In this episode, I want to talk about how our emotions help us tune into what’s next for us. If you’re new to money mindset work, maybe you’ve read a couple books and decide to get your money straight, right? But, maybe you’re avoiding tax or bill collector calls or letting bills pile up unopened. Are you telling yourself you’re not good with money?  That right there can keep you from making progress.

Emotions like anger and jealousy can actually tell you what it is you really desire and what you need to work on next. Emotions are there to protect you and they’re not bad, but you can’t stay in that space. We all have some trauma that is shaping your worldview and emotions are an indicator of where you need support.

Pay attention to your emotions this week.  On social media, what posts are giving you joy and which posts are causing you to question yourself or feel a certain way?  That’s where the work is. 

Journal prompt for this episode: What emotions do I need to declutter? What is holding me back?

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Welcome.

Welcome.

Welcome.

Welcome to the Richmond where you podcast.

I'm your host, Melissa Alva.

Wow.

So time is just moving you guys, and I know this is your season to get

all the things that you desire today.

I really just wanted to talk to you.

About our emotions, you know, and how our emotions really help us

tune into what is next for us and the thing that we need to work on.

Right.

So, so many times when we think about money, especially folks who.

I haven't been known and money mindset.

You're new to this whole thing of like money mindset.

Like what's that you may have read a book, maybe you've, you know, you've

gone through Dave Ramsey's stuff.

You looked at Susie Orman, you know, every year.

You get in a year, middle of the year.

You're like, I'm going to get my money.

Right.

I'm going to get my money tight, but you have some behaviors, right?

You got some stuff going on.

Mail is coming in.

You ain't opening anything.

You don't even know what that looks like.

Bills are coming.

You have no idea what that looks like.

Same thing.

Like what your taxes have a debt collector or someone calls you.

You don't answer the phone.

You avoid that, but on social media, you may show up pretty amazing, right?

In your work.

You've probably just amazing.

And people love to have you around and everyone gravitates to you, but you have

this, this, the secret where you are just feeling like you're not good with.

And there are other people that are good with money, but you are not

that person they're good with money.

And sometimes your emotions get in the way of you literally

making progress in this area.

So I see a lot of folks, sometimes one of the things that they share

with me, like in my DMS, and my emails and even on calls is anger.

You feel angry and mad and even sometimes envious of other people who look like

they have their money story together or do have their money story together.

Right.

And you're seeing them going to trips, you're seeing them purchase

the things that you really desire or have the business that you really

desire, but you're feeling stuck.

I want you to know emotions, they're there to protect us.

They are also there to share with us and give us indicators of what our

next thing is that we need to work on.

So emotions are not bad.

Feeling envy is not bad.

What that does, or what that says is that that is something you actually desire.

Now, what we want to do is not stay in that space.

We definitely don't want to stay in this space of being envious or, or

even angry because something hasn't happened or maybe it did happen.

Maybe you did have the home.

Maybe you did have the business.

Maybe you did have the car, whatever the case, and you lost it because of life

circumstance, you know, that economy, loss of job lost of husband or spouse.

You know, for all my LBGTQ people out there, loss of self I've,

met people where they thought they were on one trajectory.

And then all of a sudden they just totally got burnt out with

the words that they were doing.

And so you're feeling like why hasn't it happened for me, you know?

And I also have women in my life who are multimillionaires and are free to leave

their job because again, the fear is.

I have this money saved up, but what if something happens?

So usually we have, you know, some trout hood trauma, some trauma that

happened in a relationship, some trauma that happened in the life circumstance

that now is shaping your world view.

And in that it is also now shaping how you live your life.

So.

Emotions are indicator as to where you need support and where you need help.

I want you to pay attention to your emotions this week.

Pay attention to how you feel when you go on social media, pay attention to

what posts give you joy and what posts cause you to either question yourself

or feel a certain way.

There is work to be done when you see that.

Even in everyday conversations with like a friend or a spouse or,

you know thoughts that come up or readings it's work to be there.

You're being triggered in certain areas because his work to be there,

I'm often sharing with my clients.

when we dig deep and we're doing money mindset work, we're breaking

through emotional barriers.

We're doing deep healing work as well.

It's not just one area.

Healing and different areas of your life allows for you to

have more flow in your money.

So again, one of my biggest prescriptions is less decluttered your emotions.

Let's declutter your emotions.

And it's one of my favorite exercises to do with my clients.

Let's look at an emotion that's coming up for you, and let's walk

back through that and see how it's affecting you and your money.

You know, so loneliness is an emotion and can definitely affect

how you show up in your money.

Feeling disappointed, like you're not getting what you desire or you never

get what you desire is an emotion and can show up how you spend money, how you

earn money, how you make money and how you show up in your business, you know.

Feeling shame, you know?

So if you feel shame or you feel unworthy, you tend to be a person

that may hide in your business.

So you're doing all the things to beautify the business on

the outside, but you literally.

Physically are not showing up.

Right?

You are showing up pretty on your website, but you're not showing up in public.

You're not showing up with your clients.

You're not showing up with your deliverables.

You're not showing up to ask for the sale, you know, at work you're not showing up.

You're you look good?

Girl, you look good.

I see you got that lip gloss on is popping.

Hair is done, but you haven't done a continuing ed class in years.

You have an Uplevel.

It's your yourself.

And.

In terms of your learning, you haven't, up-leveled your prices

in years, because again, you know, you really haven't fully showed up.

You've kind of done the minimal just to kind of keep going,

but yet you're powerful yet.

You're amazing.

And you're ready for an up level.

So a lot of times what I see when that happens is again, amazing person.

Amazing boss person, but needs to now decode these emotions and

do some healing work around it so we can get to the next level.

So that's it.

I want you guys to this week, get your journal out and let's ask the question.

What emotions do I need to declutter what is happening here?

That is holding me back, back from my money back from life

experiences, back from me living the life that I truly desire.

All right.

I love you guys.

Go out and have a rich and worthy life and I'll talk to you soon.