If you've ever thought we seemed like we had it all together, listen in. If you feel discouraged with how difficult it is to be a Christian parent and feel like you're continually failing, we hope you are encouraged to know you are not alone! Motherhood is continually refining us, and we can be thankful we have a Savior that is not only drawing our children to Himself... but also us as mothers.
Books Recommended:
Becoming Elisabeth Elliot
Suffering is Never for Nothing
Raising a Daughter in a Toxic Culture
Dirt
The Hard Good
Habits of the Household
Teaching from Rest
Atomic Habits
The Covenant Household
Scripture Mentioned: Colossians 3:8
They're the joyful agains our children
shout on the swings, the exhausting
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:agains of cooking and laundry, and
the difficult agains of discipline.
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:So much of what we do
as mothers is on repeat.
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:So what if we woke up with clarity,
knowing which agains we were called
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:to, and went to bed believing we
are faithful in what matters most?
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:We believe God's Word is
the key to untangle from the
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:confusion and overwhelm we feel.
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:Let's look up together to embrace a
motherhood full of freedom and joy.
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:Have you ever listened to an
episode of this podcast and
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:thought we have it all together?
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:You won't feel that way
at the end of this one.
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:If you're struggling.
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:And need to know that you're not alone.
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:This episode is all for you.
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:Welcome to the again, podcast brought
to you by interested ministries.
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:I'm your host, Stephanie Hickox.
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:And today I am humbly joined
by Jen Frackman and Emily deal,
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:as we share the struggles that
we have personally identified
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:through one of the quizzes in the
interested with the child's heart.
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:Notebook.
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:Although it is painful
to be refined and too.
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:Evaluate our weaknesses before the Lord.
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:And how we are exasperating our children.
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:We are so grateful for this tool and
this resource that Betsy created that
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:teaches us what we are to put on.
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:We are so thankful to be pointed.
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:Towards God's word.
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:And how we need to be refined.
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:Through the holy spirit.
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:This episode.
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:Connects to a lesson, 10 of
entrusted with the child's heart.
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:If you've been thinking, all right, I
have to see a sample lesson of entrusted.
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:Then this is your chance.
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:Head to our website.
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:www.entrustedministries.com.
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:On our homepage.
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:You can sign up for our new freebies.
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:You're going to get all of lesson 10 the
hour long video top by Betsy Corning.
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:This also will include the full,
a listening guide that will
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:show you what the interested
with the child's heart notebook.
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:Looks like.
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:And then also you're going
to receive the quiz sheet
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:that you'll be able to score yourself
as you listen to the lesson and you
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:can even print out an extra copy for
your husband to do along with you.
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:If he'd like.
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:And then to sum it all up, the full circle
discipline sheet can be printed off.
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:There's a printable of that as well.
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:We find that this is so helpful
for reminding us how to bring our
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:children to full repentance and
restoration and make sure that we keep
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:their hearts as we discipline them.
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:Because this is not about behavior change.
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:This is about.
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:Changing hearts and pointing them.
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:Towards their savior.
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:With that said, I'm now going
to share with you an episode
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:in which Jen, Emily and I share
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:how entirely in need of Jesus Christ.
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:We each are in our parenting
and in all of life.
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:Steph: To get us kicked off, I would like
to know, and I realize it is impossible
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:to narrow it down what are the books
that you most often recommend to others?
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:I'm sure we're each going to
have several here, that's okay.
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:I'm sure our listeners would
love to hear our top picks.
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:Emily, let's
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:Emily: I was going to
say, I want to hear Jen's
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:because I know she
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:has an arsenal full of
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:books and I want to
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:Steph: I know.
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:Yes.
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:So I was like, do I give Jen
a second to narrow it down?
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:Okay.
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:Emily: Jen?
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:Jen: love it.
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:I love it.
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:I know, I feel like, okay what
topic are we talking about?
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:Because I could give you one from each
one, but first off my lips, I will say
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:is anything Elisabeth Elliott Becoming
Elisabeth Elliott was excellent.
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:And I often will recommend that one.
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:Suffering is never for
nothing by Elisabeth Elliott.
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:Anything about or written by
Elisabeth Elliott is always a
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:good one that I'm recommending.
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:Also same with Diedrich
Bonhoeffer, anything about him
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:or written by him, I'm all for.
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:Yeah, , those are the
top two that I can think
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:Emily: It's hard to be Elisabeth Elliott.
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:, her books
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:Jen: I know.
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:Emily: just.
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:good truth.
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:Yes.
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:Jen: Yes.
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:Emily: I can't top that, I'm out.
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:No, I'm just kidding.
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:I would say that I think every mom with
a daughter should read it's called
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:Raising a Daughter in a Toxic Culture.
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:and it's really Good.
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:for moms raising daughters, there are lots
of relevant things that we face today.
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:I love, I, this is a memoir book but
I love a book called Dirt and, it's
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:by an author from my home state, West
Virginia, and I identify with it so
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:beautifully and she's a beautiful writer.
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:I'm going to do one more.
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:I recommend the book called the Hard Good.
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:and it just talks about the
different places that God uses the
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:hard things in our life for good.
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:Oh,
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:Jen: Okay.
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:I'm going to add one more since
you did three, then I'm going
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:to do another one.
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:And I'll just say anything about the
Puritans are written by the Puritans.
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:I love myself a good
classic Puritans read.
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:The reason I love him is because you'll
know so much more about the Lord.
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:You won't know anything about the author.
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:Today's books, I feel like you
know so much about the author.
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:And so little about the Lord.
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:And I so often just want to know
more about the Lord and the Puritans
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:will get me right there and will
make me see how fragile my faith is
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:and how weak my faith is and how I
need to be just so much stronger.
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:Steph: I think I'm going to pick some
recent reads that were really influential.
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:Habits of the Household by Justin Whitmell
Early, I feel is the most practically
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:helpful parenting book I've ever read.
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:Because it is how you can use liturgy to
redeem everyday practices in your home.
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:It doesn't matter what your home
looks like, your children go to
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:bed, they eat, you leave sometimes.
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:It just teaches how to redeem
all those moments for the Lord.
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:And he gives examples, but
he's very humble about it.
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:So that is one that I think it's
just so practically applicable
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:that is an incredible book.
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:Jen: That's great.
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:Steph: Teaching from Rest by Sarah
MacKenzie, I have talked about before.
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:On this podcast, but I think that one is
so helpful because it reminds us the heart
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:of what we want our children to remember.
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:That overarching, we want them to
have a peaceful, calm mother and
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:to not get caught up in the doing.
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:So that's a fantastic one.
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:One that I started reading recently.
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:That's revolutionary, even though it's
not written from a Christian perspective.
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:I think he's just such a
clear communicator is Atomic
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:Habits by James Clear.
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:It's very interesting, how, you can order
your moments and your days in a specific
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:way that does help you become the person
that you want to be before the Lord.
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:Even though that, again, it's not written
from a biblical perspective, but I
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:think so many of these little decisions
are adding up to who we want to be.
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:And to think about the science
of it and how to help ourselves
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:become more successful.
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:So those Are just some more
recent ones that have really been
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:impactful in a practical way.
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:So I'm going to go that route because
you guys took the heavy hitters.
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:Alright, That's a fun question to
answer, but we are going to get into
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:some heaviness in this episode and
be pretty authentic and share with
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:you some convicting moments that we
had as we took the quiz in Lesson
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:10, which is putting off and putting
on, growing in Christlikeness.
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:A godly mother does not
exasperate her children.
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:In Entrusted, we talk so much about the
child's heart and a child's nature.
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:And we want to make sure that we're
really evaluating ourselves before
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:the Lord and making sure that we
are being the kind of people that
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:we're asking our children to be.
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:So this lesson Really has us hold
up a mirror and helps us evaluate
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:how we are doing in 16 areas.
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:I do really appreciate that Betsy
doesn't just, Point out the sins that
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:we so easily fall into as mothers,
but that she points us to what we
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:should be putting on in the Lord.
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:And that is available in
him through the Holy spirit.
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:And that real change only
happens with the Lord's help.
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:With all that we're sharing, we know
that there is hope for each of us,
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:and we hope that we are an example,
that whatever you're struggling with,
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:there's hope in the Lord to change.
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:Jen, as you took this quiz, and as
you listened to this lesson, were
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:there moments of conviction for you?
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:Jen: Oh, for sure.
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:And it's interesting because I've
taken entrusted a number of times.
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:And so when my kids were really
little, the answers were different.
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:And I could see in the book
how they were different.
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:Now when I took it, just a year ago,
I'm like, Oh where I was struggling
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:had changed, which in some ways I
was like, Oh, good, I'm changing.
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:But then I'm like, Oh,
but I'm still sinful.
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:Just in new ways.
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:So there's that but I'll say
the most recent that I took I
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:scored a little bit higher on
the neglect or lack of attention.
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:And I gave myself a higher score because
I was being distracted by my phone
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:and also that I was putting like my
workout or I know it sounds crazy, but
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:my devotional time in front of them.
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:And so I would often like to do
my devotions right after lunch.
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:That was very important to me.
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:It still is very important to me,
but I was realizing that maybe that
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:wasn't the best time for the family.
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:And so now that they're a little
bit older and things are changing
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:around, how can that shift?
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:Maybe I needed to be a little
bit selfless and get up early,
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:which is really hard for me.
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:But get up early to do it since I'm
not waking up in the middle of the
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:So that, and, even my workout,
like when am I going to work out?
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:Do I, does it serve the family
well to do it when I want to do it?
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:Also knowing that I'm homeschooling
all day and I'm with them.
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:It is funny how it says
neglect or lack of attention.
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:You would think like you homeschool,
you're with them all day.
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:How could you neglect them?
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remind myself that this is their
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:I need to give myself to them
first and then meet my needs later.
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:So I scored myself a little bit higher
on those areas because I want to make
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:sure that I'm doing those things.
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:I think I can be a little bit
selfless, selfish sometimes
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:with how I'd want to do that.
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:I also scored higher in not
giving them the opportunity
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:to explain what's going on.
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:I laugh, but I often am like, I
really don't want to hear the inner
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:lawyer come out and I really don't
want to hear their explanations.
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:Like I, it's going to be, they're
going to try to talk me out of
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:argue with me and I don't want to argue.
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:And I don't want to do that.
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:I want to sit down and say, okay, with
respectful timing and with respectful
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:in your words and without trying to
argue with me, I would like to hear
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:what your perspective is now that you're
older and we can talk things through.
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:and allow them to explain and allow them
to share a little bit more of their heart.
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:Because I often think I can tell
what their sin is, but oftentimes
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:when I listen to them, I am wrong.
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:And so I don't want to just immediately
jump to conclusions that I know.
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:And then also I just put on, for the
modeling anger or sinful habits, I
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:was not super high, but I gave myself
probably a two, two or a three just
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:I know that I can be quick to
get frustrated and be like this
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:isn't what I was saying, or this
isn't how I want you to behave.
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:And so just to not do
that, just to be calm.
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:I remind myself often that the
anger of mommy does not produce
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:Just because I'm upset by this does
not mean they're going to change, and
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:just not being upset or frustrated in
the moment and just be calm and just
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:be patient with them and realizing that
they're also a work in progress and the
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:Those were the three that I would, I
definitely, Needed to work on a little
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:bit more as they've gotten older.
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as you were sharing about your quiet
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:time and your workout that was a wise,
thought out, holy decision for a season.
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and the age of your children,
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:the Lord's calling you to adapt.
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:And obviously you're still keeping your
priority of the Lord is first, but you're
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:saying how can I like how you said it?
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:How can I best serve my family?
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:And what times do I need to
be most available to them?
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:Right now, and it's gotta change.
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:That's very sacrificial to interrupt your
routine for the good of the whole family.
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:Emily, what was coming up for you?
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:Emily: Listening to Jen talk, I
think life comes in seasons and
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:we're always altering and changing.
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:And what worked for the last couple of
years, maybe it won't work this year.
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:So this was Interesting to me.
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:I took Entrusted many years ago, and I
have the old book and the new book, and
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:I, like Jen, scored differently, and I
thought, oh, look at me, I'm doing so
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:well, and then retook it, and I'm like,
oh, wow, I'm struggling in these places.
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:Great.
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:Because in my old book, I put being
too strict or excessively involved.
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:I gave myself a really high
score on that many years ago.
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:And then now I feel like
I'm not involved at all.
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:I'm just kidding.
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:No, I feel, I, I feel
like the Lord honestly
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:has done a work in my heart and I
realized that I don't have to be fully
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:in control, that I can relinquish
control there and just pray a lot.
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:So I, I love seeing how, how
this has looked different
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:through the different phases.
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:So I would say, The, not giving
them opportunity to explain.
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:That's an area that I need to work in
because we just know our children so well.
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okay, you're struggling.
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:I see it.
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:So I'm just going to tell you, I'm
going to be your Holy Spirit and
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:And I did struggle In lack of boundaries.
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:Many, when I first took entrusted, I
struggled setting up those boundaries.
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:I had a child who was super impulsive
and I was like, I don't think the
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:And I was very wrong.
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:And so I struggled there , and, I scored
better in it now, but that was a struggle.
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:Modeling anger.
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:I, it is so hard.
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:I think any mom, if they're just super
honest, you know, we all struggle in that,
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:not necessarily anger at like them, but
just in situational things, especially
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:when you have a lot of moving parts and
you're trying to get the kids in the,
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:car and someone is running out without a
shoe and you're like, where's your shoe?
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:It's so hard to Not in those moments.
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:That one one that sometimes I need to
work in unrealistic expectations and
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:realizing that I need to work on that
one because I would like to see, areas
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sometimes because it's what I want.
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life changing character thing.
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control that I need to relinquish.
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:So I think the Lord is showing
me that I need to relinquish some
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but I, we all know we really don't.
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:Jen: yeah.
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unrealistic expectations, I just watched
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it to the youth community that meets at
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this group of graduates.
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is having too high of expectations.
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:He is not a believer.
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Christian university at all.
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wish for you no expectations.
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:And in order to do that, you
have to suffer because suffering
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:produces character in you.
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:When you have that character, you
then understand what other people
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:On the list that Betsy has, it
says unrealistic expectations
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:is the behavior to put off.
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:And the one to put on is understanding.
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:I just thought that was so cool because
here this man , he's not, Saying anything
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he's speaking the truth of God's word.
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:And he's right that when you put,
when you have unrealistic expectations
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:and you grow in that, you become
understanding to how maybe somebody be
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that through suffering.
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with Entrusted's lesson, but I
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to, to hear that it was so recent.
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:Steph: My husband was listening to
an audio book recently, I think it's
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:called Covenantal Household, I was
overhearing it and this is from
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saying, your job is not just to make
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:your children rise to the standard,
it's to make them love the standard.
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:So he said, if your children are failing
at the standard, you lower the standard.
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:And he said, I'm not talking
about biblical mandates here.
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character things or maybe
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:guidelines you have for them.
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:But he said, if your whole family
is failing at calculus, take
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:And I'm still refining this in my mind,
but I was thinking about, The application,
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:I feel like I was working out with the
Lord okay, so say we're sitting at the
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:dinner table and my husband might have
a big three and I've got a big three and
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:they're not the same big three of things
that bother us at the dinner table or
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:things we're trying to get our children
to learn, maybe we need to come together
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:and say, actually, just what are the
three and to not have so many things
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:we're trying to teach them at once.
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:Master these couple but I just
thought that was so interesting.
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:First of all, like to love the standard,
obviously that's so beautifully said but
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:it does, it speaks to the unrealistic
expectations, I think there's something
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:to be said about not compromising for a
biblical standard, yes, obedience right
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:away, all the way with a happy heart.
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:Like we still hold that, but there
are these other things we're expecting
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:that Maybe we are just overwhelming
them with what we're expecting.
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:And sometimes it feels like,
Oh, I'm just guiding them.
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:I'm just continuing to teach them
and what it should look like.
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:And it might be just exasperating.
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:Jen: Hmm.
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:What about you, Steph?
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:How did you score?
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:We're not going to let you off the
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:Steph: Yeah.
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:Jen: Hmm.
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:to evaluate and to think about this
because the Lord convicted me of
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:something I was struggling with.
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:I realized I was comparing
my children to others.
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:I just have very dynamic, lively,
wonderful children and I sometimes
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:look at the children who are
just very mild mannered and I
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:think, why what am I doing wrong?
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:Why aren't my kids more like that?
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:And really the heart of it is fear of man.
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:I am thinking, what are
people thinking about me?
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:What are they thinking about
my mothering when my children
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:do that or when they do that?
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:I wrestled through this with
one of my children last year.
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:Sometimes he's just bold.
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:And there was something I had asked him, I
don't want you talking about that anymore.
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:Unless you're in our home.
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:And I could see like the
root of it, the sin of it.
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:And he didn't honor me right away.
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:And I, it was really a struggle
for me because another mom had
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:said to me, Oh, I just told my
child to stop and they stopped.
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:And I was like, what am I doing wrong that
my kid didn't just stop the first time?
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:But then the Lord brought to me when
this same child was in the hospital
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:when he goes for his infusions he
shares the gospel almost every day.
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:Every time and he always
is sharing his faith.
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:And I thought, of course Lord, you
have given him such a strength with
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:the boldness of his mouth and he
will do great things with that mouth.
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:But of course, that little boy
is being refined right now.
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:And who am I to wish that different
character traits in my children, that
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:they looked different now to make me.
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:feel better about my parenting and feel
like I can manage their behavior better.
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:Like I said, I'm ashamed to say that, but
it was just so convicting how the Lord
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why sometimes it is such a lonely
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:Steph: like,
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:Jen: we're just waiting for that
fruit, waiting for that fruit.
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:It's okay to have a pat on the back
from someone or an encouragement, but
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:to press into the Lord, to say, God,
really, how am I doing before you?
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:For me I felt like it was two parts to
not just put on acceptance of who God
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:has given me and placed in my home,
but also to, to seek God's approval.
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:Even taking this test.
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:I was like, thank you,
Lord, for putting words to,
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:Steph: you know,
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:Jen: the enemy might be trying to
make me feel guilty in so many areas,
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:but your conviction is specific and
you're guiding me exactly where I am.
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:Off track with you and with my children.
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:So I just was thankful for this
quiz, which is an unlikely thing
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:Another one was discord between parents.
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:I think In our home, this is
something that I'm continually
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:working out with the Lord.
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:with fear and trembling,
what does this look like?
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:As my husband does have
memory loss due to MS.
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:And I find that sometimes he will
introduce a standard and I'll of
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:course want to support him in that.
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:And so I'll uphold that standard.
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:And then maybe a month later, he doesn't.
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:Remember that he had said it, and so
then I feel really discouraged hey,
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:I've been holding them to that standard
that wasn't important to me at all
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:because I wanted to honor you, and
now you're saying it's not important.
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:So those are, of course, things that
we're trying to work out privately,
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:but I know that my kids need it.
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:Of course they're perceptive and they
pick up on part of that or the fact
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:that I homeschool and I'm with them
all the time and so all of a sudden my
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:husband might walk in the room and give
a standard about homeschooling and it's
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:contrary to what I do with the kids.
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:And I want to honor him in it, but because
he's not with them as much, doesn't
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:have as realistic of an expectation
about what I'm calling them to.
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that come up and I can.
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:Do a better job of not getting
exasperated in those moments.
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:I try to always be peaceful
and then say, Hey could we talk
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:in the laundry room, please?
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and try to work through it.
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:Because I think I want to be very careful
that I think it's lesson eight that
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:Betsy says, it is good for a man that
he should bear the yoke in his youth.
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:And if my husband sees that my children
need to be called in a higher standard
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:in something or if he sees something
that I'm not aware of , I want to
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:have that refinement in their lives.
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:And I feel like I continually need to,
be, maybe it's a flexibility in my heart
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:that wherever he feels the need to speak
in that I would believe even if it feels
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:like an interruption to me, that it's
valid and that before the Lord, that
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:it's something that needs to be evaluated
right then, that it's more important than
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:the math lesson or whatever we're doing.
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:Emily: I think it just shows that not
one family goes without struggles.
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:It's so easy to look across the aisle
at church and think, wow, they have it
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:all together and look at her new dress.
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:But no one, no one has it all together
and we're all struggling in some area.
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:And I think if this quiz does
anything, it shows us, first
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:of all, our reliance on him.
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:And then secondly, that None of us
are scoring zeros on this whole quiz.
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:Jen: Totally.
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:Emily: No one is without struggle.
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:Jen: Right?
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:Emily: And, it's so easy for Us to
wrap our package with a pretty bow
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:because we can overlook our own.
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:Faults.
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:And we're so great at picking out
other people's faults this is meant
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:for refinement, not for perfection.
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:Jen: Yeah, that's a good word.
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:I also appreciated the quiz because.
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:We're focusing on our children's behavior
and I so appreciated someone questioning
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:me and so often our kids are being
evaluated by us and being disciplined
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:by us and unless we're spending time
with the Lord and, Receiving what
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:the Holy Spirit is convicting us of.
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:Not very many adults are going
to ask you these questions.
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:Not very many adults are going
to say, So how's, how you been in
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:showing affection to your children?
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:How have you been in setting
boundaries on your iPhone?
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:Just being able to be honest before
the Lord and being asked those hard
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:questions and to put myself in a
place where my children are often
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:in a place of being evaluated and
making sure that Their hearts are
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:right and aligned with the Lord, but
now also making sure that I was being
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:aligned with the Lord and where I was off.
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:I really appreciated it.
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:I don't think you find that too
often in most books or in life
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:Steph: A line I felt like the Lord had
given me when I was first writing the
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:intro for the podcast and everything
is that he's more concerned with
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:a to be list than a to do list.
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:Jen: Yeah,
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:Steph: and I think.
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:That this quiz speaks to that who are we?
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:It's not about what we're
accomplishing on a day to day
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:basis, it is about who we are.
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:It is, even though it's so convicting and
it can be painful, like praise the Lord
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:for an opportunity to stop and reflect,
to say, this is where I am, off track.
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:And Lord, please, through your Holy
Spirit, would you please, reorder
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:my heart, reorder my priorities?
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:it's so helpful to get that log out of
our eye, even though it does feel painful
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:Emily: We're offered two choices when we
come face to face with truth and when we
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:can make a change or we can continue on.
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:And, this quiz I think helps us come face
to face with what we really need to to
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:hone in on and what I find encouraging and
maybe discouraging also, but encouraging.
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:In that, the old quiz, I can
see where I had struggles.
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:And then in the new quiz, I see Oh,
the Lord's done a work in my heart.
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:And now I need to move
on to this one to refine.
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:Jen: Yeah.
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:I like how she dives deeper
into each of the things and
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:how we can work through them.
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:And under the one about being
overly harsh and disciplined or
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:consequences and talking about anger
and like how does that work out?
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:I remember taking this class and I
wrote on the side, am I too busy?
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:Because I get frustrated when
I'm not living in a peaceful pace
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:or living at a peaceful pace.
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:And so often, if I have scheduled too much
for our day, or if I've had too high of
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:an expectation of what we would be able to
get done in a day, that can frustrate me.
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:Emily: At the top of the
page is Colossians 3:8.
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:And it says But now you also put them
all aside, anger, wrath, malice, slander,
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:and abusive speech from your mouth.
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:And I think that's just a great
reminder, as well as a good charge to
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:us that though we, Struggle with some
of these items over on our quiz side.
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:We'll always struggle because as long
as we live on this side of heaven,
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:we'll always struggle with something.
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:But with the Lord's help, we can put
these aside and work towards peace
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:and harmony in our homes and work
towards behaviors that don't exasperate
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:our children, but rather brings our
family and unites them together.
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:I think it's just through Yielding
over to the Lord and just giving
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:it over to Him over and over again.
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:We know you're busy, Mama, so
we are truly grateful you joined
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:world, and we want it for you, too.
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:Before you go, I want to pray
this benediction over you
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:from 2 Thessalonians 1:11-12.
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:We're rooting for you.
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:To this end, we always pray for you,
that our God may make you worthy of His
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:calling, and may fulfill every resolve
for good and every work of faith by
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:His power, so that the name of our Lord
Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in
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:Him, according to the grace of our God.
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:And the Lord Jesus Christ.
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:Amen.
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:Until we meet again.