The Easy Day Life: Creating an Unshakable Mindset with Anthony Flores

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What is the difference between easy and hard?

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Well, according to my guest today, Anthony Flores, it is the

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stories that we tell ourselves.

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Anthony is a health and wellness coach who has a philosophy called the easy day life.

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And he's going to talk to us about that today.

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And what it really boils down to is this.

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We all go through challenges, but it's our perception of the

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challenges that makes the difference.

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And this is something that Anthony has personal experience with.

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As someone who was significantly overweight and lost that

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weight and has kept it off.

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As someone who is a cancer survivor.

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As someone who has built a business for himself, he understands the

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challenges that life can throw at us.

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But it's thanks to his easy day philosophy that Anthony has been

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able to overcome a lot of these challenges and become successful.

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So today we're going to talk a lot about Anthony's story and give you

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guys just a lot of insights, especially things that you can apply back to.

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So, you know, fitness, nutrition, sleep, mindset, all those different aspects

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of health is really where we're going to dive into this conversation today.

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And I know you're going to get tremendous value from it.

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Welcome to the Unshakable Habits podcast, where we help you to build

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the habits and routines that help build the life you want, so you can turn

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everyday actions into powerful wins for your health, mindset, relationships,

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faith, and professional growth.

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I am your host, Stephen Box.

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Allow me to introduce you to our guest today, Mr.

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Anthony Flores, Anthony.

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Welcome to unshakable habits.

Anthony Flores: 00:02:02

Uh, thank you so much, Stephen.

Anthony Flores: 00:02:03

It's just a truly a pleasure to be here.

Stephen Box: 00:02:07

Yeah, man.

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Excited to have you.

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I know you and I have similar backgrounds and in terms.

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our education, a lot of the same courses and certifications.

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And so we have some similarities.

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I'm going to be curious as we go through this conversation to see if maybe we

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differ a little bit and maybe gives people some different insights on some things.

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So it's always fun to dive in and just see how that turns out.

Anthony Flores: 00:02:29

Yeah, for sure.

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So let's start off, man, before we dive into your story.

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Cause you have a really interesting story that I think people are

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going to be interested in hearing.

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but you have this concept the easy day life.

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So, so talk to me, what does it mean to have the easy day life?

Anthony Flores: 00:02:49

Yeah, that's a great question.

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And you know, honestly, it's about someone that's willing to endure the things

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that people, most people don't want to.

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It's like the hard things that we tend to avoid in order to have

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that sustainable, happy, healthy lifestyle that we all dream of.

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But for some reason, we just can't.

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Get ourselves to do it, you know, it's hard at first, but at the end, it's easy.

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it turns out to be easy.

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The more we could consistently just follow through on the things that we

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see, we're going to be doing life.

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It's just a little bit easier or a lot easier in my case.

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Why do you think that is?

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why do people struggle so much?

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And why do we make things so much harder than they really need to be?

Anthony Flores: 00:03:35

Ultimately it's their mindset.

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It's the stories that we tell ourselves.

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And like environment plays a huge role, in that too.

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Like the people that we surround ourselves with, like the culture that

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we are a part of in our communities.

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Like for instance, where I live, it's a big, drinking town and it's really

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hard to, you know, separate yourself.

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Cause That's the standard, but in order for someone to make, or in order

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for someone to make those, healthy changes, you're looked at downcast.

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Like you're weird.

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Like why are you doing that?

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So it's almost like we want to please people, but at the same

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time, we're hurting ourselves.

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So it's the mindset of it.

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It's we don't want to, we convince ourselves to not to do it.

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Yeah, you bring up something that I find so interesting in our world

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today, where real food, right, meaning, you know, eats fresh vegetables, things

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that, you know, actually come from nature are considered weird and things that

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are like, technically, I call it fake food, you know, things that are like

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heavily processed and, you know, in a box and, Things like that are as far away

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as possible from their natural source.

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For some reason, people consider that real food.

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I'm eating real food, and you're eating weird food.

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I'm like, no, that's not,

Anthony Flores: 00:05:01

right.

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yeah, I totally what you're saying.

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Cause that's as you can relate, obviously, you know, we're looked at differently.

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And I'm like, why are you eating that?

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that's, or you're eating healthy.

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I'm like, aren't we supposed to do this?

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again, it's comes to the environment that we're brought up in, you know,

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oh, we're so accustomed to the highly processed foods and it's

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just the norm, but you stand out.

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In that way, are you're on, are you trying to lose weight or

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you're trying to go on a diet?

Anthony Flores: 00:05:26

no, I'm just trying to feel better here.

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function better.

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at the same time, man, you know, people get ripped down for having, you know,

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the simple meals that they eat regularly.

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Oh, again, you're going to have that.

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I'm like, it's simple for me, man.

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It's all good.

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don't worry about me.

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Yeah.

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the same thing happens with exercise and sleep and right.

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Just anything you do to take care of yourself.

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And I think that actually is one of the reasons why people do struggle with this

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and why they have those mindset issues is that there's oftentimes so much resistance

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when people do try to make the change from the people around them, right?

Anthony Flores: 00:06:07

Yes.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Yeah, like I had.

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Actually, it was the first interview that I published with the new season

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once we changed the direction of the show over to focus on men.

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And it was an episode where we were talking about Alcohol use and my

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guest, Sean Robinson, he talked about starting a dry January challenge

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and you know, his friends were like, okay, you know, whatever it's dry.

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January.

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It's a thing.

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Okay, cool.

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Whatever.

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And then even dry February was permissible.

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So they were like, okay, you know.

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It's, I don't know why you're still doing this, but whatever, right?

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By Marcia, dude, what are you doing?

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Why are you still doing this yourself?

Anthony Flores: 00:06:51

Absolutely.

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come on, just come back.

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And that's that's, you know, like people pull you, tried to pull you

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back in for no, I'm feeling good.

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I'm good right here.

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like coincidentally, but like we're on this subject, but it's a little

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bit different, like caffeine.

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Like I've been 52 days without it now.

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And people ask me like, how are you surviving?

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I don't know.

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I just.

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Do I feel like I just eat better.

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I have the right supplements.

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I get the right amount of sleep for first and foremost.

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And I, and my biggest inspiration statement to myself was I am the energy.

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I like, I drink coffee again.

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Absolutely.

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But, I'm not gonna abuse it like I once was, consider myself as a pothead,

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like drinking a pot of coffee, right?

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but yeah, it's like people just look at you weird if it's you're doing

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something totally out of the ordinary.

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No matter what.

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Yeah.

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And I mean, it's one of those things.

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I think people also get this idea of it has to be all or nothing, right?

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It's well, either I need a person who goes and works out every single day for an

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hour and I have to eat nothing but healthy meals and I have to be in bed by 7 PM or

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whatever nonsense they've come up with.

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Right.

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And it's It doesn't have to be all or nothing.

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It's like there, there's absolutely.

Anthony Flores: 00:08:06

Yeah.

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Absolutely.

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I get something that I preach to is a lot of people I tend to work

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with tend to be like perfectionists.

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I'm like, let's just be consistent.

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Just be consistent.

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That's all you got to do.

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If you have a off day, whatever, just pick it up very next moment, the

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next day, whatever the case may be.

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Next meal, whatever.

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Yeah.

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Simplicity and consistency will get you closer to your desires.

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So let's dive into your story real quick.

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So you've actually overcome obesity.

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that's something that you and I, something you and I share and

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you also have overcome cancer.

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So, so, so talk to me a little bit about those two situations.

Anthony Flores: 00:08:46

No.

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Yeah.

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Sure.

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Let's go on a journey.

Anthony Flores: 00:08:50

We long time ago.

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So I'm 38 now.

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It's when I was graduating high school.

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20 years ago.

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Wow.

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I went up a

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Sorry to have you all in the moment here.

Anthony Flores: 00:09:01

Yeah.

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Right, man.

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Wow.

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but anyways, you know, I, you know, I didn't have any motivation to do anything.

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After high school, I, but I felt like a complete loser though.

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Like I saw people, know, enrolling into college, going to college,

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enrolling into the like army or whatever military branch and getting

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married at that age too and here I was man, just sitting at home all alone.

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Barely graduated high school too.

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I like, I don't know what to do with my life.

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I just feel like a complete failure and I have no desire to do anything.

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Like why am I here on this planet for?

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And I just hid for a long time.

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It was maybe like finally like about a little, like almost two years.

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And finally something clicked in me.

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I went up a flight of stairs, 14 steps to be exact.

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And once I finally reached to the top, I realized I was this huge dude.

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Real, real fat dude, like my 350 pounds worth, and like it's, it

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was hard for me to breathe and that was like the climax of it, like the

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moment of, I need to do something.

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I, I cannot live this way anymore.

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And I was in that state of mind, I, who, who could possibly love me at

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this, body, this huge, large body, and I'm like, nobody except for my mom.

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and of course,

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let's pause here for just a

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yeah, of course.

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And I want to highlight something for anyone who's never been

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really overweight, when they hear somebody say something like, I suddenly

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realized that I was this big guy, right?

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They're like, how do

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weird to say, right?

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But As someone myself, you know, I'm only five foot seven.

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I was 245 at one point.

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I might have actually higher than that's just the highest I ever saw on the scale,

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but it may have been higher than that at some point, but I didn't realize it right.

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it's so weird.

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I can't.

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Explain it to people, but for some reason, because the weight gain is

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usually so gradual, unless you're really paying attention, unless

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you're doing measurements, unless you're on the scale all the time,

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unless you're doing all those things, you really just don't notice it.

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And I wanted to point this out because there's some guys out there right now.

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They're saying to themselves, Hey, you know, I'm not that bad off.

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And I just need to lose like 20 pounds, go step on the scale.

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You might need to lose more than 20 pounds and you might not even realize it.

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So I just wanted to pause and point that out because I know that is something that

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when people who have never experienced it here, they're like, how do you

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not know you're 350 pounds, right?

Anthony Flores: 00:11:52

You're right.

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Yeah.

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I mean, it's.

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It's, I don't know, it's, like you say, it's very hard to explain and then,

Anthony Flores: 00:11:58

of course, I'll, like I said, I was in that environment, that culture, it was.

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I blend it in with large people, so it's not like I, it was just a normal thing,

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you know, Oh, he's just getting bigger.

Anthony Flores: 00:12:09

that's just the way it is.

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But nobody has said anything to me.

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I wish someone did.

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I'm like, Hey, man, you're, are you okay?

Anthony Flores: 00:12:17

I was like, and that's like a, another thing too, people are too nice, but

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they could say something, you know, like in a nice way, Hey, I've noticed you.

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Put on some extra weight here.

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Or is everything all right?

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And you're like, sometimes that's all it takes for some people.

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To open up their eyes and be like, Wow, you know, and so

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it's Hey, you're a fat fuck.

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I'm like, I'm sorry.

Anthony Flores: 00:12:39

I don't know.

Anthony Flores: 00:12:40

Apologies for the swearing.

Anthony Flores: 00:12:42

but yeah, it's, yeah.

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but yeah, it's sometimes you just need to experience that moment.

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Like I did.

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But if, if you have friends, family members that you notice that are getting

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larger and larger over the course of time, do them a favor and ask them if they're

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okay, and they will really appreciate it.

Anthony Flores: 00:13:04

You know, if they, if you hurt their feelings.

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And so be it, whatever, they're gonna be okay.

Anthony Flores: 00:13:09

but it's, but anyways, being at that state though, I made a decision to

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never ever feel that way ever again.

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I never want to feel out of breath like the way I felt ashamed of myself.

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And I'm like, you know what?

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I'm done being this loser that I thought it was.

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so I was like, the next day I signed up to the YMCA.

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I'm like, all I knew at the time though, Stephen, was I got to put some

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sweat pads on, a hooded sweatshirt on and get moving and sweat.

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And I went off of Rocky movies, I went off of Men's Health magazines.

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I didn't have a plan or anything.

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I just needed to start.

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And I think that's a lot of people's reason to not even begin anything

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because, oh, I don't have a planner.

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Like all I gotta do is simply just start.

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But anyways, I went to the gym Hood sweatshirt.

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And when I walked into the gym, all I saw was a bunch of cardio machines,

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the treadmills were all being used.

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I'm like, I really don't want to run anyways.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:12

That's, that looks too hard.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:13

I saw the recumbent bike.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:15

Nah, that looks too easy.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:17

then I saw the arc trainer.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:19

I've never seen one of those things before.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:20

I'm like, Ooh, this looks pretty cool.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:22

stepped on one of those.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:24

Guess how long I was on there, Stephen.

Stephen Box: 00:14:26

about 30, 45

Anthony Flores: 00:14:28

Oh, cool.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:29

I mean, yeah, no, that's too slow.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:31

Okay.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:31

Too low.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:32

I mean, but give me some credit.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:34

I was on there for nine minutes, man.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:36

Nine minutes.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:38

Yeah.

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that puts you about eight and a half minutes further than I probably

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made it the first time I hopped on.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:45

but yeah, nine minutes.

Anthony Flores: 00:14:46

And, you know, it was like the hardest thing in the world for me at the time.

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I'm like, this sucks.

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Why do people do this?

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why do people like do this on purpose every single day?

Anthony Flores: 00:14:59

I'm out of here.

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I left right away after that.

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It was way too hard.

Anthony Flores: 00:15:04

And, but I had a, a good conversation with myself again.

Anthony Flores: 00:15:07

Hey, I used to be called Tony at the time.

Anthony Flores: 00:15:10

Hey, Tony, you said you want to be fit.

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You want to be healthy.

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We got to do these things now because or else you're just going to

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keep sitting in your room, playing video games, watching MTV and being

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alone for the rest of your life.

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Do you want that?

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Yes or no?

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no, of course not.

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I want to date.

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I want to date those, the beautiful girls that I've always

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imagined myself seeing, dating.

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I want to, run freely.

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I want to go up a flight of stairs with ease.

Anthony Flores: 00:15:41

You know, I had nephews and nieces at the time.

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They're little babies.

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I'm like, you know what?

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I want to be a good role model for these kids.

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I like, I want to play with them.

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I want to be on my, I want to be on all fours.

Anthony Flores: 00:15:53

without feeling like a chore and so anyways, I can't I went back and that's

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courageous like for anyone I just decides to go back that is you're one courageous

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individual to want to have to make that decision to go back Because you know what

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you are sick and tired way, and you can't stand seeing yourself in the mirror.

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I couldn't, no way.

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And that's why I always wore the sweatpants and,

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sweatshirts to hide myself.

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and plus that was like my superhero cape.

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I guess you could say just like to go in, you know, and just like zone

Anthony Flores: 00:16:28

into myself and just get after it.

Anthony Flores: 00:16:30

Like I really didn't talk to anybody the first couple of months

Anthony Flores: 00:16:33

when I was there because all I did was like, I was super shy for one

Anthony Flores: 00:16:38

and I just wanted to get it done.

Anthony Flores: 00:16:40

but yeah, over the course of the year, I lost over a hundred pounds

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and life dramatically changed for me.

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I'm like, wow.

Anthony Flores: 00:16:51

And people started noticing me.

Anthony Flores: 00:16:53

People wanted to hang out with me.

Anthony Flores: 00:16:55

I'm like, what is going on?

Anthony Flores: 00:16:56

It was all, it was surreal.

Anthony Flores: 00:16:59

I'm like, I imagine this stuff.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:01

All the time, like I want, I'm going to hang out with people.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:04

I'm going to go and do things and it's really happening to me.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:08

I'm like, wow, this is so cool.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:13

I'm like, and I'll never forget the first, woman that came up to me.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:17

He's Hey, you're pretty cute.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:18

I'm like, are you talking to me?

Anthony Flores: 00:17:19

I'm like, yeah, exactly.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:23

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:23

I'm like, you're looking around.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:24

I'm like, I thought you were talking to my friend.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:26

Maybe, you know.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:28

And I'm like, I felt like I made it, Stephen, this is so great.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:34

but I'm living my, like my best life.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:37

We didn't say that at the time, but I'm living my best

Anthony Flores: 00:17:39

life and nothing can stop me.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:42

I feel incredible.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:43

I have a pretty like safe and comfortable job.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:47

I have a beautiful girlfriend.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:48

But it's amazing.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:52

But then one day God decided to test me.

Anthony Flores: 00:17:57

The universe, higher power, whatever you want to call it.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:07

I felt a very sharp pain, my testicle, it was super solid like a golf ball and

Anthony Flores: 00:18:16

it was so hard to block, but I refused to go to the doctor because I'm a guy.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:22

And I just, I was like, I'll go away on my, it's no big deal.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:26

It's all just tough it out.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:28

No problem, but affected my work performance.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:31

I was working at a Lumbiart at the time and like my coworkers noticed me like,

Anthony Flores: 00:18:34

Hey, you something's wrong with you.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:38

You should really go check yourself out.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:40

Like my girlfriend at the time too, he's you really need to go see the doctor.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:44

And it was a Friday.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:47

I finally gave in.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:48

I'm like, fine, let's go.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:51

Why do I have to just get this over so people can just leave me alone.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:54

And the, I went to the walk in clinic.

Anthony Flores: 00:18:57

They're like, Hey, You need to go to the ER or something like we

Anthony Flores: 00:19:01

can't do anything for you here.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:02

I'm like, so whatever.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:03

So went to the ER, got some testing done and gave me some

Anthony Flores: 00:19:08

medication to numb the pain.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:11

And they said two things.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:13

There's two options here, Anthony.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:14

You either have a twisted testicle or you have testicular cancer.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:18

Yeah, right away.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:19

My brain went straight to twisted testicle.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:22

I'm like, I don't have cancer.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:24

I've been taking care of myself the last like couple, like the last two years now.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:29

No way.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:29

So I was just it never crossed my mind over the weekend.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:33

You know, like I was tremendous amount of pain again.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:37

And then Monday finally came around and I went to, the doctor's

Anthony Flores: 00:19:41

office to get my results back.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:46

I went there alone, too.

Anthony Flores: 00:19:52

Doctor walks in, barely introduces himself, and he

Anthony Flores: 00:19:58

went straight to the point.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:00

Anthony, you have testicular cancer.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:08

And oh my gosh, Stephen.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:15

I cried right away, instantly.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:18

I looked up at him and I just put my hands over my eyes and

Anthony Flores: 00:20:21

I'm like, cry like a baby.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:26

Oh, I just can't be.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:28

There's no way.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:31

And the very first thing I asked him was, Am I going to die?

Anthony Flores: 00:20:36

17 years ago, cancer was super scary.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:39

I mean, it still is.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:42

It still is.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:43

But I felt like a death sentence to me when he said that to me.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:46

I was alone too, which was like, the hardest part.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:49

I had no one to lean into.

Anthony Flores: 00:20:51

I was just by myself.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:01

But he assured me, you're not going to die, but we need to do something.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:07

We need to take action right now, Obama.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:09

I was in complete denial, no way.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:11

I don't have testicular cancer.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:16

And I went to go get a second opinion, cause that's what guys do, right?

Stephen Box: 00:21:21

We,

Anthony Flores: 00:21:22

and I,

Stephen Box: 00:21:22

don't want the first opinion, but then, you know,

Anthony Flores: 00:21:24

right.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:25

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:25

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:25

So,

Stephen Box: 00:21:26

know what we like.

Stephen Box: 00:21:27

We go,

Anthony Flores: 00:21:28

but yeah, I went to get a second opinion with, testicular

Anthony Flores: 00:21:31

cancer specialist and he said, Hey, you do indeed have testicular cancer.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:36

The only thing different was I would have put you in

Anthony Flores: 00:21:38

emergency, operation right away.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:41

I'm like, Oh, right.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:42

What?

Anthony Flores: 00:21:42

So that's why I just accepted it.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:44

I'm like, okay, whatever.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:46

do this.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:47

Let's get it done.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:48

Let's go.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:49

So I can get my life back then.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:50

Let's go.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:51

so I went back to, my, original doctor and let's make it happen.

Anthony Flores: 00:21:54

So that was hard, like going through the recovery part.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:02

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:02

Like I was back at that obesity state again, cause I was alone.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:08

I was stuck at home cause I was recovering at the time.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:12

I couldn't do anything.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:14

And I just started having all these thoughts again.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:19

I'm worthless, or I'm like, I'm not gonna, I don't deserve happiness because

Anthony Flores: 00:22:25

this is happening to me right now.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:29

I'm like, and then I started thinking, what's my girlfriend going to think

Anthony Flores: 00:22:36

of me if I have one last test.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:38

One less testicular.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:41

Does she think, is she going to think less of a man than me?

Anthony Flores: 00:22:46

And I like, like almost, I'm ashamed to tell people that I have cancer.

Anthony Flores: 00:22:53

Because whenever I shared the story that I had cancer, it's, I'll never forget

Anthony Flores: 00:22:58

people's faces when I shared it with them.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:00

It looked like it was like it would be the last time they saw me.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:04

And I hated those faces, but that drove me though at the same time like

Anthony Flores: 00:23:10

it's something ignited in me I'm like, I am NOT gonna let this define me.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:17

I'm coming back like I'm prepared like I already went through

Anthony Flores: 00:23:20

obesity I can do this too.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:24

I Like I am I had a champion myself I had to crown myself as a winner again I'm

Anthony Flores: 00:23:29

like, it's just this is just temporary.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:34

So let's go And like I went through, radiation treatment

Anthony Flores: 00:23:37

and that took a big toll on me.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:39

My, my energy levels are super low.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:42

Like I would days that I did have to work.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:46

I was just drained and like it was, I would have to get

Anthony Flores: 00:23:49

treatment every single day.

Anthony Flores: 00:23:52

And one thing is that one of the things that they, the team told me was, you

Anthony Flores: 00:23:57

should like, don't work out, just conserve your energy for treatments and

Anthony Flores: 00:24:02

all the other things you need to do.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:03

I'm like, no.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:06

Like in my mind, I'm like, no.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:07

Like back then, actually, they told you not to, but like today, they

Anthony Flores: 00:24:10

actually encourage you to get activity.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:13

And, I like to take credit for that.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:17

But, you know, like they started noticing, like they would weigh

Anthony Flores: 00:24:20

me under a single day to, for me, for my radiation treatment.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:23

They're like, they started seeing the fluctuation of me going down

Anthony Flores: 00:24:27

because I gained a bunch of weight because I was depressed in my fields.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:31

they're like, Anthony, are you like, are you, is there anything all right?

Anthony Flores: 00:24:34

Like you're losing weight quite a bit.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:36

I'm like, yeah, I'm going to the gym.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:39

They're like, but we're telling you not to.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:41

I'm like, I'm going to go.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:43

I'm not going to stay at home.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:45

I'm not going to stay at home because I know what that's like.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:48

I was like, I wasn't going to the gym to like for PRs or anything like that.

Anthony Flores: 00:24:54

I needed to be in that environment of people wanted to be healthy

Anthony Flores: 00:24:59

and, have this purpose to become something more than they are.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:05

I wanted to be there and I got sometimes I was just like sit there

Anthony Flores: 00:25:10

and just hang out I just like the fact that just me being in there and

Anthony Flores: 00:25:13

seeing people that make me feel good.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:16

That's all I needed like a Slow walk brisk pace walk or just like lightweights.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:22

that's if that was my best That was my best for the day.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:24

I would just keep going.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:27

You know one day one of the nurses Came up to me mind you like I'm on

Anthony Flores: 00:25:35

this cold medical table exposing my body to this whole team.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:40

It's while they zap me with, radiation, she comes up to my, to the side.

Anthony Flores: 00:25:45

She's Anthony, why do you keep going back to the gym when we ask you not to?

Anthony Flores: 00:25:52

You know, like I turned her turned to my side and I looked at her

Anthony Flores: 00:25:55

and because I want my life back, I want my life back and you can just

Anthony Flores: 00:26:02

see like she was wearing a mask.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:04

You can see like her cheeks just rose up and she's smiling.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:06

Of course.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:07

And she just says, okay.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:12

And they stopped asking me after that.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:13

I'm like, good.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:15

yeah, it's so like after that, you know, Lance Armstrong was a man at the time too.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:18

So he was a great motivator for me to just keep going.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:22

Keep, keep pushing, you know, like no matter what people say about him,

Anthony Flores: 00:26:26

what he did, it doesn't matter to me because he was my inspiration.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:29

He was, he gave me a, he gave me hope,

Stephen Box: 00:26:31

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:32

and I will forever be grateful for that because it's like,

Anthony Flores: 00:26:36

there's a lot of programs out there for cancer, patients and survivors.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:41

I didn't have any of that.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:42

That was my support watching him conquer and.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:46

Dominate Tour de France at the time.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:49

I'm like, if he can do it, I can do it, you know, and that's when

Anthony Flores: 00:26:52

I got into doing endurance events because I was inspired by him.

Anthony Flores: 00:26:56

I did from 5k runs to full marathons to, you know, sprint distant triathlons,

Anthony Flores: 00:27:04

all the way up to a full Ironman distance, triathlon to, Like I even

Anthony Flores: 00:27:07

got a chance to compete at a world championship for triathlon, like a U.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:12

S.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:12

age group competition too, and got into functional fitness competitions

Anthony Flores: 00:27:16

as well, got to compete in world champions there too, and it's I'm

Anthony Flores: 00:27:25

looking back and it's wow, I did that.

Stephen Box: 00:27:29

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:30

it's a story Disney can you make up.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:32

I mean, along the way, people noticed my story, like what I've

Anthony Flores: 00:27:36

been through and what I was doing.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:40

And have you ever considered being a personal trainer?

Anthony Flores: 00:27:43

I'm like, no, like people really have those.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:48

and you know, living in a town that I lived in, I live in, I don't think

Anthony Flores: 00:27:52

many people would actually want that.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:54

but of course that was proven wrong.

Anthony Flores: 00:27:55

there's a high, there's a high need for it, high demand for it, I should say.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:00

and I took the leap of faith.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:02

and joined a health club, you know, they brought me in and that gave

Anthony Flores: 00:28:07

me the opportunity to exit out of the factory work that I was in.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:11

I, I didn't like what I was doing when I was in the factory.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:15

I mean, it was okay, but I knew I was destined for more.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:21

And people told me when I was working there, Anthony, you don't belong here.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:25

You need to do something.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:28

So I took a leap of faith and just, But with it, you know, I did personal training

Anthony Flores: 00:28:31

for a little bit and then I got to corporate wellness for a little bit too.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:37

And then eventually I asked myself, what would it be like

Anthony Flores: 00:28:42

if I had my own training studio?

Anthony Flores: 00:28:44

cause like people were just like noticing people of the companies I worked with,

Anthony Flores: 00:28:48

how are you getting these results?

Anthony Flores: 00:28:50

I had the trainer at work.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:52

And I'm like, why not open myself up to the community then?

Anthony Flores: 00:28:56

So I did that and that was a great time.

Anthony Flores: 00:28:59

It was awesome.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:00

But of course, COVID hit.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:02

And it changed a lot.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:04

something I realized when COVID happened is the connection with it.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:08

it's not the actual fitness people that you need.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:12

It's the connection to empower the individual, to give them the tools

Anthony Flores: 00:29:18

and the skills that they need to succeed besides counting reps or

Anthony Flores: 00:29:24

counting seconds for the individual.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:26

Fitness is easy.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:27

What you do outside of that, Jim, is what really matters,

Stephen Box: 00:29:33

yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:33

and that's why I jumped in.

Stephen Box: 00:29:36

Yeah, I was gonna say, I just want to take a second to

Stephen Box: 00:29:37

pause here and recap some of what we've talked about before we jump

Stephen Box: 00:29:41

into kind of the next phase of the story here, if that's okay with you.

Anthony Flores: 00:29:46

Yeah, for sure.

Stephen Box: 00:29:48

So, so, first of all, I want to say, you know, I

Stephen Box: 00:29:51

appreciate you sharing your story.

Stephen Box: 00:29:53

It's even though it's been 17 years, it's something that clearly.

Stephen Box: 00:29:57

still has a major impact on you.

Stephen Box: 00:30:00

and I could tell it was tough for you to be able to relive and think

Stephen Box: 00:30:03

back to some of those moments.

Stephen Box: 00:30:04

So, definitely appreciate you having the willingness to share that, even

Stephen Box: 00:30:07

though it's still a tough thing to do.

Stephen Box: 00:30:11

The other thing though is, you know, going back to when you said like you

Stephen Box: 00:30:15

started going to the gym and the first few months you don't even talk to anybody.

Stephen Box: 00:30:18

You're just like, you've got your sweatshirt on, the hood up, right?

Stephen Box: 00:30:21

Like you're hiding in the gym.

Stephen Box: 00:30:23

And I know for a lot of guys, Especially if they didn't grow up in the gym,

Stephen Box: 00:30:28

if they didn't grow up working out, maybe they got laughed at or picked

Stephen Box: 00:30:32

on when it came to sports because they weren't good athletes or whatever.

Stephen Box: 00:30:36

The gym is this super scary place.

Stephen Box: 00:30:38

Right?

Stephen Box: 00:30:39

It's this idea of, oh, I go in the gym, I'm going to get laughed at,

Stephen Box: 00:30:42

people are going to stare at me, and look, I'm not going to sit here

Stephen Box: 00:30:44

and say that there's not going to be some jerk that's going to laugh at

Stephen Box: 00:30:47

you or make fun of you or judge you.

Stephen Box: 00:30:51

Right?

Stephen Box: 00:30:51

I can't promise you that guy's not going to be there, but what I can tell

Stephen Box: 00:30:55

you is that most of the people in the gym are the kindest, most inspirational

Stephen Box: 00:31:06

people you will ever meet in your life, and they want you to succeed.

Stephen Box: 00:31:10

They are so excited when they see somebody come in who's not in shape,

Stephen Box: 00:31:17

and they see that person show up and they put in the work day after

Stephen Box: 00:31:20

day, man, they are inspired by you.

Stephen Box: 00:31:22

Like you think Oh, I'm being inspired by the big, you know, guy,

Stephen Box: 00:31:25

the big muscular dude over here.

Stephen Box: 00:31:27

No, he's inspired by you because he knows how hard it is

Stephen Box: 00:31:30

for you to show up every day.

Anthony Flores: 00:31:32

right.

Stephen Box: 00:31:33

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:31:33

No, that's so true, yeah, no, I'm glad you brought that

Anthony Flores: 00:31:35

up, cause one of my best friends, his name, Eric, and he's, noticed me

Anthony Flores: 00:31:39

a long time ago, when I stepped into the Y, he's wow, he's a big dude.

Anthony Flores: 00:31:44

But he keeps showing up.

Anthony Flores: 00:31:47

He keeps showing up and he said, after six months, I had so much respect

Anthony Flores: 00:31:53

for you because you kept coming and like you inspired, till this day, I

Anthony Flores: 00:31:58

inspire him, but he's just being nice.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:03

He's a really great guy, inspiring.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:05

And by another, one of my other best friends, he's he didn't see my obesity

Anthony Flores: 00:32:09

journey, but he got to see, like when I was doing my, Darren's phase.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:13

He's that's really cool.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:14

You know, I, my friend, one of my best friends, I call him my brother.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:17

It's like Joe, like you guys are my guys, you know, like another one to his damage

Anthony Flores: 00:32:22

on, he gassed me up when I was self confident and, wearing certain clothes.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:27

He's do I look okay?

Anthony Flores: 00:32:28

He's yeah, man, that looks awesome.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:29

and it was, it's like you said, they are there to support you.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:33

of course there's.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:34

Couple stinkers in there to say that in a nice way that will

Stephen Box: 00:32:39

those

Stephen Box: 00:32:39

people are going to be everywhere.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:41

right exactly we can't avoid them, right?

Anthony Flores: 00:32:44

You're going to see him at work.

Anthony Flores: 00:32:46

You're going to see him at church, whatever library But you'll you'll

Anthony Flores: 00:32:53

find that people That resonate with you and respect you and they will

Anthony Flores: 00:32:58

continue to cheer you on along the way and that's that's what we need.

Anthony Flores: 00:33:03

we need that connection to just keep going, being part of

Anthony Flores: 00:33:07

something that, is greater than us.

Stephen Box: 00:33:11

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:33:11

And I think another thing that you brought up here, we didn't say this directly.

Stephen Box: 00:33:17

so I'd want to pull this out, but you talked about how you were going to the

Stephen Box: 00:33:21

gym, you're losing weight and you started to feel better about yourself, right?

Stephen Box: 00:33:28

The confidence started to come up because people were noticing

Stephen Box: 00:33:31

people complimenting you.

Stephen Box: 00:33:33

So at this point, all of that confidence, all of that feel good

Stephen Box: 00:33:38

is coming from external sources.

Stephen Box: 00:33:41

And I think for a lot of people, when they think about getting in shape, weight

Stephen Box: 00:33:45

loss is usually the number one goal.

Stephen Box: 00:33:47

And the reason why is because they think if I could just lose

Stephen Box: 00:33:50

the weight, I'd feel better.

Stephen Box: 00:33:52

I'd be more confident and all this other stuff.

Stephen Box: 00:33:54

And if you get the external validation, it can help you feel more confident

Stephen Box: 00:33:58

and feel better about yourself.

Stephen Box: 00:34:01

But if we fast forward to when you got the cancer diagnosis, there

Stephen Box: 00:34:06

was that moment where you all of a sudden felt less confident.

Stephen Box: 00:34:10

You felt the way you felt.

Stephen Box: 00:34:12

Back when you were still massively overweight before you lost a hundred

Stephen Box: 00:34:15

pounds and you'd still had weight off, like maybe you'd put on a

Stephen Box: 00:34:19

little bit at this point, but like you still, for the most part, had

Stephen Box: 00:34:21

not put this weight back on, right.

Stephen Box: 00:34:23

You're still, you know, in fairly good shape at this point.

Stephen Box: 00:34:27

And so being in shape didn't make you feel more confident.

Stephen Box: 00:34:32

It didn't give you that comfort.

Stephen Box: 00:34:34

It was a mindset thing, it is internal, and I think that's something that

Stephen Box: 00:34:40

people, I hope they walk away from this conversation today with is this

Stephen Box: 00:34:44

understanding that yes, losing weight is great and highly encouraged,

Stephen Box: 00:34:50

healthy, do those things, right?

Stephen Box: 00:34:52

But if you're chasing after confidence, if you're chasing after wanting to

Stephen Box: 00:34:57

feel good about yourself, being able to have that championship mindset, it

Stephen Box: 00:35:02

can't be about external validation.

Stephen Box: 00:35:05

It's got to be from the inside.

Stephen Box: 00:35:06

It's got to start with you.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:07

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:08

It's a, it's right here in the heart or right here between the ears.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:11

It's we have to take care of that.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:13

first.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:13

And that's when I onboard someone into my program and you're like, okay, what are

Anthony Flores: 00:35:19

my macros and stuff going to be like, no, we're going to learn more about you first.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:26

I want to know who you are now and who it is that you want to become.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:31

Cause that's the real work.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:33

You know, we'll just start out with a simple eat less stuff

Anthony Flores: 00:35:37

diet, if you want to call it that.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:40

Just eat less, like less of the high processed stuff and just eat

Anthony Flores: 00:35:43

more of the green stuff, vegetables and all, so on and so forth.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:46

But no, you're 100 percent right.

Anthony Flores: 00:35:48

You know, if we don't take care of ourselves, what did we tell ourselves?

Anthony Flores: 00:35:52

We don't stand a chance.

Stephen Box: 00:35:54

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:35:54

And I mean, you know, when we talk about things like, you know, nutrition

Stephen Box: 00:35:59

and exercise and sleep and stress management, all that kind of stuff.

Stephen Box: 00:36:04

I always tell people, look, that stuff's important, but if you just start

Stephen Box: 00:36:11

there, you're setting yourself up for failure because it has to start inside.

Stephen Box: 00:36:16

It has to start with your mindset.

Stephen Box: 00:36:18

You have to start becoming the person you want to be before the results happen.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:26

Exactly.

Stephen Box: 00:36:26

And that's crazy, right?

Stephen Box: 00:36:28

people are like, wait a minute, become that person until I become that person.

Stephen Box: 00:36:32

Like, how does that work?

Anthony Flores: 00:36:35

magically just happens.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:36

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:36

but no, it's the mindset is, it's a wonderful thing.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:41

It's, yeah, like it's, it can either empower you or it

Anthony Flores: 00:36:46

can literally destroy you.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:49

And my role is, is that coach, advisor, mentor, whatever you want

Anthony Flores: 00:36:54

to call me is I'm here to gas you up.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:57

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:36:58

And then I can show you how you can develop that.

Anthony Flores: 00:37:01

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:37:08

right, is when I interview people and I hear these stories,

Stephen Box: 00:37:11

I always see this commonality that comes out of everybody's story.

Stephen Box: 00:37:16

There's a moment in every single person's story where they just go, you know what?

Stephen Box: 00:37:24

Enough is enough.

Stephen Box: 00:37:25

I'm going to do this.

Stephen Box: 00:37:27

And that's it, right?

Stephen Box: 00:37:28

For you, it was saying, you know what, I'm going to go to the gym and I'm going

Stephen Box: 00:37:33

to work out, even though they're telling me not to, right, for you, because

Stephen Box: 00:37:38

it became a part of your identity.

Stephen Box: 00:37:41

At that point, it wasn't about going to the gym to lose weight or, you know,

Stephen Box: 00:37:45

get six pack abs or anything like that.

Stephen Box: 00:37:47

It was about literally, as you said, to be able to function.

Stephen Box: 00:37:51

It was about just feeling healthy, feeling good about yourself, right?

Stephen Box: 00:37:55

It was a part of that.

Stephen Box: 00:37:56

I remember, man, I think it's been like five years now.

Stephen Box: 00:37:59

Actually, I tore my rotator cuff and I remember before surgery, I'm looking at

Stephen Box: 00:38:06

you know, recovery times or whatever.

Stephen Box: 00:38:07

And I just read.

Stephen Box: 00:38:10

I don't even, it was like on the internet somewhere.

Stephen Box: 00:38:11

It might not even have been a credible source.

Stephen Box: 00:38:13

I don't know.

Stephen Box: 00:38:13

But it was like, some people can heal in as little as four months from, you know,

Stephen Box: 00:38:21

actually get back, be able to, you know, get back to doing the stuff that you do.

Stephen Box: 00:38:24

And I was like, that's what I'm going to do.

Stephen Box: 00:38:29

That's going to be me.

Anthony Flores: 00:38:30

Awesome.

Stephen Box: 00:38:31

I actually got full clearance in three and a half.

Stephen Box: 00:38:33

So I actually beat the, beat the time, but.

Anthony Flores: 00:38:37

Nice.

Stephen Box: 00:38:38

But I think so much of it was because I went

Stephen Box: 00:38:41

in with that mindset, right?

Stephen Box: 00:38:42

Of it wasn't, I hope I can do this or, maybe if I get lucky, that'll

Stephen Box: 00:38:47

be, no, I'm going to do this.

Stephen Box: 00:38:49

That was the mindset, right?

Stephen Box: 00:38:51

And so, I didn't do anything super crazy.

Stephen Box: 00:38:54

You know, I followed the directions from my physical therapist.

Stephen Box: 00:38:58

But I was the annoying patient who was going, Can we try this?

Stephen Box: 00:39:02

Can we try this?

Stephen Box: 00:39:02

Can we try this?

Stephen Box: 00:39:03

Can we try this?

Anthony Flores: 00:39:04

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:04

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:05

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:05

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:07

For sure.

Stephen Box: 00:39:07

Yeah, and it's like the same as your story, right?

Stephen Box: 00:39:10

It's about that mindset.

Stephen Box: 00:39:11

And I hope that people are hearing that, right?

Stephen Box: 00:39:14

That, yes, all these amazing things that you've accomplished.

Stephen Box: 00:39:21

Every last one of them started with you having the mindset to go out and do it.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:27

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:27

Declare and proclaim what it is that you want and relentlessly

Anthony Flores: 00:39:32

pursue it along the way.

Stephen Box: 00:39:35

Yes.

Stephen Box: 00:39:36

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:39:37

I saw a post that you had on your Facebook where you were talking about

Stephen Box: 00:39:40

a program that you were launching.

Stephen Box: 00:39:41

This was like, I think a few months ago, and I saw somebody had

Stephen Box: 00:39:46

commented on your post saying, so you basically, you're really looking

Stephen Box: 00:39:51

for people who are already winners.

Stephen Box: 00:39:54

So that's not really information.

Stephen Box: 00:39:56

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:39:57

Right.

Stephen Box: 00:39:57

and I read it, I'm sitting there thinking but it's not so much

Stephen Box: 00:40:03

that you're looking for people who already are successful, because there's

Stephen Box: 00:40:07

a difference between being a winner, someone who has a winning mindset, and

Stephen Box: 00:40:12

being someone who already has success.

Stephen Box: 00:40:15

Those aren't the same thing.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:16

It's all very different.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:17

Very different.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:18

Like one person can be really good at what they're doing for a living,

Anthony Flores: 00:40:22

but they totally neglect their health and wellness at the same time.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:29

And at some point they burn themselves out and God knows what happened to

Anthony Flores: 00:40:36

not just Their business or team, whatever the case may be, but like how

Anthony Flores: 00:40:40

it impact their family, themselves.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:42

And yeah, if you just go down that spiral, like I've seen not the people

Anthony Flores: 00:40:47

that worked with, but I've seen like families get torn apart because

Anthony Flores: 00:40:52

they neglected, they chose not to.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:55

Take care of their health, like their mental wellbeing for the most part.

Anthony Flores: 00:40:58

I'm like, what a shame.

Stephen Box: 00:41:01

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:41:01

And it all ties together, right?

Stephen Box: 00:41:03

If you don't take care of your mental wellbeing, then your

Stephen Box: 00:41:06

physical wellbeing suffers.

Stephen Box: 00:41:08

And if you don't care, take care of your physical wellbeing.

Stephen Box: 00:41:11

Then your mental wellbeing suffers.

Stephen Box: 00:41:14

And when those two areas of your life suffer, your family suffers,

Stephen Box: 00:41:19

your friends suffer, your work suffers, everything suffers.

Stephen Box: 00:41:27

So, so Anthony, tell us real quick, man.

Stephen Box: 00:41:31

What does coaching look like with you?

Stephen Box: 00:41:33

Like when someone decides to work with you, like what

Stephen Box: 00:41:36

does that process look like?

Anthony Flores: 00:41:40

Oh, you know, just eating nothing but lettuce and chicken.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:47

No, I'm totally kidding, man.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:48

no,

Stephen Box: 00:41:48

Sorry, I knew that they were done.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:50

Yeah, right.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:51

We're done now.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:52

So it's a gradual process.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:54

so I want to be on board.

Anthony Flores: 00:41:56

I, like I said, I want to get to know the individual, like we start developing

Anthony Flores: 00:42:01

that winning mindset right away off the bat, you know, tell me something

Anthony Flores: 00:42:07

that you did for yourself today.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:09

And for instance, like a, like an answer I just recently got

Anthony Flores: 00:42:12

was, Oh, I helped my, Okay.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:16

child, overcome a situation at school.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:20

I'm like, that is great.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:21

What a wonderful win as a parent, but you didn't say anything about yourself.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:28

I want you to focus on yourself.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:29

I'm that's hard for people to do.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:32

It's hard for us to recognize how awesome or how awesome

Anthony Flores: 00:42:35

we're doing throughout the day.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:36

It's what did you do today?

Anthony Flores: 00:42:38

You like, for instance, I'm a big fan of counting the wins.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:42

Like you woke up today.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:45

That's a win.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:46

My gosh.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:46

Like the best win of all.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:48

What else did you do?

Anthony Flores: 00:42:48

Did you make your bed awesome?

Anthony Flores: 00:42:50

Great.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:50

Did you drink water right away instead of drinking coffee there?

Anthony Flores: 00:42:53

Good.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:53

Awesome.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:54

You brushed your teeth, you combed your hair, , stuff like that.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:57

You're taking care of yourself.

Anthony Flores: 00:42:59

I'm like, you know, I decided to bring keratin cucumbers to work instead

Anthony Flores: 00:43:03

of going to the vending machine.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:05

Awesome.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:06

Let's like, what else?

Anthony Flores: 00:43:07

Tell me, you know, and we get to know, I want to know what

Anthony Flores: 00:43:12

their deepest desires are.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:13

Like why are you actually doing this?

Anthony Flores: 00:43:15

Why are we here?

Anthony Flores: 00:43:16

is it just because you want to look good for your vacation in three months?

Anthony Flores: 00:43:19

Or it's you want to do this for the rest of your life?

Anthony Flores: 00:43:21

I know you want to go on vacation, but I want you to set yourself

Anthony Flores: 00:43:24

up for the rest of your life.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:25

you know, like a common answer too.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:27

I want to do it for my kids.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:28

I want to do it for my wife.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:30

that's not good enough.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:31

I need to know why you want to do this.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:34

Tell me, tell yourself the truth and that's something

Anthony Flores: 00:43:36

I always preach right away.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:37

I'm like, you gotta tell yourself the truth, not for me.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:40

Tell yourself the truth why you want to do this because I'm sick

Anthony Flores: 00:43:42

and tired of feeling this way.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:43

I can't stand myself looking in the mirror.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:45

Now we're talking.

Anthony Flores: 00:43:48

Why do you feel that way?

Stephen Box: 00:43:53

I want to thank you for saying something you just said, because

Stephen Box: 00:43:56

a lot of times I feel like I can't really say it because I don't have kids.

Stephen Box: 00:44:01

So as a father, point out to people that you are a father, you say it,

Stephen Box: 00:44:05

right, you're allowed to say this, but the thing is, yes, a lot of

Stephen Box: 00:44:09

people think oh, I have to put my kids and this, especially a lot of men,

Stephen Box: 00:44:13

this is a very common thing, right?

Stephen Box: 00:44:15

It's kids and wife before me.

Stephen Box: 00:44:19

And the reality is.

Stephen Box: 00:44:21

You need to learn to put yourself first, because if you're not taking

Stephen Box: 00:44:27

care of yourself, how are you going to be at your best for them?

Stephen Box: 00:44:34

They need you to be at your best, and to be at your best, you have to put yourself

Stephen Box: 00:44:38

in the priority position sometimes.

Anthony Flores: 00:44:40

right and something I say too I'm like, you know what your kids

Anthony Flores: 00:44:45

gonna piss you off and your wife's gonna piss you off at some point And what are

Anthony Flores: 00:44:47

you gonna do because that reason is gonna be gone for a hot second You're just gonna

Anthony Flores: 00:44:51

go reach a bush like beer in your and your refrigerator and just start going

Anthony Flores: 00:44:57

to town on Cheetos Cause you know what?

Anthony Flores: 00:44:59

You had a bad day with them.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:01

no, I want, we need to know, we need to figure out why you

Anthony Flores: 00:45:03

wanted to do this for yourself.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:05

That way we can just continue to remind ourselves, this is why I'm doing

Anthony Flores: 00:45:09

this is I don't know, of course, like imagining yourself over the course

Anthony Flores: 00:45:13

of time, like, how is it you want to, feel, how you want to present

Anthony Flores: 00:45:16

yourself, so on and so forth, do you see yourself as a better family man, a

Anthony Flores: 00:45:20

better husband, you know, excellent, a better leader for not like for at home.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:24

And of course, if you run a team or something like that, like you,

Anthony Flores: 00:45:28

You're going to make a huge impact

Anthony Flores: 00:45:30

a lot of people, like people are going to like, notice what you're

Anthony Flores: 00:45:34

doing and they're going to ask you how you're doing it and they're going to

Anthony Flores: 00:45:38

follow you because they respect you

Stephen Box: 00:45:43

Yeah,

Anthony Flores: 00:45:43

love you.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:45

So wow, like you're making great changes.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:47

I want to do this too.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:48

Cause you're inspiring them.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:49

it's like you said, like the person at the gym that has all the muscles, like

Anthony Flores: 00:45:52

you, like they're inspired by seeing other people with their transformations.

Anthony Flores: 00:45:57

I guarantee you, you're going to inspire people at the gym, if you're walking in

Anthony Flores: 00:46:03

there overweight, you know, they might doubt you at first, but, they might think

Anthony Flores: 00:46:10

how long is this person going to last?

Anthony Flores: 00:46:11

But if you just

Stephen Box: 00:46:12

they've seen more than a few people leave, right?

Anthony Flores: 00:46:14

right.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:14

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:14

So, but if you keep showing up for yourself and you just gain that

Anthony Flores: 00:46:18

respect, I from so many people.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:20

And a lot of people value that.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:21

They value respect, especially guys, like they want to be respected.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:26

take care of yourself.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:27

I don't care.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:28

I don't care what kind of car you drive.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:30

if you have a, let's say an Audi R8, which is my favorite car.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:35

If you come out of that car struggling to get out of it, I am not impressed at all.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:43

I am more impressed with someone that comes out of there looking

Anthony Flores: 00:46:47

like they take care of themselves and just present themselves in

Anthony Flores: 00:46:50

a certain way, Like magnetic.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:51

I'm like, that person is cool.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:55

I want to get to know him.

Anthony Flores: 00:46:57

but anyways, yes, build up that mindset, in my program, first and foremost, and

Anthony Flores: 00:47:01

we get to know, who they are, who they want to become and make actionable

Anthony Flores: 00:47:05

steps in order to be successful.

Anthony Flores: 00:47:07

Get, closer to what it is that they want and we focus on, sleep, we

Anthony Flores: 00:47:13

focus on eating habits and, fitness, of course, as well, it's like, it's

Anthony Flores: 00:47:18

a whole spectrum of my program.

Anthony Flores: 00:47:21

honestly, the fitness is probably the last thing I think about, but it is part of it.

Anthony Flores: 00:47:24

if you're not taking care of yourself outside of gym

Anthony Flores: 00:47:27

ball, then what's the point?

Anthony Flores: 00:47:29

I'm like, we're not, you're not doing it for the right reasons.

Stephen Box: 00:47:34

and I think you and I are similar in the fact that When we were

Stephen Box: 00:47:37

both really overweight, we actually started doing probably more in the

Stephen Box: 00:47:43

gym than what we really needed to,

Anthony Flores: 00:47:44

Oh, definitely.

Stephen Box: 00:47:45

because we just did what we thought we were supposed to do.

Stephen Box: 00:47:48

And, but it's I can tell in hindsight after doing this for

Stephen Box: 00:47:51

over a decade now that it's.

Stephen Box: 00:47:56

Not even necessary, right?

Stephen Box: 00:47:58

honestly, most people, if you just get out and just move more, just go on some

Stephen Box: 00:48:01

walks in the afternoon or something, and just start getting some activity in

Stephen Box: 00:48:05

your life, then fitness is honestly, the last thing you really need to change.

Stephen Box: 00:48:10

It's a lot of people think it's the first thing you need to change.

Stephen Box: 00:48:13

And.

Stephen Box: 00:48:14

I think a big part of it is I do too.

Stephen Box: 00:48:17

but I think a lot comes from this idea that we have falsely been taught that the

Stephen Box: 00:48:22

purpose of exercise is to burn calories.

Stephen Box: 00:48:24

That's not the purpose of exercise.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:29

Right.

Stephen Box: 00:48:29

of exercise is to shape your body, to build your energy systems,

Stephen Box: 00:48:34

and to create a body that functions.

Stephen Box: 00:48:37

That's the purpose of exercise.

Stephen Box: 00:48:38

It has nothing to do with losing weight.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:42

Exactly.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:44

100 percent man.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:45

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:46

Yeah.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:46

It's like the way I go about is like mindset, sleep, nutrition.

Anthony Flores: 00:48:51

Movement, is the way I go about it.

Stephen Box: 00:48:54

Yeah, it's just one of those things now where I think the

Stephen Box: 00:48:58

fitness industry has figured out if we can make people unhappy about their

Stephen Box: 00:49:03

weight, if we can make people desperately think that losing weight by itself is

Stephen Box: 00:49:11

the answer to everything, then we can really crank up the pressure to get them

Stephen Box: 00:49:16

to want results as fast as possible.

Stephen Box: 00:49:17

It becomes easier to sell people supplements and diet pills and

Stephen Box: 00:49:23

surgeries and everything else.

Stephen Box: 00:49:26

That's why most people in this industry are doing.

Stephen Box: 00:49:31

They can't get your attention.

Stephen Box: 00:49:33

They're pumping out crazy diets.

Stephen Box: 00:49:36

They're doing crazy exercises.

Stephen Box: 00:49:39

They're doing anything they can to try to get your attention, right?

Stephen Box: 00:49:42

And the reality is that all of that stuff is garbage.

Anthony Flores: 00:49:49

It is.

Anthony Flores: 00:49:50

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:49:50

you answered earlier, you need to be consistent.

Stephen Box: 00:49:52

That's what you need.

Anthony Flores: 00:49:54

Yeah, like simplicity, consistency, times

Anthony Flores: 00:49:57

patience and you'll get there.

Anthony Flores: 00:49:59

I promise you.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:01

but that's the problem.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:01

Like people say that's just too easy.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:03

Like it's almost like we're searching for something really hard to do.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:06

It's hard enough.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:07

To shape yourself, to change your mindset.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:10

why would you add some more of that?

Anthony Flores: 00:50:13

Garbage along the way, you know, like when people do 75 hard, I'm like, that's,

Anthony Flores: 00:50:18

she's I've, I would never do that.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:21

if I've seen a lot of people have great success with it, but I take

Anthony Flores: 00:50:24

that back because they revert back to the ways after that.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:27

So what did you really learn?

Anthony Flores: 00:50:28

You can do hard stuff for 75 days, but you can't do it for the rest of your life.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:32

Perfect.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:33

Great.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:33

So let that be a learning lesson.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:34

So, and that's why I always tell people, again.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:40

If you just keep things super simple, keep your meals as simple

Anthony Flores: 00:50:43

as possible, like you don't have to have 50 different ingredients in it.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:47

be consistent with it and just.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:50

Be super patient along the way.

Anthony Flores: 00:50:53

I, that's the biggest struggle for most people where, you know, as you mentioned

Anthony Flores: 00:50:57

with, with, the fitness industry where we're throwing out, you know, six week

Anthony Flores: 00:51:02

challenges, eight week challenges, 12 week challenge, like I never thrown

Anthony Flores: 00:51:05

a challenge in my fitness career.

Anthony Flores: 00:51:08

Cause I don't believe in them.

Anthony Flores: 00:51:09

Cause like you and I both know it takes a little while to get there.

Anthony Flores: 00:51:14

Like I'm not trying to sprint, get someone to sprint to their destination.

Anthony Flores: 00:51:19

I want this to be a sustainable, life style for them.

Stephen Box: 00:51:24

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:51:25

if somebody wants to start with say 12 weeks, just because they want to say,

Stephen Box: 00:51:29

okay, I'm going to commit to doing this time period, then what I would encourage

Stephen Box: 00:51:33

is get with a coach like, like Anthony or myself who understands that, Hey, our

Stephen Box: 00:51:40

goal isn't to try to get you all the way to a hundred percent in three months.

Stephen Box: 00:51:46

Right?

Stephen Box: 00:51:46

In those 12 weeks, it's really about starting you where you are

Stephen Box: 00:51:50

and moving you forward over those 12 months or those 12 weeks so that

Stephen Box: 00:51:55

on week 13, you're not finished.

Stephen Box: 00:51:57

You're taking the next step.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:00

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:01

So next level.

Stephen Box: 00:52:02

Yeah,

Stephen Box: 00:52:03

that's where you should be.

Stephen Box: 00:52:04

It's it's not about being done in 12 weeks.

Stephen Box: 00:52:07

It's about being ready for the next level in 12 weeks.

Stephen Box: 00:52:10

that's the difference to me.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:12

Right.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:13

Cause every new level requires a new you.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:15

And like when you develop that.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:18

mindset, you'll accept that new challenge along the way, rather than I guess it's

Anthony Flores: 00:52:23

like, it feels like a grind, right?

Anthony Flores: 00:52:25

And when people say I embrace the grind.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:28

I'm like, I'm trying to like, avoid that.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:31

So I'm trying, I'm here to make this as simple as possible.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:34

So I don't feel like it's, of course it's going to be a grind,

Anthony Flores: 00:52:36

but I don't look at it as a grind.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:38

especially when you know exactly what you're playing for.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:42

Like it's, it almost seems like it's effortless and people laugh.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:46

Like when I say that to them, you've been doing it the hard way the whole time.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:49

like you can just keep doing what you're doing, or I'm just going to

Anthony Flores: 00:52:52

keep living my easy day life that gets obviously it works for me.

Anthony Flores: 00:52:57

It works for so many people that I work with and I get to see the trickle

Anthony Flores: 00:53:01

effect, the ripple effect on how that impacts the individual is so cool.

Anthony Flores: 00:53:07

Like it impacts like their families, their friends, as you mentioned before,

Anthony Flores: 00:53:10

like their, whoever they, encounter really, like their communities too.

Anthony Flores: 00:53:17

It's so powerful.

Stephen Box: 00:53:19

Yeah, it really is, man.

Stephen Box: 00:53:20

I mean, I think I, I'll leave with this note that I'm going to

Stephen Box: 00:53:25

let you have the final word here.

Stephen Box: 00:53:28

when I see people Talk about, oh, exercise is hard, eating healthy

Stephen Box: 00:53:34

is hard, all these things are hard.

Stephen Box: 00:53:37

When you get to the other side, when you've done what Anthony and I have

Stephen Box: 00:53:41

done, when you've lost a lot of weight, when you've made the change, when you've

Stephen Box: 00:53:45

made the transformation, you're gonna look back and you're gonna realize

Stephen Box: 00:53:48

that you are living a very hard life.

Stephen Box: 00:53:52

And the only reason it didn't feel hard to you at the time was because

Stephen Box: 00:53:57

it was so familiar, because it was so comfortable, because it was so routine.

Stephen Box: 00:54:02

And the exact same thing is going to apply to the changes you're making.

Stephen Box: 00:54:06

The more you do, then the more consistent you are with them, the more routine they

Stephen Box: 00:54:11

become, the easier they start to feel.

Stephen Box: 00:54:15

It's not going to be until you start to feel better that you're going to

Stephen Box: 00:54:18

realize just how bad you actually felt.

Anthony Flores: 00:54:23

Yeah.

Stephen Box: 00:54:24

So final words from you.

Stephen Box: 00:54:25

And then, after you give us your final thoughts, tell people

Stephen Box: 00:54:28

how they can get ahold of you.

Anthony Flores: 00:54:30

Yeah, sure.

Anthony Flores: 00:54:30

asked yourself this question.

Anthony Flores: 00:54:33

Who could you become if you allowed yourself to imagine how much more of a

Anthony Flores: 00:54:40

great leader of role model, you would be becoming like as you become the healthier,

Anthony Flores: 00:54:49

stronger, like more, it's a champion, you show up as a champion to the world.

Anthony Flores: 00:54:57

you're better for your family, you're better for your team,

Anthony Flores: 00:55:00

you're better for your community.

Anthony Flores: 00:55:04

You're great, you know, we want to see your greatness.

Anthony Flores: 00:55:07

So give yourself permission to win.

Anthony Flores: 00:55:11

So you can find me on, Facebook, Instagram at Anthony Flores.

Anthony Flores: 00:55:15

if you want to visit my website to apply for coaching, you can go to www.

Anthony Flores: 00:55:21

theeasydaylife.

Anthony Flores: 00:55:23

com.

Stephen Box: 00:55:26

Right.

Stephen Box: 00:55:26

appreciate it, man.

Stephen Box: 00:55:28

Anthony, thanks for coming so much, sharing your story, your insight,

Stephen Box: 00:55:32

loved our conversation today.

Stephen Box: 00:55:34

And I just want to remind everyone as always, none of us are born unshakable,

Stephen Box: 00:55:41

but we can all become unshakable.

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