Do you ever feel like you're just not good enough, even when you're doing all the right things? In this conversation with psychologist Belinda Gibson, we explore the roots of that persistent feeling of inadequacy. We unpack how perfectionism, people-pleasing and harsh self-talk can sneak into our lives and affect our relationships, even when we don’t realise it.

We talk about where these beliefs start, how they show up, and what you can do to respond differently. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like you’re not enough, this episode offers insight, reflection and a reminder that you’re not alone.

What We Cover:

• Why feelings of not being good enough are more common than you think
• How perfectionism can mask deeper self-doubt
• Ways to recognise when harsh self-criticism is running the show
• How these patterns show up in relationships
• Practical ways to respond with more curiosity and compassion

Resources Mentioned

https://self-compassion.org/   

Books

Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection

About Belinda

Belinda is a registered Psychologist and Gestalt Psychotherapist, and is the founder and director of Footscray Counselling Centre, where she provides individual, couples and groups with relationally orientated psychotherapy supervision and therapy.

Belinda also works as a consultant to various academic and medical organisations, facilitating reflective group practice, training workshops and supervision.

https://footscraycounsellingcentre.com.au/

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