When spirituality meets mainstream media – you hear all kinds of weird, and bad, spiritual advice because everyone wants in on the action. 

There is so much to choose from, you can’t help but hear a blend of the good, the bad, and the ugly. Surely you have heard or read things to encourage you to “think positive” to get over your grief or sadness, or that you “brought on your illness yourself”, or to “fake it till you make it.” Like any good quote these have been taken out of context and twisted around so many times it is often hard to pull the helpful threads from the shaming ones. 

So many of these kitschy sayings do nothing but promote shame and embarrassment to the person seeking guidance, because really, how did you bring on an illness you’ve never even heard of before? And being told to “get over it” or “think positive” just makes you feel worse because you can’t and don’t know why. 

Please don’t take on this bad spiritual advice, if you could control all of life that easily, I’m sure you’d be out having the time of your life.

No, you are not to blame. 

In this episode I will talk about the many, many factors that go into our life experience. And while yes, we can be in charge of how we react to a situation and how we choose to proceed, how could we possibly be responsible for someone else’s actions? We’re not. You do not have to take responsibility for all the terrible things that have happened in your life, no one would ever come to a life of meaning and happiness if we had to take that on. 

In this episode you will learn:

• -How morphic fields and social consciousness play into our health and wellness 
• -The value of seeing the weeds in your garden or in other words, why we must recognize those emotions some people call bad like grief, sadness, disappointment.
• -This week’s personal, life-changing, spiritual connection exercise 

 I really hope to connect with you personally so please send me a message here or join me in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/connectednesswithrevkaren. And in the meantime, enjoy the show! 

Welcome to the Connectedness Podcast.

Just as you might have guessed, I talk about connection in this

podcast, our connection with everything in the world around us.

We're connected, whether we see it or not.

Whether it's your connection with your dog and your.

Or your connection with your God.

Also, I talk about things that are more abstract, like your connections with your

career or your land, your community, your family, your emotions, your body Life

is truly all about connections, and the sooner we recognize this, the sooner we

get to have an easier, more enjoyable.

I'm gonna talk about these connections through different lenses, but things

like synchronicities and coincidences, or everyday little bits of magic or

miracles that we tend to dismiss, it's important we pay attention to

all of this to help us, like I said, live and easier, more satisfying life.

So welcome to the show.

I'm your host, Reverend Care in Cleveland.

Hello and welcome back.

Today, I'm going to talk about some of the worst spiritual advice I've ever heard

when it comes to spirituality and mainstream You're going to hear all

kinds of weird and bad advice because everybody wants in on the action.

So people are going to just throw stuff at you.

And hope you purchase it,

there's so much to choose from you can't help, but hear a blend of

the good, the bad and the ugly.

Now surely you've heard and read things too.

Or encourage you to think positive to get over it.

To get over your grief or sadness that, you know, just think positive.

Or that you brought everything on yourself in your life, including this illness

or this bad event that just happened.

And then of course you need to fake it till you make it.

Like any good advice or good quotes in this world?

So many of these are taken out of context.

And we really need to learn how to pull the helpful threads

out from the shaming threads.

Because really so many of these things do nothing, but to

promote shame and embarrassment to the person seeking guidance.

But really.

When you hear someone tell you that you've brought on your own illness

or your mom brought on her illness.

How do you bring some of these things on when you've never

even heard about them before?

And being told to just get over it or think positive really doesn't help.

In fact, it makes you feel a little bit worse because you can't.

Just get over it.

And you don't know why you can't.

So these bits of quote unquote, helpful advice.

Our really.

More detrimental to our wellbeing than helpful.

So please don't take on the bad advice.

If you could control all of life that easily, I'm sure you would be having

the time of your life right now.

Right?

You are, you are not to blame for this.

If we had a hundred percent control over what everyone else did and

everything else in the world.

Wow.

What a party it would be.

We'd be having so much

So in this episode, I want to talk about the many factors that

go into our life experience.

And while yes, we can be in charge of how we react or respond to a

situation and how we choose to proceed.

We can't possibly be responsible for someone else's actions.

We're just not.

And if you could pray away someone else's bad behavior.

Could you imagine if someone else was praying?

About your behavior when that just make you mad.

If we could just, you know, manifest new behaviors in everyone out there.

So that they behaved exactly.

Like we think they should behave.

That would actually be really scary because that would mean others.

Could make you act the way they want you to behave.

And I'm pretty sure no one out there once that, because that.

Would be scary that.

Would not be fun because we all have a different idea of what is right.

We all have a different idea of what good behavior is or bad

behavior or appropriate behavior.

So there's really no good or bad.

It's just relative to

who's making the wish or who's being the judger.

Okay.

, let's look at this think positive and the fake it till you make it kind of thing.

Like I said, there's some validity behind it.

If you complain.

A lot.

Your brain and I've talked about some of these things in previous

episodes in different ways.

Our brain seeks to validate.

That which we're telling it.

So, if we are complaining about something, We are going to find

more things to complain about.

When the root of the advice is to think positive, it's not to

wash away any existing feelings.

You have it's to open yourself up to a greater possibility of more good things,

more positive things in your life.

But it's not about denying.

What your actual experiences.

We can never.

Get rid of our experience.

We can never.

Change the way someone else has behaved towards us.

So if we feel hurt, If we feel like we are.

Being.

Singled out for something or attacked.

We can't change what the other person is doing.

What we have control over is our response to

We can allow it to sink in and believe that we are not worthy,

that we Ugly that we are.

Stupid.

Whatever it is.

They're telling us.

Or we can choose to not believe it that doesn't change what they've done.

I'm not asking you to forget what they've done.

I'm not asking you to say it's okay.

What they've done.

But.

For our own sanity and our own mental wellbeing.

We need to believe that we're are not.

The bad things they say we are.

That we are good enough.

We are all good enough that we are all worthy.

That we are all beautiful.

Now their actions are not something we can control.

And we get to feel how we No matter why we feel how we feel.

We get to feel how we feel.

If we feel hurt.

If we feel.

Betrayed.

If we're offended, somehow we get to feel

But we also get to.

Open up.

To a new idea of life out there.

And there can be a lot of practices around events that other people have done.

Release practices.

Exercises on not taking things personally.

Don't just think positive and not acknowledge what's going on.

Because if you just try to think positive over something,

That's when you get in trouble for not acknowledging and trying to deal

with the core feelings about it.

Thinking positive comes after.

Feeling.

Acknowledging and releasing your current feelings.

Thinking positive before you do any of that.

Is only temporary.

And it might help you for a few minutes or a few days or a few weeks, but

it's not going to help you forever.

So that's one of the things I wanted to mention

now, how about the people that say something to the effect of what's

going on in your body is your fault.

You brought on your own illness.

There might be some truth rooted in it, deep, deep down, but always wondered,

how could I bring something on me?

When I've never even heard of it before.

There's all these diagnosis out there, all these different skin

conditions, all these weird things.

How could I possibly have brought that on myself?

When I knew nothing about it.

I certainly didn't dwell on it and think about it all the time and manifest it.

There is something larger at play and.

I occasionally talk about one of my favorite scientists, Rupert Sheldrick.

he talks about morphic fields.

And the whole theory of morphic fields is much bigger than

I'm going to explain right here.

I just want you to know that this is not all encompassing.

This is not a full explanation.

But this touches on it a little bit.

He proposes that.

Information comes into our developing body.

Which is developing all the time.

Through.

The chakra systems and that that's not new, that's not his, that's

not the morphic fields, but that the information that comes in.

Is sitting out in a field and by field, I mean an energetic field.

That belongs to.

A group that we belong to.

So it might be a familial group.

Our relatives, It's like a group consciousness.

So we might have a particular group.

Morphic field or consciousness.

In our family.

We might have one in the town we live in, we might have one.

In the culture we live in.

Or the religion.

Or any particular.

Groups.

That we believe define us.

Might have its own morphic field out there.

And it gives us information according to that, and that.

At some point.

People get the averages Of all the members of the group and it can shift and

change with generations with time with.

location.

It doesn't stay the same.

Because while we might be receiving information from this field,

We also have free will.

And we're allowed to make our own decisions about things.

We are also allowed to manifest conditions in our body.

If we choose to do that.

Which then puts that information out to the field and can affect.

Future.

Development.

For example.

People that live in a certain area.

Might be at higher risk for certain developmental disabilities.

Or cancers or illnesses.

And it might be because there's a nuclear reactor down the

street, but it also might be.

Because there used to be.

And generations later, even though we're not physically affected by it.

It's in this field.

And more people.

Are being developed from this field but it's in our field.

And so.

People are receiving the information and it may develop, or it may

One of his examples of understanding how this works is if we look at.

The cells of a finger.

And let me just backtrack for one minute.

Many of us know about the seven main chakras, but there's actually

hundreds of shockers all over our body.

Our body is receiving information from the outside world.

All over the body, not just the seven main chakras.

So if we take our fingertip.

And we slice off some cells.

And they look at the DNA and they look at the structure of the cells.

The genetic makeup of the cells of your finger.

Are the same.

As the genetic makeup as your nose and your knee and your toe.

what tells.

Your finger cells to grow into a finger.

And your nose to grow into a nose.

Because there's nothing.

In that actual cell.

That tells it where in the body it belongs and how it's supposed to develop.

And so that information is.

proposed to be coming in.

Through our chakras.

This is what a finger looks like in this, in this family, in this generation,

in this culture, in this location, this is what a toll looks like.

This is what a nose looks like.

This is what the skin looks

And that makes sense

So going back to the, you brought on your illness yourself.

Well, not necessarily, I don't think so.

there's a lot of things feeding our body information that we have no idea about.

There's also something that is called race consciousness.

And it's more or less a belief system.

But belief systems absolutely affect our body.

Think placebo.

Race consciousness.

Can.

Effect.

How our body develops and how it grows and, and what it succumbs to.

And as well as mentally, what we believe and.

That, what we feel is the absolute truth of us and what we feel is wrong

and You know, our values, our morals.

There's all these things that come through the race consciousness that.

Affect us that we also don't really pay attention to.

We don't necessarily know about.

So we have these, these contributors.

We can't be responsible for those.

But again, , we're only responsible for what we choose in this moment.

And how we move forward from this moment.

, we can be dealt a really raw deal.

In the physical world, in the intellectual world, in the familial world.

You know, we might get things that really suck.

But it's up to us to choose from here forward.

And a lot of things can make us feel.

Sad angry.

We might have grief, disappointment.

Disenchantment.

And it's important to recognize those, like I said earlier, You,

you have to see that because it's always going to be there.

If you don't see it and acknowledge it.

It's like the weeds in a garden.

. If the weeds are like these, these emotions that we don't like having.

Or the pains in our body that we don't like having.

And if we ignore the weeds and just tend to the flowers or the

vegetables or the fruits around it.

The weeds are still going to be

And they're going to take nourishment away from the other plants.

In fact, they might grow tall and take the sun away from the other plants.

There's a really good chance.

They're going to crowd out.

The other plants.

So the things that we are trying To nourish.

To grow.

Don't even have a chance.

Because there's all these little pieces of weeds in there.

There's all these little pieces of grief and disappointment.

And sadness.

need to look at him.

We need to know if they're there.

if we.

Pluck them out, which is not as easy as pulling a weed.

I understand But how do we pluck them out?

It has to do with sometimes it's mental therapy.

Sometimes.

It's forgiveness and release work.

I can't tell you necessarily how to change them.

Sometimes it's just time.

There's no fast track out of grief.

Sometimes it's just.

The time and the space to process.

And to deal And sometimes it's work.

Sometimes it's healing work sometimes.

It's therapy.

I can't tell you the way you need to get out of it in this episode.

But if you don't acknowledge them and deal with them, they're always going to

be there and they might die back a little

But they're going to grow up again.

They're going to flare up again when you lease, like it.

Here's your, your connection exercise for the week?

Look for the weeds.

It sucks.

I'm not going to say it's easy.

But what are the things you're not acknowledging?

What are the things you're trying to hide from?

Physical mental.

Spiritually.

What are the things you're trying to hide from?

Acknowledge them.

awareness is the first step to healing something.

Become aware of them.

Acknowledge them.

And then.

A way forward.

Will reveal itself And once you acknowledge them.

And begin the process of healing them.

They don't have to be a hundred percent healed, but then you can start to open

up to the better ideas for your own life.

That's all for today.

. Bye bye.

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