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Episode 13029th April 2022 • The Demartini Show • Dr John Demartini
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Every human has a thrival and a survival part of their brain. When you learn the art of governing your mind, developing your self-governing executive center, you become the captain of your ship and the master of your destiny.

In this episode learn why developing the more advanced part of your brain is key for growth and accomplishment.

Those with the greatest executive function are the ones who become the greatest influencers in life, they’re most inspired and enthused by life. Learn what you can do to activate your self-governing executive center, and awaken your true authenticity, power and potential.

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This area is called the executive center and this executive center governs the

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behavior below and allows us the freedom of options to allow

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us to act with wisdom instead of just emotional reaction.

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This particular topic is why developing your executive center

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is so important in your life and why it matters in your daily life.

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And you may not be familiar with the term, the executive center,

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but let me just develop it.

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You've probably seen somewhere in your life,

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an image of a doctor taking a reflex hammer and hitting a knee where

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somebody's knees over another knee and causing the muscle to

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jerk and kick up in the air.

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And this is called a deep tendon reflex.

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It is what is called a monosynaptic reflex.

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A synapse is a junction between two nerves.

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And so when you hit the reflex hammer on the knee,

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the tendon is distended you might say,

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and as a result of it,

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it sends nerve reflexes into the spinal cord and it joins

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to a muscle, a nerve that goes to a muscle,

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so you have a sensory nerve and a motor nerve coming out, and one synapse,

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which is a junction between these nerves. And so when you hit that, it jerks,

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if you hit it just right, it jerks and the muscle jumps,

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and this is called a monosynaptic reflex. And it is all or none,

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it either fires or it doesn't fire, there's no gradation to it.

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And that's because of the most primitive part of our brain, you might say,

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or spinal cord or nerve system,

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these monosynaptic reflex mean there's no option on whether it

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fires or not. It just fires or doesn't fire. It's no, it's black or white.

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But as you go up into the spinal cord,

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you get what they call interneurons.

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There are three types of neurons in the body. There are sensory neurons,

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there's interneurons and motor neurons.

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Now there's special types of nerves that are going on into the gut,

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and there's special nerves that go into the heart, but generally speaking,

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they're either input responding or output nerves, sensory input,

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interneurons for decisions, processing, and motor nerves for output,

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to cause a muscle to change. But as you go in the spinal cord,

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the most simple reflex is a monosynaptic reflex,

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there's only one nerve going to another nerve.

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Then you have bi synaptic reflexes where you have a nerve,

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a synaptic junction, to a nerve, to a synapse junction to another nerve.

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And that's if somebody burns you, your hand jerks away.

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But the other hand also does it to balance it contralaterally to the other side,

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in order to keep yourself from falling over when you jerk away, it balances you.

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So that's a two synaptic reflex.

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If you go up into the spinal column with that same stimulus,

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if you hit that deep tendon really hard and it bruises,

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the nerve can travel not only to the muscle to make it jerk and also to the

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other side, to make it balanced,

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but also go up into the brain stem or up into the bottom of the skull

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you might say, the bottom of the brain, above the spinal cord,

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and cause the heart rate to increase or to cause us to feel heat

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temperature or something.

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And so now you have what is called a polysynaptic reflex.

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A polysynaptic reflex means you have a nerve, a nerve, a nerve, a nerve,

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a nerve, a nerve, and then finally a response.

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And the farther you go up in the brain,

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the more the number of interneurons between the sensory input and the motor

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output. So we start out like a reflex,

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but as we go up with all the more nerves we have,

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in a sense not just a reflex, we have a very complex reflex,

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and those nerves can be turned on or turned on, turned off,

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and they could be more refined in the response.

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It's like a dimmer switch instead of being all or none,

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it kind of can be halfway. And so the farther we go in the brain,

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the more we have a governance, more of a,

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you might say a dimmer switch that allows us to not just reflexively

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respond, but reflectively respond, to stop and think, well,

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how do I wanna respond? And so way up in the very front of the brain,

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the most advanced part of the brain, where the most amount of neurons are,

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where you might say the prefrontal cortex, the frontal part of the brain,

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this is called the executive center. Cause what the executive center does,

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it takes sensory input and it associates it with all types of

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experiences and then creates a motor output. And so there,

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we don't have just reflex, black or white, we have gray.

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And so let's just say that,

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let's say where somebody came and criticized us for instance,

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and if we had only one response, hit,

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then if we were in a situation where somebody basically said something to us

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that we didn't like, we would immediately punch 'em,

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and that's a primitive kind of response. But as we go up in the forebrain,

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the very advanced part of the brain,

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we could take that stimulus and we can think of hundreds or thousands of

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different experiences and scenarios in our head and then select that,

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you might say, and then respond differently, with a piece of wit,

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a comical response, a request for something,

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maybe a retaliative of response, you have a variety of them.

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So here's the principle,

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the more primitive we are in the brain or the individual

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neurons, the more black and white our thinking, we're kind of fundamental,

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we don't have many options and therefore we don't have freedom.

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We're like an automaton reacting,

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kinda like an animal if it sees predator or prey,

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it goes in survival and it runs after it or runs away from it,

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it doesn't have much gray area. It doesn't have a conversation.

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Doesn't take it out to tea, doesn't sing it to it.

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We don't have the things that human beings have.

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But as we go into the forebrain,

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all the way to the most advanced part of the brain,

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there are trillions or billions of options.

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And this is what sets us apart. And this forebrain,

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this executive center,

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this prefrontal cortex and some of the subcortical areas that are associated

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with it, allow us to have a variety of responses.

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Now what's interesting is in the brain,

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there are basically two systems of response.

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Two thinking systems. One is an emotional response for survival,

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that's like a reflex,

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a monosynaptic reflex where you just react without thinking.

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So you emotionally react as a survival response for prey or predator to run

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after, run away from it, like a monosynaptic reflex,

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but maybe a polysynaptic reflex. But we also have a systems 2 thinking,

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which is a little slower, takes time to process,

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you have to go through all these gyrations in the head.

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It's like the dimmer switch.

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And now what you do is you're now thinking in terms of,

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well how do I wanna respond?

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What would give me the most advantage over disadvantage in my response?

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What about the future application of this individual?

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How will I respond to them and their friends and their colleagues and how will

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it affect my business and how it affect my relationship and how will it affect

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my economics and how will affect my social standard?

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And now we've got all these associations from all the experiences we've learned

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through our life. All those can be associated with that stimulus.

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So I wanna make a statement here that it's not what happens to us that makes a

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difference in life, it's how we process it and how we perceive it.

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And the difference between a reception of a deep tendon reflex where we just

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respond without thinking and thinking without reacting

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is the difference in the advancement of our brain.

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So the executive center,

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the executive function allows us to inhibit those spontaneous

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reactions that we usually regret because we just, we reacted without thinking,

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and this allows us to govern ourselves. So the most advanced part of the brain,

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primarily the prefrontal cortex,

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there's other cortical and sub cortical areas that are involved,

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but mainly the prefontal cortex, this area is called the executive center.

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And this executive center governs the behavior below and allows us the freedom

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of options to allow us to act with wisdom,

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instead of just emotional reaction.

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We have in a sense emotional responses that are survival and we have thrival

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responses that allow us to accomplish great things.

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This advanced part of the brain,

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the executive part of the brain also allows us to take all the experiences that

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we've had in the past,

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take this new stimulus and think of all the possible scenarios of what could

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happen from it or how we could respond to it,

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and think out what is the most advantaged one and strategically plan that,

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all before we actually react. And so we may take milliseconds or seconds,

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three seconds maybe to even respond, but we now make a more graded response,

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more of a dimmer switch.

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And instead of having an emotional reaction where we're run by the external

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world, we're now run from within.

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So when we're in the survival mode and we're in the emotional reaction,

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the external world runs us because stimulus makes response.

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But when we're advanced part of the brain,

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we run us because we decide how we wanna respond.

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And that's the difference between emotional reaction

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and planning. One is reactive. One is proactive.

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One is reactive with emotions and one is proactive with inspiration potentially.

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Now you might say, well,

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how does that relate to our daily life and empowering our lives?

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Well in every area of our life,

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we're constantly being perturbed by our environment and challenged by our

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environment by different things.

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But we have a homeostatic mechanism in our brain to try to bring us back into

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balance, and the executive function, that's what it's trying to do,

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it's trying to bring us back to make a wise decision that's factoring in all the

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variables and all the associations we've made to make an active wisdom

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instead of an emotional reaction of, you know, and then we look back and go,

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well, I regret that. I mean,

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we've all been in a situation where we've been infatuated with somebody,

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and we're assuming consciously of the upsides and unaware of the downsides and

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impulsive reacted and then went, oh my God, it's a fatal attraction.

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And three to six months later, we go, woo, what were we getting ourselves into?

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We've also had things we resented and we thought somebody,

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our first impression is that somebody we didn't wanna be around them and they've

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turned out to be fantastic people, we didn't know at first.

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And so what we do is we have this subjective bias reaction first until we

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eventually see all the different variables and allow us to be more objective.

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The executive center allows us to not react, but act,

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allows us to assess things more balanced and be able to make a wise decision.

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It's interesting, Aristotle said that there were vices,

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which are excess and deficiency of perceptions, and then virtue,

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which is the golden mean, the mean between those polarities.

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And we had the virtue of wisdom and temperance and courage

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to be our true, authentic self when we live in our executive function,

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because it allows us to have way more associations.

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You've met people probably that are politically or religiously inclined.

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They are absolutists. This is bad and there's no good in it,

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or this is good and there's no bad in it. Very black and white, and they react.

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And they're basically in systems 1 thinking.

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And then you meet somebody that's more aware, more broadened,

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they see neither positive nor negative, instead of either positive or negative.

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And they're more of a gray and they have a relative view,

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they're more universal in mind and they have a more appreciative and loving and

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response that's thoughtful.

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And I believe that that's the difference of the executive function versus this

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primitive response below, this reflexes below. We have reflexes,

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or we have a reflection.

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We have either reflexes or in a sense reflection.

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The systems 2, the executive function is a reflective mind.

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It reflects, stops, thinks, anticipates, strategically manages things,

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strategically plans, anticipates,

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thinks out the pros and cons and then acts.

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And that's what gives us the difference between the animal and the human,

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or you might say the animal mind and the angelic mind.

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The angelic mind is we ever gracefully respond and think through and not let the

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world outside us impact us. I've seen,

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I teach a program called the Breakthrough Experience.

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The Breakthrough Experience has people come in there sometimes where they're

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highly infatuated with somebody and they can't control themselves,

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or highly resentful sometimes of people they just want to choke.

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And these are responses because of the ratios of perception.

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When you have ratios of perceptions that are black or white,

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highly subjectively biased, the primitive responses go off.

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When we have a more balanced view, the more executive function goes off.

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We're poised, we're present, we're more neutral. And when we're neutral,

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we're resilient and adaptable, and we have eustress instead of distress.

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But when we're black and white,

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if we're highly infatuated with something we fear it's loss,

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if we're highly resentful to something, we fear it's gain,

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so we can't control it, we're like a monosynaptic reflex,

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responding without even thinking.

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But if we see both sides and we see it neutrally, and it's gray,

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not black or white, we are able to stop, reflect and think.

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And that allows us to empower our life,

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because now the voice and the vision on the inside is louder than the opinions

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on the outside. The world on the inside, intrinsically is driving you.

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People that are driven intrinsically and spontaneously inspired, achieve more.

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They break through limitations in their life. You know,

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I've been teaching things about Breakthrough,

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in my Breakthrough Experience about values and the values,

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you have a hierarchy of values, and whatever's highest on your value,

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which is an intrinsic value, which is one that inspired from within,

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this is where you, whenever you're living in the highest value,

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your executive center gets blood glucose and oxygen and it starts to have more

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resilience, adaptability, it expands your awareness,

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you have a broader perspective, you don't react, you act,

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and you're more inspired by your life, and you feel more in a sense free,

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cuz there's all these options you have and you can make the decision

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accordingly. But when you're down and you're living in lower values,

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things that are lower in priority and not living by what's most meaningful to

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you, you're going into your amygdala, you're going into a reactive mode,

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you're like a reflex and you're now vulnerable and very volatile in this

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state. Now, any area of your life, as Warren Buffett says,

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until you can manage your emotions, don't expect to manage money.

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Robert Green says, until you can manage emotions, don't expect to be a leader.

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And in business, until you can manage your emotions, don't expect to be a great,

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you know, manager of people. And in relationships,

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highly volatile emotions usually cause all kinds of craziness in the

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relationship. So an individual that's in systems 2 thinking,

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which is maybe a little bit more slower processing,

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but more diverse in the response and is able to proact and love and

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appreciate,

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is way more profoundly empowered compared to an individual that's just an

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automaton reacting to the external environment like a reflex.

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So anytime you have a balanced mind, you go into the executive center.

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Anytime you have an imbalanced mind,

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you automatically go into the reacting center.

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You think before you react when it's balanced,

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you react before you think when it's imbalanced. Highly infatuated,

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you're going to react. Highly resentful, you're going to react.

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They're like a prey and predator,

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you seek it with impulse and avoid it with instinct.

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But when you're balanced and you see neither, neither positive nor negative,

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you don't have these impulses and instincts, you end up having intuition,

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which balances you, and inspiration,

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which takes you and do what you really love, you take the options.

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That's why I talk about the executive center and why it matters and why

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developing it is so important.

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So let's go through some of the constructs and some of the things you can do to

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empower your executive center. Number one,

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as I just mentioned is automatically living by priority.

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You have a hierarchy of values, set of priorities,

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things are most important to least important.

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Whenever you're doing most important things,

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you'll find out that you feel you're on top of the world.

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And whenever you're doing less important things,

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you feel the world's on top of you.

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We've all remembered a day where you had an agenda, you went after it,

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you knocked it out, you ticked off the boxes, you got everything done,

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you stayed on top of it through the day,

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at the end of the day you felt you were invigorated,

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it didn't feel distressful and you came home and you could handle the emotions

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or whatever happened that came home, anything that was thrown at you,

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you were adaptable to.

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You've always had a day where you felt like you got everything that outside

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world came upon you, opportunists, sales people, distractions,

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unexpected's, and you never got to priority,

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and you were a bear and you felt whoa, what a day? It was a futile day,

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a hell of a day,

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and you came home and now you're taking out your frustrations on the people you

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care about, that systems 2 thinking.

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So number one is to make sure that you live your life by priority.

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If you're not filling your day with the highest priority actions that inspire

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you, your day is gonna fill up with low priority distractions that don't.

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Low priority distractions are impulsive and instinctual reflexes,

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and high priority actions that are inspiring are actions that inspire you,

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that are directed by design and thought instead of just emotional reactions,

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reflexes. If all of a sudden you prioritize your life. Now, also,

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if you find out that if you eat sugar,

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sugar makes you go a little high and then it has low.

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It tends to accentuate low.

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Anytime you're doing something with concentrations of sugar,

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high concentrations, you're gonna end up with a high and low,

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which gonna put you down in your amygdala.

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Anytime you take any food substance to extreme, over eating, under eating,

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too much or too little of almost anything and not moderation and consistency and

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rhythm, you automatically create increasing volatility,

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which puts you in systems 1 thinking and makes you react.

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And then the external world runs your life.

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But if you moderate that and eat with a rhythm and consistent moderation,

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you tend to keep in the executive function and you tend to act and you tend to

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achieve more. You empower your life.

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The same thing with when it comes to overeating or undereating,

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if you overeat or undereat, fasting or binging,

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these cause the lower responses,

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cuz you get guilty when you overeat and then you end up having the licensing

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effect and you go through and create gyrations.

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But anytime you do something with a balanced ratio of perceptions with

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moderation, consistence and rhythm,

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you automatically help the executive center govern your life and you're in

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governance. And it's not the external world.

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It's not even your internal physiology.

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The external world that's going on is constantly perturbing you,

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it's how you ask the questions and how you perceive it that makes the

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difference. I have people in the Breakthrough Experience,

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my signature program which I teach around the world,

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regularly come in with these emotional vicissitudes,

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these infatuation resentments. And if they come in there,

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that means that they've stacked up associations with

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all these negatives and run a story and justified their story and dramatized the

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story about how bad this thing was, they're victim of history,

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and as a result of it,

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they're going into the primitive part of the brain and they're gonna react.

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If they see the person, I gotta avoid this person, I gotta get outta here.

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Or they have somebody, I've gotta have them, they're infatuated.

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Anytime you're extremely infatuate or resentful the world around you is going to

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run you. But if you ask a simple set of questions, okay,

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what exactly didi they do? Where have I done that? How does it benefit me,

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if I'm resenting it, how's it serving me? And balance out the perceptions.

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The more you balance out those perceptions,

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the more you go into the executive function, the more you're empowered again,

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the more you're in command and the more you're running your life.

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And so the quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you

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ask. If you ask questions that balance out the mind, you can move yourself

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to the executive center from this reacting center, the desire center,

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the amygdala they call it, and you can actually take command of your life.

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Now this occurs in all areas of your life.

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You're gonna meet people that you think are smarter than you or dumber than you,

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or more intelligent or less intelligent than you.

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When you put one on a pedestal, you'll minimize yourself.

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If you put them in the pit, you'll exaggerate yourself.

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Anytime you minimize or exaggerate yourself, you're not being yourself.

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And you're now in the primitive part of the brain reacting,

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cuz you're exaggerating,

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minimizing yourself instead of looking at the individual and realizing whatever

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you see in them is inside you and balancing the equation

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into authenticity instead of exaggerating or minimizing yourself.

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The moment you bring yourself into balance and bring yourself in balance with

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them, you realize they're just a human being with a set of values,

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you can appreciate them and you can act with them instead of react with

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avoiding or seek. And the same thing in business,

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you can meet people that are more business savvy or less business savvy or

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people that are doing things that support your values or challenge your values

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and employees, or customers that you admire or despise.

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Anytime you have these highly subjectively biased perceptions,

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the primitive one, desire center, the,

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the subcortical areas of the brain are gonna fire,

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you're going to react and then you're gonna possibly regret your life looking

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back at those reactions.

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But if all of a sudden you learn how to balance out your perceptions by asking

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quality questions, in the Breakthrough Experience I teach the Demartini Method,

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the Demartini Method is a series of questions that

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take you from this reacting state to this acting state,

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from this reflexive state to the reflective state,

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from the desiring amygdala into the executive prefrontal cortex.

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It's designed because what it does is it asks you methodically how to see things

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in a balanced way and asks you questions that your intuition is attempting to

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do to recenter yourself and repoise yourself instead of poison yourself.

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So it's never the world out there that's running your life,

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it's your perception of what's out there and you have command over your

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perceptions by becoming cognizant of the things you're unconscious of.

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And the quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you ask

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and the questions you ask can make you cognizant of the unconscious.

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So if you're infatuated with somebody and you're unconscious of the downsides,

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if you ask a question, okay, what specific trait, action,

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or inaction do I perceive this individual displaying or demonstrating that I

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admire? Great. Where do I have that behavior? Own it,

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100%. Then what's the downside of those behaviors?

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Which you don't typically do that you're are unconscious of.

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Bring the downsides and the benefits equal, then it's now balanced.

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You just went from systems 1, reacting to avoid or seek, to now,

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I love this individual, let's have a dialogue.

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They're unique individual with a set of values.

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If I learn to communicate in their values, I can get nice.

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If I learn to challenge their values, I can get mean,

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I have in a sense command over my reality. That's a powered state.

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In fact, every area of life, your spiritual quest, your intellectual quest,

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your business quest, your financial quest, your family love and intimacy quest,

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your social leadership quest, your physical health and wellbeing quest,

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all of them can be seen imbalanced or balanced.

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And if you react and have an imbalanced perspective,

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the Demartini Method is there to ask questions,

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which I teach in the Breakthrough Experience,

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how to ask the questions to re-center yourself and rebalance yourself to move

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from systems 1 to systems 2, from reflexes to reflective,

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and then you act not react.

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And then you're intrinsically driven by design and living by design instead of

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duty, reacting to the world around you.

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If you feel like the world is running your life,

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and you're basically a byproduct of the world around you,

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you're victim of history.

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But if you act and you realize that you can ask questions,

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balance out whatever's happening to you and change your actions.

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You have control of your perceptions, decisions and actions in life.

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You balance out your perceptions, you're in command of your actions.

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If you imbalance your perceptions, the world out there commands,

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causes reactions. It's not that.

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The people that don't know this and don't know how to empower their executive

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center and don't know how to ask the right questions to balance their mind,

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automatically feeling that the world's doing this to them.

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And they're blaming the world on the outside and giving credit to the world on

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the outside and it's all extrinsically driven with false attribution bias as the

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world outside and they feel that they're living in causality.

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In Buddhism they called it the karmic wheel,

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means that they're trapped in this world of reactions and causality that the

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world around them runs their life.

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And there's also a dharma wheel in the Buddhist construct where you are in

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command and you're living by a mission in life instead of these passionate

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reactions.

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And now you're on a mission and you're able to take whatever happens and balance

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it and use it to your greatest advantage. I'm interested in that.

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I'm interested in helping individuals master that.

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I'm firm believer that it's not what happens.

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William James said the greatest discovery of his generation is human beings can

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alter their lives by altering their perceptions and attitudes of mind.

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If I sit down and take something that you're highly resentful about,

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and I ask you the upsides to it and you go, well there are no upsides at first,

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it's all black, there's no white,

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and then I hold you accountable and look again and look again,

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you will discover that your subjective bias can be overridden by objective truth

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and allow you to see the upsides, cuz every event has two sides.

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And if you find the upsides and the upsides eventually equal the downsides,

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and once they're balanced, it's not an evil event, it's just an event.

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John Milton said, you can make a heaven out of a hell or a hell out of a heaven.

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It's based on the ratios of perceptions. And so when you learn how to do that,

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and you learn how to ask the questions by using the Demartini Method in the

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Breakthrough Experience,

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you can empower your life in any one of those seven areas.

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There's no reason why you can't take command of your perceptions and run your

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life.

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Instead of having other things outside you constantly cause you to react like a

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reflex, like that hammer on the knee. And many people are just reactive.

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I'm amazed.

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They just go well so and so said this to me and I'm angry about that and it

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makes me feel bad and they're basically blaming something on the outside

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and thinking that's the cause of their life. And instead of actually,

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or giving credit, this person's gonna save me,

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this individual if I believe this this is gonna save me from all my problems.

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This outside causality,

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this extrinsically run victim savior mentality model

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is basically a disempowered state compared to taking command of your

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perceptions,

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decisions and actions by balancing out your perceptions and then taking actions,

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not reactions. The moment we balance it out, we go to the forebrain.

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The moment we imbalance it and get highly subjectively biased the more we go

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into the primitive reactions. That was there designed for capturing prey,

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we need to accelerate with adrenaline to capture the prey and run after it and

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to avoid the predator. So in survival mode,

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we have to have those subjective biases for survival,

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but 99% of our life is not in survival mode.

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We're not gonna get eaten by a prey and we're not gonna starve.

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So we need to learn to master the executive function.

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That's why I teach that in the Breakthrough Experience.

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That's why teach the Demartini Method. That's why I talk about values.

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Cause unless you live by highest priorities,

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that area of the brain doesn't even get blood.

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The automatically the reactive part of the brain gets blood.

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Anytime you're living by highest priorities, the highest values,

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you wake up that executive center,

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you're less likely to be emotionally reacting.

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You're more resilient and adaptable.

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You're more likely to have a longer time horizon instead of immediate

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gratification.

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You're not likely to be overeating and consuming and addictive behaviors and

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things which are compensations for not living by high priorities and awakening

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your executive function.

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The executive function is the key to empowering your life.

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The executive function's the key to expanding your awareness and potential.

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Your executive function is the thing that makes you different from the animals.

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The executive function is the one that allows you to be inspired instead of

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de-spired and to be a master of destiny, not a victim of history.

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So that's why I took the time to go over that today,

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because I really believe that that can give an advantage.

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That's why I tell people to go to the Breakthrough Experience and learn the

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Demartini Method.

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It's a tool with a thousand applications on empowering all areas of your life.

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I believe that we're here to master our life.

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I really believe that we're here to empower our life.

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And any area of our life we don't empower, other people overpower us,

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because they're gonna run us.

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So if we don't take command and balance our perceptions and learn how to have

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moderation, consistency, and rhythm of perception,

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we're automatically gonna have the outside world run us.

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And nobody in the outside world is dedicated to our fulfillment in life.

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So if we're not balancing it and they're doing whatever helps them fulfill their

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values, we're gonna be a byproduct,

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an automaton reacting to all these misperceptions.

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So I'm a firm believer in taking the time to do it. That's why I basically said,

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if you don't empower yourself in intellectual, you'll

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If you don't empower yourself in business, you'll be told what to do.

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If you don't empower yourself in finances, you'll be told what you're worth.

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If you don't empower yourself in relationships,

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you'll be honey do things all over the yard and house.

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If you don't empower yourself socially,

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you'll be told propaganda and misinformation.

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If you don't empower yourself physically,

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you'll be told what drugs to take and organs to remove.

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And if you don't empower yourself spiritually,

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you'll be told some dogma that's maybe antiquated, that's irrational,

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that's anthropomorphic. But if you actually empower those areas,

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you take command and you end up in the driver's seat.

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And then you realize whatever is out there you have within you.

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Whatever's out there is neutral until you choose with your subjective bias to

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make it something of a heaven or hell.

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And having that position empowering your life is the path to power.

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And that's why I take the time to do that in the Breakthrough Experience.

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And I wanna share with you something right now,

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I have this new seminar called the Path to Power and it's increasing your mental

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mastery and for your greatest mastery in empowering your life.

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And the reason I mentioned that is because I want to take off where I just left

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right now and take over with this little presentation, this new seminar,

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I want to take what I just said and develop it and show you how to actually do

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that. And as a result of that,

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I'm gonna show you the mechanisms and the pathways and the questions,

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the quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you ask,

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how to ask questions to liberate yourself from those little reflexes that you

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don't have control over, to having in a sense actions that you're in command on.

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You can live by design or you can live by duty.

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You can live with foresight or you can live by hindsight.

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Hindsight is trial and error, it's most inefficient,

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but if you live by foresight and you learn how to master your perceptions,

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decisions and actions, you can take command of your life and live by design,

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not duty. Ontological, not deontological.

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And be inspired by your life spontaneously by living by what's valuable and be

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on top of the world instead of on the bottom of it,

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where the world's on top of you. So I just wanted to share that.

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Please take advantage of this Path to Power presentation. If you like,

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what I just said today, this is definitely gonna take it to the next level.

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And I'm absolutely certain you wanna learn the Demartini Method at the

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Breakthrough Experience. Find a way of getting that method. That is a,

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it's a gold mine.

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It's a tool with a thousand uses and you don't have to be a victim of your

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history anymore, you can be a master of your destiny.

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So this is my weekly webinar for this week.

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And I just wanted to share that insight. So just decide.

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Do you want to be a reflex or do you wanna be a reflective individual?

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Reflective awareness is the highest level you can have. It's the path to power.

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So I'll see you in this the path to power or at the Breakthrough Experience.

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Thank you for joining me today.

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Please take advantage of this upcoming webinar that I'll do.

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And until next week, I'll see you next week. Thank you.

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