It is well established from Episode 15 about conquering fear in the realm of the unknown frontier. Today’s episode revisits that fateful episode in review of lost interview footage from James Doohan, who played the character Scotty in Star Trek: The Original Series in a captivating moment discussing his ability to save a woman who turned her life around from experiencing thoughts in suicide to a rewarding career. This pivotal, emotional recount reminds us of the mission that goes back to our roots of conquering fear and becoming the best versions of ourselves because of being amazing examples to others.

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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 126 of Speaking From The Heart.

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I really have been looking forward to

this episode, because it reminds me

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of something that I once talked about

in episode 15 about conquering fear

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in the realm of an unknown frontier,

and you might remember the fact that

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I talked about Star Trek, one of

the most famous, iconic TV series

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that ran for only three seasons.

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Three seasons!

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On the 1960s version

of the original series.

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I love that show, and it was only because

of my mom introducing me to it that

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allowed me to become a Trekkie for the

rest of my life, but there was something

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that I uncovered within the last several

months about James Doohan, one of the

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characters of the original series that

played Engineer Scotty that had not only

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an iconic nature and an iconic flair

to what Star Trek is all about, but it

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also provided some context to something

that I never even realized about him

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that I want to share with you today that

maybe you didn't even realize when he

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was still alive on this very earth, so

today, we're going to talk about Scotty,

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and be able to have a little bit of gin

and whiskey to go alongside of it, along

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with a little bit of Irish jig dancing.

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No, that's not exactly why I want to

talk about James Doohan; engineer Scotty.

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I actually want to talk about the example

that he set from the situation that I

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viewed, and why it's so important to

look back at our roots to conquer the

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fear that we talked about in episode 15.

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I think that we often don't realize

that people of significant value that

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have graced this earth, whether it's

somebody that is well known like Mr.

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James Doohan, or maybe not so well

known according to some people, but

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even the people that we interact with

on a daily basis, have some incredible

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things that they do that help others

to achieve greatness in their lives,

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and this example that I'm about ready

to talk to you about is something of

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a characteristic of what we should be

aiming towards, but also what we should

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be creating on our day to day lives.

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It was a while ago when I watched this,

but it was on Facebook that I caught this

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clip of James Doohan talking about some

of the opportunities that he had with

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interacting with some of his fans, and one

of them was about a young woman that he

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was able to save her life through a series

of chain letters that went back and forth

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between the young lady and James Doohan.

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It was really about what

the woman was going through,

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which was thoughts of suicide.

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Now, when we talk about the concept

of suicide, we know that on this show,

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we've talked about not only my personal

experience, but also the different people

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that have engaged with the thoughts and

feelings that are associated with it.

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Having that sort of dialogue; having

that ability to overcome the differences

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and the challenges that we have when

it comes to suicide is very challenging

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in itself, but this penpal that James

Doohan picked up while interacting not

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only on the show, but even afterwards

with all the conventions that he traveled

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around to, really had an impact on this

young lady to the point that when they

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continued to work on the progress that

she was making, he realized that he

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was the only source of hope for this

young lady to be able to overcome the

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differences that she had faced throughout

her life, so during this small snippet

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of the interview, James talks about the

importance of having that communication

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back and forth with this young lady and

how it continued to be better and better

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and better, but the one thing that he even

mentioned was that there was a period of

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time that he was super worried about her.

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She didn't write back.

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He didn't know what was exactly happening,

but at the same token, he had faith that

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maybe something will happen down the

road, and then the one day, it did happen.

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He was at a convention, and one of the

places that where all these conventions

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are held, which I can't remember exactly

where it was located at, but a young lady

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approached him and said, "I'm the lady

that you've been pen palling with for

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all those years, and I want you to know

that if it wasn't for you, I would have

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never been able to turn my life around,

let alone be able to be as successful

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as I am now, having the most rewarding

career that I ever thought imaginable."

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That interaction proved that James'

letters were being received and

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were being heard from this lady.

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This lady was able to detail the

fact that because of James Doohan,

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she was able to not end her life.

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Out of the countless celebrities that

I'm sure are outside of Star Trek that

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have received these sort of letters and

probably have had these interactions

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without us even knowing, it's strange

that the power of just written

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communication was able to transform

this young lady's life from a place

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of despair into the most wonderful of

circumstances in which she was able to

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celebrate, which made me start to think.

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Maybe the places that we could boldly

go where we've never gone before

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might be just in their backyard.

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It might be with just the interactions

that we're able to have with someone

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that is struggling, so I really think

it's important to take the example

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of what I just shared about Mr.

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Doohan and talk about what you're

able to do in your own life, to go

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boldly where you've never gone before.

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Now, in episode 15, we talked about

that unknown frontier, and what it means

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to conquer the fear that's associated

with it, but I want to take it one step

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further today, after listening to this

awesome interview that James did, talking

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about this young lady, and it's about

the power of words and what we don't

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realize might be making an impact on

somebody else, because I've seen time

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and time again about people posting

about the importance of being able to

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say what you want to say before it's too

late, and it's usually happening when

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someone is gone from someone else's life.

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Being able to share and express

what we might feel about someone,

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or even something, might be

very dangerous to some, while

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for others, it's second nature.

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Being able to communicate effectively,

which is something that I always work

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on with my clients is truly important

to be able to not only get your point

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across, but it allows you to understand

and create that awesome value that

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you need to have, and knowing that

Josh Smith, your podcast host, always

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looks at things black and white, this

is a very hard concept to swallow.

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It means taking in the granular aspects

of this conversation and trying to

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understand how it applies to all

variety of different circumstances.

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That means my analytical brain is going

a million miles a minute, just trying to

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catch up with all the data that I have

to process, and I imagine for some of

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you, especially with the way that you

process things, you need to be able to

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slow down, take what's happening, and

absorb it for the betterment of not just

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what your relationships are, but being

able to press forward, but I digress.

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Really, it's about overcoming the fear

just by simply opening up can make

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all the difference in someone's life.

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That one small impact that

can make all the difference.

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I know for a fact that if it wasn't for

some people that were able to reach out to

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me to make sure that I was okay four years

ago, I probably would have never been able

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to make it to where I'm at now, being able

to continue to talk to you about important

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personal, professional, and business

related subjects on my podcast, let alone

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help the variety of different people

that I've been able to touch thus far,

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but when we think about where we boldly

have never gone before, we're thinking

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about things that are really challenging.

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We're talking about things that

are absolutely terrifying to do.

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We're talking about the things in which

we should be working on to have that

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unique proposition that we give to

somebody else; to be able to have that

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conversation, when that conversation,

really matters to be able to hold with

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someone else, which we were literally

just talking about in episode 121,

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when we should not be messing around.

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Even with all that said, the captivating

moment of James' interview about this

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young lady and what this interaction

meant to him, really shows that the human

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condition can be alive if we're willing to

work on not just the relationships that we

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foster, but just know that even the words

that we say today can have a meaningful

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impact on someone 15 to 20 years later.

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Now, for those that don't know, I've

also been bullied throughout most of my

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life, up until about my 20s, in which I

finally realized that enough was enough,

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and I stood up for myself, but before

that, I've seen many countless people,

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even throughout my elementary, middle

school, and high school years, put me

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down, push me into lockers, really hurt

me verbally and physically, and yet, many

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of them have either ended up in jail,

have been not doing so well in life, have

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been through tumultuous situations which

I won't even get into, but yet, some of

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them that have gone on to be successful,

realized the error of their ways, and

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have reached out to me to apologize.

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Now, it's funny because I've had at least

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graduated from high school, and I had

learned that even throughout that time

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period, almost 20 years later, that many

of them have realized the error of their

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ways and what it means because maybe

their kids have gone through something

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or maybe they have been personally

subjected through some ridicule or some

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verbal harassment that has occurred in

their life, but the most interesting

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thing about those three people is that

they continue to work on themselves,

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and I commend them, and if they're even

listening to this podcast at some point,

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I want them to know how proud I am for

them actually reaching out to have the

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courage to apologize, because that is

usually a territory on which nobody

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ever wants to go: tucking their tail

in between their legs and willing to

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apologize, but why are we so afraid of

the things that we've done in the past,

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and yet even worry about what we've

done in the past, to apologize for it?

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Well, I have a theory about that.

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I think that some people hold on to those

feelings because they realize that after

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a long time of having to sit with it,

they have to take some action about it.

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I think about the interview with James

Doohan, talking about this lady and what

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she had gone through, even the suicidal

thoughts of wanting to end her life.

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Imagine having so much pressure in

your life, having so much depression

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occurring that you decided that you

have to take matters into your own

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hands, do the things that even Mr.

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Doohan referenced to her, but

yet at the same time, meet them

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in person and say thank you for

all that you were able to do.

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I think that this pivotal moment, this

emotional exercise, helps us recount the

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importance of not just forgetting where

we've come from, but also remembering

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what we have yet to do on this earth.

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We've talked about on some episodes

the importance of looking back at our

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childhood, the most innocent time of

our lives, and thinking about the ways

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in which we can create value, which,

we even discussed this in the Neverland

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episode with Peter Pan, and all his

magical friends, Tinkerbell for that

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matter, but even with all the fictionality

that's involved with it, the reality

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is that those people, the things that

we become the best versions of, means

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that sometimes we have to look back

at what we've done wrong, be able to

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forgive ourselves, and be able to keep

moving forward, even if we acknowledge

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that for a brief, instantaneous second.

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I don't know what you might be holding

on to today, whether it's of somebody

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that has passed away in your life, maybe

has gone through a lot of problems,

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maybe a lot of circumstances, maybe

a lot of situations for that matter

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that maybe need to be forgiven, but

regardless of what they've done to you

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or what they have done to others, think

about the example that you can set for

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someone else and what they might see

in you as a result of you doing that.

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If you're able to do some

of the things that even Mr.

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Doohan did, even if it was through a

text message today, or even writing a

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traditional letter, which many people

have forgotten how to write a letter,

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it can make such a meaningful impact,

not just on the example that we can set,

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but also the character of our ability

to not only grow and evolve into more

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meaningful individuals, but also serve

a purpose where sometimes when nobody

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is looking, they are looking at you.

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You don't have to be famous.

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You don't have to be well known, or

you don't have to be the all powerful

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authority when it comes to a subject

matter to be able to make a difference.

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Even the smallest thing that hasn't been

looked at for the longest time; maybe

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cleaning the back of the refrigerator,

maybe tidying up the garage when you

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haven't even been asked; heck, even

changing the toilet roll paper in

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the bathroom, can make such a big

difference in somebody's life, but in

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all seriousness, even the small things,

like taking time to talk to someone

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that maybe you wouldn't normally talk

to, can lighten that person's life up.

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I've had plenty of guests,

even on this podcast, that even

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afterwards, I've continued to have

a meaningful relationship with them.

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Some of them have even become my clients

and I've become clients of them, but

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the most important thing to think about

with all the different things that have

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happened in our lives is that we all have

a chance to be forgiven and we have a

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chance to go boldly where we have never

gone before, so while I've talked about

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in episode 15 the importance of addressing

the fear, what I'm really challenging

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you to do today is to address what is

really the underlying surface of why

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you do these things in the first place.

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Are you really living a life of

intentionality, full of value and

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purpose, when you're really working on

not just yourself, but everyone else

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that might matter or might not matter?

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Are you doing things that even when

people aren't not looking at you, you're

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making the difference no matter what?

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We live in a very distracted

society, way beyond what even Mr.

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Doohan had to deal with when he played

the engineer Scotty role on Star

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Trek: The Original Series, but even

if you want to consider that to be

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simpler times, consider the fact that

this could be simpler times for you.

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If you start to break down some of

the simple things that can change

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not just your mindset, not just

your career, not just your business.

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but just make you a well

rounded person overall.

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It doesn't necessarily take money.

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It just takes a small act of kindness;

maybe a 50 to 60 cent postage stamp,

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depending on when you're listening to

this, and even a handwritten note with

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an address stamped envelope to be able

to say thank you for all that you do,

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and hey, if you throw in a $25 Amazon

gift card with it, that's okay too.

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What matters is that it's the thought

that counts, because that one small

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thought can have ramifications of

not only changing someone's life, but

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also saving someone's life as well.

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You never know what your words or your

actions can do, until you actually try,

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and when you mess up, it's okay to try

again, and apologize for messing up.

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We're all human after all.

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Well, at least I haven't pretended to be

a Vulcan yet; full of logic, and making

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sure that humans are not interfering

with my plans, but the truth of the

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matter is, if I could save someone's

life, regardless of whether I'm Vulcan,

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Klingon, or even just a regular human

being, I know that I'm doing my purpose.

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I'm living my value, and that's

the biggest belief that I want

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anybody to know, and that might

be one of my biggest fears yet to

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conquer, along with yours as well.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 126 of Speaking From The

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart, very soon.

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