Attractiveness 

Feeling attractive for yourself 

OR to be more attractive for others ????

We have to distinguish  !!!!

In a nutshell 

Have a look at people that are really good at something. 

They are not only good at what they do but you can feel : they are in their flow 

This is so attractive and absolutely unique !!!

Do yourself good / physical self care is a must

Have a bath 

Truly enjoy and appreciate what you have and what you want and need to have in your life will follow 

Watch what you consume 

You become what you consume through your eyes, mouth, ears 

How do you want to feel ?

Confident ?

You built confidence by pursuing something that lights you up AND forces you little by little out of your comfort zone 

When it comes to being attractive to the outside world 

Yes people are attracted to handsome muscles

Yes people are attracted to money 

Yes people are attracted to boldness and courage 

You can be that person from today on !!

IT IS FROM THE INSIDE OUT THAT YOU WILL BUILD YOUR ATTRACTIVENESS !!! 

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. And so happy to be

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spending some time with you. And I'm so grateful to have you

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here.

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I hope you feel safe, I hope you feel relaxed outfit you feel

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content. And if you don't, then I hope that this episode will

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bring you peace and value and

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you being able to recharge your batteries.

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Relaxing, being able to relax, is going to become a very, very

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highly prized activity here in the future, I have a feeling

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if you don't know how to relax, if you don't know how to let go,

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you will hold that tension you will build up

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energy inside of you and

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energy has to flow. And if it gets stuck inside of you, if you

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can release it, then sickness can arise, or depression

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or other stuff that you really don't want in your life. So it

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is really important to find out ways on how you can relax best

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in the most nurturing and beneficial way possible.

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Today, I want to talk about you being 100% You feeling

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attractive, you feeling confident, you just simply

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feeling good about yourself.

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All too often I see people and I just think to myself, hey, that

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person really has good potential, hey, that person is

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really attractive.

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Hey, that person must be so confident with everything they

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have accomplished.

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And then you scratch a little bit at the surface and you you

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know, get into a conversation, start asking questions, go

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beyond small talk. And you find out that person is really not

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happy with herself.

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That person is super successful, but he's so judgmental and harsh

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with himself.

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Or this person over there is super attractive and is probably

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super confident. She looks like she has it all and more than I

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have.

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But no, you ask her. And she doesn't feel that way. She

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perceives herself very differently than how the

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external world is perceiving her.

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So this is why I want to talk about this today. And I'm going

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to take a little break here now because the wind is really

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picking up in the background.

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And I want to make sure you can relax and not feel agitated by

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this wind.

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So the first thing I can say

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to like a tool that truly works when it comes to feeling better

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about yourself is to start

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taking genuine care of your body. And what I mean by that is

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that You are mindful and present with what you consume on a daily

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basis.

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Through your mouth, through your eyes, through your ears, through

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sensations like physical touch

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and how you consume it so not only

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what you eat, for example, but how do you eat it. There's so

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many health buffs out there and they talk about Yeah, you having

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to drink more water you having to eat less chocolate, you

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having to eat more greens, blah, blah, blah. We know all this

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already. And if you want to look up health tips, there is so much

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out there that could be the right thing for you. What is

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important for me to talk about with you today is how we consume

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it. So let's stay with food. The example of eating How do you

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eat? How do you prepare the food? are you grateful for the

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food that you eat?

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shoved into your face or face. Or are you very mindful about

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cooking it and preparing it. And then you make it really a

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celebration of gratitude and nourishing experience for all

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senses. You know, even the way I talk about it, now you can feel

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and and hear that it is very different for your body for your

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soul, if you just eat something on the go, or if you make the

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time to sit down

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with yourself or with a loved one, and to then celebrate your

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meal, you will see such beautiful changes. Once you

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become more mindful with how you eat,

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it will affect your confidence, it will affect your health, it

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will affect your relationships. And

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now you can say what it's just about eating Yeah, I know, I

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gotta eat three times a day or two times a day. But the way I

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eat really has such a big impact on my life. Yes, it does. It is

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the little things are the big things that we do on a daily

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basis that will shape our mind that will shape our body that

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truly and shape our relationships. It is from the

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inside out that you want to be confident, right? You don't want

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to be that chick who puts on tons of makeup and is like super

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literate about

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beauty tips and stuff. But on the inside, you feel hollow and

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dead and super ugly. No, you don't want to be that chick. And

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you also don't want to be that guy who runs to the gym five

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times a week to have these awesome muscles and you look

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great in the mirror. But when you go on a date, when you go

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outside your little box

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and mingle with people, you actually feel super awkward and

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weird, and not good about yourself at all, even though you

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look attractive.

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So it is how you make your bed. It is how you brush your teeth.

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It is how you have a shower

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that will shape how you feel inside. You know if we do things

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repetitively in a rash, without big consideration, and it has to

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be done. I have to get this done because otherwise I'm not going

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to function otherwise I'm going to fall apart.

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It is the way we approach things that these things will either

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turn into a must do. Or into a yes, I want to do this for

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myself because I'm Absa fuckin lewdly worth it.

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And again, in the tone of my voice, you can hear that a

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person who is truly attractive truly content with her or

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himself

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is

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feeling worthy.

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Making the time

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making the time to enjoy the little things.

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And other things thing that will make you feel super attractive,

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is if you find a hobby, even better if it's a job, but a

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hobby is

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awesome enough already, that you can totally immerse yourself

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and.

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And it can be everything that you can think of.

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If you put your focus into it, if you have that drive to become

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better if you have that passion, if you you know wake up in the

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morning and it just lights you up to know that you can engage

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in that activity. Again, this is the activity you should actively

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pursue.

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And another thing that I want to add to that is if that active

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activity happened to serve a bigger purpose

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if it happens to serve other people

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right outside of your bubble,

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or even humanity

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if that activity is simply bigger than yourself, you know

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on a day where you just feel like I have a headache or

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today I don't really have a time the time for it.

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But you could do it

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anyways, this is an activity that you should cling on to with

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your life.

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You know, these videos who receive like over millions of

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clicks on YouTube, of, you know, street sweepers or

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people have McDonald's or, you know, jobs that people in

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general look down

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to.

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But you see the people in the videos who are truly enjoying

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themselves, and they, you know, they engage in the activity,

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because they know, it serves a bigger purpose. They love what

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they do so much because they know, it serves a bigger

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purpose. And that is so incredibly attractive.

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Another thing that is so beautiful to see and to watch is

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when someone is in a state of flow, and again, it doesn't

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matter what it is, is it a chess player? Is it a swimmer? Is it a

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tree climber? Is it a tennis player? Is it a musician? Is it

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a magician? Is it a mechanic,

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I think you know what I mean. But

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let's say it differently, that person is describing something

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to you, or demonstrating something to you. And they have

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this spark, they have this

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electricity, they have that, you know, ecstatic feeling that

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sparks over to you.

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When they just talk about it, they're super excited about

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something. And for you, as a listener, you either can totally

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relate and you're like, Yeah, this is how I totally feel about

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it, too. Or no, no, no, I don't fucking get why you can be so

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excited about it. But I just love your energy about this. And

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I want, I want that too, right. So this is super attractive,

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when someone can be a super nerd about something, and so excited.

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And again, if that's something that the person is excited

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about, serves other people can help other people to do the

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same, to heal, to grow to learn whatever it is, it is so

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incredibly attractive.

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So I want you to take a moment now

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and to think about,

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if you can apply what I'm saying here.

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And I want you to close your eyes. Of course not. If you're

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driving or operating machinery, please don't do that. But if

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he's sitting on your couch,

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I want you to think about this. Like,

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do you really think that attractiveness is only how you

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look like?

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Don't you know that you have so much to offer and maybe you're

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just not, you know, quite ready to share it with the world yet.

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One sentence that I absolutely hate to hear

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is you're not living up to your potential, you have so much to

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offer to this world. Yet, you are not living up to your

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potential. This is such

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a crazy mean sentence. And I know people will say that mean

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that good.

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Intentions are awesome.

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But some of the worst paths that people have worked, walked here

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on planet earth were paved with good intentions.

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If you are not ready to shine your light yet, if you have to

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do some healing first, some forgiving first.

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Then acceptance

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is your best friend. And your most attractive tool. You know

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to to know for yourself, hey, this is where I'm at right now.

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I'm broke. I'm addicted. I'm

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not taking good care of my body.

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I'm not making time for my friends. I'm an asshole to my

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relatives. This swim ad right now.

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I see it. I accept it. But I don't want to sit in it for much

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longer. I want to change it. I want to make a difference.

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I want to feel better about myself.

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Then this is so absolutely valid. And then you're going to

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make baby steps.

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towards betterment, you're going to slowly but surely, take

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better care of yourself, because you will start to learn how

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endlessly precious and worthy you are.

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Another thing that is totally attractive

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is boundaries, being able to set boundaries. And if you're the

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absolute people pleaser, it will hurt at the beginning, it will

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feel super awkward because you're so used to serving others

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and pleasing others and all that jazz. But then also I can tell

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you, you're probably that person who gets left for the hassle

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down the street or for a person who is rarely, rarely, you know

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certain about how they feel about themselves. What do you

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communicate when you are an absolute people pleaser? Is that

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Yeah, you are serving other people. But also, yeah, you can

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get trampled all over and you are replaceable. Sorry to say

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that, but this is what people make of it. And I'm sure that

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you can nod

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and say yes to what I just said to that harsh reality.

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So a person

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is being left for an asshole. And then yeah, look at the

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person who left you. Sometimes they confuse someone being

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confident and having boundaries with an asshole, which is their

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problem. But when it comes to you, please know that for a

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person who is getting to know you, or knows you better longer

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to learn what your boundaries are to know what you're no is to

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know what you absolutely yes, is so incredibly sexy.

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Someone who tells you no is not someone who rejects you.

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It is someone who tells you, hey, this is what I want to be.

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And this is how I want to.

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Sorry, not what I want to be, but this is how I want to be

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treated. And I want to be in a relationship with you. But I

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want you to respect this boundary.

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Of course, there's compromises and all of that, but to know

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where your limits are, is incredibly attractive, and is

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going to attract people to you because this means that they

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themselves are also allowed to set boundaries with you, and in

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turn are able to be totally authentic. And this creates

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trustworthiness. And trustworthiness is one of the

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sexiest things that there is on planet Earth.

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I quickly want to dive into a female's experience of life.

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And this is just me and my experience. And it might apply

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to many, many women out there as well. But I don't want to

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generalize too much, although I love doing that.

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A woman wants to feel safe. I want to want a woman wants to

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know that she is with a man that is respected in society.

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So if you can be trustworthy, if you can have you know your edges

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if you can have your own hobby,

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your focus, your determination

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then you have everything to feel attractive for yourself. And

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this will

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shine through your eyes throughout the shine through

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your movement. shine through your words and you can be your

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most attractive version that you want to be that you can be

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alright, I'm very very excited all of a sudden to publish this

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episode and as always, I want to hear what you feel and think and

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if it resonates with you, please do us the favor to share with

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people. If you want to donate you can buy me a coffee if

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And if you want to hop over to Apple podcast and leave me a

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review there and a five star rating. That's absolutely sexy

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name there or just join the Aurora Eggert coaching

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page. And yeah, I'm always curious to find out where people

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come from, what your story is, what your experience is, and I

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really hope you feel a little more attractive when you exit

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this episode today.

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Alright, take good care of yourself, and I will be out

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there again on Thursday.

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Bye bye