In this episode of the Modern Mommy Doc Podcast, Dr. Whitney Casares sits down with Alyssa Campbell, parenting educator, school consultant, and bestselling author of Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, to talk about why the elementary and middle school years can feel surprisingly hard for kids and parents.

They unpack what’s really going on beneath meltdowns, shutdowns, and “they’re old enough to know better” moments, including how nervous systems, sensory processing, and neurodivergence shape kids’ behavior. Alyssa shares powerful stories from her own family and from her work in schools, showing why regulation—not perfection—is the foundation for learning, connection, and emotional growth.

This conversation is a validating reminder that parenting isn’t about doing everything “right.” It’s about understanding the kid you actually have, meeting them where they are, and learning how to move through hard moments together.

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