Shownotes
Teinamarrie dreamed about competing in a Miss America pageant and making a difference in the world. She did both, and teaches us how to love all people—including those who have AIDS and are LGBTQ+. But love must always start within ourselves.
Episode Discussion Points
- Her experience with the Miss America Program
- How she learned to be elegant (for a tom girl)
- Why she kept going even when she didn’t win
- The question she asked the judges about wearing swimsuits and their answer
- The amazing lessons learned doing Miss America Personal Development Seminars
- Competing with yourself, and do better than you did before
- Walking and presenting yourself elegantly and with confidence
- Core values like integrity, family, truthfulness, loyalty
- Confidence comes from setting and reaching little goals
- The power of setting goals
- Interview skills
- Importance of being punctual
- The cool thing about learning skills is they stay with you the rest of your life, whereas wearing a crown is one and done.
- How her work in college with the Utah AIDS foundation led her to learn to love people unconditionally
- Why it is important to learn to love without conditions
- You can love people and not like them or agree with them.
- "The opposite of love is fear.”
- Why she and her husband started Transgender Education Advocates of Utah back in 2003
- Her journey to love people as they are and not judge.
- To overcome a fear of people you need to first learn about them, and second interact with them and not have them be a faceless person.
- Keys to loving people—especially those who have hurt you
- Love yourself
- Forgive yourself and others
- Don’t judge or assume--Remembering you don’t know others situation
- Put yourself in their shoes
- Be brave to shine and be your best self. "Don’t dim your sparkle."
Favorite Quotes
- “It wasn’t about that crown. It wasn’t about the title, it wasn’t about the scholarship money. It was about helping us become the absolute possible woman we could be.”
- One of Teinamarrie’s coaches taught her, “We are not in competition with everybody else. We are in competition with ourselves.”
- “There is only one me. No one can compete with me.”
- “Shift out of road rage and shift into love”
- "If I want a more loving, welcoming, compassionate world, it starts with me.
Resources Teinamarrie Recommends
- Any book or seminar by Tony Robbins
- 'The Game of Life and How to Play It' by Florence Scovel Shinn
- 'Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts'
Connect with Teinamarrie
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Transcription
You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/teinamarrie-scuderi-a-more-loving-world-starts-with-me
