Have you ever experienced divorce or caught your spouse cheating on you? Have you struggled through moving to a totally different area, feeling isolated and alone? Have you felt the shame and fear of being fired? Are you wanting more for your life of recovery from substance abuse? Have you felt anger, fear, or guilt from these changes? Did you get stuck in these emotions?

If anyone asked me those questions, my answer to several of them would be a ‘yes.’ In this episode, I share details of some of the major life changes that I went through, the importance of having a positive support system, and how I recovered from them! Tune in if you would like to move beyond the pain, anger, fear, or guilt of major life changes.

HERE ARE 3 TIPS TO HELP YOU ON YOUR ROAD TO SELF-EMPOWERMENT

1. Give yourself time to grieve.
2. Find positive support.
3. Take time for self care and practice gratitude.

DIVORCE IS ONE SUCH LIFE CHANGE THAT MANY WOMEN MIGHT HAVE TO GO THROUGH! ARE YOU OR IS SOMEONE YOU KNOW CARRYING THE HEAVY EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE OF A DIVORCE? A WOMAN’S EMPOWERMENT JOURNEY CAN BE STOPPED DEAD IN ITS TRACKS BY DIVORCE, BUT THERE IS A SOLUTION. IT IS POSSIBLE TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE AND START YOUR OWN EMOTIONAL RECOVERY.  I WAS ABLE TO, AND YOU CAN TOO!

Curious to know where you are? To know what the answer is, you have to find the place to begin. Your first step is to assess where you are.

Use this free tool to find out where you are and what’s holding you back from a new and exciting life after divorce. 

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Empowerment should be a goal for all women, not just those who have been through divorce. The Her Self Expression Podcast provides critical information and actionable steps to help you on your journey, whether you’ve been divorced or not. 

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Hi, beautiful. I hope you're having an awesome day. I'm Beverly Price, a divorce recovery coach who's helped hundreds of women get rid of their divorce hangover, and discover a life of self-confidence and happiness. 


If you'd like to chat with me, you can contact me at her self-expression dot. I'm also the host of this podcast, her self-expression. It wasn't too long ago that I learned that research shows that four out of every five women struggle with feeling less than other women, and one of two women feel more self doubt than self-love, and I wanted to do something about it. I created her self-expression to provide knowledge, support, and insight to help women on their journey to self-empowerment on the inside and out, so they can live the most fulfilling life possible. I'm on a mission, a mission to help 100,000 women live the powerful and fabulous lives they are made for. 


I inspire women to learn how they can use their self-expression on the inside and outside to develop the strength so they can ultimately become the women they long to be, full of self-worth, self-esteem and fulfillment, even after painful life changes. Each episode of my podcast brings listeners growth strategies and actionable takeaways that will help you on your journey from change to self-love and fulfillment. 


And a little bit about me - with an MBA and a background as a leader in the financial services industry, I began my career seeing myself as a subordinate to men and not using my own voice. I made myself feel small in order to make others feel safe. I felt like a wallflower. I experienced a life that left me feeling broken and unworthy. 


When I finally embraced my ability to own my power and make a statement, I went from self-doubt to self-love. Today I have these questions for you to think about. Have you ever experienced divorce or caught your spouse cheating on you? Have you struggled through moving to a totally different area, feeling isolated and alone? 


Have you felt the shame and fear from being fired? Are you wanting more for your life of recovery from substance abuse? Have you felt anger, fear, or guilt from these changes? Did you get stuck in these emotions? Well, today we're gonna talk about the impact of major life changes and how to move past the pain to a better life. 


You see, change is inevitable. Major painful change is too. Change can create an array of emotions from fear, pain, shame, guilt, embarrassment and more. As a matter of fact, there are studies done about the top, major life changes that affect us. And this list is according to the Holmes Ray stress scale as some of the most stressful life events. 


The first is death of a spouse check. I've got that. Second is divorce check. I've got that more than once. The next is marital separation from a mate check more than once. Four. Death of a close family member. Check. Check. Major personal injury or illness. Check marriage. Check. Check. Being fired at work. 


Check marital reconciliation with mate. Nope. Retirement from work? Yes and no. Domestic violence. Yes. Recovery from substance abuse being downsized or demoted at work. Check. What do you think about that list? Almost need to sit there and think about it. It was so long. But think about the impact of these on your life, on your stress, on your self worth, and, and your whole approach and outlook on life. 


At these times we're not only recovering from pain and from stress, but many other emotions can actually hide behind the pain. , low self-worth and self-esteem, guilt, shame, fear, sadness, grief and anger can complicate recovery, threatening growth, and full and happy lives. Pain of early childhood traumas can rise to actually multiply the effects of these changes. 


Many of us start our lives with a foundation of fear, no self-worth or no self-esteem, to only make the effects of our life changes more destructive. Many of us may feel alone and try and isolate during these periods of painful life changes. Others may feel they can't let anyone know they are struggling, that they need to look put together on the outside and not share what's going on in the inside. 


And some of us can't recognize the emotions we are having during these trying times as we seem to be using all of our energy on coping and not growing. Having support during these times is critical. It's essential to know that you are not alone in these experiences and emotions, and that is a place to know that there is a solution. 


Having someone to talk to you openly and confidentially that has been through what you are going through is an essential perspective to healing and getting unstuck. Friends, family members, coaches, support groups are all great ways of connecting. But make sure, and this is really, really important, make sure whomever you turn to, is positive, encouraging, and supportive because without those things, you can only imagine that your emotions and your situations can be made worse. 


If you are dealing with someone in a toxic relationship, if you were dealing with someone in your past that caused you trauma, if you were dealing with someone that puts you down. You need to not turn to them for support, and you might even say you need to walk away from them, but that's for another podcast topic. 


I didn't take the time to build a support system that I could turn to when times were tough, and that made my journey much longer and more painful. Taking care of yourself is essential. Many of us have spent our lives taking care of others and putting ourselves a distant second, we need to carve out time to energize, comfort and soothe ourselves. 


An important part of this is to practice gratitude by exercising your gratitude muscles every day, you learn to grow and if you can't find anything to be grateful for, try harder and look for small things like sunshine, a child's smile, and more. There's a previous episode of this podcast on gratitude and I'd encourage you to listen to that for more tips. 


Do you think this is really impossible to change your life, to recover from change? It's not impossible. I've done it and hundreds of women I've worked with have done it. If it can work for us, it can work for you, too. Stay tuned. We'll be back in a moment when I'll share my three actionable tips to help turn your painful life experiences into an exciting and happy life. 


We'll be right back. 


And we're back to take action to recover from life altering, major life changes. I recommend three things. First, give yourself time to grieve. Most changes often come with loss, the grief process comes in stages. Take time to experience each stage. Take the time to identify the major changes you are going through and discover the emotions you are currently experiencing. 


Look at all the major life changes in your life. And evaluate them as well, because you could be experiencing the cumulative stress and effect of a number of major life changes. Complicating recovery, journaling is a great way to find those emotions, name them, and explore them. Be honest with yourself and dig deep. 


Second, find positive support that you can share your situations and feelings with. Preferably someone who has gone through the same experiences. This can be a friend, family member, or coach. And as I said before, just make sure they are positive and supportive because if they're not, more damage can be done. 


This provides you a way of learning from those who have been there before you and to re-ensure you that you are not the only one going through this. Third, take time for self care and practice gratitude. Self care can range from taking a walk, playing with your pet, watching a movie, reading a book, whatever nourishes your soul. 


This recharges your batteries for the work ahead and helps you learn to enjoy the moment. Then create a gratitude journal. Each day, list three things you are grateful for. Do this every day for at least 90 days every single day. Listen again to the past episode of her self-expression on gratitude to learn even more. 


When you combine these three steps with open-mindedness and willingness, which are key to change and grow, you'll find a new and authentic you one that can look at the past but not be consumed by it. One that has clarity, confidence, and purpose. I can tell you from experience that these three things work. 


For this woman, this woman here who was once stuck in the pains and stress of life changes and has gone through from that list almost every one of them and some more than once. I am now blessed with a life richer than I could have imagined. Thank you for being with me on this episode of her self-expression. 


I hope you can see the direct connection between healing from the pain of life's curve balls, and a future of happiness and self-love. I love providing you with the tools to help you on your journey. To find me, just go to her self-expression dot com. There you can find out more about her self-expression, my coaching program, and our support communities. 


You can also find tons of useful information in our blogs that are there to help you, and you can sign up for my newsletters to learn even more. You can find this and all my episodes with show notes, again at her self-expression dot com, on the podcast page, please share the podcast with your friends. The more women we reach, the more women we help, and the more interesting topics and impactful guests I can bring you. Women helping women is our secret women. If you'd like to hear more about a particular topic that we haven't covered, or to dive into a topic we have in more detail, contact me on the website and let me know. We'll add it to the schedule. I've been through painful events during my own empowerment journey and have gotten to the other side with the experience now to guide you. 


No matter where you are on your journey, you don't have to go it alone. I'm here to help. Thank you and take care.