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The ancient Greeks said that if you see more similarities than differences,

you have infatuation. If you see more differences than similarities,

you have resentment. If you see a balance of similarities and differences,

you have love.

In order to discuss relationships, in order to have a relationship,

you have to relate between yourself and somebody else.

So what exactly are these two people that are having this dynamic?

And one thing I've learned in the last 50 years of my research is that human

beings live moment by moment by a set

of priorities, a set of values in their life that are unique, like fingerprints,

specific to them. And no two people have the same vantage points,

same voids, and therefore same values, that drive their life.

And in this set of values or hierarchy of values that are unique to that

individual, whatever's highest on the value list,

they are spontaneously inspired to do.

Their ontological identity revolves around it. So if you ask them who are they,

they will say whatever's highest on their value. If they

have a high value on raising children, they'll call themselves a mother.

If they have a high value on raising a business or building a business,

they'll call themselves an entrepreneur, for instance.

Their teleological purpose is targeted in their highest value,

and their epistemological area of knowledge is maximized

So who they are and what they know, what iss inspiring to them,

what they spontaneously want to do, is all revolving around that highest value.

So when you're in a relationship with them, you have two people,

each with a higher values, each communicating, hopefully,

in each other's values, or the relationship starts breaking down.

Think of it as a customer. If you have a customer,

they have a certain set of needs, values, and if you provide a product,

service or idea that matches those dominant buying values,

dominant buying motives, the thing that they want the most,

they're engaged and they participate and want to have a fair exchange with you.

And they'll keep doing it as long as you keep providing something for them,

that's a fair exchange. Well relationships are no different,

relationship with customers, relationship with employees,

relationship with people, relationship with closest loved ones,

spouses. Believe it or not, it's a consumer game. ,

people are wanting to get something for something. You know,

I've interviewed people in my signature program, the Breakthrough Experience,

and I found that when you actually look at what men and women are looking for in

relationship, they're looking for somebody that's, you know, fit, attractive,

they're looking for somebody that's intelligent,

they're looking for somebody that's ambitious,

they're looking for somebody that's got resources,

or at least as many resources they do.

They're looking for somebody that really wants to be with them, that really,

you know, has affection for them,

they're looking for somebody that's got social savvy and can connect with the

people that are important to them in their lives.

They are looking for somebody that's actually inspired

mission in life. And that's attractive. And I've asked thousands of people,

hundreds of thousands of people about how many of you are looking for that?

And they're all put their hands up.

They're wanting to fulfill the seven areas of their life to the maximum,

and they're trying to filter out of the options that they have in a relationship

to get the best package they can,

to get the most advantage to fulfilling those areas as possible.

So the more in line and congruent you are with what you value most,

the more you empower those areas.

And the more you ask how is mastering those areas helping you fulfill what's

most meaningful, the more success you are at doing that,

the more achieving you are in those areas,

and the more magnetic you are in attracting relationships and keeping them.

And I've seen people that have been in relationships and when all of a sudden

their fitness is going down, their, you know, their intelligence is dropping,

their ambitions are dropping, their resources are dropping,

their affection is dropping, their social connections are dropping,

their inspiration is dropping,

sometimes the partner they're with is starting to lose inspiration to be

with them. So we really have sort of a responsibility our whole life,

particularly if we get in a long-term relationship,

to keep empowered in those areas as much as possible,

which is my job in educating,

trying to give people the most advantage in those areas.

It's one of the reasons I teach the Breakthrough

do.

Now because we're in a relationship with someone and

they're trying to fulfill what's most important to them in the seven areas of

their life, and you're trying to do the same,

you want the best bang for the buck, you want the best package you can get,

and you want to constantly surround yourself with people that you believe give

you the most advantage over disadvantage in any moment in time.

So you're literally hanging out with people that are giving you advantages in

each of those areas and they are too, the person you're in relationship with.

And if you don't provide that, they go somewhere else. .

I say anything you're not willing to, you know, offer your mate,

you got to be willing to delegate, somebody else is going to provide it.

Any area of your life you're not empowered in,

people are going to overpower you. You know,

I had a gentleman that was upset because a woman walked off with another guy.

They were just dating, but she went off with another guy and I said,

what are you offering her?

And when he really looked at it compared to the other guy,

the guy was offering more in her eyes,

and he wasn't really providing in the seven areas what she was looking for.

And she has a right to go and select out of the thing, the best package she can.

I think all animals and, you know, are trying to get the best package they can.

I was in Antarctica and I was looking at the beautiful penguins,

and I was watching penguins,

female penguins were actually selecting the males and the males were trying to

show off for the females and they were trying to get the best package and

whoever had the male penguins with the biggest pile of rocks,

the hottest looking penguins were attracted to .

It's not much difference in humans. But

in relationship,

there are three things that I found that really help in increasing

the probability of having a sustainable relationship,

if that's what you're interested in.

And I'm not going to say it has to be that way. I've met my,

I had grandparents that lived, you know, I think 80 years together.

They died at one hundred and 101 I believe. And they were in their 20,

I think when they first got together.

And they know they had freaking 80 year marriage relationship.

I thought, that's amazing. But they had kind of an average life. It wasn't, wow,

it wasn't super exciting. It was,

and I don't think there was some sort of afterlife points that they were getting

because they stayed together or whatever. It's they had obviously vows together.

They were Italian tradition and they stayed together and that's how they were.

But I've also met a woman who was 94 years old that had

just climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, had been married five times.

Each one she escalated her income off of. She did well,

she said to me when she told me, she said,

all my husband's died having sex with her. And I thought, well,

that's an interesting one. I wasn't going to be interested in that topic. But,

but in the process of doing it, I thought, well, here's a lady alive,

she's got 30 years worth of goals,

she's 94 years old and she's traveling the world. I said, well,

here's a lady that's just as fulfilled as my grandparents were.

So I don't want to put a box about how it's supposed to be. You know,

there's all kinds of moral hypocrisies about how you are to be.

And of course around the world, there's no universal moralities around that.

It changes through time and space and the predictabilities and you know,

the probabilities of each of these are different each, each decade and century.

So I don't want to say that this is how it has to be and if you're not that way,

there's some flaw in you or that you've made a mistake or you're failing in a

relationship, I find that just unproductive. The question is,

is are you mastering the art of communicating what

other people want?

Are you mastering the art of reflective awareness and seeing that what you see

in them is inside you so you're less judgmental?

People want to be loved and appreciated for who they are,

and who they are is an expression of what they value most.

And they're not wrong with what they value, because that varies.

And you'll see a whole spectrum of people out there in the world with all the

different value systems out there.

So you're not right and they're not wrong and you're not wrong and they're not

right. They're just different.

And sometimes similarities will overlap and sometimes quite different. You know,

if you think you're going to find somebody that's exactly like you,

you'll have the twilight zone and you'll want to probably end their lives within

a short period of time. You know, I always say that you're looking in,

you're looking for a relationship,

you're looking for somebody that's going to have both support and challenge.

The ancient Greeks said that if you see more similarities than differences,

you have infatuation. If you see more differences than similarities,

you have resentment. If you see a balance of similarities and differences,

you have love. And I think that that's probably reality.

No two people have the same set of values.

No two people are going to see exactly eye to eye.

And you're going to have things that you get along with and things that are

supportive and other things that are challenging.

Agreements and disagreements and slugs and hugs are parts of life,

or hugs and slugs are parts of life. So I think that that's realistic.

If you have a fantasy, you're supposed to get support without challenge,

or positive without negative, or nice without mean, or kind without cruel,

or generous without stingy, or only one-sided,

or you're expecting them to live only in your values and not their own,

or you're expecting you to be one-sided or you live in their values,

not your own, that's another delusion that you'll probably face.

But when you understand that you're there to communicate what you value in terms

of what they value, not making yours or theirs right or wrong,

but appreciating how theirs serves you and you serve them,

now you have the potential for having a sustainable relationship.

Just like if you were, if you were having a customer.

So there are three little steps,

little action steps you can do that can assist you on a relationship,

if you want a long-term relationship, if you want that, or if you don't,

, I'm not attached, I'm not saying it has to be that way.

I think it's simpler that way, it has less complexities.

But I'm not saying that's the way it has to be.

I don't want to put a rigid moral construct on that

and then think, well somehow, you know,

why it's not happening for me and what's wrong with me and all that stuff.

I think that's ridiculous.

But here's something that I do believe that will help.

On my website, drdemartini.com, there is a complimentary,

simple, private Value Determination process.

I would encourage you to go through that and it asks you 13 questions.

I would encourage you to go through that and ask yourself that and do it again

today and do it a week from now and do it a month from now and do it three

months from now and every three months, do it again.

And keep the ones you have and document what it is that you have on there.

The first time you do the exercise, you'll have to resist

the tendency to want to lie to yourself. You're going to want to say,

you know, what your values are, what you think they are,

instead of what they actually are. Your life demonstrates what you value,

and it's wise to actually be honest about what your answers are on these

questions.

These questions are 13 questions that are value determinants that give a more

objective view. And if you answer them as instructed,

you'll get a really amazing summary of what's important to you and what you're

really committed to and what your purpose is and what your identity is and what

you're most skilled at, which is very valuable in life.

Because you want to be loved for that.

And knowing what that is is the first step.

If you don't even know what's important to you you'll be clouded in what your

needs are and it'll be hard to communicate that effectively to somebody else.

But take the time to go to the Value Determination process on my website,

drdemartini.com. Determine your values, look that up,

and do that and do it again a week, do it a month, do it every three months,

and keep records of them and look at the evolution of what you've written and

look at how you've been integral in the answers until you can see that your life

is really committed to that. You know, my highest value is teaching,

I do it every freaking day.

I've been doing it 50 years and I'm inspired to do that. I love doing that.

It's something I do every single day.

I can't wait to get up in the morning and do that.

But everybody has something different.

And some people are dedicated to business and some to learning and some to

spirituality, whatever that's meaning to them,

some to their family and their children.

And you're not right or wrong for whatever that is.

And if you think you're right and you project that onto other people,

you're going to end up getting resistance,

or you're going to end up having in-group outgroup biases,

which is going to hinder relationship dynamics.

But if you first identify what your values are and don't perceive them as good

or bad or right or wrong or the way it should be or ought to be or supposed to

be or got to be or have to be or must or need to be,

just identify what they are, they are what they are.

And don't judge it relative to somebody else. Just identify what it is,

objectively. That's the first step.

I think that's a very powerful key because that way you get to know you.

You want to be loved for who you are. Well that's going to be who you are.

What's top of those values.

Second aspect of that first step is whoever you're in relationship with,

whoever your closest, you know, compadres are in your inner circle of people,

your spouse, your children, your colleagues that are key colleagues,

closest family, extended family members or whatever,

I would take the time to inspire them and encourage them to do the same.

And just tell them that, you know,

I would like to have a greater relationship with you

that can help us respect each other and have dialogue instead of alternating

monologues where I'm speaking, you're not listening, you're speaking,

I'm not listening, but a dialogue,

by taking the time to go through the Value Determination process.

It takes 30 minutes of your time and that way I know what you're up to,

and I can see as a result of that,

how to more effectively communicate in terms of what you value, and respect it.

So taking the time to do that and do that methodically, chronologically,

or one at a time, prioritization of who it is most important,

down to less most important, et cetera.

And go through and do the Value Determination. That's step number one.

Step number two is one by one, whoever those key inner circle people are,

spouse starting, identify this question,

how specifically is what they're dedicated to,

their top three highest values,

how specifically is it helping you fulfill what you're dedicated to your top

three highest values? And how specifically what you're dedicated to,

your top three values, helping them fulfill what they're dedicated to,

their top three values. In other words, whatever their identity revolves around,

how's it helping you fulfill what your identity revolves around?

If you answer that question, just know the more you answer that question,

until you get a tear of gratitude in your eyes for who they are,

and how they serve you, the more you do that, I guarantee you, the more respect,

the more love,

the more effective communication you will have between you and this individual.

See when you feel you're communicating with them and you're helping them get

what they want,

you're helping you get what you want and there's a nice sustainable fair

exchange in relationship, then this thing lasts.

And you feel inspired to be with them. You want to be around them.

And you're both helping each other fulfill what you feel is your missions in

life. And that's very empowering.

But if you are righteously think their values are wrong,

you're going to project your values on them, carelessly,

and try to get them to live in your values, which is futile.

Or if you're minimizing yourself and infatuate with them and you're injecting

their values and trying to live in their values,

you're going to try to live in values you can't live in. That'll be futile.

Both of those are frustrating and futile,

and the normal dialogue then goes into gestural communication and a frustration

and eventually aggression,

because you don't know how to communicate effectively.

You're not getting what you want from them. And then the breakdown occurs.

But by asking the question,

because the quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions ask,

if you ask questions on how specifically what they value help you fulfill what

you value, and vice versa. And don't stop until you get enough answers.

I've had it where I've put down a hundred answers between those two

people's top three values.

The top three values that you determined from the Value Determination,

whatever those are,

how specifically those top three values helping you fulfill your top three

values? Your top one to the top one, the top one to the second one,

the second to the top one, the second to the second, the second to the third,

the third, the third. Just go through and link them all.

The more links you have,

the more you're going to see that whatever they're dedicated is helping you

fulfill what you want in life. And you're going to want to be around them,

and you're going to love and appreciate them.

And love and appreciation's where it's at.

And one of the things I teach in the Breakthrough Experience is this method.

How to determine your values, how to link values,

how to apply the linking of things you dislike in them and how to see how they

serve you,

and the things that you're infatuated with and how and bring them back down,

see the downsides of that so you can basically bring yourself into a balanced

state with them. I teach you how to do that in the Breakthrough Experience.

That's why I want people to come to Breakthrough because

their life on just relationships alone, let alone the other areas of their life,

is enhanced by knowing that knowledge. It's very unique knowledge.

It's not taught anywhere else, that way.

And so taking the time to link the values of the people you care about

is step number two. That is a goldmine when it comes to relationship.

Step number three, and this is what I call the Demartini Method.

The Demartini Method is a very,

very important series of questions to ask yourself to have reflective awareness,

to be able to see the hidden order and the apparent chaos in the dynamics of any

relationship. And allows you to realize that whatever you judge in them,

you've got in you. When you point your finger out, you got three back.

Because many times we self righteously think that they've done something that's

betraying us or something. Nobody really betrays us.

We betray ourselves by expecting them to live in our values, not their own.

And then we have this fantasy that we hold onto,

this unrealistic expectation that they're supposed to be nice, never mean, kind,

never cruel, or supposed to live in our values, or supposed to read our minds,

or supposed to live in this fantasy social value system that we've been

indoctrinated by. But the real truth is they live according to their own values.

The only thing they're really committed to fulfill is that,

and that's not narcissistic, that's not immature, that's human behavior.

They've been labeling that in some psychology circles,

The fact is that human beings are dedicated to the fulfillment of what their

values are and their fitness is maximum when they have a balance of support and

challenge in the pursuit of that.

So if you ask the question in the Demartini Method, what specific trait,

action or inaction do I perceive this individual that I'm in a

relationship with,

displaying or demonstrating that I admire most and I despise most?

Why?

Because if you admire them and put them on a pedestal and minimize yourself,

you're going to be sacrificing altruistic to be in a relationship and build up

gradual resentment until you get things back into balance.

And if you resent somebody and you project your values onto them,

you're going to alienate them until they get resentful,

until they end up going distant and then you get humbled and put back in

balance.

But the moment you actually find out what it is that you infatuate and resent,

and then go and ask the next question; go to a moment, John, yourself,

where and when do you display

that same specific trait, action,

inaction that you perceive in them, that you admired and despised in them?

Go find out where you've done that.

The moment you reflect and introspect and discover that whatever you resented

about them is something that's reminding you of something you feel ashamed about

in your past,

and they're reminding it to you and that's why you're avoiding them,

wanting to avoid them,

because they're reminding you of what you're not loving in you.

And they're actually an opportunity to teach you that and to grow in your own

life by being in that relationship with them so you can be more authentic and

appreciate the part you're denying and negating.

And the same thing when you admire somebody,

it's because it's reminding you of something you have

admit you have,

that you admire in yourself and being around them is fun because it's reminding

you of what you like about yourself, your addiction to your own pride.

But if you actually go in there and identify where you've done all the things

you see in them, and level the playing field and realize that the seer,

the seeing and the seen are the same,

your relationship communication goes skyrocketing. Because now you realize,

who am I to judge them? And you respect them.

You can't respect somebody when you're judging looking down or up.

You can put them on pedestals, or you can put them in pits,

but you won't put them in your heart until you balance that equation.

So in the Breakthrough Experience,

I teach you the Demartini Method on how to identify what you're judging in them,

which blocks the communication,

and how to level the playing field and see that what you see in them is inside

you. So you can reflect.

True intimacy is when you own everything you see in them.

If you're denying,

if too proud or too humble to admit what you see in them inside you,

there's no intimacy. You've got a block,

you've got disowned parts and you're looking down or up at them instead of

looking across at them, heart to heart and eye to eye,

the windows of the soul can't occur because you're

you have these infatuation and resentments, or trust yourself. Now,

when you're looking down at the individual,

you're thinking there's better options out there. When you're looking up,

you don't want them to be with better options. You're more jealous. So you,

when you level the playing field, you have a bantering,

a respectful banter that goes on where you can keep each other in check.

See when you're looking down and resentful to them,

you're afraid to say too many nice things because you don't want to mislead them

because you're thinking of options. When you're infatuated with them,

you don't want to say things negative to them because you don't want them to

have options and leave you.

So you can't be authentic unless you have that level playing field.

So that's why in the Breakthrough Experience,

I spend a whole afternoon and evening showing people how to master the

communication and how to master loving somebody and having intimacy.

It's a gold mine when you learn that and you experience it and you have tears of

gratitude for the individual for reflection.

Then I go in there and I ask the question, all right, John,

go to a moment where and when you perceive this individual that you're

infatuated or resentful about,

go to a moment when you perceive them doing these behaviors that you infatuate

or resent, and now at that moment when they're doing the trait you admire,

what's the downside? And at the trait you despise, what's the upside?

Because every trait is neutral until somebody with a subjective bias and wounds

of the past project what they perceive onto people.

The real truth is if any of those behaviors weren't

human beings, it would've gone extinct. But all those behaviors are there,

they serve a purpose. And if you're seeing them negative,

you're not seeing the upsides. If you're seeing them positive,

you're not seeing the downsides. There's two sides to it.

So I hold you accountable by doing the Demartini Method to balance that

equation. Once you do,

you realize that whatever they've done is neither positive nor negative,

it's just an event. And now the question is, is, you've done that event,

how is it served when they've done it to you?

How is what they're doing serving you?

Because they're living according to their values and making decisions according

to their values,

if you can't appreciate what they're doing according to their values,

you're not going to be able to love them.

You're going to be trying to fix them and hold onto a fantasy of who they're

supposed to be and try to get them to be that and punish them if they don't do

that. But if you go and do that exercise, it'll level the playing playing field,

you get to appreciate them for who they are, which is what they want.

And when you appreciate them for who they are,

they kind of turn into who you love. The next question is,

go to a moment where you've displayed those traits and whoever you've displayed

those traits to, find out how it's a drawback to them,

iIf you're proud of the trait, or if you're shamed of the trait,

how is it a benefit to them? And clear out the pride and shame,

which is underlying the projected judgments you have on people.

Once you do that, man, you just liberated yourself, lighten yourself up,

have now self-governance,

live from the executive function in the forebrain instead of the amygdala

emotionally reacting,

where you're living in a subjective bias of avoiding pain and seeking pleasure

with unrealistic expectations on your relationship.

And you get to now go on a path of love with somebody.

Now if you go one step further and ask the question,

whatever I perceive in them, where do they do the opposite?

So you break the labels that you put on people.

I've seen sometimes when people are going through a divorce,

their lawyers and their psychologists, is misleading them into thinking,

well that's a narcissist. So common. You married to them for 20 years,

all of a sudden they're a narcissist even though you've been with them for 20

years? No,

anytime you challenge somebody they tend to get puffed up and they tend

defensive with the sympathetic nervous system.

They tend to want to get what they want and put demands on you.

They look more narcissistic. That's not who they are as a whole human being.

That's just a moment while you're interacting with

values. If you support their values,

they become altruistic and sacrifice for you.

Challenge their values they become narcissistic and want to sacrifice you for

them. But if you actually love them and level the playing field,

those labels go away. So the next question is,

is ask them where do they do the opposite behavior to break the assumption that

these labels are true? Because if you label people and box things up,

you're going to compare them to other people with those labels and you're going

to have your wounds or your fantasies, your phobias,

your philias run your relationship instead of your love.

And the next question is go to a moment where and when you perceive this

individual displaying the trait, action or inaction that you admire or despise,

and in that moment identify where it was and when it was and what's the content

and the context and who they're doing it to, you in most cases,

and then find out who's balancing it.

Because every perception you have is always a pair of opposites.

They're contrast. You can't go into a room that's pure white and see anything,

it has to have black and white contrast to see.

If you had perfect sounds on both sides, the same distance, the same decibels,

you'd have binaural fusion,

you wouldn't be able to hear anything and know where things are located.

So you have to have a contrast to perceive. So at the moment of perception,

the contrast is there and in this question it forces you to wake up and become

conscious of what you're unconscious of to see the opposite that was there.

Because you don't get one sided events, you think you do,

you mislabel your events in life as traumatic or ecstatic because of it,

but in fact there's nothing but really a pair of opposites, synchronously,

simultaneously, you know,

a synthesis of these opposites which is actually experience of love.

When you actually ask the questions in the Demartini Method and bring it back to

love, you have tears of gratitude for them for participating in a matrix of

opportunity of love for you. Now if you go the last question,

go at the very moment you did the behavior that I admired or despised,

if at that moment they had done exactly the opposite behavior,

the thing they admired, if they had, let's say generous, if they'd been stingy,

what'd been the benefit to you?

Because if you don't crack the nightmare that you're comparing them to,

you'll be running off and having an addiction to a fantasy about them.

And if you go to the moment they did something you resented at that moment,

if they had done the opposite, what would've been the drawback to you?

And crack the fantasy that you had about them.

As long as you have a fantasy or a nightmare about them,

you're going to keep projecting false past wounds and experiences and

fantasies onto them, which undermines the relationship.

So in the Breakthrough Experience,

when I teach people the Breakthrough Experience and I make them go through each

of these steps and experience it live and have them have a tear of gratitude at

each one of these steps, they have a revelation about, wow,

I ask people beforehand,

you had the story and a myth about who this individual was, when you're done,

all you have is appreciation and love for them, and yourself.

You cannot do this exercise, this third step,

without having deep love and appreciation for yourself and for the individuals

that you're doing the method on. I dare anybody to finish the method,

the Demartini Method, and have anything other than tears of gratitude,

love and appreciation. If you finish that and get that,

you will realize that no matter what you've been through,

no matter what anybody's done, there's a way of loving it.

Nothing you've been in experience in your mortal body cannot not be loved by

your immortal soul is the old saying.

So I believe that those three steps are gold and I took an extra

few minutes today to go over those because I want you to know that that's

available to you.

That's why I tell people every week when I do this webinar to go and come to the

Breakthrough Experience. They probably think I'm just selling another seminar.

Well sure that's true too, but I can't help people unless I'm with them.

I can do the presentation but it's not the same as actually being there live and

doing it and experiencing it.

You can intellectualize it or you can experience it.

That's why it's called the Breakthrough Experience.

I want people to actually get the method.

I want to learn how to know how to do their values.

I want to know them how to communicate in values and how to link values and then

how to apply the values in the Demartini Method so you can maximize your

awareness and potential in your relationship so you can have dialogue,

not alternating monologues and have an intimacy and have a sustainable fair

exchange in your relationship.

So I'm certain those three tools are helpful in relationship dynamics.

I've taken thousands of people in the Breakthrough Experience,

hundreds of thousands of people that have resented people deeply or infatuated

with people, the villains or the heroes they have in their life,

and shown them how to dissolve that, all those labels,

and allow them to have tears of gratitude for those people in their life.

And look in the mirror and realize that that's now the more love for themselves.

I ask people,

how many of you feel more love for this individual and love for themselves?

Every hand goes up. So if you'd like to have more authenticity,

you'd like to have your executive function run instead of your amygdala's

emotional center where you're judging things and you know out of governance

and you'd love to have more awareness of who they are and who you are and be

able to have communication with respect and more intimacy and more love,

and you want to be able to dissolve all the baggage you've accumulated on the

past in your relationship,

I can guarantee you can come to the program and I can show you how to do that.

And the more you put into it, the more you're going to get out of it.

But if you come and do that and willing to come to work,

it's not just a spectator game, it's an actual work where

you get to see and feel and experience what I'm talking about,

if you like to do that,

bring that back to your relationship to the close people in your life at work,

home, colleagues, customers, loved ones, spouses,

if you like to take that relationship to the next level,

then come to the Breakthrough Experience.

And come and listen to this what I just gave you again and again and again,

but come to the Breakthrough Experience because I'm going to give you 24 hours,

26 hours of my heart and soul there working with you.

And I can't wait to do that because I watched lives change and I love doing

that. Do it every weekend almost. And if you do that, I assure you're going to,

at the end of the Breakthrough I ask people,

how many of you learned something this weekend you would no way you would've

learned anywhere else on this planet in your life? Every hand goes up.

So if you want to go and learn something really cutting edge,

that's really amazing and it works, it's a science, you can,

if you follow it to the letter,

you'll get an exact response and have more love and appreciate for people that

you've got some buried burdens sitting in there and some baggage on there.

Let's let go of the baggage and drop it off the baggage claim department and

let's get on with sailing and taking off on the plane if you will,

and take your relationship to the next level.

So I just wanted to share with that, I ran a few minutes over this time,

but that was a pretty pertinent topic I think because everybody's in

relationship with somebody and including themselves. And by the way,

you can do the Demartini Method on yourself so you

baggage you've got too. So either way,

come to the Breakthrough Experience and I'll show you how to do that.

I'll show you how to apply these three principles and I am absolutely certain

it'll change the trajectory of your life and make a difference from now on in

your relationships. So come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience.

Thank you for joining me on this,

this little webinar and I look forward to seeing you next week.

Have a fantastic evening and look forward to seeing you very soon.