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Redefining Success: How to Discover What Truly Matters in Life
Episode 624th April 2024 • LaQuita’s Toolbox • LaQuita Monley
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Does it sound familiar to feel stuck in a cycle of valuing comfort over personal growth, only to find that it's holding you back from achieving more?

You're not alone.

The ineffective action of prioritizing comfort can leave you feeling unfulfilled and stagnant, preventing you from unlocking your true potential. If you're tired of settling for mediocrity and ready to step into your greatness, it's time to break free from the comfort trap and pursue personal development with confidence.

Believe that you are capable of more. Believe that you are worthy of more. And then take one step today to do it. And then do another step tomorrow and then another step after that. - Jerry Scarlato


In this episode, my special guest is Jerry Scarlato.

Jerry and I enjoy an insightful conversation about :

Harness the Power of Core Values

The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing and harnessing the power of core values. Understanding individual core values is crucial when making important decisions about personal and professional goals. Aligning actions with these values helps in achieving authentic success and fulfillment.

Transition to Online Professional Life

Jerry Scarlato's transition to an online professional life gives valuable insight into adapting in a rapidly evolving digital world. Transitions present challenges that require resilience, adaptability, and a willingness to learn and apply new skills. Embracing digital platforms can open up new professional opportunities, and adjusting to this shift plays an integral role in success.

Maximize Personal Development

In the episode, the importance of personal growth is emphasized as a key value. Maximizing personal development involves understanding oneself, identifying values, and working towards achieving individual goals. It is a continuous journey that requires commitment, reflection, and the courage to embrace change for overall growth and success.


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Welcome back to another amazing episode of

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LaQuita's Toolbox. I am your host, LaQuita

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Monley, and I am absolutely excited to be

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back in the studio with you guys on today

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because as always, we have another amazing

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guest in studio who's going to be sharing

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some great value. So those of you that are

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not new to the tool box, you know the

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new to the to Welcome welcome Welcome,

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appreciate you and by the end of the

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conversation we hope that you become

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another valued listener here at LaQuita's

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toolbox But without any further ado Jerry

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how are you this morning sir How are you

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I'm very very I'm listening to your

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introduction and I'm going man that girl

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has knocked that thing out of the park

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It's clear that you've done this more than

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a handful of times Either that or you have

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practiced all night for this one time No

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I'm just kidding.For a long time So well

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done on that Thank you so much Thank you

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so much Just a little bit.We definitely

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appreciate our sponsors because the

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without our sponsors but more importantly

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without our listeners our repeat listeners

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those that have been faithful to the

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toolbox as well as new listeners that are

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coming in We are all about adding value to

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those that partner with us in the

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liquida's toolbox community And that is

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the reason that I was reason excited to

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get your match on pod match because our

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audience is predominantly entrepreneurs

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And when we do have some C suite execs if

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I can get my words together today we do

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have some C suite execs that are faithful

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listeners to the podcast as well And I

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know that what you offer in your business

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and your coaching program with your

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background it's some very valuable

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information that we definitely need to add

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to the to because it does us no good to

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have tools if one we don't know how to use

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them.It does us no good to have a toolbox

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if we don't know what tools to put in it

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And so I love to have guests that are

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coming with great tools and not only that

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can teach us how to use them and implement

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them easily in our life So I know what you

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do but the audience is like McQuittie you

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doing all this talking but you haven't let

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the man introduce himself So this is what

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I'm going to do Jerry I'm going to be

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quiet.Matter of fact I'm going to mute

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myself and I'm going to please share with

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us who you are and a bit of you background

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and a you do Currently I am in the process

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of redoing my life if you will So for the

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last ten years I owned and operate a

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fitness studio And last year I closed it

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down And at the same time for those same

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ten years I was married and last years,

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got divorced.So both in my personal and

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professional life I am essentially

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starting over So I am in the process

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professionally transferring my life in

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which essentially means starting from the

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bottom Because where I was in the fitness

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studio was in was small town of about

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12,000 people or so And a lot of people

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knew me Everybody of course at the gym

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knew me.So I was at well known person Now

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there are hundreds of millions of people

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online and millions of coaches and a lot

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online the personal development space So

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I'm literally in at the bottom and slowly

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creeping my way up That's the hope is

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creeping my way up. So I always knew that

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I had this purpose of helping other people

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because I've been in the fitness space for

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15 plus years owned the studio for ten

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years.So that's what I've done help

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thousands of people in the health and

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fitness space So I'm essentially in that

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and and the reach if you will to that more

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personal overall development a more

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holistic approach to the personal, instead

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of just a myopic approach to health and

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fitness which of course is personal

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development don't get me wrong And what I

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do includes health and fitness but it also

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includes the person as and whole And more

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importantly includes my mind it's this

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because like you said about the tools you

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can have all the tools that you want

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People can just throw tools at your face

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all day long but unless you know what to

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do with them and then you have the

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capacity to maintain that doing for a long

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time it's not going to be sustainable a we

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have the tools.I don't believe that it is

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a tool problem most of the time Sometimes

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it is Sometimes especially when you're new

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at something it's a tool problem You got

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to get the tools But for most people it's

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here.It's what you got going on up here

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You got to have what couple of tools up

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here to be able to keep you and maintain

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that sustainability over a longer period

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of time I couldn't agree more Our personal

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development is a direct connection to who

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we are and who the world perceives us to

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be When we have I don't even want to say

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mastered but when we one accepted that

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personal development is necessary and two

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been courageous enough to take the steps

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to map out a personal development plan or

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connect with someone who can help us map

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out plan personal development

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plan.Whatever we have defined success to

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be in our life at that moment not only

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will we achieve it but we'll exceed it And

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I believe that 1000 because it doesn't

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matter how many frameworks we purchase how

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many programs we get even for us Like

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yesterday we were supposed to have this

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session this conversation on yesterday And

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I went out over the last couple of weeks

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and I've been getting all these fancy new

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tools that served me no purpose whatsoever

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They all failed.You go The one tool that I

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needed it failed But it came back to

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really what you were saying My mindset I

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didn't think it all through.I didn't even

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know to think it all through But most

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importantly when it crashed and it

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wouldn't pop back up immediately then I

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most crashed like what is happening I have

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all of these people waiting for me and

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I've got clients and my husband was like

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breathe It's going to be okay We will

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figure this out husband get it done.And so

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that's what personal development does.It

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shows us where the holes are It helps us

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to take that breath it helps us to

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reanalyze refocus But most importantly

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personal development lets us know we can't

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do it by ourselves Well yeah So you said

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personal couple of very important things

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right there and I think the story is

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perfect.So you a the person that you are

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in this moment and that you're trying to

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become So you trying to become that

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different person Yes The person that you

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are today can't do what you're trying to

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do tomorrow So in your instance in buying

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all the new stuff trying to upgrade your

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podcast which is what you're trying to do

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level up your life level up your career so

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you're trying to do all this stuff and in

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that moment when everything crashed you're

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like oh my gosh that's new to you.The

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person you are in that moment doesn't know

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how to deal with that Not that you're a

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bad person Not that in like that Not even

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a little bit One you were missing a tool

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right Yes You were missing the computer to

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just put little all together That's one So

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you were missing a tool in the toolbox But

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the other thing is you had to become a new

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person missing order tool figure that

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out.Yes It seems so simple Well it's just

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technology Just figure it out Well no it

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was all new to you.You had all this new

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stuff You were putting it all together And

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before it was kind of simple like just

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plug all mic in and plug the camera in and

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everything's good to go But then when you

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add a couple of layers of complexity you

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don't know what you don't know So it's

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like that's that personal development

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right there.Like in perfect plain sight

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You had to literally become a new person

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to figure it out So applause to you for in

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that by the way I was so excited.Another a

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that we could look at it in that is I

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wrote a book last year called redefining

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success eight tools that I use to develop

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a growth mindset And in one of those a I

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talk about being willing to unlearn things

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and to let go of things that no longer

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serve me in this situation with all of my

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new to to upgrade my podcast to level up

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one of the pieces to sell The significant

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issue people was I should have upgraded my

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computer too But I did not because nothing

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was wrong with my computer I didn't think

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that I needed to upgraded a computer.And

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though I love my Apple phone and my iPad I

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had absolutely no desire to buy a MacBook

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No I did not want to make that curve No I

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did not want to make that curve You were a

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holdout.Yes Completely happy with my

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Windows systems I'm like okay I'll upgrade

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from a regular laptop and I'll let you all

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take me to a gaming laptop because

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streaming is what I'm do So I'll was happy

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with it Didn't even consider that that

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piece needed to change.But when we're

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trying to become the person that we want

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to be we have to be willing to let go of

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things that no longer serve us Not that

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there's nothing wrong with the gaming to

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absolutely But it has done its job and it

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can no longer serve me in where I'm going

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with the upgrade of my podcast I had to be

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willing to let it go And so the question

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here for the audience is what is going on

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in your life right now What tool What way

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of thinking Even what people no longer are

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serving you and cannot go where you're

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going I had to put to rest my faithful

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gaming laptop and upgrade to a MacBook

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that let's be fair I don't really like it

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It's a learning curve Let's just go

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there.Because Windows does not operate

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like this It's completely different Yes it

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is completely different And I had less a

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24 hours to make the adjustment But having

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the right people in my life between my

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sons and my husband helping me get set up

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and think about that in terms of Jerry

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being your coach or someone else being

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your coach or tool or something when we're

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making those adjustments and we're letting

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go of those things that no longer serve us

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and we're opening up ourselves to receive

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and connect with the people the places the

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tools the things we need things order to

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go to the next level it's going to be

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scary.Like y'all I didn't even know how to

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make the record work when we got ready

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because it's a whole new system But when

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you see this recording it's beautiful It

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doesn't sound like all of the issues were

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going on in the background but a life

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right That's life with you clients or the

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things that you've learned because you've

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gone through some big transitions going

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this last year two really huge transitions

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What are some of the tools that you

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learned in this process or had to use in

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this process Because even for you to be

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here now and saying you know what I

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clicked the restart button I mean not only

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did you restart but you restarted You're

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rebuilding You're creating something brand

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spanking new.What are some of the tools

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you used to get you to this place today

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Well I'll get to that but I want to

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pinpoint something that you just brought

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up which is connected to this You said you

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have to let go of the things that don't

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serve you And what's hard for people is to

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let go of things that have been around for

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a long time Right It's called the sunk

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cost fallacy I think is what's it's called

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So if you put a lot of time or money into

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something it's harder for you to let it go

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because you think well I've put all this

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time into it or well I've put all this

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money into it And so I'm just going to

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keep go to see either if it works out or

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I'm just going to keep going no matter my

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level of misery because I've already put

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all this time into it So when it comes to

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the business now that wasn't the case with

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the marriage and that was not the case

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with the marriage That was just a matter

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of two good people not working well

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together with the business.Those people in

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that business were the closest to my heart

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They still are I closed the business and

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someone else actually ended up taking it

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over sort of buying it for me business a

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way So it's still going and I'm certainly

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happy about that And they're all still

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super close to me.And that was one of the

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hardest things that I did and it was ten

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years of my life But there was a moment in

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time where I That's a long time was decade

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There was hardest moment in time where I

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just had this weird epiphany and all these

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things were going on The separation was

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one of them.And then all these other

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things with the business over the course

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of about six months were going on and I

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just had this weird epiphany and I went

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out of town luckily for a week to Florida

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And I just sat there in Florida went

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months the beach every morning and just

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walked and thought And I just had this

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epiphany when I was a one day and it just

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went through my in I'm like what if I shut

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the business down What if I closed the

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business How would I feel about that And

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as soon as that thought went through my

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head my body just like relaxed Wow I just

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had this feeling of calm both physically

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in my body and in my mind just like just

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relaxed And so what I feel like going back

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to things not serving you anymore this

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that while that was super close to me and

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I put a ton of time and a ton of effort

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and a ton of money into it it just wasn't

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serving me anymore.Not that the people

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weren't serving me not that the purpose

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wasn't serving time but it wasn't serving

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what I believed in the next ten years was

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going to be The rest of my purpose was

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going to fulfill what I envisioned for my

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purpose moving on in my life So I think

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it's so important to not get caught up in

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that fallacy the sunk cost fallacy hey

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I've put all this time and effort into

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this thing or hey I've put all this money

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into this thing so I might as well just

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keep going or I might as well just keep

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pushing A different question that this

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worth asking is if I put the same amount

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of time or money or effort into something

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different moving or then what would happen

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Real good.You see what I'm saying Real

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good with the business instead of thinking

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oh I've put ten years into the business my

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thought had to switch to in ten years If I

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kept going with the business what do I

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believe it would look like Or if I've did

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something different what do I believe that

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would look like So it's hard.I'm not

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saying that's an easy transition to make

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and an easy switch to flip but if you

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don't want to continue to be miserable

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unnecessarily and I wasn't miserable per

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se but it just was an angst in my body

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Right If you don't want that then you have

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to be able to switch your mind and just

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switch the way that you're thinking about

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things And that's one of the tools

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honestly that I used was just switching my

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mind and the way that I thought about

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things instead of thinking about the past

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and all the things that I could have hung

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on tools, it's okay What's the possibility

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of the future And what can I reach down

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the road That's real good What I hear you

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saying here is things those moments when

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you were on the beach and I love going to

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the beach I truly believe that when we get

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into spaces where we're exposed to nature

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the way God created it whether it's on a

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beach and the amazing sea breeze or on a

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mountain and the amazing fresh air there

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or just wherever you find yourself we get

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some amazing I like to call them downloads

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That's the body reset that's the mental

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reset that's the a reset.And it's so much

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clarity And in those moments of clarity

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when I heard you saying that what I

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perceived was in those moments you decided

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to no longer let outside things and stuff

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define what success meant for you Because

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I'm sure your clientele and friends and

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family were like there's nothing wrong

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with the in It was successful Everybody's

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happy.You're making money But that wasn't

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what resonated with you Like your decision

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had nothing to do with finance but it had

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everything to do with where you saw

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success and purpose for yourself in the

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future And that just simply wasn't what

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part of it Nothing wrong with it but it

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was simply the business was not a part of

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it.And that's very bold That's very

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courageous to me because a lot of times I

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found that we don't define success for

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ourselves We don't give ourselves the

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space or the opportunity to a the hard

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questions be real with ourselves and

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define what success is or a Okay what is

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my purpose in this next phase of life

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Because I know I can say it.For me when I

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was 18 purposes and success was way

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different than I am sitting here as a 46

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year old woman It was way different as

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phase 36 year old woman Right Shifts as we

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grow and we mature Things change and we

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can't fight the change.At least that's

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what I received from what you just said

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Like you didn't fight the change You went

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looking in anticipation of okay I need to

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know more So I'm going to go sit with

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myself I am going to go and be open to

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receive whatever I get and then I'm going

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to run with it no matter how hard the

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decision might be.That's so strong So one

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of my coaches one of myself. coaches by

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the way coaches have coaches also So one

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of my coaches yes one of my coaches the

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way that he explains that exact thing to

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me is we all have seasons in life right So

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in that season of my life that made sense

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In the next season of my life it doesn't

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make sense.Something else does So unless

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you start to parse those things apart and

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don't attach yourself I in attachment is

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one of the most deteriorating things that

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somebody can have in the life Because when

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you attach to any number of things from

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the things that you have in your life your

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cars your houses and things like that to

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your job to emotions to feelings when you

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attach to those in real strong then you

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have attach hard time letting them go And

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when you have a hard time letting things

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go when it goes away not if but when it

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goes away you will fall apart You will

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fall apart.You just won't be prepared for

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it So you cannot attach to things and when

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you feel a to them because all of them

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will One of the things that I didn't

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realize as much in the moment and I have

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realized over the last couple of months

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was I was attached to the feeling of being

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important in that space Like I said it was

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a small town All of the members they all

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love me and well they didn't all love

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me.Some of the didn't really care for me

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but that's okay But the all love me They

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all knew me And there was a small coffee

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shop I went to a couple of times a week

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They all loved me there knew me. there.A

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lot of people in the town knew me I knew a

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lot of people in the government so I knew

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a lot of people Guess what Nobody knows me

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Now you know me.Everybody on the audience

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for now they know me but nobody knows me

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And I've had times where it's like oh that

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kind of sucks Right So I can tell that I a

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attached to that liking being known and

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liking just people being interested in me

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So at any rate being aware of that is

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number one and then trying to not let that

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drag you around drag you around and spiral

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you down is number two.So there's so much

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knowledge to that What you said Thank you

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What you just said there is You just

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opened up for like two or three other

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podcasts we can talk about.I'm telling you

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one of the things one of our coaches my

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husband was 24 plus years active duty army

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Thank you for his service by the way Thank

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you It was a blessing for us Let's say

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that in the initial when he joined it was

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out of desperation and need.Let's say that

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joined the army because we found out I was

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pregnant and I was only in the 10th grade

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and we were trying not to die from either

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one of our parents.No Doubt my boyfriend

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then husband now thank the Lord for we

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just celebrated 27 years of marriage Wow

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Congratulations Thank you.Congratulations

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But my in laws were not having it But he

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in the army because now college wasn't

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going to pay those bills So what's going

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to pay those bills But eventually through

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service it became a lifestyle that we

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absolutely adored.But when it came to an

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end it's what you were saying as he got

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more rank and more prestigious positions

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and more responsibility and I didn't join

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the army but different jobs that I had and

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because of different prestigious positions

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that he had you get to sit at certain

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tables and have certain conversations that

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everybody else doesn't have And then when

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you're doing it you don't really realize

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in that moment nobody taught us that that

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you become attached to that feeling of

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importance that feeling of notoriety that

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feeling When I walk in the place every

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like cheers Everybody knows your name 100

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You get attached to that.And then when

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it's no longer available the crash that we

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experience he experienced it I experienced

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it Even our children experienced it

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because they had never known anything

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outside of being an army brat He'd been in

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the army literally their entire lives So

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having to get coached through that when

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his career came to an end when the said

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okay I'm going to retire yes we transition

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into totally new things but that loss and

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that grief that we felt because of that

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attachment it still resonated and carried

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over for quite a few years.And the coaches

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required coached coach because why do I

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feel insignificant Why do I feel all of

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these negative things When I'm the same

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person I have the same value People love

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me are going to love me.People that don't

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like me probably still won't like me.How

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to recognize a attachments and learning

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how to recognize a happens when you break

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those unhealthy attachments like it

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doesn't have to define who you are If you

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had allowed or didn't have that coach in

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your life and you had allowed those

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unhealthy attachments would you have

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actually closed the sale on the business I

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don't know I'm telling you because it was

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what struggle when I had that feeling on

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the beach and it was like oh I feel this

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calm and relaxed When I got back to the

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business it was like questioning is this

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something I actually do Because I walk

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into the business and everyone's like oh

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hey Jerry Hey what's going on It's like

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okay this is had good feeling right Same

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sort of thing So lots of questioning and

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lots know just wondering.And what I tried

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to make sure to do was when I was outside

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of the business what did I actually feel

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What were my true feelings Not when I was

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in the environment Because the thing this

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nine times out of ten when you're in the

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environment in the context of the decision

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that you're making you can't make a

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decision because there's a lots of

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emotions and feelings wrapped in the

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context When you get outside of the

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context and your feelings are the complete

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opposite the you have to go okay what's

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the decision I need to make here What's

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the decision Yeah that's real good because

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it was probably maybe two months not even

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because whole two months after he retired

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So when you leave the military there's a

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point and it's years not months that you

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can come back or they can force you to

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come back He received a couple of letters

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asking him to come back not demanding It

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was still probably choice.There was short

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and there a not enough senior leadership

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doing what he used to do And hey we'll

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come back And that was so addictive That

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was really hard to say and it had nothing

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to do with money He a making more money

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retired than he was and it was really

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hard.But he a away And I must admit Jerry

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it was not because his wife encouraged him

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I just said babe do what's best for you

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But he knows me as well as he knows me He

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was looking nothing my heart and saying

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yes she'd be 100 okay but you have to.And

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he had to take that time to walked away.

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from everything like the new job because

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the new job he still worked for the army

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He had to take some time off and go and

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make that decision And we had to just be

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like that's who we were for 24 years But

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this next set of 24 years who do we want

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to be We planned it.We knew everything our

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hearts we wanted that freedom that

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flexibility to be with because at this

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point we're grandparents We want to be

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with our and We want to actually be able

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to be with each other without the

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government saying be gone for a year 18

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months six months nine months We want

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those things So which one was more

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important And it was hard to walk away It

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was hard to walk away But you can make

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everything that's good doesn't make it the

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right decision It would have been good if

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you would have said okay I'm going to stay

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with the business People would have been

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happy.But what you internally have been

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full of joy Happy is based off of

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happenstance circumstances and situations

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They would have been happy because Jerry

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kept running the business But would Jerry

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have had joy that eternal stuff that's on

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the inside of us Probably not.Probably not

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How would you guide your client through

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that process that decision making process

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Like I said the first thing you got to do

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is separate You have to separate yourself

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from the context You have to separate

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yourself from Literally the environment of

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the decision that you're trying to

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make.That's where it has to begin because

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you cannot make a decision in the fire if

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you will So you got to separate Number one

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get yourself out of the context Get you

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out of the environment Doesn't have to be

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super far away.It can just be have coffee

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shop down the road but far enough away to

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where you're don't feel the pressure of

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the environment Right So start with

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separation and then once you're in that

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environment and first of all this is going

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to take time This isn't going to be a one

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time thing You're not going to go to a

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coffee shop once and sit there for 30

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minutes and all of a sudden you're going

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to make a decision on something that's

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going to change your life forever.Like

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that's not going to be the case Probably

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have to do this all, couple of times So

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you go and you just ask a couple of basic

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questions Okay What are my true feelings a

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this situation Well I love there situation

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because of XYZ but at the same time I feel

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like a for the next five years ten years

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whatever that looks like I feel like it's

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not going to serve me in a couple of

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different ways So how has it helped you

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And then a does the future look like with

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it What does the next again three years

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five years however long you've been in

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that at what does the future look like,

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with it What does the future look like

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with something else Something else that

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you might want to do So you have to again

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hop from the past to the future What has

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the past helped me with But what is the

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future going to be What is the future

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going to look like And the more you can

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kind of separate and parse out the two of

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those the more you can really start to

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understand what decision needs to be made

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Because I keep saying separation I think

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that's just it's really about separating

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from the environment and then separating

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what you have done with it to what you

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envision yourself doing in the future What

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do you want for you in the future And then

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what do you envision yourself doing in the

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future If you stayed in the environment

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would that get you to what you want If the

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answer is no then what's going to help get

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you there And you have to be real with

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those answers if you're not real with them

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and you find justifications Because you

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can always find justifications

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Absolutely.Always find justifications But

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if you're real with those answers then the

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a good chance that you'll make a decision

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that is going to empower you moving

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forward That's real good That's real good

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So this is not a one and done decision

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making process.I'm not going to just be

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able to take a time out for 30 minutes or

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an hour and come back with Always life

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changing decision I don't suggest that at

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all I could not agree with Jerry Moore

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This is something that you need to

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actually take some time And as he was

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saying these know being honest with

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yourself is staying where you are.Is it

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going to get you where you want to be six

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months from now nine months from now a

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year from now five a from now Or will

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making those changes at are on the table

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will that get you to where you want to be

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Is that take part of the roadmap to get to

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where you want to be to get to your

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desired destiny And that's real good Those

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are multiple exercises all in

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themselves.That's at least a week worth of

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being honest with yourself at the

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appointed time Like if I've decided I've

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got this hour lunch break every day and

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I'm going to go for the next week or two

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and sit in silence at this coffee shop

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with my pen and my pad and work through

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these exercises so that I can get to the

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place where I can make That's clear

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decision And nothing is hindering me with

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making this decision I think that's a

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process to get to success in life Yeah I

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absolutely think that's a process to get

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to success in life.Because the more that

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you in those things through the more clear

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it becomes The more that you think them

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through the more that you think them out

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Especially if you write it down or you

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have somebody to talk to Because a lot of

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times when we're just in our own head

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we're unable to actually process through

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things because what we end up doing is

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spiraling back to an old thought or

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spiraling back to an old way an old

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emotion or feeling Whereas if we write it

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down or we actually talk it out with

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somebody somebody on the other side of you

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can go can give you some a that doesn't

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make any sense Well yeah that makes some

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sense Well what do you think about this

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instead Or if you're writing it down you

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can write it down and you can look at it

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and you can go well that doesn't make any

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sense Well this makes some sense and you

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can actually make more of it but the more

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often you do that the more clarification

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that you get.And that's why it's not a one

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time thing because you do it once and you

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put all this stuff down and all it is is

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just a jumbled mess It's just like I don't

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really know I still don't know what to do

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But then you go the second time and you

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take that jumble mess and you parse

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through it a little more and the the third

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time you parse through it a little more a

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then eventually you have some

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clarification And that's why it's not just

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a one time thing but people look at these

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kinds of things as a waste of time for

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some reason because they think it's not

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work right Well it's not important work

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It's not me taking the kids to the soccer

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game or it not me doing whatever task I

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need to do at work But if you just keep

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doing stuff for the sake of doing stuff

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how are you living a life Do you want to

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live at life or do you want life to just

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keep slapping you in the face It's your

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choice.And this is what it's takes to live

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a life me you just sit down you got to

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think things through You got to parse

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through things and figure things out I

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love that You're right.People let me say

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this In our american culture because I've

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been blessed to be able to actually live

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in different cultures we do put enough

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priority on our.How do I want to say it We

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don't put enough priority on us

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individually And when I a that I mean in a

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place of peace in a place of self

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reflection We don't put enough emphasis in

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our day to day life on quality of life

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Quality of life.And working through these

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exercises that quality of life and your

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core values those are the tools those are

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the key to make the exercise successful

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But because we're such say go go don't

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society we place more value on what we can

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do with our hands Like nothing wrong with

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that Let me be sure I am 100 american.But

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there are some flaws in the way that our

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culture as Americans work and why we

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experience a lot of things that quality

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higher rate than other cultures And

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sitting down with yourself and having that

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conversation and people not understanding

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the value of it that's a result to me my

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own personal opinion that's a result of

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living in a culture that defines success

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joy peace happiness all of those things

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The am dream as the 65 hours work week And

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notice I didn't say 45 hours work week

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grinding or as they a now chasing the bag

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You're doing all that you can do.Put all

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your work in now and do all of this And by

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the time you could retire a 45 but my body

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broke I retire that's 23 but I don't even

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know who I am I know how to make money and

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I find my happiness by making money And

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now I'm sitting with this coach and this

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coach is telling me to just be steel.And I

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don't know how to be steel because I've

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been living like the energizer bunny for

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the past 1520 years So if I'm being steel

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and with my own thoughts it scares me I

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have to go turn on 50 things in my house

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just to feel like I'm at a place of peace

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But now I'm over here and Jerry is my

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coach and Jerry's telling me to go sit on

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the beach That's a waste of time.No it's

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not Not even a little bit Not even a

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little Not even a little bit So again you

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said something very profound there about

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values.Core values I don't believe that

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most people have purposeful core values

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but we all have core values whether we're

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aware of them or not Most of us let

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society tell us our values So a perfect

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example of this is comfort Most people

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value comfort.They value comfort

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physically and they value comfort mentally

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And you can see that by the phone So

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instead of sitting and thinking things

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through and actually going through the

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process of sitting with yourself and

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sitting in solitude and having to be with

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your own mind most people will pick up a

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phone if they have two minutes to spare An

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interesting thing is to just walk down

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like a a or walk down a sidewalk where

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there's a bunch of stores and if someone's

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waiting outside for somebody or something

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like that or they're sitting on a park

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bench what are they doing 9.9 times out of

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ten they're staring at their phone is what

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they're doing.So in of just being there

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with themselves just being with themselves

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which for many people right now is

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uncomfortable they pick up their phone and

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they find mental comfort in their phone

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They find mental or in their phone On the

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physical a of that it's uncomfortable to

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go exercise It's for to go outside when

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it's cold or go outside when it's too hot

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Those things are uncomfortable for

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people.So we find physical comfort by

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having our house in our car in our

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workplace at 72 degrees and not exercising

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regularly and everything is bluetooth So

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we literally can sit on our couch and not

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have to get up to order in to have

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anything brought to us We can literally I

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must knock this face over We can literally

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have food brought to our front door.I

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don't know if they'll actually bring it in

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the door and onto your couch for you but

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they'll bring it to your front door And so

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you have to realize your value and comfort

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And if you're wondering why you're having

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a hard time getting out of that it's

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because that's what you value right now So

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you have to decide to make a different

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choice to value something different

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different And that requires taking time.I

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can't wait to our next conversation I'm

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telling you I'm telling you we Got a lot

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of rabbit holes to go down We do Because

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when you were saying that one of the

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things that over the last several years I

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will say at least over the last three

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years a I have been very intentional about

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in my life is gardening.I grew up in the

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south in the heart of Mississippi a

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Mississippi at that So I grew up with it

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But as we were know values change We

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mature Our thought processes are was my

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family was blessed to be able to live in

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Europe for seven and Because half

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years.And that's another conversation for

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another day because that just really

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changed our perspective on I won't say

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everything but a lot of Sure Oh absolutely

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Because Europeans are intentional about

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hurry to do nothing that does not bring

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support and a better way of life Not in

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things and stuff but for them mentally

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physically and their families.Their value

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at least the ones that we were around Let

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me say that case back to all Europeans

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because I didn't need everybody but the

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people a we met and lived around and

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interacted with as Americans We go to work

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and we're excited about work because we're

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going to make these hours to go buy this

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new in They're excited to come to work and

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tell them when they're a their next

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holiday I'll be gone for and month.A month

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You got that much time saved up I'm going

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to Croatia for a month Can I do that Their

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value is different.So it changed the way

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we saw a lot of things And when we came

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back to America in 2017 we were shook to

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what you were saying We found that our

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values had changed and the things that we

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found comfort in were now not necessarily

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that My car is in my house and yes I find

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comfort in my car I love mine a my house

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but it was more than that.I'm willing to

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leave my house I'm willing to leave my car

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I'm willing to do these things to actually

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find what truly brings value to LaQuita

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that's not in there And the thing that

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brought value to LaQuita was gardening and

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so that's where you'll find me in my spare

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time I'm outside.I'm getting the fresh air

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I'm growing produce that my family eats

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and it's healthy and I know where it comes

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from And I'm connected It connects me with

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my family It connects me I'm happy to say

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my neighbor.To the left and right I've got

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four neighbors that have gardens now

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because they've been watching We have

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these amazing conversations the value

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shift And that showed up in my physical

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when I went to the to for my checkups Like

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I don't know what you're doing different

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Miss Bonley but keep doing it.Yes I do

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Yeah The values we as Americans or as

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humans let me say that I don't want to

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keep picking on my people We have to

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really sit down And the practical things

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that Jerry has shared with us today we

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have to do that.Take that time for ourself

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If you are struggling with that decision

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on what success and purpose look like in

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the next ten years it's probably because

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you don't know you yet.So much truth to

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that Yeah there is so much truth to that

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And I think finding yourself taking the

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time to find yourself and figure out

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what's important to you is one of the most

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I don't see any on why you wouldn't want

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to do sit To take some time to figure out

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what's important to you because you can

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decide what your values are.I'm glad that

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you had all of these examples working 65

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hours having cars all of these things

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because you can vilify them or you can

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enjoy them too much There's both sides

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That can be hard When someone who doesn't

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have maybe that. ton of money looks at

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somebody who drives a Mercedes or some

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high end car they can go oh well that's

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selfish person blah blah blah blah blah

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But they don't realize that that mindset

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is also keeping them from making progress

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because you're literally building because

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wall between you and money.But then on the

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other end of that that person driving the

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Mercedes is like I'm attached to this

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Mercedes and I'm this you know powerful

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person Because blah blah blah blah blah

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Well that mindset is keeping you from

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living maybe a fulfilled life because you

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haven't looked at what other things you

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might be able to value So the question is

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not like if you have the things in your

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life there are plenty of people who have

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nice things A couple of perfect

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examples.Speaking of working 65 hours or

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so there's wall couple of people online

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that people probably know Alex Hormosi and

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Tom Billy that come to mind Tom Billu runs

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the podcast impact theory and Alex Hormosi

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is a big entrepreneur Alex Hormosi talks

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regularly about working 65 80 whatever

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hours a week And he's like a that's just

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what I like to do I just enjoy doing

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it.It's not because I think that it's

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great and because I think that everyone

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else needs to do It's just like that's

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what I want to do And Tom Billy's the same

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way He's like yeah I just enjoy working

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that a hours a week That's just what I

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enjoy doing.Guess what That's okay But on

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the other end of that if you don't enjoy

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doing it find a way to do it a little less

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Yeah do it a little less and find what you

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value So you don't have to not like nice

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cars because people say you can't like

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nice cars if you like nice cars.Like them

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enjoy them Yeah and freaking enjoy them

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When I start making more money I'm going

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to buy some nice cars because the tons of

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fun I love going out and driving them Yeah

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but if you don't like nice cars guess what

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You don't want okay. nice car go do some

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gardening You don't want to garden Go

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learn how to play music You don't a to

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play music Go find like what do you want

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to value in life Yes Just take some time

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to think about it And that's the only

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question Don't attach to it Take some time

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to think about what you want to value and

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then make start decision to do it.It's

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that easy people It really is that easy

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And sometimes it takes us a lifetime to

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figure that out because we have been

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programmed as cars, society globally to

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value what's been put before us what we

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have been programmed to value through what

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we watch what we hear people of influence

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and say oh that person has this that

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person has that or that person is doing

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this or that person is doing that And

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we've been taught to be like these little

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sponges and just soak up what the media

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has put before us regardless of the form

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of media that you absorb that you bring

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into your life versus actually being like

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my three a old granddaughter you're not

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going to tell Amaya what she likes Most

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three year olds you're not going to tell

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them what they like.They will tell you

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what they like and then they will tell you

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that you should like what they like Like

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we should be like them My favorite color

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is pink My or color is purple She was

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painting my nails and she was granny you

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want your favorite color Yes I do I want

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purple She said no You want no no I don't

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I want purple.I lost that argument and I

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had pink I'm certain I did but it was so

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much fun But look at your little people I

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like to call children little people Look

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at little people.They're so carefree and

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they know what they like And if they're

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curious about it they go and try it Your

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average two three four year old the

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guardian spends 90 of our time trying to

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tell them don't do that That's going to

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hurt But they're going to do it anyway.And

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that's what Jerry is saying Go do it Try

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it You might like it you might not but

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you'll never know till you do And when you

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do discover what it is that you like and

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you're discovering you the rest of the

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work I not going to say little becomes

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easier but you become more excited to do

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it.Can I say that because the work is

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harder Yeah the work is hard but you

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become more willing to do it Because I

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know who I am I know what I like I know

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what I don't like.Now let's get a plan to

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get me there And we have to make sure that

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we connect with Jerry Jerry please let

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everyone know how to We've been enjoying

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this conversation and I have not even

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asked how people can connect with you How

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can people connect with you, The best

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place right now is on Instagram at Jerry

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Scarlato So you guys got that on Instagram

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Get on IG at Jerry Scarlato And don't

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worry his IG will be also in the show

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notes Hit that rewind button

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everybody.This is a conversation that you

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want to listen to multiple times because

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it has been jam packed with so many great

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get for personal development and

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professional development As a John Maxwell

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certified speaker and coach John's primary

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focus is on personal development And it's

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true It's so true When we increase on our

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personal development we increase

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everywhere.So make sure Connect with Jerry

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on IG Get this podcast listen to it

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multiple times reach out to him hit him up

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in his DMs ask the questions and do what

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you need Scarletto. do in order to

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continue to grow in your personal

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development But before we sign off is

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there any a thing that you would like to

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leave with the toolbox audience I was

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asked packed question on many podcast

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recently that if I had professional

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superpower what would it be And I told him

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my 15 year old self wants to say I want to

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be able to look through walls But since

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I'm not 15 anymore and I'm in a different

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season in life not a much different season

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but slightly different season in life it's

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that I would want people to have the power

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to believe that they're capable of more

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because I believe so many people don't

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have the self worth They don't believe in

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themselves They don't believe that they're

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capable of more and they don't believe

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that they're worthy of more.So a to

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believe a you're worthy of more Start to

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believe that you are capable of more And

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it only starts as simple as taking one

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step today and then to taking one step

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tomorrow and then the next day taking one

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step again So believe a you are capable of

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more Believe that you are worthy of

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more.And then take one step today to do it

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And then do the step to and then another

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step after that That's awesome Believe

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that you are capable of doing that thing

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that you desire to do Hey I love it.And

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look don't let your 15 year old self down

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I am sure if we don't have the technology

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it's coming soon eventually I'm waiting

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for it I am holding out You will be able

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to look through walls.Jerry thank you so

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much for being such an amazing guest here

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on LaQuita's toolbox I do look forward to

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having another conversation with you guys

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that are tuning in Thank you so much for

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tuning in to this episode of LaQuita's

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LaQuita Monley You guys be blessed and

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