting there on a call holding state with a client who has a challenge, a very serious challenge, I'm going to have ways that I navigate through that with them. But in the center stream of my own being, I'm thinking to myself, they are more than this. Inside of them is more than this. And so realistically, I have a client, known him for years.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I've been with him for years. When I had my own coaching business before I joined Break Thinking Institute. I think we coached together for four years. We worked 1 to 1 every year, week after week together, and recently he was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. I knew he was going to get testing and stuff and I was holding state with him.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I knew that he could come back and he could say, I have Parkinson's or I don't have Parkinson's, but something that I knew is that most people, when they hear those words, it's a shrinking feeling inside. It's a constriction. It's a contraction. It's like, what does this mean? And am I going to start to shake? Am I gonna have to be in a wheelchair, or am I going to be able to walk those are all, of course, very normal and natural things.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

He doesn't need me as his coach to be vibrating on that vibration. Most people in his life will be there, he will be there, and it's very normal. First of all, we're not saying there's anything wrong with anybody having that reaction, but your job as the coach is to see the person is more powerful and refuse to hold a circumstance bigger than the power and potential within the client.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So he tells me this news. My first response is feel just a huge hug for me at the human level. I am so, so sorry that that's the news you got. And at the human level, at the level of nervous system and intellect and condition, it frickin sucks. So see how I'm holding state? I'm I'm willing to be compassionate and share.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

But notice what I'm saying at the human level, because it's not all of him that was going to have to feel that way. And then I say, and here's the next thing I know about you and everything that we've done together. But what a deep spiritual student you are, is that I know that this diagnosis does not have to be something that controls the rest of your life.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

What I know for sure is that we can have a condition without the condition having us. And I know for sure that this doesn't have to mean that your life is going to go downhill, and I will hold state with you week after week, time and time again, day after day, that this could actually somehow be a blessing, a life purpose, that this does not have to mean just bad.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So notice how I did that? I'm 100% compassionate you're going through, and I refuse to let this circumstance define you in my mind. So he was so appreciative of that. And he said, this is and I think I was one of the first people he taught. He said, this is why I wanted to tell you first or one of the first, because I knew that you could hold it with me in a perspective that would actually be helpful.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

That's what we do as coaches. We are seeing beyond the conditions. Not that at the level of fact it doesn't suck, it's just that I refuse to to create a death sentence around this or a this has to be bad thing. What if we could create something great out of an infinite universe with all possibilities in superposition? Couldn't one possibility be that this is somehow good in some weird way?

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Lauren Brollier Newton

You know that we haven't discovered yet? So this is what we're doing with our clients. Now, if I didn't do the compassionate part first, you could pretty much bet that they'd be very annoyed that I'm like, hey, something good can come out of this. It's notice how important the set up of that whole conversation is, but just knowing inside that we have to see beyond our client's circumstance.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Now, I want to tell you one more story. One time, my husband and I were in Florida. I was going to, a, training at Grant Cardone office in Miami, Florida. He's a real estate guru, mogul coach. And, we were going to a training. I was actually speaking. Training? I was going to him. We're in Miami, and we're sitting at this outdoor restaurant.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

It's like a little taco bar outside. And, we're sitting at this restaurant and there's this seemingly. I mean, I don't want to make a huge assumption, but there's this homeless guy, and he's walking by with a shopping cart. You know, his clothes are all tattered, and he's got all this stuff in the shopping cart, and I can't remember if he had shoes on or not, because it was like this beach kind of sandy sidewalk, and I pitied him.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I feel so sorry for him. And you know, that must suck. And what a life. And blah, blah, blah, you know, just really pitied him. And then I remembered our, our first core value. We believe in people. We know that each one of us is far more powerful and contains more potential than any circumstance, situation or condition.

00;16;30;12 - 00;16;59;05

Lauren Brollier Newton

If I truly believe that statement, and I'm going to live by that statement, then I also must recognize that there is a power in this gentleman that is far more than this circumstance he's living in. So in my mind, I switched from, oh my God, the pity, the pity, the pity to I believe in this man. Whatever's going on in his life, I believe that if if it was in his highest and greatest good, and if he decided for it, he is so much stronger than this.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

He has so much potential. Now, that might not seem like you're like, what does this have to do with anything? You don't know the guy, just a homeless guy walking by. Because if I'm walking around the world pitying people for the circumstance they're in, that's going to bleed over into my coaching sessions. So I'm practicing holding people in their glory, in their grace, in their beauty, in their spiritual beingness, outside in the world to not just when I'm on a coaching session, because that gives me the my own spiritual fortitude of how to see things.

00;17;31;26 - 00;17;49;01

Lauren Brollier Newton

Now let me give you an extra coaching tip. I didn't plan to share this, but I'm gonna give you this extra coaching tip. So let's say the client does come to you with a diagnosis, a death, an illness, a divorce, a job loss, a foreclosure, whatever it is. And it really at the level of human fact just seems bad.

00;17;49;04 - 00;18;26;10

Lauren Brollier Newton

First of all, just a reminder, you're not getting caught up in this. The idea that this is bad, you can empathize and then move forward. Now, one thing that can be really helpful and supportive both to them in you, is you could say, let's say it's the client who was diagnosed with Parkinson's. If you could wave a magic wand and now it's ten years from now and you can have anything that you want in terms of your health, your life, your dreams, let's just paint a picture of one scene in your life that you would be living, but let's just visualize it together.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So let's say the client says, oh, I'd be up playing 18 holes on my favorite golf course in Florida. All right, so take me into one hole of golf. What are you wearing? What's it like outside? How strong is your body? All of this. And they paint me a picture of a vision of what they would love. And now I can say to the client, every time I think of you, every time I think of the Parkinson's diagnosis, I am going to see you strong wearing this in the sunshine on that golf course in Florida.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Because what's going to happen in the real world is people are going to hear about this clients divorce, diagnosis, foreclosure, whatever it is, and they're going to start every time they think about that person, they're going to think of them in this terrible circumstance. And you're saying, I am someone who, every time I will think of you, will think of you in your very best and brightest and the power of that is the it makes the client feel very good to know that someone's able to hold that kind of state with them, but also it helps the client to not have energy coming their way.

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Lauren Brollier Newton

That's pity energy and sadness energy that he knows that the energy I will be selling him. Is that a vibrant health? And again, this is what a client would want in a coach, someone who can hold something with them that nobody else in their life can can do, some people in their life will be able to. I don't want to overgeneralize, but it's very, very calming and encouraging to the client.

00;19;48;07 - 00;20;06;29

Lauren Brollier Newton

All right. So that's number one. I went a long time on number one. I have more stories I could tell on number one, I probably could have made this whole podcast episode number one. But we're going to we're going to hang here. All right. The second coaching skill that I think is very important and might not be what you think is listening with an ear on condition, circumstance and situation.

00;20;06;29 - 00;20;30;18

Lauren Brollier Newton

So our second core value or our first core value here is we believe in people. We know that each one of us is far more powerful and contains more potential than any circumstance, situation or condition. So the first part is how I'm holding it internally. Yes, I'm sharing it with the client, but I'm holding it in a way that is my energy is not on circumstance or questioning things or things of that nature.

00;20;30;20 - 00;21;18;09

Lauren Brollier Newton

In the second one. Now I'm listening for the client, having their mind or thoughts or energy on circumstance, situation or condition, having a listening ear to when someone is stifling themselves. So for example, someone says, you know, it's just not going to work out for me because they just don't really hire women in these kind of positions. When a client says that to me, she is is right in the center with her feet firmly planted in condition, in circumstance, in situational things, not owning the power within herself, not seeing this as an infinite universe, not looking at forward moving progress, just simply stuck on a on a period at the end statement.

00;21;18;11 - 00;21;32;21

Lauren Brollier Newton

You know, it's I don't think it's going to work out for me because, you know, they mostly don't hire women in these positions. I want to listen for that. I don't want to just go along with that. I'm not like, okay, on to the next thing or agreeing with that. I'm going to say, okay, hold up, hold up, hold up.

00;21;32;23 - 00;21;49;04

Lauren Brollier Newton

In this case, what I would say is, I would love to hear some of what your evidence is for believing that they don't hire a lot of women in these positions. And she's going to tell me, well, you know, here and there they do that. So if here and there they do, couldn't she be one of the here and there?

00;21;49;06 - 00;22;12;03

Lauren Brollier Newton

If this is your dream, isn't there a possibility that with enough energy, intention and action on it, you could have that if that's what you would really love? It's okay if you don't love it. But couldn't that be a possibility? So I'm listening for they're partnering with conditions circumstance. If my client with Parkinson's called me back and said, you know, I don't I don't think I'm going to be able to do this five years from now.

00;22;12;05 - 00;22;32;21

Lauren Brollier Newton

Something physical I'm going to say to him, well, one possibility is that you won't be able to do it, but are you in love with that possibility? And if you're not in love with the idea of not being able to do this five years from now, not let's not partner with that. Let's not energize that anymore. Let's put our mind on what you would love five years from now.

00;22;32;24 - 00;22;53;02

Lauren Brollier Newton

So when we're listening with that ear to everything that I'm listening in myself for around circumstance, situation, condition, I'm listening for it in the client and I'm not letting it get by. They don't have to agree with what I'm saying. It's okay if he ends up saying, you know what, five years from now, I just don't believe women have anything different.

00;22;53;04 - 00;23;09;05

Lauren Brollier Newton

I will say to him, you know what? That's okay because you're the highest authority on what you want to be thinking about. My invitation to you would just see how that makes you feel and see if a different thought feels any better. That's my invitation to you. So I'm not saying he has to do it. I'm not forcing anything.

00;23;09;05 - 00;23;34;23

Lauren Brollier Newton

I'm just never going to let a client get their feet firmly planted in situations. Circumstantial condition, without me giving an alternative opportunity. Like I said, it doesn't mean they have to go with it. I'm just going to paint an alternative picture and see if it lands better for the client. And most of the time, they don't even know that they can think a different thought because the society around them, the people around them are saying, oh, this is how it is.

00;23;34;23 - 00;23;58;21

Lauren Brollier Newton

This is how it is with people with Parkinson's. This is what to expect. The doctors are saying, this is what we know with the medication you're taking, and there's very few people in their life that are going to say that is one possibility. But couldn't there be another possibility, an infinite field of possibilities? All right. So seeing beyond circumstances, coaching skill number one, then listening with an ear on that from the client is number two.

00;23;58;23 - 00;24;17;07

Lauren Brollier Newton

The third thing is teaching your clients how to know the right question to ask of themselves, of others and of you as their coach. So I mentioned earlier, we did a Facebook challenge. I might have had a couple hundred people or 300 or 400 people in my zoom amount of time, and I might be doing some laser coaching.

00;24;17;09 - 00;24;38;08

Lauren Brollier Newton

And so a lot of times in a big group, you have, you know, a couple minutes, maybe 3 or 4 minutes per person to do some coaching with. Now getting a client to know the right question to ask. A lot of times in our bigger coaching groups, we have some Q and A is at Brave Thinking Institute that have five, six, 700 people on them.

00;24;38;10 - 00;25;11;26

Lauren Brollier Newton

And a lot of times when we ask clients to really focus on what question they're asking, they think that we're doing it just because we're trying to save time, because it's a big group. And while it is helpful when someone goes straight to the question for saving time and whatever, I will tell you that one of the things that is way more important to us, as the as the coaches at Bray's Thinking Institute, in terms of speed, way more important than speed is that the client, knowing the question that they're asking, is actually the key to the door that they're trying to get into to solve the problem.

00;25;11;28 - 00;25;31;02

Lauren Brollier Newton

So what you will notice that clients have a tendency to do is they will want to share all about the problem, the problem, the problem, the problem, the problem is human nature is nothing wrong with them. It's human nature to say, this is everything that's not working, or this is everything that I'm feeling challenged with. You want to help them to not only know what the problem is, but what is the question?

00;25;31;05 - 00;25;56;05

Lauren Brollier Newton

You know, one question is, how do I solve this? You know, sometimes I'll be working with someone and they'll be talking about their marriage and they'll be saying something about their spouse and that, and I'll say, okay, I've got enough back story. What's your question? And they'll say, I don't really know what question I'm asking. And I can tell you that that's part of the reason that no solution has come, because they haven't created the skill set within themselves yet to know how to ask the right questions.

00;25;56;07 - 00;26;19;27

Lauren Brollier Newton

For example, a client is struggling with, a spouse who isn't communicative, and they're talking about all the ways in which the spouse in communicate. So if they're having trouble landing on what question they're asking is, is your question, how do I get them to communicate? Is your question, how do I have a conversation with them about how they don't communicate?

00;26;20;00 - 00;26;47;22

Lauren Brollier Newton

Is your question, should I stay or should I go in this relationship? What's the question? Because if I don't get to the client's question, I might start them on how to communicate better. And they might be thinking, I don't really care. I want to leave this guy. And so I'm not answering the right question as their coach. And so it's very important that we train ourselves to listen for what is the question they're really asking that they want support on, and also training the client to be able to zero in on what the question they're asking is.

00;26;47;25 - 00;27;17;24

Lauren Brollier Newton

And one of the ways that we can help the client support what the question they're really asking is, is to ask them what's the result. They would love, because that's going to lead us to the bridge question that's going to bring us from the current problem to the result. They would love. So it's very important not just for us as their coach to help them zero on a question when you're not there and the client is struggling and going in circles about something, if you can train them when you're on your own, I want you to ask yourself a powerful question.

00;27;17;27 - 00;27;36;10

Lauren Brollier Newton

In the moment you're struggling with something. One question that a client can always go to is what steps can I take to resolve this? What's my vision and what step can I take toward the vision? Or what is there for me to know from a higher perspective about this? And you just train them to start asking questions. Because here's the thing.

00;27;36;10 - 00;27;54;29

Lauren Brollier Newton

And we talked about this in another podcast episode. Your brain is like a search engine. You ask it a good question. It'll give you every answer to that question. But it won't do it when you're just waiting on problems. And this is happening at blah. So really training your client to ask powerful questions. So let's think about this.

00;27;54;29 - 00;28;17;21

Lauren Brollier Newton

I've given you three very important coaching skills. One always is the coach seeing the client beyond their circumstance. Two listening for when a client is just partnered and stuck in circumstance, situation, condition, and training your client to really know what they're asking both of you and themselves so that the answers can come quicker and easier. All right, you're doing amazing.

00;28;17;21 - 00;28;28;06

Lauren Brollier Newton

I would love to see how you how this episode landed for you and what you're going to bring into your coaching practice. I love you all and I'll see you in the next episode.

00;28;28;08 - 00;28;59;13

Lauren Brollier Newton

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00;28;59;14 - 00;29;06;01

Lauren Brollier Newton

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00;29;06;03 - 00;29;07;02

Lauren Brollier Newton

In the next episode.