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Why You Feel Safer Alone Than in a Relationship (Even When You Want Deep Connection)
Episode 3730th January 2026 • The Connection Podcast - Lauren Dry • Lauren Dry
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Have you ever noticed that you can be the most supportive, present friend in the world, but the second you’re alone with your partner, you feel like you're losing your footing?

You’re functioning. You’re handling the logistics. You’re a success everywhere else. But inside your marriage, it feels like the air has gone heavy and you’re back to feeling like the "common denominator" who just can't get it right.

If you’ve ever felt like you're failing at the one thing that should be simple, wondering why you can’t just find that same ease at home, this episode will land. It’s about understanding the "mask" that happens when your nervous system starts protecting you before your heart even has a chance to connect.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why high-achieving individuals so often feel more secure in their community than in their own living room. She explores how the very skills that make you successful in business can quietly work against your intimacy, and what it actually takes to trade that armour for a connection that feels like a soft landing.

You’ll hear about:

  1. Why you feel like a "great friend" to the world but "not okay" in your marriage.
  2. How being "highly capable" is often just a survival habit in a fancy suit.
  3. Why your body screams when you try to take off your armour and put down your sword.
  4. The difference between who you truly are and the patterns you’ve used to survive.
  5. Small, tender shifts to help closeness start to feel safe again.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

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