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Welcome back to House of style.
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:I'm your host, Grant Alexander, and today
we're going to dive into something
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:I think is so important.
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:The powerful connection
between style and confidence.
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:Now, when we talk about style, most people
immediately think about clothes.
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:But today
I want to take a deeper than that.
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:Style is how you present yourself
to the world, whether that's through
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:your clothing, your actions,
or how you live your life and confidence.
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:Well, confidence is what fuels
all of that.
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:It fuels the attitude and the vibe
that you put out to those around you.
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:In this episode, we're going to explore
the secret connection
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:between your personal style
and how confident you feel.
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:You might be surprised
at just how intertwined the two are.
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:If you haven't thought about it before,
and while we'll talk a little bit
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:about clothing and how it does
play a role or can play a role.
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:The real focus is on
how your style as a whole
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:can boost your confidence, and in turn,
how confidence fuels your style.
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:By the end of this episode,
my hope is that you'll start to see
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:how aligning your inner self
with your outer expression
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:through style can unlock a new level
of confidence in your life.
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:Let's start by
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:talking about why this topic matters.
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:Confidence
is something we all want, right?
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:It's that feeling that allows us
to walk into a room and know we belong.
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:It helps us take risks, speak up and go
after what we really want in life.
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:But here's the thing.
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:Confidence isn't something
that just magically appears.
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:It's built over time.
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:And one of the most powerful ways to build
it is through your personal style.
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:Now, many people think styles
about clothes, but it's not.
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:Style is. It's
how you express who you are.
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:And when that expression is aligned
with your authentic self.
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:Something I talk about regularly.
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:Confidence naturally follows.
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:Whether it's through your clothing
choices, how you carry yourself,
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:or how you communicate.
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:Style plays a key role in shaping
how confident you feel
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:and when your inner self and your outer
expression or outer self are in sync.
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:That's
when your true confidence comes alive.
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:And when you know you can do
whatever it is that you're trying to do.
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:Now, getting
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:vulnerable myself,
there have been plenty of times
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:when I wasn't fully confident
in how I presented myself.
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:My mask is
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:clothing for me.
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:I was so confident that no matter
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:what outfit
I put on, that would help me get through
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:the lack of confidence in any other area.
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:So my personal style and relying on that
from a clothing perspective helps,
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:you know, take confidence from one area
and give me the courage
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:to take action in another area,
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:which will in turn make me more confident.
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:Starting a podcast
and putting it out into the world.
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:Knowing that the first bunch
you do are going to not only be judged
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:even harder as people make a decision
if they'll keep listening or watching, but
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:also knowing that a ton of people won't
listen or watch right away.
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:You have to work at it.
You have to show up.
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:You have to be consistent
and you have to have fun doing it.
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:I love what I'm doing.
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:It's I'm passionate about it.
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:I want to be here.
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:I want to help in any way I can.
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:And I know that through
my personal style and in how
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:from so many
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:other areas in my life, when I do that
and I do that in my style
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:of how I treat people,
the vibe and energy of what I put out
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:and the love and passion
that goes into what I do.
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:I'm confident I can do what it takes
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:to succeed in whatever I'm trying to do,
like build this
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:enormous house and style
brand up from the ground.
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:For myself and maybe many of you listening
or watching, it can feel like trying
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:to fit into a certain mold, whether that's
in your appearance or actions.
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:I remember thinking,
if I just dress like everyone else or act
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:the way people expect, then I can get them
to listen to what I'm saying
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:because they won't be as distracted
by my fantastic and amazing outfits.
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:Then they'll love what I'm doing
and I'll feel more confident.
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:But you know what?
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:It doesn't work.
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:I felt like I was wearing a costume,
and that disconnect between my outer
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:appearance and my inner self only
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:made me feel more unsure of myself.
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:It wasn't
until I started connecting my style
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:with who I truly am, both in how I dress
and how I live my life,
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:that my confidence really started to grow.
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:When I began to focus on what made me feel
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:good,
not just what looked good on the outside
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:or what I thought people wanted to see me
in, I noticed a shift.
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:I started choosing clothes
that reflected my values and personality.
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:What I wanted to share.
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:I stopped trying to fit
into someone else's idea
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:or mold of what I should look like,
and I started embracing my own style.
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:I was fortunate enough
that I had a couple people
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:that kind of ushered that in
or allowed me to.
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:And that's what I hope to be for you.
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:I want you to know that it's okay
to dress, to look, to act the way
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:you want to.
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:And as my style continues
to become more authentic.
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:My confidence continues to follow in that.
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:And I know yours will too.
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:I think a lot of us have been there,
whether it's wearing something
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:that looks good but doesn't feel right,
or presenting yourself in a way that
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:doesn't reflect who you truly are.
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:When there's a disconnect
between how you present yourself
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:and how you feel inside, confidence
can't really show up.
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:And that's the key.
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:Now that we've talked
about personal experience,
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:let's dive into what I think
are some key concepts that show
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:you how deeply
style and confidence are connected.
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:I kind of break it down into three
main points and I want to explore those.
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:They can help you better understand
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:how to use style as a tool
to boost your confidence.
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:And that's obviously what we're here for.
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:So first style reflects your identity.
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:Your style should be an expression
of who you are,
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:not just what you think
will impress others.
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:When you align, how you dress,
how you speak, and how you carry yourself
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:with who you truly are,
your confidence will increase because
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:you're no longer trying to hide or pretend
you're not wearing that mask anymore.
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:It is so freeing and self assuring.
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:And when you try that
and do that and experience it,
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:you're going to want to continue
to do that in other areas of your life.
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:Your competence will continue to build.
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:You're showing up as yourself,
and that authenticity
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:just naturally breeds confidence.
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:Second,
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:clothing can be a powerful tool
for confidence.
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:Now, I know this is the style podcast
not about clothing, but
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:when you talk about clothing
and your general appearance, how are you?
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:You know, factoring and grooming
and in just the way you come off
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:and look to people,
the story you're sharing about what's
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:inside your head and how your attitude
is reflected in your appearance.
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:It's not just about wearing the latest
trends or the most expensive brands.
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:And in fact, I truly believe
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:wearing expensive
brands is an even bigger mask.
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:And that's shows
a different type of lack of confidence.
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:But I'm
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:not saying you can't have expensive
or nice things because there are some
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:absolutely gorgeous, expensive
brand things.
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:It's about how you wear those clothes
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:that make you feel like
the best version of yourself.
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:When you put on an outfit
that aligns with who you are.
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:It's like putting on a suit of armor.
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:Nothing's going to touch you when I know
that I'm in a fantastic outfit.
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:Nothing else can touch me, even if I'm
nervous or worried about something else.
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:You feel stronger, more empowered,
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:more ready to take on
whatever comes your way.
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:It's amazing
how something as simple as a well-chosen
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:outfit can shift your mindset
and those around you.
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:It starts conversations.
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:It gets you in the door.
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:It's such an easy thing to add
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:one little element, something really small
that can help boost your confidence.
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:And third, confidence
comes from consistency and action.
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:Taking action when your style
consistently reflects who you are.
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:You build trust in yourself,
which will be reflected,
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:and people will pick up on that
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:and they'll see that
and you'll start to be more confident.
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:You don't have to second guess how you're
being perceived because you don't care.
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:You know you're showing up as yourself.
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:Confidence comes from knowing
that your inner self and outer self
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:are in alignment,
and that consistency allows you
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:to walk through life and any door
with a sense of ease and self-assurance.
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:No matter what you're doing.
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:So how can you build confidence
through your style?
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:Start by asking yourself
if your current style,
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:whether it's in your your clothes,
your habits, or how you carry yourself
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:if they truly reflect who you are
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:and if not, what small change,
small change
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:can you make to bring your style
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:into alignment with your authentic self?
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:It could be as simple as choosing clothes
that make you feel more empowered.
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:Standing a little taller,
or speaking with more intention
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:or kindness, or, you know, performing
more acts of generosity and kindness.
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:Connecting with others.
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:When your style and confidence
are aligned, it impacts
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:every area of your life.
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:You're going to feel more comfortable
in your own skin.
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:You're going to be more willing
to take risk and be more capable
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:of pursuing what you really want,
whether that's in your career,
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:your relationship, your personal goals,
whatever it is, confidence gives you
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:the strength to show up fully, and style
is the vehicle that gets you there.
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:I want you to take a moment to
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:think about how your style
has evolved over time,
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:and how that evolution has affected
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:your confidence,
either positively or negatively.
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:Have there been times when your style
gave you a confidence boost,
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:or times when it didn't quite match
how you felt inside?
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:Reflect on those moments
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:and consider how aligning
your personal style
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:can create a more powerful,
authentic version of yourself.
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:Take a positive moment you remember
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:and think about a little detail
that you can recreate today,
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:and then think about how to take it
one step further tomorrow.
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:Or make it a habit ongoing
and then repeat.
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:Repeat it in another area.
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:The more you continue to do this,
the more you take action
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:and have the courage to take action,
the more confident you're going to get.
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:And it happens quickly.
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:So today we we talked about
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:and explored the the secret connection
between style and confidence.
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:It's so, so much more than what you wear
can and is important.
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:But it's how you present yourself
to the world
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:in clothing when chosen with intention
and matching your personal style
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:and beliefs and values
and everything you love
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:that makes you feel happy
and confident inside can be
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:a really powerful tool
in boosting that confidence.
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:But it is also about how you carry
yourself, how you express those values,
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:and how you show up in life
every single day, no matter where you are,
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:when your style aligns with who you truly
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:are, your confidence naturally increases.
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:Said that three times to drive
that point home.
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:It's going to happen naturally with action
and with aligning those things.
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:It's easier than you think.
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:You just have to take the first step.
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:So here's my challenge for you this week.
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:Take one small step to connect your style
with your confidence.
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:Again,
think about a time you were confident
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:and recreate that style
in whatever you were doing.
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:Maybe that is through the clothes
you choose.
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:Maybe it's the way you carry yourself,
or the way express your thoughts
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:in a business or personal conversation,
or in relationship.
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:Notice
how the alignment affects your confidence
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:and how you move through the day
through the world.
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:Keep this process going
and it will build momentum
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:towards a perpetually more confident you.
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:That's it for now.
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:Thank you so much for joining me today
on this journey of style and confidence.
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:Be sure to tune in next week for another
inspiring guest episode as we continue
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:to explore the infinite ways style
can and will improve all of our lives
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:through some perspectives
of some pretty darn cool individuals.
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:See you next time on House of style
and until then, remember, style
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:isn't in your closet. It's in you.
